June 2018 #3

[ClareB83]

Just restarting the thread as we're close to 1000 posts

June 2018 babies #2 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/3059704-June-2018-babies-2

@Winterfellismyhome Placenta location plays a huge part. I had a fairly low lying anterior one with ds and didn't really feel him move until week 25 or so and then only when lying down. This time I have an anterior placenta again but it's much higher up and I've felt this baby move from around 16 weeks (now 23) so that might account for it. I was also told with ds that people tend to feel their first later than subsequent babies by a midwife.

@Shutupanddance1 that's why I keep turning down offers to borrow things. I don't want the responsibility of keeping them nice and returning them. I want stuff I can spill on!

I've mainly gone for maternity bottoms and just wearing loose tops I already owned. But I am getting bored of the same few going round and round.

And I felt my twins early, long before 20 week scan. But everyone is different.

Thank you @ClareB83 @Dinosauratemydaffodils @Lizwilkinson88

Hi everyone. I was actually on this thread and the FB group ages ago and then freaked out a bit about impeding motherhood of 2 DC and bailed. Hoping you'll have me back now I'm feeling a bit more sane! I'm 21+1 and feeling lots of kicks! Haven't done much to prepare for new arrival yet but dh is painting dd's new room this weekend so we can have her out of the nursery. Hope everyone else is doing well!

Hi @Ca55andraMortmain, sounds like you're due the same date as me! 28th June? I'm also feeling lots of kicks, I'm sure it's learning Kung fu in there.

Yes! 28 June! This baby is much more active than DD was - I hope that doesn't mean it'll be as bad a sleeper as she was!

Hi all, been a hectic week! Made it 24 weeks today though

DS is in incredibly wriggley, but then I think that's inevitable with how active DP and I are. Both terrible at sitting and relaxing so I think we have made a child worse than us!

How's everyone getting on? I think I might have developed a lactose intolerance during pregnancy, such a dodgy tummy at the moment!!

Hi all, hope everyone is doing well.

Has anyone organised their maternity leave yet? I have a meeting with HR on Tuesday, according to a colleague this is unusual so I’m interested to hear what others have experienced. I have my MAT B form to hand over and have discussed the dates I want to leave and return with my line manager so I’m sure that’s all fine, although I will be over 25 weeks at the meeting when I presume everything will be made official. I’m hoping that won’t cause any problems, my manager has known since I was very early on in pregnancy and I have been chasing all this up with her. It’s just another thing to be anxious about 🙄!

15 weeks prior to expected week of childbirth (ewc = sunday before due date) is the deadline for arranging mat leave i believe. You should have a policy so give that a read first and you'll be fine x

Hey all
@Elizabethlemon my cut off date is 28 weeks with my company. So I don't know if it differs between organisations. However my manager has not done 1 risk assessment so I don't think he cares much about policy and procedure. Anyway good luck I'm sure it will be nothing to worry about.
Anyone experiencing Braxton hicks? Mines are awful they almost take my breath away and are painful. Please tell me I'm not the only one.

@Mummyloves09 poor you, you’ve been having them for a while haven’t you? I haven’t had any but can’t really remember having them with my 1st either.

I have done a risk assessment not that it was in any way related to my role, just pointless box ticking! I’ll see what happens on Tuesday, I’m sure it’ll be fine.

It's a statutory obligation to tell them 15 weeks prior to EWC but from the wording on the gov.uk website this implies it's the notification of the pregnancy rather than the maternity leave dates...

I’m more of a lurker than a poster on here but needed to share. A few weeks ago my SIL rang to announce news of their pregnancy. We worked it out she was approx 13 weeks behind. I was happy for them and thought how wonderful it was to have someone in real life to share pregnancy with even though we live miles apart. Hubby didn’t take the news well and became concerned that it would mean his parents wouldn’t visit as his sister would need support as her husband works away a good 60% of the year. He voiced his concerns to his parents, but around the time of the announcement my MIL seemed to stop contacting me. She went from ringing me 2 to 3 times a week, to no calls, which upset me and I attributed this to the fact that her daughter was pregnant which at the time upset me.

Fast forward a few weeks and we have been told his sisters pregnancy wasn’t viable. I feel absolutely dreadful and so guilty. Firstly for their loss and secondly for having those thoughts in the first place. I haven’t been able to get beyond this feeling of guilt. I feel guilty that she’s been trying for so long and is so maternal, whereas I’ve never been maternal and been if the if it happens, great. If not, it’s not the end of the world. I feel guilty that because I’ve not felt excited and overjoyed whereas she was full of excitement. I have contacted her since we found out, but know too that I’m probably the last person she is going to want to see as I’m going to an awful reminder of what she’s lost. I’ve said to husband I’m not sure if we should postpone our visit to see his family. As awful as this will sound I don’t know how y.the rest of his family will be. I don’t want to isolate ourselves, but equally feel we should leave it and let them all contact us. I’ve not heard from MIL since any of this happened. I don’t know where the waters lie and just feel so bad.

Thanks @Pittcuecothecookbook, I think I’ve done everything correctly. It’s just management/HR that have been a bit disorganised (local government so can’t be too surprised!) which I can’t take responsibility for. To be fair I will be 25+1 tomorrow at the meeting so it’s not like I’m telling them a week before I’m due! I’m just being over anxious.

@thumbelina03 what a difficult situation. Please don’t feel guilty. While I understand that your SIL may want to keep her distance for a while, I don’t think that should cause problems within the rest of the family. Can your husband contact his Mum and explain that you still want to see them but are aware of your SIL feelings?

@thumbelina03 sorry to hear about your situation. It's tough. One of my best friends and I were pregnant at the same time and she sadly had a miscarriage. I noticed a massive drop off in contact from her (she didn't actually ever tell me she was pregnant but I had worked it out). She went on to have a little girl and we now see each other tons and she's godmother to my little boy. I think if you've got family stuff arranged you should still go - I know it's incredibly sad about your SIL but equally you will need the support from them over the next few months. You say you've not heard from your MIL - she may also be feeling sad for her daughter but you are also carrying her grandchild. How about you pick up the phone to her and ask her how she is? I always think these things should be talked about otherwise it will just become awkward every time you see them.

mummyloves I’m having lots of braxton hicks, my whole bump goes hard and you can see where the baby is laying. It’s uncomfortable but not sore. I didn’t have this in my last pregnancy until the end though.

Babies were a bit quieter than normal yesterday so I did the whole drinking cold water and lying on my side thing and got loads of kicks. So I was very relieved.

Today they are having an absolute party!!

Glad we've got another growth scan tomorrow to check on them as I find it a bit stressful trying to be sure I feel both of them move everyday and it's not just one doing a fandango.

@thumbelina03 that is really hard but you should still go to family things, just try to be considerate to SIL.

@Mummyloves09 no Braxton Hicks yet. Sorry you're getting loads. Most annoying thing for me at the moment is swollen hands and numb arms from carpal tunnel. Oh and terrible hormonal blues about once a week when I just feel not myself and cry for no reason at all.

I think I've had braxton hicks but unsure! Got my Matb1 today so that's good and heard the heart beat again at my 24 week appt today with midwife. Bump totally popped out this week!

I'm the same as intelinside I think Braxton hicks have started but I'm not totally sure. Do they feel like period pain type cramping? Must have been lovely to hear the heartbeat @intel

@thumbelina03 that's really tough. I'm not sure i would know how to act for the best, though I've seen a few threads offering idea'st on how to best support her

My bump felt rock hard and I had period type cramps. I had overdone that day though with picking uo my toddler nieces and playing with them in the park so wasn't sure if that was my body telling me to take it easy!

Hello ladies! I'll be 22 weeks tommorow...I started to feel the girl more, lately, too. I'm not sure if it's Braxton Hicks but my tummy becomes harder sometimes without pain though. I get some short time aches other times but I assumed are normal with uterus stretching (is my first so not very sure of anything) :).

My Braxton hicks are painful when my tummy goes hard and this lil girl is either moving (big moves) or something crazy in there. It also takes my breath away for a couple of seconds. But hey it can't go on forever.

@Elizabethlemon how was your meeting?? I hope all was ok.

@ClareB83 yes emotions wise, I was told I couldn't have Apple pie and ice cream at 22:30 On Sunday and there was tears involved to the point my partner offered to make it from scratch. (Now if my 8 year old done that there would be none at all lol, double standards😂).

I will be 25weeks on thursday midwife doesn't see me until 28 weeks. She last saw me at 18weeks feels like forever 🙄.

Anyway have a great week ladies, and keep well 😊.

I've also had a big gap between appointments @Mummyloves09 - I last saw my midwife when I was 14 weeks in December and my next appointment is 5th March when I'll be nearly 24 weeks. Thankfully I've just had two 20 week scans and all seems well!

Interesting reading about Braxton Hicks, I didn't think they started until near the end. Thanks for the heads up!

I'm wondering when my bump might "pop". I thought it had, but lots of people keep giving me very concerned looks when I tell them I'm over halfway there and they see my small belly. If someone says "but you're very small" one more time I might lose my rag!

Also I burst into tears at my desk this morning because my nose has been blocked for a week and now my ear is blocked too - I'm very grateful for understanding colleagues....

@mummyloves09 I have a similar gap too, feels like ages since I saw someone actually!!

@HoneyBee03 a friend is due a few days apart from me and her bump is considerably smaller than mine, I think some people just carry differently. Another friend had incredibly strong stomach muscles and had nothing until about 30 weeks and then suddenly a massive bump

I THINK I'm doing OK emotions wise, but I am incredibly uncomfy over night and keep moving too fast which hurts my bump. I also have a very sore bump, dp lightly touched it a minute ago and it was very painful.

Booked into antenatal classes for mid april as couldnt get anything later, I'm sure we will have forgotten everything by the time bump arrvies.

Hows everyone getting on with names? Are you going to have a short list then decide when they appear or firm it up before they arrive?

Also can anyone recommend a travel insurer which definitely covers pregnancy? Been trawling through policy informatino and am still not clear

I think bump size is a mix of things:

Your size beforehand
Number of previous pregnancies
How tall you are, especially your torso
How much weight you’ve put on
If you’ve got good tummy muscles
Where the baby is sitting - I feel massive when she’s pushing up towards my ribs

The size of the baby is fairly universal but these other factors obviously vary hugely.

We’ve got a list of names and a couple of front runners