February Anyone...........

[VictorVictoria]

4+0
One DS 23 months
2 m/c in last 6 months
Due 1st Feb
Bloody terrified..........

Gosh, posts are coming in thick and fast, trying hard to keep up. Am not normally on MN in evenings as DH thinks I am a bit obsessed. I like evening chat.

Have to say three years seemed like a good gap, sounds like it's going to work out really well for you with both your older ones.

May have to go and look at smock tops tomorrow. Or something, am a bit old for smock tops. That said, I would rather look pregnant than like a plain old lard arse.

Smock top it is then.

Hmm - sounds like these smock tops actually make you look more pregnant - maybe this plan won't work after all!!

My DS was due to start nursery two afternoons a week when he turns 2. But that would mean sending him off when he has a new sibling who is potentially only a week or two old. I would send him a couple of months earlier to get him used to it but they only start age 2. Any advice?

Egg don't know what to advise. I'm in scotland and we don't have anything that takes them as young as that apart from private nurseries.

From a selfish point of view it would give you a little breathing space a couple of afternoons a week. I found that ds1 wasn't put out at all by arrival of ds2 - if you tell him because he's a big boy he's getting to go and play with some friends on his own he might be ok. As long as he gets plenty of attention at other times he should be fine. Its only a couple of afternoons a week as well.

Hmm, not sure Egg. Has he been away from you at all?

beansprout YOU ARE NOT TOO OLD! the smock tops are lovely, i wasn't teribly thin before getting pg so that doesn't help. I was just getting over the age thing, don't set me off again! Egg - not sure about your problem.. could you go to a toddler group or something like that to get him used to idea of playgroup.. he will proably cope better than you think, especially if you 'big it up'. Or perhaps you could stay for a bit with him to start off with, when mine went to playgroup ( i know it was years ago) they let you stay for some of the time for the first few mornings. Just a thought.

Never been away from his mummy . I am going away for a weekend in Oct without him, but that will be the first time. We spend every MOMENT together...

Aw Egg, that's lovely. I work part-time so ds is an old pro separation. I think getting him used to being at some groups is a good idea. They can be a bit overwhelming at first, with all the people and the noise but they soon get used to them (hey, and the children do too, boom-boom).

Whereabouts are you? Are there groups in your area?

Have to go now, dh has made me a cuppa (subtle way of saying get off the computer I think!). Am going to see The Who tomorrow - yes I know that makes me old! Loved them since I was a teenager, saw them last year they were fantastic. Was going to be a dirty weekend away but now I can't even drink!! Should be fun though. Have a good weekend ladies. Speak soon. Take care

Signing off for now - I have to go on a float for ds2 playgroup at the local childrens gala tomorrow so must get my farmers outfit ready!! Oh the joys - just how I like to spend a Saturday - sitting on a float looking like an idiot then selling strawberries and cream on a stall - it'll probably pour down raining knowing my luck.

They do a settling in thing, which is great, but I will have a weeny baby (hopefully), so it will be a bit tricky. It is only for a couple of hours, two afternoons a week.

TBH we have to move house before No2 is born, so we may well move out of the area, so the situation may be different anyway. He does love playing with other children and when we looked round he legged it away from me to go and play with the dinosaurs with the big kids, but no idea how he would react if I left him.

Enjoy! Dh would be v , he is a Who fan too!

Hi ladies, it's great to be on the feb thread at last!! I am mum to ds 2.7years and had mc in jan at 8 weeks but am now 5 weeks pg and due on feb 1st, feeling v. sick, sore boobs but mainly v. anxious and keep knicker watching for signs!! It's great to know i'm not the only one who's manic.

Just seen egg's post, probably best to get him used to idea of being apart before babe comes, perhaps he could go to a friend's for an hour on a regular basis, you could return the favour and then each mum gets a little time to themself. Toddler groups ae good, so are things like tumbletots (not sure if that still exists)- a kind of baby gym club, for socialising. Sure he will be fine, perhaps you could start soon then it wont seem like it's connected to new baby's arrival.

Sorry took so long writing last message I missed a couple more. ROFL at dressing up as farmers in peeing rain.

The Who are FABULOUS. I would love to see them... you dont need to drink to have a dirty weekend.

Thanks for nursery advice. We go to a big softplay area where he runs off and plays without giving me a second thought, and it is very noisy and very hectic there (esp this week during half term). He used to be a bit nervous there but loves it now, but he always knows where I am. He also goes to monkey music and swimming with other little ones so does interact quite a lot. I am in SW London, have not found any playgroups locally despite trying!

I am also signing off, it is well past my bedtime. Hope everyone sleeps well .

My dp like the who hes only 24 also like the jam
personly i dont myself lol

Hi leesmum, think we all feel same at the mo. This site is really good for sharing all those niggles and worries. Really am going now.

Blardy hell missed another few posts I type so slowly...

Firstly welcome to leesmum! A new arrival! We have all been a bit chatty tonight. Can't believe you also have a 2.7yo DS. Congrats on your BFP. We will need to do a new stats list in the morning.

Am turning laptop off now before my back gives out. Will re-read nursery tips in morning to digest them properly.

Hi Leesmum! Congratulations! Another 2.7 yo ds!! Fab!! (I think that's 4 now, or is it 5....?)

Think it is everyone but me who has a 2.7 DS .

S'ok, as I said, honorary membership and all that!

Bit of a worrying prospect though, a load of fat birds in smock tops with the same age ds's

how wierd lots of us have boys the same age, can't tell you how fed up i am of dinosaurs!! my sons b-day is 25/10/04 anyone with the same? It's just as well smock tops are in at the moment...i just hope i'll be buying some soon.