July 2019 - early days part 2

[DianaBlythe]

Just because I think we’re getting close to filling the first one. Pull up a pew, bring your decaf tea and all of the carbs!

Thank you all for the advice. stargazydrifter thank you that's really helpful - also didn't realise they could see on a scan this early (I think I'm somewhere between 5+2 to 6+2 - my gp told me I'd have to wait another couple of weeks for a scan when I went on Thursday - so that's really helpful. I bet that was v frightening for you.

Sorry to stress - I'm a total bag of nerves this time round - I was so blissfully unaware the first time. I'm not sure it crossed my mind much.

Ps already lost one tube so really don't want to lose the other!

Oh no, sorry to hear about the tube! Was that from an ectopic or something else? In case relevant, they told me recently in A&E that you only have a 10% chance of having a second ectopic so not a given by any means. Also, even if they do spot ectopic it may well miscarry or there was also an option in my case to take what we're more or less cancer drugs to kill off the embryo that's in the tube to stop it from rupturing. That second option means you can't TTC for 6 months and having two tubes I chose not to.

If you get a v sharp pain in one side do get seen immediately, that's the main thing to worry about. They saw something on the scan with me at 4 weeks and a few days this pregnancy, when I had the ectopic panic. It was in the right place, and tiny, but visible. So there's a good chance a transvaginal scan can pick this up at your stage. Good luck and keep us posted. Nerves are normal, means you're human. 😉

I'm also a bag of nerves - 7w reassurance scan tmrw and things always fail at this stage. I know, and know, but still keeping me awake.

Ds woke up at 4, jumped in my bed and fell asleep, I’m still awake considering going and making a sandwich...

@BettySwoll0cks I had major nursing aversion when I was pregnant with DS2 and had to stop feeding DS1 who was almost 2 when it kicked in, felt guilty as hell but he just changed to playing with my hair instead and now bedtimes are DS1 on one side playing with hair and DS2 on the other feeding then when they’re both asleep I transfer DS2 to his bed.

Totally had massive mum guilt about having a second and am having it again now trying to work out how they’re all going to have any 1-2-1 time. Had actual tears regularly and apologised to DS1 about ruining his life! feel particularly bad for DS2 because he only ever has a few hours of me to himself whereas DS1 had just over 2 years of my sole attention. Basically becoming a mother turns on this massive guilt trip about everything and anything!!

@DartmoorDoughnut I 100% agree on the mum guilt, feel guilty about everything and anything since DS arrived. Just have to learn to keep your head down and do what you think is right!

I just fear that what if either I don't love this baby as much as DS or I actually somehow love the baby more? Feel awful as went back to work after 4 months with DS but plan on taking a year this time round

Morning everyone,

Sorry to hear about your ectopic @StargazyDrifter that must have been awful for you.

I'm telling work today - I have the most gruelling schedule, back to back meetings for the next 2 weeks & had so much anxiety about it over the weekend.
A family wedding on Friday completely wiped me out for the whole weekend, I'm still exhausted.
I've only been with the company for a month so I hope they're going to appreciate my honesty but I am really, really worried about this.

I’m another one out, Woking up this morning covered in blood. So sad

Good luck ratherbeshowjumping with telling work. Is a good idea to let them know.

Oh no 5fivestar I am so sorry. Really hope all is okay. Can you get yourself checked out?

So sorry @5fivestar

Thanks so much everyone who commented to me yesterday and shared news. It went to spotting and brown so EPU said call them back this morning. I’m booked for a scan Wed anyway so dunno if they’ll make me wait til then. Losing mind a bit.

@kentishgal sorry you are worrying too, hopefully will be nothing

@5fivestar it sounds like this has happened before so hopefully it’s the same thing and while really scary, all ok.

Huge positive vibes - I’m with all of you

@5fivestar so sorry 😟

@twittlebee I think that's a common worry , but you just do love them both the same ! You think you cant possibly love two kids the same but you just do!

So sorry @5fivestar take care of yourself, and definitely try and get checked.

@ratherbeshowjumping it's a good decision, take it easy, they'll understand and be supportive!

@twittlebee this year you are taking off, won't just benefit the new baby though, it'll benefit DS too! I very much doubt you've made the decision to take a year to just spend with the new baby, it's a year taken to spend time with both DC!

@StargazyDrifter - everything crossed for you today (and big thanks for the words yesterday)

@5fivestar are you ok? Can you see the GP/midwife this morning?

Twistering ah that is how my bleed ended, really does sound like it could be implantation bleeding. FX! How many weeks should you be?

thank you ReginaPhalange89 and Laburna

I don’t know - do I need to see someone? It’s all out I think huge clumps tmi sorry
There’s nothing can be done I guess I won’t be trying again

@5fivestar personally I would call the community midwives but that's just me x

Ok I’ll give them a call, thank you

Thank you @Laburna and @TwittleBee - I'm hoping so... thank you. I feel like the naughty child at school telling them!

@5fivestar - sending lots of love...

certainly worth giving them a call 5fivestar I am so sorry

Stargazydrifter thanks so much thats really helpful. No more bleeding today so will try and see if they can chase up midwife. No it was blocked so they removed it - other one was partially blocked but cleared as much as they could. I have my fingers crossed for you today, let us know how you get on please.

5fivestar I'm really sorry to hear this - I read somewhere that whatever happens you still need to get checked out.

Thank everyone. 😊

5fivestar I would still get checked out, in case the professionals want to scan you anyway to confirm nothing has been retained in there, which can be dangerous. I don't know how they work out who's at risk and who isn't, but it is what they are there for and worth talking to them.

ratherbeshowjumping I told work early, completely understand the worry, but fingers crossed they'll be decent. Maybe have a quick look at your maternity policy at work before you speak to them - knowledge is power!

Twistering Everything crossed for you!

Kentishgal I would still ring your local EPU today. They might say to come in straight away for a check up as two days is a long time in embryo-growth world if it is extopic. Really hoping it isn't and they are rare.

Back this afternoon!

Oh @5fivestar. Definitely get checked. So sorry you are going through this x