July 2019 - early days part 2

[DianaBlythe]

Just because I think we’re getting close to filling the first one. Pull up a pew, bring your decaf tea and all of the carbs!

Evening all.

Sorry all that I'm struggling to keep up with all the posts here and to keep updated with everything. Posting tonight as feeling a bit low and I don't really know where else to write. I know that a lot of you have been going through some really hard stuff and my heart goes out to you @Rose68.

I almost feel guilty for having a whinge when my thoughts are no where near that level of what some of you are going through but the main problem is I don't really know what I feel sad about. I don't know if this is hormones but I just feel low and have no interest in anything. My DH is out tonight so I could have full rein of tv but I just can't be bothered to sit and relax and think I'm just going to go to bed. There are so many jobs that need doing and I have no enthusiasm for getting the house straight or ticking things off the list. I just feel completely meh. My stomach is so bloated I am ridiculously uncomfortable and I'm questioning whether this is a pregnancy symptom or if somehow I have had a food reaction to something as I'm a coeliac because my stomach is so incredibly big and bloated and I keep getting griping pains alongside the pregnancy stretching pains. I do have nausea which seems to have kicked in since week 7 and it's just kind of there all the time; not enough to write home about but enough to just wear you down and put me off food etc - or I end up eating loads more than I should because I have a weird logic that if I eat something maybe it will stop the icky feeling.

I've just started volunteering at a maternity ward and they suggested applying for an assistant position but with 12 hour shifts and no childcare available I'm not going to be able to do it so I'm disappointed and also now I'm also thinking if I can't progress with starting up a new career with one child I have no chance with two. I should be feeling happy and lucky that the weeks are going past and I'm now up to 8 weeks so getting closer to the sacred 12 but instead I just keep carrying around negativeness. I had PN anxiety with my DD and I really hope that these hormones are not going to trigger problems with mental health again. I have midwife next Friday so will talk it all through then but just needed a vent to the secret keepers in my phone in the meantime.... sorry thank you x

Hey, I’m still here. Joey/baby kangaroo is still here too.

I went into our local walk-in on Tuesday night after fearing I was miscarrying or having an ectopic pregnancy. I’d had bright red spotting for a couple of days but thought nothing of it as it wasn’t very much. When I then got a shoulder pain that seemed to fit with ectopic symptoms, I called 111 as I was a bit panicked.

Anyway, long story short, they were very reassuring, until my medical history came up and as I have a blood disorder (more prone to clotting), they told me to come in. Lots of examinations and referrals to the EPU for the next day later, I had scans on Wednesday and today to see what’s going on. They couldn’t see enough on Wednesday so asked me to come back on Friday (today). Luckily all is ok so far.

Thank you to everyone who’s asked about me and send their best wishes. I really appreciate it x

Going to catch up on the thread now (you guys talk so much!)

@Rose68, I am so so sorry. What shitty news.

Congratulations on scans to @Twistering, @itsallgreek, @xine15, @Delilah7 (hope there’s good progress in two weeks’ time), @Toria73 (AMAZING!!), @DianaBlythe. (Apologies if I’ve missed anyone!)

@BettySwoll0cks, keeping everything crossed for you x

@allthegoodnamesalreadytaken, that sounds horrible about what bfing currently feels like for you How has it been, cutting down the feeds? My toddler is a milk fiend and if I’m around for the day will feed 3-4 times, easily (not including morning and bedtime).

@Laburna – how on earth are you finding a C-Max too small/impractical?? I think ours is huge!

@pancakes22, you don’t need to apologise at all. I’m sorry you feel so down. You say that you ‘should feel happy’ – I think this is so drummed into us that pregnancy is supposed to be such a happy time, when actually it really sucks a lot of the time and the discomfort and pain we have to go through is very real. Plus, it’s one of the biggest life changes ever to have children (whether it’s our first or not), and our emotions are going to be complex about it.
You say you’re going to discuss with your midwife when you see them, which is great. Might it be worth also chatting to your GP in the meantime? If you have a good one they can be very helpful when it comes to mental health. Sending support through the ether…. x

Oh Rose so sorry to hear your news. I've been in that situation too, it's awful. Sending you lots of good vibes for this next stretch. It takes time but, as my grandad used to always say, the hour is always darkest before dawn.

BettySwoll0cks Hang in there, as others have said, that's not enough evidence. Everything crossed for you.

pancakes I've also been having slightly existential thoughts and not always happy ones. It's a huge adjustment and the brain is in a funny mode at this stage. Definitely worth mentioning to GP or even searching maternity MH services in your area so you are are of all your options should this persist (I did this today - been scrapped for everything but most serious stuff ☹️).

Been woken up by nausea and couldn't get back to sleep. Time for another attempt!

Oh pancakes22 we are all here for you. It is tough with the sickness. And childcare is so pricey and near impossible for shiftworkers without family to help. DH does shift work so I get how it isn't practical for standard childcare services. Sorry about the icky feeling too, I get you on the eating to try and stop it. I've already put on 5lb in 2 weeks and worried my weight will spiral out of control like last pregnancy.

RooKangaroo oh what a relief for you and great that they are able to recognise your need with the medical condition

StargazyDrifter hope you got back to sleep okay!

So everyone knows now that needs to know about pregnancy. Feels silly telling everyone so early at only 6 weeks. But I feel I would want their support if anything went wrong. Work were overjoyed and asked if I need help with anything. They also said they have loads of respect for being a team player by telling them early so they can prepare earlier for me being out of the team.

Must admit, although I get bouts of sickness, I'm nowhere near as bad as what I was with DS.

Morning all does anyone currently wake up so hungry they feel like they have skipped a meal ? I constantly have a packet of digestives by the side of the bed. Can’t get over being this hungry !

@TwinkleDay oh my god me!!! To the point if I don't eat straight away I feel sick

@delilah7 yes and I have to carry around emergency snacks , apple and peanut butter is a good one

Anyone tempted to buy deal hunt in the Black Friday event, we generally need everything but don’t want to jinx it if you know what I mean, but looking into good Pram convertible reviews and car seats which swivel. Any advice would be great, we have a Ford focus :)

I’ve seen a Moses basket I like and some blankets half price but I worry I’ll furstly change my mind before it arrives about design/style and of course the obvious

I am however dead set on my boy and girl names, hopefully won’t get to use both 😂

I've bought a fair amount already, mostly second hand bargains that I wish I'd got last time. I know it's still a grey zone until the scan but I've always been of the mindset that nothing I do / don't do can jinx things.

Finally spoke to a midwife, who is going to get back to me about an appointment date, hopefully before July! My old midwife isn't about which has made me a bit sad, but they seem to have rejigged a lot so I'm hoping they're more prepared for a home birth this time!

Morning all, how is everyone? Just trying to catch up on all the chat.
@rose68, I'm so sorry to hear that. It happened to me last year & I still don't think I can come up with anything that will make you feel better. I think you just need to be good & kind to yourself over the next wee while. Big hugs
@bettyswoll0cks, stay positive, it's early days & I've got everything crossed for you.

Is there anyway of justifying a tube of pink smarties for breakfast?

Hello everyone.

I POAS this morning and saw a line, DC2 due 25th July if all goes well.

I'm sorry to read so much heartache on this thread already. I'm sending everyone a big box of chocolates!

@twinkleday not sure about the car but we have a Joie spin 360 which we love , assume it fits most cars. My 19 month old is using it now and we will probably use it for baby at 9 months and she can go into a different seat (we also have an infant baby seat so can use that for the first 9ish months)
It's isofix, can front or rear face, swivels for easy access and does from birth - 4ish! And you can use it rear facing til 4 which is fab. I got it from boots and it had £50 off then I got loads of advantage points too!

Does anyone else have a toddler ? My little one will be about 2 years 4 months when this baby arrives. Not sure if it's worth getting a double or just making do with the one we have (an oyster) I still really like it ! I guess I could always use a carrier for baby if my other still needs it for a little while

My toddler will be just turned 3 when the baby gets here, so am planning to get a buggy board, and build up his stamina before hand! I think if I were to have a baby right now I still wouldn’t bother with a double, I’d either have baby in a carrier or toddler on a buggy boars.

We had a Ford focus when our first arrived. We initially had an infant carrier (kiddy evoluna) which fitted on my icandy base. We then got a joie spin 360 which should last him till he's about four (he's quite small). I love it, it's now used in our smaller car (mazda 2) and I have a besafe isize in our bigger car as stage 1 car seats are bulky and harder to move between cars.

DS will be 2 years 5 months when DC2 is born, my icandy converts to a double so I think I might get the parts for that as I can imagine there are times when a double buggy will be useful.

I have an oyster , there's an oyster max which looks identical but can be a double. I'm wondering if I could get a hold of a frame would the seats fit on!

Don't suppose anyone would happen to know? I did email babystyle months ago but never got a reply

I did manage to get back to sleep, thank you TwittleBee, I can't believe how much sleep I need when I do get to it.

Also second the peanut butter and apple slices for a snack. I carry almonds and tictacs in my handbag and have jaffa cakes almost as soon as I wake up. Also worried about putting on weight.

Probably not going to buy anything baby-related in the sales, having had 3 losses recently I know it would really upset me seeing all that stuff at home if things didn't work out. I think I'll start at 20 weeks, probably. But I might buy other non-baby things we sort of need in anticipation of big baby spends in spring, iyswim.

Agree with telling work early so they can help a bit, my week has been horrendous, long hours, stressful situations, travel, and it's been helpful that some in the team know. I have given myself a complete day off today - food, telly, blanket. Maybe a walk.

@Trouble2cats congratulations

I have 2yrs 3months between DS1 and 2 and used a carrier/wraps for the first 6ish months and recently got a buggy board as I couldn’t carry DS1 any more on the school run I guess I’ll do the same this time around but I’ll be pushing them both whilst carrying DC3 ... yeah DS1 is going to be walking a lot more 😂

I still haven’t told DH as I’m so scared it won’t stick but apparently a colleague of his who is coming for dinner on Monday and staying over is bringing me wine so I’m thinking I might have to say something ...

I had three under 4 years the first time around. Throughly recommend the Maclaren twin techno even if you just end up with school bags or shopping in the 2nd seat it’s worthwhile.

Oh @pancakes22 I do hope you are ok. I cannot switch my mind off at the moment and it's awful.
@stargazydrifter my work sounds pretty similar to yours at the moment. I did some 13 hour days last week and I cried twice at work. Awful stuff. Haven't told anyone yet but depending on my scan on Monday I might do.
@trouble2cats welcome to the group! There is a link to a googledoc somewhere. Please do add yourself! Crazy to think we still have July people joining us! There must be an August group starting soon?

I am not buying anything until after 12 weeks as I had a mmc earlier this year and I just can't bring myself too. I wish I could and I hope I can get excited about purchasing soon!

My symptoms seemed to disappear this week apart from this awful cramping I had. But the nausea is back fully today and I had a nap this afternoon.

I have another scan on Monday where I should be 7 weeks. I am so nervous but at the same time telling myself I can't change it. I just want everything to be ok so much!

Hope you are all enjoying your Saturdays

edidxb Yes, our work does sound similar and I also cried at work yesterday. Like you, I'm absolutely not like this normally! It was over something vaguely emotional in a meeting, not or so with me and really not in any way worthy of crying about. Beyond awkward. Said I was short on sleep.

I also have a scan on Monday and will also be 7 weeks exactly. Having had a MMC before too, I'm most dreading the uncertainty of 'hmm measuring a little behind, come back in 2 weeks'. I'd much rather know either way. I had a scan on 1 November and it was 4 weeks and a bit, don't know if that'll help them be more certain.

Today I'm decompressing a bit. Worrying about all the exhertion, and some poor food choices. Also worrying about various cramps and aches, but I think that's because I've not been paying much attention recently.

Anyone else really turned off by the smell of chicken? I'm roasting some good quality organic chicken from the butcher and it smells awful, wondering if it's my nose suddenly or if it's not good!!