March 2018 (Part Four)

[FuzzyOwl]

New thread!

Sorry @BeckleinDisguise I can't read it at the moment, as I can't figure out how to access private messages on the mumsnet app!

@Flatwhite1 I didn't ovulate for the first cycle after my mmc either and after each pregnancy my periods and cycles in general have completely changed. I used to have short, quite light ones but they were painful. Then I had long, heavy periods that began and ended with spotting and that were completely painfree. Being pregnant might permanently alter our cycles on some occasions but it doesn't stop us conceiving again.

@Flatwhite31 I had weird periods for 3 cycles after my MC. Much shorter cycles and spotting for 2-3 days before my period. I got pregnant again after those 3 cycles so I think my body needed time to heal and get back to normal. Maybe yours does too?

Also, you said you can’t afford counselling. How about calling then miscarriage association for someone to talk to? Your GP should also be able to refer you on - or you might even be able to self refer depending on where you are. It sounds like you need the support so it’s worth keeping trying to get it.

Thanks @hometownunicorn. I did contact the Miscarriage Association. They got back to me saying I should ring them, but their phone lines are only open during working hours Mon-Fri, and as a teacher, I don't have a spare minute anyway, and even if I did I don't want to ring them from school!

I actually don't even know about counselling anymore, as I know the only thing that'll make me happier is being pregnant again, and no counsellor can do that!

@FuzzyOwl how long did it take for you to get pregnant again? My MMC was nearly 2 months ago.

@Flatwhite31 three cycles I think after my first mmc. This time round I am currently pregnant in the cycle immediately following another mc. I really hope it doesn't take much longer for you.

Thank you. Most people I have spoken to online and in 'real life' have got pregnant within the first 3 cycles post mc, which leaves me with 1 cycle left. I have a feeling it's going to take a while...

Please don't pressure yourself to get pregnant within 3 cycles flatwhite. You're just putting extra pressure on yourself :(. After my first mc it took 8 cycles and I was convinced I wasn't ovulating (I must have been but I was so stressed about it!), then I lost that baby too and it took 4 cycles to get pregnant again. That's not counting the month or two when I took a break for my head to reset a bit.

I know I shouldn't @ZylaB, but I have no kids to focus on, so I can't help it.

How is everyone feeling? Last few nights I have been waking up/tossing and turning because I'm sleeping on my side and getting aches in my hip that wakes me up and then I change side. I certainly don't need an excuse to have a nap, but if I did I think this would definitely give me one

@suntraveller I had a similar problem and putting a pillow between my legs whilst sleeping helped loads.
I've had a stinking cold the past few days which is no fun.
Also started taking my HG medication again because my morning sickness has decided to go crazy again
We're off down south to a wedding though this week so looking forward to showing off my new bump to people
Hows everyone else doing? X

I'd like to join now after my 20 week scan please! (I've been here the whole time, too afraid to post.)

Flatwhite After my MMC it took 18 months before becoming pregnant again. I sought help after 6 months with the stress I was putting myself (and DH) under. I wish I had done it earlier; I was able to start enjoying the small things in life again, and it helped my marriage immensely.

I know you say you have no time and can't afford counselling, but I wonder if perhaps there is a way? I also found the ttc after miscarriage threads helpful. I'm not sure how helpful reading about where you would have been can be.

Thank you @Bluerobin. I was approached today at a baby loss memorial service by two lovely ladies from a charity who said to contact them when I'm ready. I think they approached us as I couldn't stop crying. I was too upset to join in with the hymns, so just sat and listened instead. I'm glad I went, as it felt like a more formal goodbye to our bean. You're amazing to have got through 18 months. I don't think I'm strong enough to do that. You're a stronger person than I am. Congratulations on your 20 week scan. Mine should have been this week coming.

For those of you who have had MCs. Xxxxx

@scottish thanks for that tip about the pillow, it really helped me last night!

Hi all! Hope everyone is doing Ok? Scan this week for me, I feel like I'm having a boy so looking forward to finding out what we're having. Anyone feeling a fair amount of movement now? The last four days have been crazy. One morning I literally felt what I think was a foot move along my stomach!

Is everyone moving over to the Facebook group now? I'm not a Facebook person so don't know what to do!

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Welcome bluerobin!

Flatwhite sorry to hear about your updates. Are you able to confide in a close family member or friend if councilling isn't an option? My mum is my go to support when I'm hurting but someone you trust might just as comforting.

Onceuponamama Movememt has definitely picked up. Tonight I was poking around my bump and the baby headbutted me (it was definitely not a foot or hand haha)

I have @Onceuponamama but nobody wants to hear about it all the time. Right ladies, I'm saying goodbye now as it's too hard for me to read about everyone feeling their babies moving when I'm so empty. So sorry I can't be more happy for you all. Good luck and thanks for your support. Take care. Xxxxx

flatwhite31 I'm glad the service was good and that you have a number for some people to talk to now when you are ready to. Perhaps with half-term coming up you may find a bit of time? I did reply to your message and am always about if you want to chat.

Still not feeling a great deal of movement here onceuponamama but have been told that is almost certainly down to my placenta being anterior! I did get to have a listen to baby's heartbeat on Monday though as I gave myself an electric shock on the toaster and MW sent me to A&E for an ECG and check on baby. It took ages for them to find it though, they were properly pressing on my abdomen to bring the uterus to the front! They said baby sounded happy and fine though so that was a relief! I've got my scan next week when I'll be almost 21 weeks, I'm getting nervous and really hoping all is okay. Not entirely sure if I want to know if baby is a boy or girl, I enjoyed the surprise with DS1, but my daughter is begging and DH is also very keen to know - it might help him bond a bit if he knows as he's still struggling? Who else is finding out? Do you have a gut feeling on gender?

I've not moved over to FB yet, I keep meaning to but can only send a PM from my computer and I'm a bit of a phone surfer

@beck I'm the same, still not feeling much movement but I've no reason to think anything is wrong so I'm just putting it down to lazy baby :) I also have my 20 scan next week, I'll be just 21 weeks when I have it. As much as I'd love to know what I'm having I'm not finding out because I also want the excitement and build up of waiting until it arrives :)

Had my scan Monday, everything ok and found out we’re having a boy. Already have a girl so glad to be having a boy, but also slightly disappointed for DDs sake, as I always wanted a sister growing up and had two brothers. She’s too young to understand any of it yet though.

We didn’t find out with the first one, wasn’t too bothered this time around and DH desperate to know. Almost regretting it now as keep getting unwanted baby name comments/suggestions!

Hello all! I'm due in early March and just thought I'd come look at how other pregnancies were going. Don't move to Facebook!!

Feeling some movement occasionally here. I had a sad dream last night that I was having twins and the girl was born super prem, super small and did not make it while the boy was still inside my womb. It really has shaken me up! Not having any scans here. Has anyone else had weird preg dreams?

Evening all!

Glad to see the thread is still going, i'm not a Facebook person either so echo RubbishMum's plea.

20 weeks here. Had my scan a few days ago, all good. @Beckle, I just had a feeling I was having a little girl and got a very sure confirmation from the sonographer.

Haven't felt any movement but that's because my placenta is anterior. Was told may not feel anything until 24 weeks but if haven't felt anything by 22 i'll give midwife a ring.

RubbishMum, I was having weird preg dreams every single night of 1st trimester. Still dreaming a lot now but nothing preg related. Main issue at night is tossing and turning from one side to another trying not to sleep on back, and getting up for loo 2-3 times a night.