Due in June........let's all go dancing naked under the full moon

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Brownsuga - Just checked out you picture and LOVE how doggie is sooo checking out little Elija!! I bet they'll be good friends!

Just had a text from Mytwocents, she is still without internet at home but I've updated her on recent news.

Sorry to hear your about your mum BadZ, you could do without this kind of thing I expect.

Thanks for all the support (DH has started looking for jobs, at least it's the beginning of the season here so it's a good time to do it, unfortunately current job is very convenient, but we'll see what comes up.) (I have to keep pottering about though or I'd go mad. I MUST go out and get a book!)

Hope things sort out with your mum BZ.

I am off to make pasta salad for the kids tea and then we can have it with the pork chops I bought to BBQ when DH was(nt) off.

Oh Brownsuga he is lovely!!!! I want to reach into my PC and just cuddle him!!! Well done - for a first time labour sounds like it went pretty well!

Holly if it's any comfort, my boiler broke repeatedly in the weeks and months I was pg. Finally got it fixed (yes, for real this time) the day before my section. I hope you don't have a Potterton Suprima....

LOL ladies must run. My wee bean is a snackaholic. One ounce every hour while she puts on weight - good thing I'm on bottles or my norks would be useless by now!

Ria
You mentioned a short term contract for your DH in North Wales?
I know MOST good gastro pubs aroung the North Wales / Cheshire area if you need any info or spying doing?
It would be nice if his next job didn't have a prick for a boss I guess?

Well it's been three weeks since I last spoke to her...best left now. To be honest she's been pretty crap since DD was born, so if I look on the bright side at least I'm saving stress by not having any contact with her. But conversely can't help thinking she's a piece of shit for treating me this way...so selfish and immature, you'd think she was a teenager or something.

Guess by the age of 33 I should be used to it, but I see all those nice normal parents out there and get fooled. Anyway enough of that. Sure once baby arrives I won't have time to brood about how my poor children only have one grandparent that actually gives a fuck about them...even though unfortunately grandad is 400 miles away in Scotland...

Right, enough moaning from me. At least I seem to be slightly mobile again - hot bath and a few spins round the block. Hell yeah!

Glad you're feeling a bit more mobile BZ.

If it makes you feel any better our LO will have grandparent issues too

• MIL severly disabled with parkinsons disease
• FIL disabled with previous stroke
• DF lives in America - and never really has had much contact with me - so little hope for LO
• DM means well and is great fun but is a bit of a mentalist, super sensitive and likely to fly off the handle at any time!! (when growing up my life was a bit like the sitcom 'Absolutley Fabulous' with me being the studious daughter with the unruly mother!)
• Brother lives in Thialand
• SIL moving to NZ this summer

But hey ho!
Like I said 'you can choose your friends.....'

DKMY I can totally empathise with you on the ab fab front - my mum was exactly the same! She's a bit more chilled out now (after years of therapy) but still pretty unpredictable. Sometime she will be so fab and understanding and say exactly the right thing, other times something that seems really reasonable she will fly off the handle about. Plus now she is a counsellor and a child psychotherapist - I can see a few teeny tiny arguments about how I raise this child in the future!

Classic grandmother quote no.1 (before this her first gc is even born) "I'm the grandma - I'm the most important person!"

Bumper and DKMAFME - you've made me feel much better. My mum's been practicing NLP on others for years....but doesn't appear to have reaped any benefits in terms of self-awareness. Right, should nap whilst DD does or I'll be knackered later zx

So someone please reassure me, with all of you going to the gym, painting bedrooms etc. am I the only one finding a simple exercise like driving to the supermarket a fricking ordeal. First there is the battle of getting in the car (having to literally hoick my legs in by hand) then there is driving itself, cannot lean forward to see round tossing parked cars at junctions, right hip hurting so much even pressing the gas is like torture. The practically crawling round the shop just to get a few bits as hip and pelvis causing so much pain, huffing and puffing back the car, and then the palavar of getting back in the car, driving, getting home and out of the car and now I just want to curl up in a ball.

Am I

a) abnormal
b) making a big deal and should just get on with it
c) normal - it's everyone else who is weird
d0 just unlucky?

Help!

BZ, too much self awareness can be a bad thing in a mother. I always get "I can feel you getting really angry.. " or "I can hear the irritation in your voice..." arrggghhh! Sometimes I just want her to say "there there dear, I'm sure it'll all be fine".

But you know what? The grass always seems greener doesn't it. Best thing is to just do what you need to do to deal with her in a way which is best for you and come and rant on here!

LOL Bumper
My mum thinks the lights go out when she leaves the room!
Same as for you tho - sometimes she is brill!

Latest heated convo between us was about her smoking. She has given up and started again sooo many times over the years but there is always some stress or drama going on that will mean she reaches for the fags again.
I told her obviously I wouldn't be happy about her smoking around the baby, in same room as, or in car with baby, but I had also read (and made it clear that I didn't know if it was true or not) that you still breathe out the chemicals in fags for 1/2 after you've smoked and shouldn't hold a very new born baby close straight after having a fag.
She kicked off 'Well I'm amazed you or your brother ever survived!' I'm not just giving up smoking because you're having a baby, it has to be because I want to' Blah blah blah..
Anyhow 1 week later she announces that she has given up smoking - not because of what I said - or because of the baby - but because she has now got 2 budgies. Yes you read it right - 2 FREEKIN BUDGIES!- and apparently their little lungs don't like smoke - and she doesn't want to harm them!!
Well I PMSL..... Typical........But you've got to love her!

Bumper - don't feel bad!
Sounds like your hip / pelvis isn't helping with moving about.
I don't have any such pain - and still I am finding things a huffin and a puffin marathon!
I have been getting so hot and bothered I have been sweating at the slightest thing! Its disgusting
I was in the supermarket on Tuesday and wasn't sure if my waters had broken cos my backside was so sweaty
Sorry if too much info there!??

Lol - you should have seen me sweating during my bikini wax yesterday!

With my mum it's her cats (yes she is a mad cat lady! And only 46!). Currently her priority list is

Cats
Soaps (she won't answer the phone between 7 and 8.30)
Children

Soon it will be
Grandchild
Cats
Soaps
Children (at least I hope GC will be before cats!)

She leaves the TV or radio on for them when she goes out because they get lonely. She hates going away to stay places but last time she did she said she had to sneak past the cats so they didn't see her with a suitcase! And she leaves the bathroom tap on so Boris (yes, Boris) can drink water as he won't drink it from a cat bowl - she is single handedly responsible for the South East water shortage! And they don't poo outside! They are the most spoilt cats I have ever known!

I can imagine my mum rubbishing me too when I get protective over this baby (and I know I will - precious first born and everything).

Classic grandma quote no. 2 (after me trying to explain that though I want her to come down for the birth, I'm not sure how involved I want her to be etc.) "That's fine, I'm happy to just go with the flow, as long as my grandchild is safe"

Er, and your child? I.e. Me!

Hello! quick catch up..

Congratulations to Daisy, kittykat and brownsuga!! Lovely news, lovely names!

Bumper , your mum sounds interesting!
sorry but I've been chuckling at the spoilt cat post...Also, you're not abnormal, I cant spell, type properly, climb stiars or retain any important info...._and i'm at work!

dnmafme - I too (whispers...) have a very sweaty bot! I keep thinking , is this it? have my waters broken? ARGHH!!!! TMi??

Thanks mytwocents! How are you going still at work? How much longer do you have left?

BTW, re smoking, iwas told by a doc the other day who specialises in nicotine and addiction and it's TRUE that the chemicals and tar residue are still present on breath and in saliva way after the person has finished their fag.... my mumdoes'nt smoke but sisters do, brother, brothers in law etc, I've been bit strivt already teling people they cant smoke ANYWHERE near baby and can't hold them if they've been smoking....AIBU?

Oh I love this - our mums are sooo funny!

My mum has 3 cats, 2 dogs, and now 2 budgies!
And she too leaves the radio on when she goes out!!!! But not the tap tho!!??

She acts like an over protective parent if anyone makes a comment about her dogs that she doesn't like!

I had to have a VERY carful conversation with her about her bringing her dogs to my house - where they piss and shit everywhere - mainly because she has a dog flap and they can just go out when they want to - but I don't and they aren't house trained to ask. But when they do - she says it's not HER dogs - it must be mine (who is house trained!) even when I catch them at it - she wont have it! And now because we have had that conversation - when she is due to come and visit she will now say 'Well I would bring the boys with me - but they are just not welcome anymore are they?' Trying to induce some guilt!!!!

My DH goes mad! Christmas was a nightmare - I was exhausted. She came to stay for the night with the dogs. They pissed and shat everywhere, I was following them around the house trying to clean it up, DH was cooking Christmas dinner, and mum was on her arse watching TV commenting on how bad it was that our dog pissed in the house!!!!!

Sometimes it gets so ridiculous I have to laugh - and there is no point pursuing an issue with her because it will just = drama!

Thanks for the offer DKMA. DH is hoping that he won't have to resort to contract work up and down the country this time (it's quite normal though, he was in N Wales for 3 months when DS2 was 6 months old). Very difficult to find a boss who isn't a prick, an alcoholic, a freemason, a ex-mad middle-aged vindictive fat cow, generally lazy without a clue. (oh the books I could write...) Also, I think the people round here think gastro-pub is some sort of stomach disorder!!!

But thank you. I like having virtual friends.

Have just had a lovely nap with DS2 (no need for me to really as he was asleep by the time I followed him upstairs - the deal was nap or playgroup!), just catching up!

Counting down Bumper! tomorrow, then monday is last day!! I'm not very productive as I keep going out for ice lollies....

At least i get to chat and catch up with you guys, I miss you all when I'm at home!!

Afternoon all!!

Hope you are well mtc!

Fortunately I have amazing parents, but my mum has severe PFGC (precious first grandchild) syndrome! She is completely obsessed with my dd, actually my dad is too, and thinks she is the most wonderful thing in the world! She is so spoilt by her gps. Every time we go over there she has new clothes, presents, toys etc. I honestly don't think we bought one thing for dd when she was born! I has been a life saver in a way as we could never have afforded some of the things we have been bought, but I am really paranoid about my children being super spoilt. I suppose it's a gps job to spoil their gcs, but they can sometimes go overboard!

I am just very lucky that my mum and I have the same taste in most things and have very similar views on parenting!

Re. smoking- my dp smokes and it drives me up the wall. He never smokes around me or dd, but sometimes he stinks and I make him go and get changed, wash his hands etc before I will kiss him or let him cuddle dd!!! No MTC you are not being unreasonable!! Who wants their poor baby to smell of smoke, ewwww!!

Welcome back Mytwocents!

How the hell are you coping at work!! Esp with the job you do???
Are you a CPN or do you work on a ward?

I have a cushy community placement at the mo... project work..been slacking. I don't have enough experience yet to be a CPN, would really like to go into occupational therapy one day....See, i'm not working at all, just chatting to you guys!!!
xx

WHY AM I STILL PREGNANT?!?!

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