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August 2018 #6 - Impending Births and The Final Push!

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peterpanwendy · 03/07/2018 18:57

Into months 7 and 8 of our pregnancies now.. this will most likely be our last 'pregnant' thread before we all have our babies!!

How did we get here? Feels like just yesterday we were waving hello from the TTC boards.

If anyone new would like to join please do, we also have a very busy (private) Facebook group for everyone due in August 2018.

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Gem173 · 15/07/2018 16:31

Thanks ladies for your opinions. I shan’t be too bothered about it! Il tidy up but cause of bump won’t actually attempt the bald look.

I was gunna ask my midwife if bf babies needed winding after but she was so busy answering other questions I couldn’t be bothered. Was gunna wind either way just to see if I could get any burps or farts, will prob make me feel better especially if they end up gassy and can’t sleep because of it!

Gem173 · 15/07/2018 16:33

My midwife Also said that it’s not normal for pregnant women to have boobs that leak before baby’s here however if you have it, it’s a good sign your milk will come in as your body is producing extra colostrum hence the leaking xx not sure if anyone else got told that.

BertieBotts · 15/07/2018 16:44

I don't think it's abnormal though is it? It just doesn't mean much either way. It's not bad to have it, but it's not bad not to have it either.

Gem173 · 15/07/2018 17:40

@BertieBotts I don’t think it’s abnormal no, most of us on here have it :)

StrawberryLemonade · 15/07/2018 18:09

Thanks beesknees it’s been a busy and slightly more stressful day than I’d have liked for various reasons but I think we are getting there!

I know there are some cinemas round here that do mother and baby but maybe not my most local one. I was thinking baby in sling and can feed/nap during film hopefully. Never did it with DD but will try to this time!

I’ve been trying to keep downstairs tidy ish but within the limits of what I can see (ie nothing Grin) so goodness knows what it looks like. I’ve never met anyone whose been bothered though Midwife or doctor! So wouldn’t worry about it.

I’ve had a few drops of colostrum so far only if I’ve tried to squeeze. No leakage. But not too worried either way.

Emmasmum2013 · 15/07/2018 18:41

I remember giving birth last time and as soon as the baby comes out, your stomach deflates loads all of a sudden. Areas that had not been visible in a while were not in full view. So my immediate thoughts were "oh my god she's here! Jesus I need a shave" 😂😂

I've been trying to keep things tidy but I can't see what I'm doing now, so I shall keep trying but it really doesn't matter and it'll be he furthest thing from your mind when you go into the hospital 😊

CaffeineDragon · 15/07/2018 21:11

I don't think anyone cares what your bits look like - I think I may have blind shaved as I could last time, same this time, but have no idea what it actually looks like!

I was more concerned if I poo'd or not!

@StrawberryLemonade I hope you're able to relax a bit tonight. We'll be thinking of you and keep us updated when you can. The itching is almost over for you! x

Emmasmum2013 · 16/07/2018 08:51

@StrawberryLemonade is today the day? Or tomorrow? Good luck with everything, you'll be fine :) x

Emmasmum2013 · 16/07/2018 08:53

@CaffeineDragon oh yeah I'd forgot about the involuntary pooping! Ah the beautiful miracle that is childbirth... Blush

BertieBotts · 16/07/2018 23:28

I went to the hospital today to register for birth there and it went really really well :)

We have a choice of 3 hospitals where I am, the big city one which is probably the most "medical", they take all of the high risk cases (if I go into labour before 36 weeks I have to go there) but it's still pretty nice, and then there are two smaller ones. I didn't really research that much in the end, I just heard a lot of people recommend one of the smaller ones in particular and I decided to investigate that one. I mentioned it to DH and he googled it and decided it was in a good place on the map Grin for walks etc Confused... anyway. He also started asking around colleagues etc and had heard really good things from everyone who had been there, which was also reassuring. I was tempted to go to the big city hospital as they are the only one with gas and air but I heard they make you get a hep lock and are a bit more rigid in their rules, so I wasn't sure about that aspect.

I had been planning to go to the info evenings/tours for all three but I didn't bother in the end, just decided to register for this one. We had gone to the info evening but only understood about 30% of what was said (language barrier) so just kind of went on the recommendations of friends and though why not.

So I tried to call last week to register as they said we need to register between 34-36 weeks and they did a big intake of breath and said ooh it's very late and they could only give me an appointment on the 23rd Aug which is 3 days before my due date and they said was too late. So I was told to come in this morning and expect to have to wait around if it was busy. Luckily it wasn't and despite not even being on a list (!) a midwife said never mind let's just sit down together and do it. So we went through all of the paperwork, medical history etc and she was so lovely! I managed to get through probably 80% of it in German because she was so clear spoken and patient and she switched to English when it got more complicated or she felt I needed to be more comfortable.

She asked me if I was planning to breastfeed and whether I had breastfed my son and for how long. I said four years and did that weird slight blush thing where you expect people to find something weird but she didn't find it weird at all. She said what could be wrong with that, it does good, which was nice. She took at my word that I've been feeling movement since 13 weeks which I also always feel a bit sheepish about. When it came to psychological disorders I told her I have ADHD and she laughed and said so does my son, it's not an illness, not a bug, just a feature :) So that was also really nice. Later on when I said this is a bit weird but when I've had local anaesthesia it seems to take longer than expected to kick in with me and sometimes I need multiple doses, she wrote that down as well and then mentioned that it's sometimes correlated with ADHD which is something I'd never heard before.

Then she asked about my wishes for the birth. I said I want to use water - fine. I asked about the hep lock/IV canula and she said no we only do it when it's needed - perfect. They do monitor continuously apparently but it's one which you can move about with (telemetry) which is fine by me. I'd prefer doppler monitoring but I'm not bothered by the telemetry system either, as long as I can move around freely. Can we wait for the cord to stop pulsing before cutting it? Yes, that's their standard procedure and they wait for the placenta to deliver naturally as well unless there too much bleeding - exactly what I want! Then they deliver the baby onto your chest and cover them only with a blanket (no washing, wrapping, dressing) and you generally get to stay there for 2 hours before they do any observations other than APGAR. I gave consent for vitamin K (which they do orally - interesting as I opted for that with DS but I didn't think they did that any more) and I said no to a catheter as long as I can still move around but I might agree to one for the pushing stage if it comes to it, as I vaguely remember having one last time and it helping since I couldn't move any more.

We should be able to get a family room (only DH can stay, not DS) if there's one available, and she even wrote down my dietary requirements (I can eat anything but cheese makes me ill) despite them not being any recognised kind of diet.

Then at the end of the appointment I said I needed the toilet and she managed to give me a sneak peek of the labour wards by letting me use the toilet in there. There was a cute squishy newborn being pushed around in a little wooden cot on wheels (I think it was a BabyBay actually!) which was so exciting :) I feel seriously positive and excited about giving birth there now!

Gem173 · 17/07/2018 06:59

@Bertiebotts Wow that’s so much info in one session! I’m glad you got your choice and the midwife was accepting of your plans during birth and after birth! Will be an exciting time for you!
I haven’t gone over any sort of birth plan or made one yet! I was just gunna walk in and tbh my birth plan will be quite empty as I’m open to anything as it’s my first. As long as I’m looked after and baby’s looked after and they do procedures that are necessary then I don’t mind.

For some reason I think the baby’s weight is getting to me, I’m back at work now, my back is starting to ache again but now I have this sort of pressure pain in my upper right thigh just around the edge of the leg to where it meets the torso. It’s not painful yet but uncomfortable to walk on! I’m totally rocking the waddling look 😂

Hope everyone else’s day goes well!

Buk88 · 17/07/2018 08:37

Hi all!

Not been posting much as it’s been a pretty tough pregnancy (ending with obstetric cholestasis- oh the joy of itching!) but wanted to let you know that my boy is here! Little Henry was born 3 weeks early on Saturday 14th by emergency section and he’s just beautiful! All home by Sunday and just enjoying the sleepless, poop filled nights now 😊 xx

BertieBotts · 17/07/2018 08:40

Awwww, congrats Buk! That's lovely :)

somersetsinger · 17/07/2018 08:51

Congratulations Buk88! You must be so glad not to be pregnant and to be home with little Henry, enjoying squishy newborn cuddles.

Bertie, that sounds like a great hospital tour and a fab midwife. Lovely to have it all settled so that you can picture where you're planning to give birth.

I think my baby has moved down a bit further. I can feel a fair bit of pressure low down at the back and her kicks aren't so painful on the ribs. Feel ready to go whenever she wants to come out.

Emmasmum2013 · 17/07/2018 08:55

My Midwife mentioned that we'll be going over my birth plan at my next appointment which is Friday. So I'd best get thinking about it I suppose! Last time I think I had a detailed plan of everything I wanted and it all went out the window as soon as I got there. The only thing I did do was get in the birthing pool for the first stages, I definitely want to do that again. The pain relief from just being in water is amazing.

I think my plan this time is to avoid the pain relief (the diamorphine was shit, wish I hadn't bothered) And get the baby out as soon as poss and then get home as soon after! Last time I gave birth at about 10am and was discharged around 2pm! It was great.

Emmasmum2013 · 17/07/2018 09:11

@Buk88
Wow that's amazing! Congratualtions!! Glad everything is going ok for you.
How is the recovery from the CS? Are you back on your feet now?

BertieBotts · 17/07/2018 09:47

Yes, my questions were mainly about what is normal policy at their hospital because I wasn't sure.

My main points are really:

  • I want to have access to a birth pool, if I can
  • I want to be able to move around, don't restrict my movement unless necessary (ie - no fixed monitoring, no things attached to me, prefer access to items which will help me move/stay upright rather than a bed)
  • Don't do anything to me just in case, especially if it involves needles - I'd rather wait until it's needed
  • Happy to have examinations etc, but let me know first!

Then after birth:

  • Cord stops pulsing before being cut
  • Natural delivery of placenta (no injection)
  • Vitamin K fine for newborn but opportunity to breastfeed first, if possible
  • Immediate skin to skin if possible - no cleaning/wrapping/dressing first
  • Me or DH with baby at all times (more info for DH really since if I can't follow/am out of it I want him to know I'd rather him be with the baby than me!)

I feel like everything else is a case of go with the flow/discuss and decide at the time. I don't want to end up on my back to deliver but if I do then there's not much I can do about it. I know their policy is not to do episiotomy, forceps etc unless necessary, which it will be in most places so not worth specifying.

I think it's really helpful to get your birth plan down to a few bullet points of what's really important - it means that the staff don't have reams of things to read and immediately forget and it means that you concentrate on what are the most important factors for you. Leave off anything which is normal policy because it's a waste of paper and brain space, and combine items (like my needing to move one) into the salient point because for me it's not about the medical part of monitors, drips etc but purely about the movement factor. So if it's needed then me saying "Don't restrict my movement" at least communicates that I'd prefer the most mobile option they have available. It also means that they have an idea of how to guide me/help DH to help me if I need support.

Buk88 · 17/07/2018 11:13

Thanks @emmasmum2013 😊

Recovery is better than I expected- I’ve just had paracetamol and ibuprofen at regular intervals and it’s been really good. Up doing the washing etc today and lifting my 8lb little chunk is feeling much easier 😊 the only bit I hate is the dalteparin injections every day- it’s quite stingy!!

CaffeineDragon · 17/07/2018 11:31

@BertieBotts what a lovely experience and a great midwife!

CaffeineDragon · 17/07/2018 11:32

@Buk88 oh wow - congrats and well done!!! Hope you're enjoying your little man itch free!

CumbrianExile · 17/07/2018 12:51

Congratulations Buk88 and welcome to the World little one Thanks

Glad to hear the recovery is going well.

Good point Bertie about minimising what is on your birth plan and trying to just put main points. I haven't started mine yet but it will be quite similar to yours if I can get baby to turn. Otherwise it will be c section Confused

BeesKnees9 · 17/07/2018 13:35

@buk88 wow congratulations! lovely to hear you and Henry are doing well and you are up and about Smile

@bertiebotts that all sounds fab and v. reassuring, also thanks for the tips regarding the birth plan. I am seeing the midwife this Friday to discuss, I had jotted a bunch of stuff down on a piece of paper but I think short and sweet is the way to go!

I had the WORST cramps in my calves last night, I have had them in the night for a while but last night was a whole new level! Today they are really sore - it feels like I have been walking miles and miles :S
I am drinking loads of water, my diet is fine imo and I am taking multivitamins, getting up hourly to walk and stretch my calves.. is there anything else I can do to make the cramps less painful or is it just one of those "grin and bare it" pregnancy things?

Gem173 · 17/07/2018 13:40

@buk88 wow congratulations and welcome to the world little Henry! 💕 3 weeks early is quite early! Glad everything is okay now and enjoy your newborn snuggles xx

Buk88 · 17/07/2018 14:58

Thank you everyone- he’s gorgeous and it’s amazing to be itch free!!

So excited for you all to have your babies too! X

birdy1978 · 17/07/2018 18:12

Congratulations Buk88! And a great choice of name. Hope you’re getting plenty of rest and enjoying newborn snuggles x