December 2018 Babies - Thread #3

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Welcome oldies and any newbies.
Hope you all found the group ok.
And continue ............

Gemsie I'm so sorry to hear your going thru such a horrible time!
I'm not very good with putting my emotions down in black & white
I just want you to know I admire how brave you are and I take my hat off to you
You do what you know and feel is right for you and your baby stay strong and keep your head held high!
And most of all look after yourself
Big hugs and loves xxxx

I feel like I say this a lot at the moment but people lose their minds when it comes to pregnant women - you are basically fair game for anything that comes out of their mouth.

I was sending my mum bump pictures on a regular basis and she was always replying ‘oh look at your fat belly/how fat you are!’

Constantly calling me fat was wearing me down but she was so surprised when I mentioned it was bothering me. Engage brain!!!

😂 @AGirlinLondon such a good point! Engage brain is one of my fave sentiments. Hopefully your mum has altered her comments to say what she means instead??

Haha @Goldilocks she means well - but reprogramming her is a long road!!

@AGirlinLondon watch this space - you'll turn into her if you're not careful 😂😂😂

@SteveHolt 2 weeks away for 20 weeks feels close! Are you going to find out the sex or stay team yellow?

@Cakelaur we're almost exactly the same as you - life's far too interesting to stay in the cookie cutter format hey?!

@Gemsie1984 I'm sorry I've only just seen this. I'm struggling with some prenatal mental health problems at the moment too and I just wanted to say you're not alone. Your health and baby's health comes first, don't forget that. I have had to learn this the hard way and have given up work for now to focus on my mental health.
I'm sorry your family can't be supportive. As a previous poster said, thete must he issues underlying their 'concern' and whatever those are, they are not your problem. It is not selfish to look after yourself and take a break from people who are hurting you. If you feel you can talk to someone you trust about this, do. If not, even writing a letter you never send or journalling about your feelings can be very helpful.
If you need to set limits around contact with them, or even stop it altogether, I am someone who has done this with a family member. There is support available and a bright future ahead of you with your partner and your growing family. I could say more, if you'd like to talk about it you are welcome to PM me.
I hope you can give yourself some time and space, care for yourself and sort through your feelings in a safe and helpful way. Best of luck

there must be* stupid phone!

@Cakelaur yep scorching for sure - my car hit as high as 54 over in Qatar this week!

I've just landed in the UK and it's positively cool!!

@Gemsie1984 I have nothing more to add than whatever anyone has said - but I'm also mid risky pregnancy if you ever need a vent xx

Morning all :) how is everyone feeling today? Weather has calmed down a little bit which is a huge relief but back up to 29 again tomorrow 😬😬😬

Still struggling with nausea at the moment but vomming has calmed down again since Sunday... 🤞 I really hope this doesn't become a weekly thing!!

Waking up in the night with a few cramps in my nether regions - had anyone else experienced similar? Might give the midwife a call 🤔

Hey Goldilocks!
Yeah I've been very crampy today, sorta feels like electric shocks in my "hoo haa" lol
But it's mostly my back... I'm gonna buy myself one of those ice box fan things today see if it takes the heat out of my bedroom it's about 4 million degrees in there!
Toooo hottttt!!

🤣 hoo haa! Love it 😜
Sounds like a worthy investment - good luck with it!

It better be! If not it's going straight thru the window! Haha

Does anyone know if there is an appointment that partners aren't supposed to attend? Had a strange feeling that we were told no partners at 16 weeks but might (genuinely) have dreamt it!

No, they can come to all of them if you want them to. Midwife may send him on an "errand" if she needs a moment with you (e.g. to ask if there's any issues surrounding domestic violence etc).

I'm waiting to speak to a pharmacist right now as I've had the most hideous cramps in my calf the past couple of mornings (woken by it at 7 am today and still in pain now) and I want to see what they recommend.

Hi everyone, please can I join you? Official due date is Jan 6th, but will be having an elective CS at the end of December. Just had my 12 week scan at 13+3 and tbh it was a shit experience. This is my last baby and my last ever 12 wk scan. Feeling very down about how it went, but obviously super excited about baby!!

Welcome @RomPom sorry you're 12 week scan was pants.. what happened? We're a lovely supportive bunch here 🙂

@emwithme oooo sounds so painful! Hope you get some support soon!

Welcome @RomPom so sorry to hear it was crappy. We're here to help if you want to complain or take your mind off things with our random convos!!

Thank you for the welcome. It'll be nice to be able to share the journey with other people. I've just posted in AIBU about what my sonograper said, but that was only part of the issue. It was the 3rd attempt to get the nuchal measurements and they couldn't, so I have to have the quad test. They didn't explain what that meant, so I left feeling a bit confused. I saw some wonderful images on the screen of the baby, it was moving around a lot and it was lovely to see, but she didn't print any nice pics. She sent me for a 20 min walk to try to get baby in a better position, and when I came back she checked for about 5 seconds and printed off a picture that was indecipherable. I know I'm hormonal and it's not that bad, but it just upset me.

Hi poppom welcome hunni
Geeeez that does sound like a bad day!
The sonographer sounds like she could have been a little more patient! And sympathetic maybe...
When I went for mine it took them nearly an hour but they managed to get it in the end
(Had me doing star jumps)
If you really want some lovely pictures would you not consider booking a private scan?
I had a gender scan on Saturday and my little man was upside down playing with his willy!
I think going private is a lot more relaxed and not as rushed

*Rompom
(My brain isn't working today)

I have a bit of a long update today (sorry ladies!)

So I had my quad test on Friday (29/6) and was told that I’d get my results in the post after 5-10 working days. We went to Disney on Monday, which we booked before I got pregnant, as a birthday treat for me (birthday was Tuesday). Yesterday, while at Disney I had a couple of missed calls from a number I didn’t recognise.

I then received a text asking me to call the screening midwives at the hospital. We found somewhere to sit and I called them. Downs risk was low, but one of my hormones was raised. Could I come in for a scan at 9.30 this morning? We were due back last night anyway so that was fine, but obviously I was very worried that they needed me in so quickly.

Our trains back ended up taking 3 hours longer than planned and we didn’t get home until 00.30 this morning.

So absolutely shattered and worried sick, we went for our scan this morning. THANKFULLY all was fine with our little sesame. My AFM is raised, so I’ll be consultant led from here on out, but baby’s spine, skull and brain all look to be properly formed.

Sorry for the essay, just wanted to get it off my chest!

Oh @rompom that’s shit I’m sorry :(

My scan pic (1st pregnancy so significant for us too) is naff as well. Just a blob really. Couldn’t get NT measurement so had to have bloods taken. I’m sure all is well with your bubba

@Stephisaur sorry you had to go through all the worry. Hope you had a lovely birthday though. And great news on bub. What's AFM?

@RomPom that's super sucky babe. Hopefully all is sorted soon. My little bean was a bit of a buggar but after about half an hour it did move into place. Defo what the others have said. Maybe a private scan?

@December2018 OMG I GET THE ELECTRIC STABBINGS IN MY HOO HAA!!!
I thought it was just me!! Haha! I tried to explain it to the midwife and she looked at me like I was mad!! Hahaha

Does anyone else have an achey bump? Sometimes I just wanna hold it and lie down!! I'm hoping it's just bub growing! My bump is really starting to look "bumpy" rather than cake! Haha

@cakelaur not 100% sure lol just what it says in my notes. The midwife said that it’s the hormone from my placenta (but I thought that was AFP?) so as the scan is ok then it just puts me at risk of pre eclampsia apparently so I’ll be getting extra scans x