July 2019 - early days part 2

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Just because I think we’re getting close to filling the first one. Pull up a pew, bring your decaf tea and all of the carbs!

I'm dreaming of a lasagna. Have to wait until the end now :( I made macaroni cheese for DH and DS, I had cauliflower cheese. Just wasn't the same.

I'm a ball of emotion today, crying over everything and anything. I don't remember being this bad last time, and I can't be that tired after that epic nap! What is wrong with me?!

I'm up there with the discharge! It's manky! Keep thinking it's AF, even though AF never starts like that with me. Can't remember how long it's lasts for, maybe you just end up getting used to it 🤔

@cathyj86 my friend suggested we take our kids bouldering this weekend I told her i didn't like climbing when i have tried it as i am scared of heights.I don't want to tell her the real reason i don't want to go as i work with her and she can't keep a secret. I know she will be really happy for me but not ready for work to know yet.

There was another pregnancy announcement at work or friday and speculation over who is next so kept very quiet.

@essexgirlupnorth I'd say it wouldn't be the best thing to start in early pregnancy but the more I'm thinking about it the more I'm thinking I will keep going with it for a wee while just on easier routes, and maybe give hoop a miss instead as it has more pressure on the stomach

I've bought a lasagne after all the lasagne chat!

The boob pain thing is really worrying me, I’ve had no boob pain at all!! They are definitely getting bigger but don’t hurt... is anyone the same? It’s the one thing making me paranoid.

@HchyScott getting bigger is enough,they don't need to hurt. Everyone is different and their bodies react indifferent ways. Your boobs are obviously onboard with the baby if they're growing!

You'll get enough boob pain once the baby is here and you're engorged and have sore/cracked nipples, don't will yourself more now 🤣😂

@laburna well that’s something to look forward to hahaha! Very strange, getting the nausea in the last few days has eased my worry abit but I guess I should be greatful that they don’t hurt but are looking marvellous!!

Oh yes, mother nature knows what pleases us, she makes us fat and sweaty and push a watermelon out of our downstairs, but in return, for a few months, you'll have fabulous hair and the best boobs you've ever had!

(I say for a few months because as soon as the baby pops out, your hair will drop too, peaking at around 6 months when you start wondering if you are going bald, followed by a lovely regrowth of baby hair that a year later still looks ridiculous!)

Fun fun!

@Hchyscott my boobs haven't hurt yet, not sure if they're bigger even, and I've had minimal nausea so am almost wishing for them to kick in to know wee bean is doing ok in there

Thank you for that link @Frazzlerock.
What I don’t get is if the Fetal pole grows at 1mm per day from 6 week, that would make me pretty much bang on at 3.7mm at 6+3.
This suggests at week 6 the Fetal pole still wouldn’t be visible, but the nhs guidelines suggest it should be 6mm at week 6? It seems a very big difference to me?

@laburna ah I know about the hair, being a hairdresser I’m the one usually warning new or expectant mums about that after having very upset women come in the salon in the past. My sister lost hers all at the front then had difficult fluffy baby hair sprout back, that was a challenge for her!
@cathyj87 I haven’t really had any symptoms until this week which i make to be about 5+4, was feeling very unreal, still is really!

Here you go @SnailorSwift (and anyone else!)

www.facebook.com/groups/294738377802514/

So we told my parents yesterday which was great. I feel so much better and my nausea has gone, must have been nerves!!

Is anyone getting extra lumps in their boobs...?

I have zero boob symptoms but I'm only 4 weeks today so hopefully they'll come soon. I barely fill an a cup right now so I'm looking forward to them being a bit bigger!

Is anyone still tracking their temps? I've still been doing mine but think it might get a bit stressful...

About the boobs... KinCat took a few days for mine to start aching! Tbf, its acyually only one that aches. A few on here don't have achy boobs at all still.

pancakes22 yup lumps have started appearing in my right boob, the boob that aches for me. I remember this last time too. I actually got them checked out before I realised I was pregnant!

amanda2809 aw lovely! They excited?

We told the PIL yesterday. Initially they were mortified, thought MiL was gonna kill me. Her face was so scary! But she has since sent me a nice text. I think me saying if its a girl we will be naming her after MIL's mum helped

Why were they mortified TwittleBee?! That sounds like a strange reaction! And hello from the September bus 🙋🏼‍♀️ I didn't have to wait too much longer!

So it seems most people tell parents and in-laws a bit earlier. When I said to DH I'd like to tell my parents at Christmas his response was "ooo that's a bit early" it'll be ten weeks! And we live halfway around the world so the only chance to tell them in person!

KinCat did recognise your name! Nice to see you here! Well MiL thinks we are stupid for rushing our lives and she worries I am making her son's life a misery! She can be hard work.

Tell them then if I was you as be nice to share news when you see them! Could you get in an early scan before then?

We ended up telling the PIL as my MIL will most likely be doing my scan on Tuesday and we decided it be best to warn her before she sees the name of her next patient haha

Morning ladies

How did everyone sleep? I was up 4 times needing to pee and didn't get to sleep till after midnight 😴😴

That's fab about telling PIL!! Makes it all a bit more real eh? We were down visiting my parents last night and they were talking about how this weekend they are booking a holiday that means they will be away for my due date. So we will need to tell them this week coz there is No way my mum would go on a holiday and miss birth of her first grandchild. I'm really nervous about telling them. Like I know I'm 30 and married but it's still like admitting you've had sex to your parents hahahahahahaha (god I'm so immature) haha

Happy Monday xx

I don't think there is a 'too early' @kincat, when you tell people is completely up to you. The 'tradition' is 12 weeks after the first scan, but there is no reason to wait that long. I suppose if you (DH) wanted some reassurance, you could have a private scan before you told them?

We're waiting because I can't be arsed with the fuss 😂 MIL was really funny about our first after he was born, and I can't be bothered with all that again yet!

Onestep2 hahaha that's so true!

TwittleBee she sounds like very hard work!

We'll probably get a scan in our home country at about 9 weeks and maybe one in the UK at 10 weeks just before we tell people although that's probably overkill and just wasting money!

Morning all,

I'm really struggling since last night. I'm gong to talk to the midwife at my appointment tomorrow morning. I can't have this fear hanging over me the whole way through. I was a mess last night and DP said I was even crying in my sleep (three times apparently).

I've had dreams the past week of wiping and finding blood. I wake up and feel so relieved then panic that today is the day.

Anyway, I will catch up properly in a bit xx

Morning everyone, sorry I haven't been too present recently. I've been so stressed with everything & had a bit of time & now feel a lot better.
We had our early scan yesterday- Mini showjumper is growing well & had a lovely strong heartbeat.
After our mc, it was the best feeling to see that, and for now I can relax & know that things are going ok.
Feeling very tired & sickness is out in full force. How is everyone else doing?

@Frazzlerock I'm with you Hun. I was a mess yesterday x x

Okay I'm caught up now

Welcome to the new ones I hope you have a happy and healthy pregnancy! (there's a Googledoc on page 2 of this thread)

@TwittleBee I'm pleased you are feeling okay now. How funny that your MIL could be scanning you!

@Laburna remind me why you're not eating pasta? Are you low carbing? Although just realised that might be a silly question as cheese sauce has flour in! BTW I LOVE cauliflower cheese!

Lots of you talking about bouldering which I've never heard of

@HchyScott I keep getting paranoid about the boob thing too. Everyone here is sayng their really hurt and are growing loads and I'm over her poking mine in the hope I get some pain (sometimes they feel kind of bruised). I think they have grown slighty but not so anyone would really notice.

@Rose68 I don't know about th eNHS guidlines but my sonographer didn't seem concerned with my measurements and our foetal pole was pretty much the same as yours at 6+3 on Saturday (3.6mm). Baby was visible but no heartbeat detected yet. He said baby should be at least 7mm before a heartbeat can be seen. So that would be 7 weeks, right?
I'm going to call the US dept today and take up their offer of an 8 week scan - which I had refused, seeing as I was having a scan on Saturday at what I thought was 7 weeks.

Re telling people, I am just getting on with it. I'm not going to make any big announcements, but I'm not keeping it a secret at all. People can just find out. I've told my mum and she has told people (with my permission). DP has told some of his family - his brother and sister. But he is more nervous about telling people. The way I see it is things go wrong at any stage of pregnancy. I said to DP, when is a good time to tell people then? At 12 weeks? 20 weeks? At the birth? when they're 5 years old? There just isn't a 'safe' time to tell people. So sod it!
Besides, my belly is too big to hide and I don't want people thinking I've suddenly got fat for no reason.

I hope everyone has a lovely day, despite the crappy weather!