March 2018 (Part Four)

[FuzzyOwl]

New thread!

I'm 18+4 but haven't felt anything yet. For those who have felt movement, is it low down?

It is fairly low down, although sometimes it can be difficult to tell exactly whereabouts it is until it is more defined.

When you start feeling movement can depend on how your placenta is positioned, some people don’t feel it until a bit later on.

I have a posterior placenta and have started feeling baby quite early. My friend who has an anterior placenta didn't feel her baby until 20 weeks (she is about a months from giving birth now).

@suntraveller mine was to the side of my belly button and maybe a hand width down.
My placent was posterior at 12 week scan

ok this weekend I'm going to spend some time seeing if the little nugget is kicking, @scottish, from what you said it could be I didn't even have the right spot 😀 My days during the week are so busy, I thought perhaps I'm just missing them.
Has anyone started looking into antenatal classes? At my booking in appt the midwife mentioned around 16 wks to start looking as they get booked up.

suntraveller Drink something very cold and go lie down. At first, if I didn't really pay attention I didn't feel anything but now baby is kicking me and I can't ignore it.
I have an antenatal class this afternoon about exercicing in pregnancy but have not booked anything else yet. I know which ones I want to attend though, just need to find dates.
We are hopefully moving houses next weekend so it has kind of taken over. I'll have a look in next two weeks.

@suntraveller I didn't think they could be that high up but after some googling as to where uterus is at certain stages it could well be a foot or arm having a little move around!

My MW booked me in for antenatal classes when I had my booking in appointment but theyre not till January. Theyre the partner ones and apparently get booked up really quickly

Hi ladies, seems I’m late to party but due March 29th with my 2nd! DS will be 22 months when baby arrives.

Haven’t RTFT so sorry if this has been brought up before but my first labour has left me terrified to go through it again (had to be induced straight away at 42 weeks as heart rate was dipping really low, very long, back to back, no urge to push, baby got stuck, forceps, true knot in cord making DS very lucky to be here). Anyone else apprehensive to do it again?

Midwife knows and is fab, also promised to do everything she can to help after as had PND with DS. I am excited though I promise!

Glad I’ve found you all!

@Sharpstagram Hello and welcome!

I am due on the 24th March but will probably be a few days before as I will be booked in for a section. Your experience sounded very traumatic so I can totally understand why you feel anxious.

This will be my second DC, I was induced with my DD because of reduced movements but after well over 24 hours of nothing happening and as the induction had failed I had a caesarean. I am being booked in for one this time too as they said the same thing could happen again and as I have previously had some gynae issues it was deemed the best option all round. I can’t really offer any words of advice as I haven’t been in your situation other than I did have some PND after my DD was born. I found it all totally overwhelming and then a month later my mum was diagnosed with Cancer. I had some counselling which really helped. Hopefully someone else on here may have some more useful advice for you than me.

Anyway, I will stop rambling

Welcome @Sharpstagram!

If you want further support/info about giving birth after traumatic first delivery I have heard good things about the birth trauma association www.birthtraumaassociation.org.uk/ Although maybe stay away from the birth stories page, I'm in my first pregnancy and looking at them was not a good idea for me!

Your GP or midwife has also hopefully offered you referral for therapy/counselling if you've made them aware.

Oh and anyone else getting blocked ears? Keeps happening to me and I go a little deaf and have to pop my ears as though I was in an airplane. Which looks a bit weird when I have to stop mid conversation to do it!

Hi everyone, how are you all doing? Still not pregnant here .

Good luck for the 20 week scans coming up. Mine would have been next week, the day before my birthday (which I'm not celebrating this year, as sod's law has it that my period will arrive instead. If I'm not pregnant by Christmas I won't be celebrating that either!).

It's baby loss awareness week this week, so to those of you who have experienced pregnancy loss, I hope you're ok. Xx

Hello and welcome @Sharpstagram. I am scared about this labour after last time as well. Have you had a debrief to go through your last labour so you get any questions you may have answered? Is your midwife referring you to a consultant or else the perinatal team to help with prenatal anxiety?

Sorry you still aren't pregnant @Flatwhite31 and I think it took me three cycles are my first mmc. I really hope instead of your period you get a birthday BFP instead and if not you are pregnant by Christmas. Xx

@Flatwhite31 I’m so sorry you are going through that and I really hope it will happen for you soon

@FuzzyOwl no I didn’t have a debrief and didn’t even know what a debrief was until my midwife asked if I had one after DS was born! She hasn’t referred me to anyone but has said we’d work through things together throughout the pregnancy. I keep having really vivid dreams about going into spontaneous labour this time and actually being able to push this baby out myself! I think I’m just desperate for the straightforward birth I wanted last time

You should be able to arrange a debrief yourself (it doesn't matter how long it has been) by contacting the supervisor of midwives at your hospital (Google should give you that info) or else going through PALS. Hopefully it will help you.

Hi everyone just joined so am new to this. I'm due on the 29th march with my second child. I'm from the Solihull area. Hope you are all doing ok x

@Charlymack welcome! I’m due on the 29th with my second too!!

Thanks to all the other ladies who advised a debrief I’m definitely going to contact the hospital for one. I’ve been doing some of my own research and found an article about natural vs induced labour and it has already answered a lot of my questions about why certain things went wrong or didn’t happen with my first. Just showed DH the website and it’s helped explain things for him as well

flatwhite, I did know it was babyloss awareness week this week, today is the 2nd anniversary of my last loss too. I really hope you do have something lovely to celebrate on your birthday x

I am feeling very little movement, sometimes I’m not even sure that’s what it is! I know the placenta was anterior at the last scan so that probably accounts for it but I felt so much movement by this stage in other pregnancies - I’m struggling at times not to feel freaked out. I seem to all of a sudden have quite a huge belly though, big enough that someone at work commented they couldn’t believe I am only 18 weeks...

Thanks @BeckleinDisguise. If you don't mind me asking, how long did it take you to get pregnant again? I'm on month 2 and nothing. I feel like I have no hormones in my body at all. It just doesn't feel right.

I've cancelled my birthday. No point in celebrating this year. I've told DH no presents or cards. We are going away next weekend, but not for my birthday. I don't even want it acknowledged.

@BeckleinDisguise I have some days where I lie in bed and feel movements and then other days where I feel nothing.
Its only when I take the time to lie down and wait for movements that I feel them otherwise they pass me by

flatwhite it has been different each time, anywhere from the following month to well over a year, usually on the longer side as I have a history of hormone imbalances. I think a lot of it has depended on the headspace I’ve been in, after my 3rd I was in a terrible place mentally and it wasn’t until I felt calm and like I’d come to terms with things that my cycle settled down and I was able to conceive again. It is difficult to focus on much else and so hard (and disappointing) to wait but be kind to yourself and continue to live, really live - these are the things that helped me x

scottishem I do really have to concentrate to feel anything at all! Even then I’m not always sure. A couple of friends today said my bump sticks out more on one side so they reckon that’s baby’s bum - not sure about that although that side is often a bit harder than the other!

Thanks @BeckleinDisguise. Mine was 7 weeks ago and I'm so anxious and I cry every day. I'll never conceive in his state, but right now I see no way out of it. I really wanted this cycle to work, but it quite clearly hasn't, and the disappointment is crushing. I'm making no progress mental health wise. I've been to the GP but there's nothing she can do. I can't afford counselling, so that's not an option either. Some days I can barely get out of bed. My 20 week scan should be next week, and my heart aches that it won't be happening. I feel completely broken.

I've sent you a PM flatwhite x

Thanks @BeckleinDisguise. I'm 10 DPO and bfn, so losing hope! I'm convinced my hormones are messed up since the MMC, as when I had my first AF I had no cramps, no sore boobs, nothing! AF is due next week and again, my boobs aren't sore yet which, pre MC, they always were. Starting to despise my own body for not working properly!