June 2018 Babies

[ladydolly]

Looks like I'm the first one here! A thread for those with babies due in June 2018.

@sulkypuddleduck

Sorry your DP is not being as supportive as he might and that you’re feeling rubbish Don’t worry about the boobs. I woke up yesterday and they felt totally normal. However much I squeezed they just didn’t hurt and I was beside myself. I had my scan yesterday afternoon convinced it would show a problem but actually showed a healthy pregnancy with a strong heartbeat. So I can say with certainty that boobs feeling better need not be anything to worry about and I’m sure it isn’t in your case! Symptoms fluctuate and it’s horrible but unless you’re bleeding and in pain, no reason to suspect a problem. Easy to say I know xx

Thanks @Caspiana, that does help and means a lot. I think it's because I'm so, so early (4w2d) and doctors are so un-encouraging. I would be absolutely devastated if this went wrong - I guess I'd sort of feel I was being punished for having previously had a medical termination? (Something I think I'll always regret despite it seeming the only decision at the time.)

How far along are you? Congrats on the lovely scan :)

Thanks @sulkypuddleduck I’m 7 weeks based on LMO but scan dates me at 6w3. It’s such a shame doctors don’t always treat pregnant women sympathetically. I mentioned my symptoms had gone yesterday and they said that’s what happens, don’t worry! Just remember though that whatever happens with your pregnancy, and I’m sure it will be a healthy one, it is nothing to do with you having had a termination, nothing at all.

Sorry to hear you are having trouble with your DP @SulkyPuddleDuck sounds like he needs to reprioritise what is important just now.

I just had a huge wobble this morning. DH did offer me an out in the days before we picked up the pup so I can't totally blame him and he has tried his hardest this afternoon. He can be a bit ditzy but his heart is in the right place and he would do anything for me. MIL needs to have a bit of an attitude check on the seed (at 5 weeks is the size of an apple seed) as she is being completely dismissive of me and it and making everything about my stepson (my SS?) who she has always been a bit OTT on. Anyway rant over I do hope things have improved for you @SulkyPuddleDuck and regarding sore boobs mine are very much on and off, some days fine some days hurt like hell.

Just wanted to say that everyone who's emailed about the fb group should have had an email invite. If you can't see it, check your junk folder.

Hope all you ladies are ok. Re: the boobs thang - all my symptoms vanished yesterday morning and I was in full on panic mode... I'm feeling like absolute crap today - worst nausea by far today. Maybe it's our body's way of giving us a reprieve before throwing all the symptoms at us with guns blazing!
Symptoms coming and going is perfectly normal though.

Hi @squidged what calculator did you use? I did one that said I am due 16th June but according to the first day of my last period I am 5+1 today so I have no idea! Still trying to figure out the lingo myself as I'm a first timer all round and definitely with you on the cramps and the wind!

Aww @IrnBru - perhaps the pup might end up being a real blessing? They can be the most amazing tonic in stressful times and there's nothing more reassuring when you feel a bit down than a dog resting its head on your knees.

When I was ill as a teenager my Mum desperately wanted a dog and my Dad was adamantly against it. Obviously she discussed with him and made a decision based on everyone being happy took DB and I out to see a litter of bull terriers the second Dad went off to work (probably with Dad's 'and definitely not a bloody bull terrier' ringing in her ears). Cue 16-year-old me accidentally dropping one of the pups on her head and the scary, string vest clad bloke who owned the litter growled 'you're takin' her now, she's broke.' Dad got back from a late shift and was (quite understandably) livid. Ten years on, he absolutely adores her (and has done since that first morning, once he got over the shock) and has replaced the picture of my Mum, brother and me that was in his wallet with one of the 'bloody dog'. Hmm.

Hi @IrnBruCraver I’d read that many bits and pieces (pregnancy apps & test leaflets etc) that all say a pregnancy is always dated from the first day of your last period (at least until you can have a dating scan). I’m 5w2d in theory so too early for a scan so that’s what I’m working with for now.

I worked out 8th June as a potential due date using the apps I’ve downloaded - although I only came off my implant at the end of June so didn’t actually know how long my cycles are normally so I just put 28 days as a default (& that works out based on when I think I conceived) - the longer they are the later you ovulate so that might be where yours differs? I have the glow nurture app and the Ovia app, they both have calendars and you can scroll through and see when the weeks clock up!

Hope that helps! I’m also 5 months behind my best friend and she is like a fountain of all knowledge, I told her about the pregnancy yesterday so I can ask her lots of qu’s about symptoms etc and she has agreed with my methodology so far 😂 xx

I feel like a faulty human being @SulkyPuddleDuck, I love all animals but I just don't find puppies as cute as kittens or cats! I did have a fantastic dog growing up though, he was my best pal so I might stick Marley and Me tonight to try and get into the spirit haha.

Ah me too about the cycle length @squidged I was on the pill for 15 years to regulate me after having two periods per month and then my first cycle off was 34 days but I feel more pregnant than that so who knows when I ovulated! x

@IrnBru: someone asked us if we were planning to get a pet the other day (can't remember who!) TBH a dog OR a cat would be a bit much at the moment, I can only worry about human people ;)

Boobs still not sore at all, keep squeezing them like a nutter (or the world's least sexy lapdancer) and nada. Google absolutely crucifying me with horror stories on every forum about MMC or MC. Can't seem to step away and have spent all afternoon lying in bed on my own. Just want to go to sleep and wake up feeling more confident about - well - everything.

Yep @SulkyPuddleDuck take it from me it is a bit much. Especially for someone who really loves their freedom! I guess it's practise but I might have liked to enjoy my last 8 months!

Avoid google like the plague! Mine don't really hurt today but I still feel preggers.

I came off my anti depressants when I knew I was pregnant despite the docs advising against it so my anxiety levels are quite high but I just couldn't comfortably take the risk of taking them. I fessed up to a different doctor on Friday and thankfully she understood my feelings on it and didn't tell me off!

We spent the day going round Ikea and Costco and the giant shopping centre near us and I thought my grumpiness was the onset of the moods. Once I've got home and had a sit-down i think it might have just been the fact that I only had one cup of tea all day!
Sulky, my boobs have been my only real symptom, along with the twinges. After having terrible cramps on Thursday both the twinges and sore boobs stopped on Friday. Both back with a bang last night and my boobs are agony today so I wouldn't worry too much! (As if that's remotely possible, constant terror these days.)
Boofay, that's so exciting! Did you go private for the scan or was that through your midwife?

@SulkyPuddleDuck I’ve watched 4 different close friends around me recently go through the most different pregnancies you can imagine, one was entirely symptom free until her feet went really fat right at the end bless her. The one whose really sadly ended in a MC at 12 weeks was undoubtedly the one with the strongest symptoms, she was edging towards HG and having to spit in a cup all day long due to excess saliva. By expecting your symptoms to be steady all the way along you’re expecting your body/hormone levels to be steady too and they’ll be far from it! Try your best not to worry. I keep telling myself that there is nothing I can do (within reason) that will cause my little bean not to stick - I really really hope it will but we all know this early on that there’s a small chance it might not but no amount of googling (don’t do it to yourself) or boob groping is going to change that. Lean into a few weeks of uncertainty and this crazy new experience and bear in mind that the odds are in your favour! I hope that doesn’t sound condescending - I totally know where you’re coming from and have certainly had my worried days in the past week but am coming to the realisation that I need to give myself a bit of a break, a healthy mind is just as important as a healthy bod! 😌

Thanks guys - truly I know I'm panicking too much. I'll calm down.. soon?

no amount of googling (don’t do it to yourself) or boob groping is going to change that

So true but also made me crack my first smile of the day - cheers @squidged

sulky please please step away from google. I don’t feel pregnant, my boobs don’t hurt and I’m not feeling very sick but I’ve had a positive test and my period has stayed away. Which for me is the main thing for the first 12 weeks. I know it’s really worrying but torturing yourself with what ifs will not make the pregnancy any more or less viable. The time will pass, I promise.

@MynameisJune (Handmaid's Tale ref?) I know you're right.. Google has always been my worst enemy. I'm going to try and chill a bit. Three weeks until the early scan so hopefully that time will fly once I step away from searching for the usernames of people on forums who never came back to confirm whether or not they went on to have a healthy pregnancy to check if they had the baby acting like a psychopath.

Hello & congratulations all !

I'm tentatively joining you if that's ok?

Am 4 weeks pregnant, but I say tentatively as I had an early loss at 5 weeks pregnant in August. So I'm so nervous now, though I can see reading through thread I'm not the only one. Torture!

Unfortunately for my sanity and our bank balance I feel the need to test every morning at the moment! I'm wondering if gps could offer me bloods a couple of days apart to check progressing, but I don't know that they will...

I'm 36, 1 DS aged 3.5 x

sulky yes! Love the book and now the TV series.

impatient lovely to see you here. I’ve just ordered more tests 🙈 I’m not quite every morning but I would like it confirming again!

Yay impatientmummy36 so pleased to see you over here!

I'm 6+3 and still testing! Not every day now but I have one left I'm 'saving'. What for I don't know.

Welcome @Impatient - congratulations! It is a wee bit torturous but I think everyone here has been wise in their advice to me - I certainly haven't been helping myself by imagining worst case scenario! Sorry for your loss :(
Re: bloods - I asked my GP for betas and he was absolutely fine about it. It was reassuring to know they were doubling but of course now I want to know again ha. I imagine any doc would be fine to give you the tests if it help put your mind at rest?

@MynameisJune Me too! I studied the book when I did my A Levels and was really impressed by the series. Intrigued to see where they'll go with Season 2 - glad they've got Margaret Atwood consulting on plot and development!

Ladydolly, that made me laugh! I know exactly what you mean!

Mynameisjune & Ladydolly so lovely to see you here too :). Our months of hard work finally paid off eh! Xx

Thanks sulkypuddleduck & hi- yes I think I'll ask, I'd love some reassurance. In the meantime it's positive thoughts, staying calm, acupuncture (for me anyway!) and hoping the next few weeks speed by til we're all in safer territory xx

Didn't want to just disappear, but I'm leaving the thread. My temp dropped this morning and I did a test. It's negative and I've started bleeding. So very sad 😢

Wishing you all the very best, happy and healthy pregnancies.

Back to the miscarriage boards for me 😢 xx

So sorry to read this @DT2016 . Sending you unmumsnetty hugs and

@irnbru I have a 7 month old puppy and she's my favourite thing in the world (This may change in around 7.5 months:) ). I have to warn you that you'll probably go through phases of disliking your pup for the first 4 months, but then suddenly they become lovely loyal sweet dogs almost over night. I wish someone had told me this, as there were times when she was jumping at my face to bite it when I thought "we've got a bad one here" but she grew out of it and now she's wonderful.

It's really hard - people I know who have both puppy and baby says the pup is harder. but it passes xx