December 2018 Babies - Thread #3

[MagicalCreatures]

Welcome oldies and any newbies.
Hope you all found the group ok.
And continue ............

@MagicalCreatures it takes 7 working days for the results, which will seem like forever! It's the 4th scan I've had and they've all given me different due dates!

@RomPom but you’ve had your 12 weeks dating Scan though haven’t you. So you’ve been given an official due date for your notes.
I wouldn’t worry (If you are worrying about that) because they all grow at different rates later on and depending which position baby is in.
7 days will feel like forever but it will be here before you know it. Spend that time with your mum and chill out a bit. X

@MagicalCreatures yes they told me 5th Jan at my 12 wk, which would make me 16 wks today, but I was measuring less today which is why they couldn't confirm the sex, not that that bothered me. I just couldn't remember whether they just stick to the 12 wk date or if it would officially change. Baby will still be here end of Dec anyway as I'll be having a CS. It's so nice to have some good scan pics. Fingers crossed my mum's MRI tomorrow goes just as well!

No they shouldn’t change your due date after your dating scan. Apparently up to around the 12 week mark, all babies grow at pretty much the same rate which is why it’s a good time for them to date them. After that, I expect babies start to change their rate of growth. Hence why some are born bigger then others and from 16 weeks your midwife starts to measure you. Mine told me last week that I’m already measuring ahead.
Also I had my gender scan at 15+6 and we could see easily that it was a boy. I’d say that your bubba maybe wasn’t in a great position and they didn’t want to say because they couldn’t be entirely sure.

Anyone feel free to correct me if I’m wrong on any of this. I don’t want to give out false advice.

Fingers crossed for your mums MRI. It’s such a stressful time for you with everything going on. Look after yourself and make sure you take some time to chill x x

To add to what @magical says - at my 20 weeks I was interested to see that every measurement they did have an estimated fetal age. Some of mine were spot on (20w3d), some a bit big, some a bit small (down to 19w4d). The sonographer basically said given the heart is as big as your thumbnail right now, it is tiny, tiny differences and there is still a lot of variation and nada to worry about

@MagicalCreatures that's what I've been told too, that due date doesn't change after 12 week scan as they all grow so differently after that! I have a vivid memory of going for a growth scan at 38 weeks with my first and he was measuring 43 weeks! I guess they have to have some kind of statistics to plot growth against.

Hope mums scan goes well @RomPom and the next 7 days fly past! Beautiful clear scan too

This is a bit random, but this morning when I was putting my make up on, lots of eyebrow hairs fell out! I haven't got much to start with and this has never happened. Pregnancy or stress related?

@rompom probably stress tbh. Time to get the eyebrow kit out and fill them in! 😂

My OH just felt baby move!!! Mind = blown!!! I’ve only felt bub the last couple days. It was moving tonight, he put his hand there and suddenly there was a massive kick/twitch!!! It was like bub knew!! 😍

Omg cake!!
The same thing happened to me a couple of hours ago... my OH didn't feel him kick he seen him move, I was lying on my back and I could feel him moving and my whole tummy rolled and was sticking out lol
It was amazing!!!

Such little miracles arnt they hun! Xxx

Ohh and rompom my eyebrows are fine but my hair has been falling out in clumps 🙀

@December2018 amazing!!! It's just so so wonderful!! I thought I'd never feel it! Haha! But all of a sudden it's there!! 😍

My OH is not a fan of pregnancy! He finds it all really gross, so has no interest in touching my bump or feeling movements at all. We had a cheesy photo shoot done on holiday when I was pregnant with DD and he had to put his hands on my bump and he was so uncomfortable!

Mine hides from OH whenever he touches - really funny. He says I’ve alrwady turned our first child against him! 😂

I had my first consultant appointment today and got all tearful and emotional. She said that due to my 3c tear last time I need to pick between an episiotomy and a c-section. Obviously I would have what is needed in an emergency but wasn't wanting to pick either as plan a. I'd read so much about people going on to have straight forward second births that I guess I'd just convinced myself that was an option! She's rebooked me for 7 weeks time when I need to give her a decision. Have been all hormonal and crying since as I just don't want either!

Oh @balalalala that sounds awful! 😟 not surprised your feeling upset. Just think, one way or another you will experience labour, and then one way or another you will be a mother to a beautiful little bean and all will be forgotten. This is what people keep telling me and with some self-convincing it is starting to help! Sending hugs xx

Ohhh @balalalala I feel for you, you sound like you're being sensible about it and it's only natural you'd be upset! If you mind my asking did you have episiotomy with your first? I have my consultant appt at 24 weeks to discuss similar things (3b tear though) and keep changing my mind about what I want to do... trying to make these decisions with pregnancy hormones is NOT ideal!

No, no episiotomy first time round but apparently it was a bad 3c tear and hemorrhage. The thought was that it was due to a rubbish midwife, baby born back to back and a very fast pushing stage. I went straight into theatre but they clearly did a good job as I was walking the dog a week later and haven't had any problems since which is probably clouding my view.

She did say if it were a 3a or 3b she wouldn't be so insistent about the episiotomy so maybe you'll be OK? When I had my 6 week check last time the consultant said amazing repair and no reason why I couldn't have another natural birth. I also saw a private consultant at one point as my body had healed over the knot of the stitches which was sharp for my dh (sorry tmi!) but actually it sorted itself out. That consultant said he'd advise a c-section but support a natural birth if I was under him, which is why I hadn't considered this previously!

Hey @balalala, please don’t worry. I am also looking at a planned c section at the moment if my placenta doesn’t correct. I was apprehensive but my sister in law told me such an incredible story about her baby led/“natural” caesarean that I was in tears. It was a seriously magical birth - silence in the room, music they had chosen, and her fave of three births she has had. She had also hoped for a VBAC and was very upset when it was suggested but now feels so positive about the experience. She has given me a lot of confidence that I can still have the birth I want regardless x

But also...we are talking to a doula next week and on her website she talks about assisting with normal birth in this sort of circumstance. If you want a second opinion you go get one.

@balalalala if your recovery was good and you healed well then it makes sense you'd want to go for a natural birth - and I agree I would have thought it was totally possible with the right consultant support! I'm sorry you didn't have an easy birth though, that sounds really difficult.

Mines a bit of a weird one - son also had shoulder dystocia and my debrief with consultant day after he was born I was told I wouldn't be advised a natural birth as a result of that and tear (I had episiotomy with him, otherwise I suspect tear may have been worse!). I wasn't offered a 6 week check so no one ever checked how it healed, but I had a lot of pain for several months after. Frustratingly the hospital haven't sent my notes to the new hospital so there's confusion as to what's recommended. For now it's monitoring growth and if baby is big like it's brother I will most likely have a CS as my recovery was really painful.

Thank you both. I know deep down that the elec is probably the best way to go, but the thought of surgery scares me. My poor stomach has enough stretch marks and is probably the bit of me I'm already most self conscious of which I know is terribly vain. Unfortunately all my friends that have had CS have all been emergency so I've not heard of a good experience! The worry there is that I go into labour before the elec date and then it becomes a emergency or back to the episiotomy situation!
@kaytees it sounds like you had a really tough time, no wonder you're thinking you'll have a CS. I hope everything goes well for you.

Just wanted to say hello 🤗 I was on a January thread as my due date is 3rd January but most likely baby will be here in December for health reasons. So thought I'm probably best joining you guys now seeing as it's likely I'll have a Christmas baby 😬
I'm 16+4 and feeling a little nervous as between the 12 and 20 week scan... got 3 more weeks of waiting for scan so caved and booked a private one for tonight. It's just for reassurance not for any other reasons. Tell me I'm not alone feeling this way?!

@balalala cannot tell you how much I can relate to what you have written. It’s not vain at all. My OH is very supportive and I know that conceiving naturally is a huge privilege but there are still so many days where I feel unconfident about my appearance and worry about how I will feel about my ‘new’ body after I give birth. There is so much emotion tied up in what happens to our bodies as mums, and it’s invisible to everyone else. But you are not alone!!