November 2017 #5. You wait ages for a baby, then 3 come along at once. Ante/post-natal chat ...

[Zampa]

No specific post-natal category so I've added it to the normal ante-natal category ...

@GingerHanna @AccrualIntentions @@theotherendofthesockportal totally agree I have lost sense of freedom and sense of self, my body doesn’t look like mine when I look in the mirror.

I’ve been arguing with DH and 95% of it Is me that has started it / been unreasonable/ unkind :( he’s been great and I’d be lost without him so doesn’t deserve it at all :-/

It has made me feel so much more normal being part of this thread. You worry it’s just you but then when you read others are going through the same thing it makes you realise that it’s all transitions of having a new baby

@Zampa thank you! It’s a relief. I do wonder when he will want playing with etc but I guess I will figure it out as I go along. Such a control freak!

House gets left to a degree but I have my limits. Dishwasher needs emptying and laundry doing!

DH often does be bottle top up in a night feed whilst I do a quick pump. Does help a lot. He is really good... just needs to be told more than I would like to have to - since when do I have a manual?!?!

@lydiaangel83 I have no choice with the pumping as he was too weak when he was born to nurse properly. Now he is three days adjusted and getting stronger I now need to move to fully boob!

I have the Gina Ford book also. Haven’t been in a position to start it yet by going to try this week. He’s only just started staying awake a little after feeds! (Three weeks old but also three weeks early). Wondering how she moves babies from two deep night feed to just the one!!!!

Thanks @DuRezidal. It does help to know others feel the same. It gets so lonely sometimes that I don’t know how I would cope without you ladies here.

@theotherendofthesockportal I did think of you when writing as I know we have quite a few similar experiences... I completely get you regards hampering their development. I keep forgetting to talk to him when changing his nappy and telling him what I am doing. Then I realize and think what an awful mama I am and how unfortunate he is to have someone as negligent as me!

This really is the time to torment oneself eh?

Oh @AccrualIntentions they can be so insensitive at times can’t they! You poor woman. DH got a proper look at engorement today after DS had fed from only one side. Gave him a bit of a shock and helped him to appreciate a bit more what is really going on in my body. Haha!

My other main issue is how can something so small create so much extra washing!!!!!! I seem to be constantly putting a wash on whereas before J arrived it was every other day.

On a serious note, I am trying not to worry too much about sleep training etc at this stage. I seem to remember with my daughter that she started going longer and longer without a feed at night on her own so perhaps I should try and relax a little and let J dictate when he is hungry. Every 3 hourly at night is doable at the moment so as he was early and catching up perhaps that is what he needs for now.

@GingerHanna to be fair it's the kind of comment I would normally laugh about too and he was totally shocked at my reaction, because I'm still an emotional wreck

@Zampa think I have update spreadsheet :)

@GingerHanna yes, we have had quite a few similar experiences now! I often wish us ladies in the thread could meet up in real life, but it’s good to know we are all here 😊

I have decided to sign up for some baby classes to start in January. The sensible part of my brain says this gives both Bea and I to get ready. I think i will worry less about her development when we are at classes.

I'd approach gina ford etc with caution - I think it can work for some but generally babies haven't read the book and it can make you feel worse when they won't play along.

There was s great hurrah for gin fb post yesterday - everybody fed, nobody dead. That's my daily aim at the moment!

Haha@butterybollocks that’s a good aim! Although I worry with the everybody fed one :-/

Ps I hate the Gina Ford book my husband keeps quoting it and I think it’s totally unrealistic re getting a routine established very very early on, so agree approach with caution @GingerHanna

Sounds like I can happily ignore Ms Ford then!

Been wondering if Joseph’s sleep screams are to do with his tummy as he often kicks out, but not always. Going to cut out dairy in my diet for a bit and see if that helps. Pretty sure he can go four hours between feed me during the day and therefore at night... but we are too quick perhaps to respond to his cries at night as he is right by us and we are all half asleep. During the day it is easier to console him without him waking up and therefore he sleeps longer. Really hope change in diet helps

@GingerHanna when they are small babies tend to stir at the end of every 40 minute sleep cycle. It doesn’t mean they will wake, they just have a little moan or shuffle around & then fall back into the next sleep cycle. You tend not to notice during the day as there are other things going on but at night when you’re tuned into every noise they make you can really notice it. With DS I used to give him a couple of minutes to get into the next cycle & if that didn’t work gently lay my palm on his chest for a couple of minutes so he knew I was there or put on Ewan in the heartbeat setting. Seemed to do the trick most of the time.

Our baby girl arrived yesterday afternoon via planned section. DP fainted twice but made it back into theatre to see her getting cleaned up.

A bit smaller than anticipated (10th percentile at 6lb9) so in until this afternoon at the earliest as they want to check there are no issues.

No name yet but will get there eventually!

So it is my 30th bday! And I am feeling so sorry for myself!! I’m dosed with a head cold, got diarrhoea (sorry tmi!), back pain, cramps and haven’t slept properly in weeks!! As much as I have every thing crossed that I’ll have baby very soon i don’t think anything will happen just yet!! Then I don’t know if I would have the energy for labour at the minute!

I know this is me just moaning!! sorry!

Congrats Zampa! So cute! How are you feeling?

Feel free to moan MrsJB! We all need a whinge sometimes! Happy birthday, sorry you're not feeling more able to enjoy it. Do you have any plans for later?

I hardly slept last night. Every night I go to bed feeling frustrated that I've not had her yet & convinced that my waters are going to break in bed. It was 2am before I talked myself into settling down properly & DD decided to start wriggling more than she had been all day! I woke up several times to have a wee/turn over & woke up for the day at 6.30. I was so tired I stuck a film on for the DC & slept on the sofa. Am feeling slightly better now but still v achy & fed up of waiting.

Congrats @Zampa!! She is gorgeous!!

@AGnu My family and hubby took me out for tea at the weekend and hubby wants to take me out tonight for a curry!!  but not feeling up to it!!

Stupid question but will I know when I’m in labour and no just feeling rotten?

Congratulations @zampa she's super cute. Hope you're home soon.

Just been given permission to go home! Woooooo!

Aww huge congratulations @Zampa and don’t rush the naming - we took a few days and it’s such an important choice! She is lovely :)

Congratulations @zampa she is gorgeous 😍

Congratulations @Zampa, she’s beautiful. Enjoy your first night at home together.