July 2017 #5 - Third Trimester is Here!

[Notyetthere]

5th thread!

Going by the pace of ‘Thread #4’, this could the last one as we might all have our babies by the time it runs out. Unless we all give detailed commentary during labour .

Link to the last one
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2866245-Due-July-2017-4-Well-into-2nd-Trimester-20-Week-Scans-and-Bumps-Galore?pg=1

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Glitter . I have never paid anybody to clean mine. I used oven pride which you just leave on and wipe off after a few hrs and voila, nice shiny oven. However, with a massive belly and dogdy pelvic I couldn't reach the back of the oven. No matter what position I tried. There was a lot of panting and breathlessness. You know how they tell us we need to get on all 4s to help baby get in position so cleaning floors and bottom cupboards are ideal, with the increased SPD pain I dont see myself doing it. Then came to rinsing the grills in my the kitchen sink; they are too wide so I got water absolutely everywhere. It was such a fuff! I was exhausted at the end of it. Now that maternity leave has started, I was planning on getting the office area tidy and turning part of it into a downstairs changing station. That didn't happen. I think I will have to lower my expectations of myself and only attempt one job a day.

Butterfly how did your consultant appointment go?

I too will be getting my hair done tomorrow but quite the opposite- I'm getting extensions put in. My hair is of an afro texture and I think I won't have much time to tame the afro with a baby dont fancy the sideshow bob look so getting box braids or similar put in. I am dreading how long it will take though ; sat in a chair for hrs and not moving much. I am also dreading the drive to London to get it done. I plan to drive to my mum's tonight 40 miles away where the hair dresser will make a home visit and I will come back home tomorrow evening.

Spin your nursery pic!

Linda yes our babies could arrive anytime now. Dh got the snuzpod down from the loft a few days ago.

Dh and I plan to brave the shops today. We will pop into home sense to see if they have any prints we can put up in the nursery on the grey wall. Dh would like more cushions as I seem to have made myself a nest on the sofa out of all the ones we already have. I seem to need more and more propping while sat on the sofa so I shove cushions down my sides and back.

butterfly love the mermaid nails!!!

Rhodes looks like we are both up at the crackling of dawn! I had planned to have a lie in for all my maternity leave but I don't see that happening now. My body just won't let me.

Omg @Notyetthere you've done well. It's more the chemical fumes that get me and the fact the grill trays never fit in the sink. I bet baby is in the perfect position now though.

Dh thinks I should just clean the oven (tbh he does most of the cleaning normally) but I don't see him doing it so....

Extensions are a brilliant idea! I love how impending babies makes everybody undergo a total style haul. It's got to be something hormonal

I've had a terrible nights sleep again. I just can't get comfortable at all. And now I've got to try and coax my dad to come and collect his father' day cards. Such joy (his partner is a heavy heavy smoker and I cannot breathe at theirs at the moment)

Glitter bse of the good weather I had all windows and doors swan right open and a face mask from the tool box. I didn't smell anything like I normally would when I clean it in the winter months.

I don't recommend you clean yours though, especially if it's one that is lower down. My belly was so much in the way that I had I known, I would not have attempted it. X

Ah our kitchen is quite small and the windows lead into the conservatory and our doorway goes directly into the living room and dining room so gets rather pungent. 🤢🤢🤢 Not the best ventilated room in the house.

Thankfully my oven is now at waist height. It was a standalone oven when I was pregnant with dd and it was a nightmare trying to cook at 8 months plus.

@glitterglitters Show us the rainbow results once you're done! 💅🏻🌈 in Dubai I go to an amazing arty salon where they also paint on designer handbags and the suchlike, hence the intricate nail art... but since coming to London I've just been getting standard shellac mani/pedi (currently white) for £55, which I guess is not bad for this area.

@Notyetthere Good luck with the trip and the long procedure of getting your extensions done! Sounds like a practical option - it seems like we are indeed all preparing with our most low-maintenance hair & beauty options at the moment 😁

Consultant appointment went really well, thanks for asking. Gubby Ayida was fantastic; loved her manner and I can completely see why she's so highly rated. She was very pleased with all my detailed notes from the Dubai hospital and especially that my thyroid has been so closely monitored and controlled throughout the pregnancy. She signed off on me being absolutely fine for the midwife-led natural delivery care package, so hopefully I won't need to see her again because that'll mean there are no last-minute complications. But she'll be on hand to step in if anything does get tricky. She also said she thinks baby is getting ready to come sooner rather than later and urged me to really get nesting!

I took my mum to the appointment with me as she hasn't really been that involved with this pregnancy, what with me being so far away for most of it. I'm her only child and thus her only source of grandchildren so she's extremely excited. She heard little one's heartbeat for the first time at the appt and burst into happy tears!

Arh Same not Plenty of lie ins before baby arrives was definitely my plan but Waking between 4-5am everyday then just getting up as not even comfortable so no point just lying there. Maybe it's gonna prepare us a bit for what's to come eh??! 🤞🏼😬

I would Love hair extensions!! I had them a few years back in my super fine rats tail hair and they were amazing! Lol at sideshow bob

Arhhh butterfly that's lovely about your mum! I took my mum to my last scan .... think that was when I was about 34 weeks but the baby was so big and squashed up at that point we couldn't make anything out! But was still great she got to come with me.
Great news you have been signed off for the midwife led care package 👍🏻

Awww that's lovely @ButterflyFree and @rhodes2015 ❤️ I definitely would have included my mum if I could. Especially as scans etc have come so far since my youngest niece was born (18 in a few weeks! )

Also £55 for mani/pedi shellac in zone 1 is brilliant value. I love how overseas you get the most amazing creative places like your salon. When my parents lived in Thailand you could get the most amazing bespoke bags and clothing made. It's something you don't see a lot of in the UK.

My dsis is nagging dh to let her know when I go in.

Is it bad I don't want to tell anybody until the baby actually arrives? I'd feel like I've got pressure on me with people "waiting for news". I'd rather just text and call everybody after they've arrived.

Only person who knew first time and (hopefully) this time is my fil as he had our dog and will have dd this time.

I'm getting to the point of old wives tales appealing now. Spicy food and excessive amounts of walking are starting to look like tempting options now.

No glitter I feel exactly the same!!
I'm informing my mum and that's because i will need her to go and get my dog too
i just want to let people know when she's here aswell.

Even had a lady (who is actually lovely) at work ask if I could let her know when I go in labour so she could get her daughter (who is a midwife at hospital) to come and see me!
Errrm no thanks!
I've never met her daughter!?

Omg! lol I love how people want to help but it comes across as a bit much/borderline creepy

If I end up staying in (hopefully not. I'm hoping to break my record of 10 hours in and out last time!) but I don't think I'd even want visitors apart from dh and dd to meet her sibling.

I'm going to have to put one of those "Please don't announce our baby" posts on fb soon. A (well meaning) friend heard through other people we'd had dd and plastered it all over Facebook, name, weight etc before I'd told all my family. Wasn't best pleased

Wow 10 hours is brilliant glitter My birth plan says "out a.s.a.p" so I'm hoping I won't have to stay in either and same as you again, if I do, prefer no visitors.
I think I might sound really ridiculous here but I think part of my reason might be due to being a first time mum and I don't want people to see me all fingers and thumbs with the baby and not knowing what I'm doing (because I don't really ) id prefer people to visit when I'm a bit more comfortable at home in my own environment?! I'm not sure if that makes sense really as I probably won't know what I'm doing once I get back home either

Oh my gosh @glitterglitters I don't blame you for being irritated that someone took it upon themselves to announce your special arrival on FB!! Not their place at all... I wouldn't dream of posting such detail about someone else's baby, especially if they could see that you hadn't shared it online yourself yet!

I'm totally with you and @rhodes2015 about not wanting visitors - I'll only have DH (if he can make it in time 😥 we just found out a few days ago that his pre-season training camp from 15th July-12th August will be in Hungary instead of the usual Germany, so it could be a bit more difficult for him to get to London swiftly from there) and my mum with me in the hospital.

Actually it was another factor in us deciding for me to give birth here rather than in Dubai, because the culture for visiting there is HUGE and DH didn't want me to be under that level of pressure and scrutiny. It's completely normal and expected for a new mother to receive at least 30 visitors on the very same day you give birth - often extended family members who you may have only met once before! They bring in hair stylists, nail technicians and makeup artists to get the new mama looking 'on fleek' straight after the birth, then traditionally they wear a pretty Arabic dress called a jalabeya, accessorised with their finest set of diamonds... It's also expected that you 'host' your guests and offer them an elaborate spread of finger food, and then everyone should be given a themed party favour upon leaving. Such a ceremony!! Being on show like that to a bunch of virtual strangers right after going through one of the the most vulnerable, emotional and exhausting experiences in life... No thanks!!

Oh god that's farrrrrrr too much effort! Having to host when you're feeling like that. I look at the pictures of the Duchess of Cambridge after she had George and Charlotte and think "that's some damn good makeup!!!"

After you've had a baby it's the one time you can't act like a total diva. Don't hold back because people tend to think they know better etc. I'm not a confrontational person but Ive seen so many friends pushed into giving up bf, doing things completely against their own nature and beliefs because of the pressure when they've had a baby and feeling vulnerable.

I've already put restrictions on who I want turning up and dh is under strict instructions to tell anybody else to jog on. Those first days you're getting to know your new baby, and in your case your new role, and it's a steep learning curve. I don't even want my dad coming over after until I'm ready, I also don't want mil's partner. She'll be furious but I don't feel comfortable around him at the best of times.

This time around I'm feeling a lot fiercer and I did feel a lot better than expected at first after birth. We got all the "friends" out the way with an hour at a friend's BBQ about 4 days after and at 8 days I went to Starbucks and had a coffee like a normal person.

Until you've had the baby though you don't know how you're going to feel and the hormones etc are VERY overwhelming. It's totally normal. Days 3 and 5 are ones to watch out for as well.

I found in the early days dh was a lot more confident with nappy changes and clothes than I was. Eventually it switched but I remember having several "wtf am I doing?!"moments

Also @ButterflyFree I hadn't even put I was expecting on Facebook so extra shock for some!!!

Just to illustrate the levels of these post-birth hospital visiting ceremonies... Here are some examples of a few I've attended for friends (but not even super close friends - they invited me anyway). The pink treats were the finger food offerings set up in the post-birth suite, and the boxes were the party favours filled with gifts for each guest. Another friend's party favours for her baby boy were vintage glass jars of old fashioned sweets, with customised labels of her son's name, plus a decorative frame with little knitted blue baby booties.

Oh my gosh! Those are amazing but so far from what I'd expect to be doing post birth.

That's really good @glitterglitters that you'll be standing your ground and have laid down the law on what you will and won't be comfortable with. I guess you've learnt from your first experience with DD and will have more strength and determination to be stricter this time round. Personally I'm really relieved that I won't be in the UAE for a while after giving birth as I'm sure I'll need time to adjust to my new role as a mother, to build up my confidence and to feel good about presenting myself to an audience again... but if I was there and refused to take guests it would cause a huge problem with my in-laws and would be considered culturally offensive and rude.

I'm sure we'll all be in overprotective mode, as well as exhaustion mode, and for us first-timers also 'wtf am I doing?!' mode 😂 so it is absolutely our prerogative to prioritise ourselves and our babies and not give a stuff about putting other people's noses out of joint. We all need to do what's right for us and our little ones, and if that is to become a recluse and not accept any social engagements for a while then so be it!

Totally agree! I bet you're relieved. I think it's a lovely idea and I love the big family/friend mentality but I think all the details would get to me for sure. .

Well... What was supposed to be a nice relaxing Sunday has completely been turned on its head...

DH just received a message from the Ministry of Defence, officially calling him up for the compulsory 1-year military service, starting on 1st August!!!!!!!!!!!! New recruits are usually called up every January so we were prepared for that possibility, but I suppose the current tensions with Qatar have driven them to call more recruits now... He has to report for duty on Tuesday to go through the registration process, medical tests & psychological screening, so he's just booked a flight back to Dubai for tomorrow night 💔

The uncertainty about when baby will arrive and whether DH would be here or in his training camp in Hungary at the time was unsettling enough... but this is a whole different level!!! My due date is 29th July and he'll have to be in the military camp on 1st August - the induction procedure is 45 days cold turkey with absolutely NO phone communication with the outside world!!!! I'm a mess 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

ButterflyFree that's awful timing. I suppose there's no chance they'll defer it? Seems completely unfair otherwise.

@ButterflyFree that's awful timing and the last thing you need right now I'm so sorry! I'm assuming there's no allowances made to be able to delay the start?

I'm hoping not to be in hospital to long and OH has been told who to contact and who to let visit!

I would be beyond angry if someone else announced it on fb especially if some family hadn't been told - some people do not have boundaries!

ButterflyFree that's really shit. May I offer an un-mumsnetty hug?