December 2017 #4!

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Pause yeah it's worse after eating or cold water so trying to drink warm drinks but that will be difficult when I'm out with my friends later if I'm also avoiding caffeine

Macs Its very odd as it's just one white small scratch looking spot that's actually on the roof of my mouth, not down on the back of my throat . I've gargled salt water, used my mouth wash again after brushing my teeth and now have a hot water, honey and lemon as DH came to my rescue and went to the shops.

Let's hope it doesn't get worse.

Hope you all have a nice day planned for your Saturdays?

Have been completely off DTD since we started this cycle of treatment for the embryo transfer. So 8weeks? Poor DH
Going to a black tie gala dinner tonight and hoping I don't fall asleep in my soup

Have DTD once since TTC... poor DH. but sickness and exhaustion are not very sexy...

macs it's really hard deciding who to tell and when. I have a friend who i know started Ttc shortly before me but had to stop due to health issues and the drugs she was on and I'm not quite sure if she's started again yet but I think so, saw her the other day and didn't say anything as part of me wants her to announce she's pregnant and then I can be like me too! I also know someone at work is ttc and since I had to tell work early I told her without much thought (mostly cause I was pretty much convinced she was just going to say me too) but now i do feel bad as there's a lot of pregnancy chat at work and it's seems she's not yet pregnant.

Carlotta same but I find nausea, retching, vomiting and falling asleep at regular intervals doesn't exactly put either of us in the mood!

bluebell hope the the throats eases soon, don't worry about mouthwash, i use it eveeyday anyway, didn't really think not to? Good luck with the scan tomorrow as well

It is so hard when you know people are TTC, I always found it kinder when people told me individually. Had one friend who just put a scan pic in a group chat when we'd had long discussions about TTC and she had a misc a couple of months before me, I was hysterical. I also had a friend who quite clearly started ignoring me and in the end I had to ask her if she was pregnant and she was, just couldn't tell me :(

BRENS I feel like we should be having a party! Congratulations.

I have just discovered eBay baby clothes bundles many of which contain nicer things than I've seen in shops...

I wish eBay would ban me from purchasing things 😂 Or offer a browsers only account.

Carlotta
No action here since bfp. I just feel so rough and then with the spotting and now progesterone suppositories I couldn't feel less sexy!!
Telling others is hard to judge. Most of our friends know about the two mc's, but some have been trying with no bfp's at all for longer then us, so I think I will text them individually before the group chat. It is how I would want them to tell me! I know myself they will be happy for us, but having been there myself I know it's like a kick in teeth when unprepared for it.

Pessaries although to be fair much the same in the feeling eeeeeuuuggghhh department.

I'm quite nervous about telling anyone because it's such a weird situation. On one hand I know friends who've recently had babies or are pregnant would probably be more comfortable talking to us if we announced it (right now, sadly, most of them are just avoiding us because I guess they don't know what to say). OTOH I guess people will probably be surprised at how quickly we tried again etc. (And mind you if anyone tries to tell us how this baby will make everything better and replace the one we lost, I might sock them).
Sorry for venting here - don't really have anywhere else I can share my quite mixed up feelings!

Bisquick this is the place to vent! We are all in it together. I'm worried that the people we've told will blab or that the worst will happen and I won't be able to tell them.
I've put it to the back of my mind and looked on EBay. Thanks Zaber I may hurt spend a fortune.
Look how cute!

Bisquick I knew a couple who lost a baby and they got pregnant pretty quickly afterwards. I was stunned - by their bravery, nothing else. I just wanted to hold their hands and offer support to them. And yes please kick anyone who says anything so insensitive. People and their word vomit are the worst.

bisquick I can only imagine the mixed up feelings you have about everything. Tell people whenever you're ready and want to discuss it, only you both can make a decision about what's best for you and I'd like to think people would appreciate that or just keep quiet. It was important for me to try again immediately after each Mc/tfmr and im sure most people will respect your brave decision.

people may feel awkward/not know what to say so I've no doubt there will be a few people putting feet in their mouth but hopefully there won't be anything too insensitive and they'll all be coming from a good place. Happy to help you with socking people if needed though :)

imposter alert not a Dec 17er (apologies I don't know how to PM)

@YouBoggleMyMind boggle boggle boggle boggle OMFG!! Congratulations!!! Went to check on you and the others from our old thread and couldn't find you. And can't tell you how happy I am to find you here!! Wishing you an incredibly enjoyable pregnancy xxxxx

Just got back from my hockey club day, nice to have a run around and feel a bit more normal. One person asked me why I wasn't drinking at our do last week, but thankfully my friend who knows stepped in with a swift change of subject and I didn't get asked again. It was mainly people I wouldn't necessarily mind knowing, but it seems like it's still way too early. Pleased to hear everyone seems to be generally OK today. MrsB I used to suffer with tonsillitis fairly frequently so hope that clears up quickly if it is that x

Eurovision tonight! The baby will have to get used to my weird obsession with it. DH has been out and bought me ice cream to eat while watching it, as I'm still off sick with UTI and couldn't face going to the supermarket loos! But I found out that work have sorted my pay issue. Thank god. So I'm feeling much more chilled out.

On the subject of telling people who are still TTC. I know how it feels as we were trying for ages. It's like a kick in the gut. I always felt happy for my friends who were expecting, but still sad that I wasn't too. I don't think there's an easy way round it though.

Monty
I can't wait to Eurovision. I may have to have a snooze earlier in the evening to make it though!!

Pleased your work is sorted Monty ice cream sounds great.... Wonder if my DH will go out for me....

DH has left me unattended with this rapidly diminishing bar of chocolate, that tastes ridiculously like the old Dairy Milk bars (from before they got Americanised and quite meh). Someone stop me please before I polish off the whole lot!

Bisquick it sounds like the baby wants that chocolate though....

I was sick this morning for the first time. Eugh. 7+4. Then we had to drive back from Wales to London. Eugh. Then I was starving when we stopped halfway and had a McDonalds which didn't sit well for the rest of the journey! And DD1 had her first happy meal at nearly 19 months as I didn't have the energy to think of anything else! She liked the chicken nuggets

Eurovision tonight! Hope I can stay awake for it!

Hope everyone is doing ok

bisquick I've had one of my friends (an old housemate) lose their baby at term due to a knot. I was so please when about 2 months ago I started seeing photos of them on holiday and now they've announced they're expecting again. It's so difficult and they were worried people might judge - but they don't. We're all just so so thrilled they've got some good news

I'm not even going to pretend I'll be up for Eurovision I went robbed at 5:30 thanks to the sodding morning sickness. I've just dragged myself up for dinner. I want sushi. So badly. Like I have never wanted raw fish this badly in my entire life.

I think I may be a bit stressed/hormonal too.

I got in a teeny flap in Waterstones earlier. I realised I know nothing about parenting, or what you do to keep a baby alive. Nearly bought every book in the parenting section. And then it clicked that it really IS just me and the baby, and DH if he isn't shipped off somewhere. I think a little part of me is a bit jealous of friends who all have mums locally to help them out. Which I know is silly.

I feel about six 😂 I'm literally crying over wanting my mum!