Due in July Part FOUR - gather here!

[Cyee]

Can't believe we need more space... again...

Afternoon all,

Can I just say thank you to all that have been honest enough to say they are panicking! I have had some real 'lose it' sessions lately and have really started to panic over the thought of having a baby!

I am so uncomfortable..baby still has its head behind my tummy button and is taking great pleasure in booting me in the groin if i so much as sit forward!!!!

I am now 29+1 and the thought of 11 more weeks is horrifying me, as is the thought of actually having a baby! Also read that we can start to feel lonely now and can honestly say that I feel totally misunderstood at home and need to get my head together and stop being such a baby about everything!

Big hugs to all and welcome to the newbies whose names I simply cannot recall!

LOL Jamantha! If only it was that easy .

I have two November babies myself, but then February is a particularly depressing month

Just wrote a long post and then it disappeared into cyber space....Anyway,

Hooray for still being at home! After a weekend of doing absolutely nothing (always thought enforced bed rest would be absolute bliss but actually found it really frustrating!) my blood pressure has come down very slightly so I have another 48 hour reprieve from hospital which is fantastic!

I'm finding it so hard not to be in control of this or to be able to predict the next few weeks and its made me realise that I'm probably quite anal in the way I like things to be scheduled and predictable...I guess this whole being forced to go with the flow and take each 48 hours as it comes is probably a good initiation into life with children but I'm really not very good at it!

My husband has been a star over the weekend taking control of all things domestic but men just see housework so differently don't they?!

I've tried so hard not to comment at what are completely insignificant details in the grand scheme of things such as wiping the kitchen surface down around the toaster rather than removing the crumbs from underneath it or not removing the dry washing from the airer before heaping the wet clothes over the top but I have made my sister and best friend promise that if I end up in hospital for any length of time they'll come in and do a 'girl' clean before I bring the baby home.

I'd hate to offend my husband though because he is being so lovely at keeping me calm, trying to make my life as easy as possible and humouring my hormonal outbursts, so I have visions of them sweeping in undercover in dark glasses with their marigolds already in place and feather dusters up their sleeves!

Anyway, I should head back to lying on my left side with my feet up above my heart. I got sick of my bedroom ceiling so am now on an airbed on the sitting room floor with my feet up on the sofa. Not sure how long before it bursts though as the other problem with bedrest is that eating becomes a real and frequent highlight of the day!

Big hugs to all and especially those who also aren't having a straightforward time of it.

I also really take my hat off to all those who are still working/have older children to deal with...you're all much better women than I am!

Take Care xx

Glad to hear you're still at home and doing OK WC. I don't think I'd be so great at enforced rest and "letting go" either, you have my sympathy. But it'll surely be worth it in the end eh?

Glad you are still hanging on in there WC.

As a working mum with an older child the idea of bedrest sounds fab but if it wasn't for work/dd I think I'd have turned into a couch potato and gained A LOT MORE weight.

Foxybrown, have added you to the list so all being well you should appear in the stats on Friday, and welcome aboard . Think I will probably be taking your place in the June stats...

MMnika and weddingcake am so glad to hear that you are both busy avoiding being admitted - keep on relaxing!

Have had a 'challenging' day with DS - did make me wonder how I will cope with a baby and him to look after, got home from his music group and burst into tears all over DH who was trying to leave for work. Tantrums (DS's rather than mine) continued in the afternoon until bedtime when he miraculously metamorphisised (am sure that's spelt incorrectly) into a little angel who quietly played with his train set and couldn't understand why mummy wanted him to go to bed so desperately - roll on when I can have a glass or three of wine in the evening to make it all better!!!

MMnika and weddingcake - so pleased you're both at home, even if bed rest is driving you nuts. I'd be the same, but at least a bedroom/living room ceiling is better than a hospital ceiling.

Hello foxybrown - I'm pretty certain this July baby might have more to do with DP's 30th birthday rather than the darker nights. I'm not too embarrassed admitting that here seeing as almost every family member on both sides worked it out pretty quickly anyway.

We went to our first Parent Craft class tonight, it was actually the 2nd of 3 but we weren't told about them until after the 1st, we've time to catch up though. We were taught all about pain relief, I'm going to keep hoping some gas and air and a bouncy ball will be enough. I can dream anyway.
We also did a bit of role-playing, to demonstrate home many people might end up in the labour room with you if things go wrong. Lucky me, I got picked to be the Mother, surrounded by about 10 other people. I'm hoping it means that now everything will go perfectly when the real time arrives.

I've managed to get 2 nights of about 8 hours (broken) sleep, so I'm feeling more with it today than I have for about a fortnight. I'm hoping it continues but I'm expecting tomorrow to be rough. My parents old neighbour died last week, I haven't seen him much over the past few years but the families are very close and he was like a Grandfather to me as I was growing up.
I was supposed to be driving over to go to the funeral tomorrow, but my parents, brother and SIL all came down with a particularly nasty and contagious bout of sickness and diarrhoea at the weekend so they've banned me from going over there in case I catch it.

Anyone know how you can send an eviction notice to the uterine occupant? Between baby, daughter and builders I am guessing I get no more than about three hours sleep a night at the minute

Agnes

agnes if you figure out how to send an eviction notice let me know. (Purely for social and selfish reasons) I have a wedding in the middle of August and a school reunion at the beginning of September to look gorgeous for. Leaky boobs and saggy tummys aren't the best look when trying to show people you haven't seen in 10 years how well you have done.

Weddingcake- so glad you are at home still! Long may it last! I know what you mean about resting though...I find it impossible not to see all the things I need to be doing, housework, cooking & work! DP, bless him, is also not that competent when it comes to housework- so last night he let me wash-up after DS went to bed and then I 'guided' him through cleaning the floors!!! And DS really doesn't understand this whole mummy resting thing... everytime I lie down he wants to jump on me (apparently I make a great climbing frame!)

But we'll manage...small price to pay really!

Abgirl- you have my sympathies- my DS too can go through days where he just slowly tortures me with tantrums or general whinging- but then the next day be on top form! Terrible twos eh....! To be honest I now completely ignore tantrums & if he refuses to cooperate he gets put in his cot for time out, which seems to work. That and keeping him constantly busy- he loves being out & about, or outdoors generally, which seems to help. I hate it when it rains!!! (well, then there's swimming!). I think he isn't as bad as many boys his age but maybe that's partly as he's at a day-care nursery usually 4 days a week & they obviously can't lavish the attention he'd have at home all the time.... But I better not count my chickens!!! I agree it will be 'fun' when we have DSs & little ones at home together!

Justaboutmanaging- good luck getting straight answers out of solicitors- I hate that part of selling houses!!

Weddingcake - No-one is a better woman than you! Bless you for doing as you are told and doing the best thing for your LO. I know it can't be easy but please be proud of yourself for staying still!
I'm glad your DH is doing his bit (even if his 'bit' isn't quite inline with yours!)

Abgirl - Sorry to hear about your very trying day! Hope its better today and I am in full agreement of the wine comment! I miss my drink induced deep sleeps

Bilblio - Sorry to hear about the death of your old neighbour. I am sure he will understand if you are unable to go the funeral. Hope your family feel better soon. Seems there is a ton of tummy bugs going around right now...I'm busily avoiding them in work!

Agnes & Typhoonsmum - Laughing out loud at your eviction comments!

My LO wasn't conceived on my birthday or anything as exotic as that...Just a boring night of TV that led to some fooling around the sofa!!!!

Kyte - how very lucky of you to have fallen on your first month of trying! Congrats.

Madmumnika - Nice to see you still at home too! Well done on resting and long may it continue!

We have TV's in work that constantly play the news...I see that they have a suspect for missing Maddy....Praying that they find her alive!

Big hugs to all and their bumps!

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Hi firststar, I did find the parent craft class useful. I've been avoiding the chapters on pain relief, (I do a good ostrich impression) but the class last night taught me a lot and changed my opinions on what I might like. Apparently most of the midwives have a preference for pethidine rather than epidurals, a friend had put me off pethidine but hearing the pros and cons made me think it sounds better than an epidural.

I'm glad blokey was there too, we had a good chat about what I might and might not like when we got home so I'm happier that when I'm writhing around in pain he can (hopefully) be a decent advocate for me.

I'll still try to be optimistic and hope my purple bouncy ball and some gas and air will be enough. I haven't a clue what my pain threshold is like having never had anything more painful than a gum infection.

I hope your classes are as helpful.

As a first time Mum I really have no idea what to expect where the pain is concerned. All I know is that everyone says its painful but most come through it and then go and do it again!

I guess in just under 12 weeks (max) we will all be the proud owner of a new baby and a ton of stories!

Biblio gum infections are excrutiatingly painful, and the pain is constantly there. Pain killers still don't get rid of it. Contractions are painful but GO AWAY. They don't last longer than a minute or so. Don't worry!

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Firststar - Pretty much the same over here! Keep walking into the nursery and just standing there trying to imagine what it will be like to have my LO at home! OH MY GOD!!!!!!

Are you fretting about really silly things? I am! Have started to make dumb lists of things I need to get done! I'm acting like I'm going to be totally incapable of doing anything! Silly silly Myfairone!!!!

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I do think it's a case of your mind working overtime (at least it is with me). I don't expect to be sleeping much as I suspect I won't be able to take my eyes off of the LO once I bring it home!

I am so intrigued about what it will look like. I have asked my MIL to send me pictures of DH when he was first born so that I can compare the baby to both of us. She of course doesn't see the importance of this and is no hurry to pass them to me! (I hope she has some!)

Yes I'm definitely fretting about silly things. One of my questions last night was "What are the taxi companies like around here or can I call an ambulance?"
Apparently the taxi companies are good and calling an ambulance is frowned upon as childbirth isn't normally a medical emergency.

I daren't start writing lists, there's too much to do. As as for standing in the nursery thinking "Wow"... erm what nursery?!?!

Bilblio - Great minds think alike!!!! My DH tends to keep his mobile on silent when he is in work. For some reason this has really started to worry me...I have visions of me calling a cab and waiting forever for it to turn up!

I am going with lists....keep losing the buggers but at least I'm writing them

My list to get done before bubs arrives:

Plant sweetcorn
Pot up tomatoes
Plant out courgettes
Bribe a local child to weed my borders as I can't bend down for long enough
Slay every last slug in the neighbourhood
Replace broken panes of glass in greenhouse
Plant out all hardy annuals my mum has lovingly raised from seed (so next year there will be less weeding)
Do a mega clean up in house
Visit all the NT properties in area when go on mat leave
Dig out newborn vests and sleepsuits etc
Buy new mattress for freecycled moses basket
SLEEP SLEEP SLEEP

Oh and very importantly wax my bits!