Due August 2007 - Part 3

[loler]

Here's to a succuessful new thread!

Link to the old thread just incase!

Hello all and welcome growingbagpuss.

I'm feeling quite a lot of discomfort in my groin today. Baby seems quite active so I'm guessing that's why. I'm finding it difficult to sit up straight or lean forward so it's making my back ache sitting in an office chair like that. Might put a separate post on the pg forum though just in case it's something else.

I've got my scan on 10th April when I'll be 21+2. Hoping to find out whether it's a boy or girl. I'm hoping for another girl, not that a boy wouldn't be welcome also, but my mum has been a childminder for about 25 years and the boys she has looked after were all so loud and boisterous, especially my nephew.

Stretchmarks - I don't remember anything like that in my NCT classes! I think I would have been giving funny looks too if I was there but then I'm quite reserved. If my dh had been there he'd have run a mile.

Bananabump - ignore your consultant! What does he know about feeling the movements? It's perfectly normal to be feeling them at this stage even with the first one.

With regards to finding out the sex - my sister works with sonographers and they told her that it is easier to identify girls. Apparently they know it is a girl if they see 3 lines.

Afternoon all and welcome growingbagpuss (fab name!). Ilovebabies, as long as you don't buy too many little girl clothes and you are prepared for a surprise why shouldn't you enjoy the expectation of a girl?? Uki, I was at your sonographer's comments. Do these people just get some kind of sensitivity fatigue or something?

GillL I have a nasty pulling sensation close to the bikini line after a full day in my office chair - more so if I work late. I put it down to not being active enough when all the muscles are moving out of the way of the baby etc. If you worried maybe you should see someone?

Hope everyone is enjoying the onset of spring! It does seem lovely and poignant when you have new life stirring inside - or am I just a big softie with all these hormones.

Ahh - a rush of girls!
She must have been quite sure it was a girl, when DD was scanned the lady said she couldn't see any obvious dangly bits but she couldn't say it was a girl.

I've got my scan next thursday - I must be lucky as will only be 19 weeks. Wasn't going to ask flavour but everyone else knowing is making me jealous! I think I would slightly prefer a girl - one who will wear dresses. I've currently got a dd who won't go near pink or dresses and a ds who loves dressing up like a fairy!

loler, if you want to be surprised, you can join my club (of one at the moment I think!!)

i wont be finding out loler - not obvious at the scan, and unless it is at the 30 week one, this one will be a surprise - think babymad and purplerabbit are two others who dont know yet, and am sure there are more. but yes, part of me really does want to know.

i originally really wanted a girl, but now i'm really glad that things have changed, and i genuinely dont mind either way now. i know a lot of people on the pregnancy threads get quite het up if anyone expresses a preference too strongly, but i think sometimes its hard not to have at least a slight preference.

sorry thrwads crossed kiteflying - three more for the club

Yay - although no disrespect for those who chose or are choosing to find out. I am especially fond of treacletart's story of the champagne lunch with the special card.

I'm not going to find out at my scan next week..

Thanks Kiteflying. Baby's moved up a bit now. I'm probably just worrying over nothing. It felt a bit like when the baby descends in to the pelvis at the end of pg. I haven't got the discomfort now so I'm sure it was just the baby being in a funny position.

Anyone else started to feel uncomfortable when walking? I'm quite big now so the extra weight up front is starting to make my back ache and I'm sure I've got a trapped nerve at the top of my left buttock. I have to be really careful how I get up off the floor or how I pick dd up otherwise I get a horrible shooting pain.

Lol at your ds loler. My 5 year old nephew was dressed up as a Power Ranger and his sister's 'princess' party and put on one of the pink princess crowns. He doesn't believe me that I've got pictures. I told him I might use them as blackmail when he's older

I am amazed that you can tell where the baby is. I still have no bump. I really hope this is not a bad thing. I am eighteen weeks plus two now and still just look fat

Everyone's different. I've seen people on the tele still in their size 8 jeans when they're 7 months pg. I think it depends how much room you have in your pelvis as to when the bump actually pops out. My sil always has a small bump when she's pg but she is a bigger build than me. I've always had narrow hips.

I have tiny (boy's) hips and am a size ten.

i'm not finding out the flavour either. though i have my suspicions - my MIL is convinced it's a boy (she thought DD was going to be a boy too).

gillL - i get that type of pain too - especially sitting in the office chairs (when i'm in, i work at home as much as possible). plus i think it depends how baby is lying, moving, kicking etc!

kitflying - it won't be a bad thinng at all - we all carry differently at this stage - sometimes i've got a definite bump and other times i just look exceptionally fat too. i think maternity clothes help to show off the bump though..

i agree - in some of my tops there is no doubt i'm pregnant, but others its much more like fat.

i can feel the baby kicking almost always in one area - i thought before getting pg that you'd feel it all over cause the wee thing would be swimming about - but i feel it kick very low down almost always. might be cause the placenta is low so it stays close to that.

anyone else listening to particular music or anything? i am listening to a lot of my old favourite CDs in the car so that if what some of the books say about it liking music that is familiar with is true, it might recognise some of them. it kicked like mad to oklahoma a few weeks ago when i went to see it in the theatre, so hoping it will like other musicals too.

I was slightly embarrassed in my gym class yesterday that for all my good intentions to introduce the baby to my hero Beethoven as soon as s/he could hear, I blasted him or her with poppy dance music instead

I was never any good at biology Kiteflying As long as the baby is healthy then it doesn't matter how big your bump is, although I can understand you wanting to look pregnant.

Someone said to me today 'ahhh, look at your little bump'. I thought that was quite nice. Better than telling me how huge I am which my sil insisted on doing througout my whole pg last time. I made dh tell her not to say it this time.

conkertree - they say it's a good idea to play a particular piece of music to the baby regularly before they're born as it can soothe them after they've been born because it is familiar. I've not tried it myself as I don't seem to have much time to sit down at home and when I'm in the car I have to turn the radio down so I can hear what dd's trying to tell me.

yup Gill - I imagine its very much one of those things first timers can try but after you have one or more, its one of the things you laugh about cause there is no way you'd have the time. ah well - might as well enjoy it with this one at least.

Hi everyone, manic day at work today so not had a chance to post.

I'm trying to be more careful about the music I listen to so it doesn't have bad taste lol! Been listening to a lot of Nina Simone. DP wants to introduce it to DreamTheater (shockingly heavy rock) but I think not!

GillL - I'm getting similar pains in my hip at the mo, especially now that I've bene sitting at my desk all day, but I think it's fairly normal (unless it gets much worse and constant, then it could be SPD, joy).

Got my maternity trousers on at work for the first time today and it's lovely to be able to breathe out properly!

My Bump seems to be a bit lop-sided (off to the lefta bit espescially when I first wake up in the morning). Do you think that's weird? Should I be worried?

I think people on here mentioned moving bumps a few days ago, seems quite normal.

I've looked pregnant for ages - had my appendix out at 9 weeks, and even the nurses said -"gosh you've got a bump" - haven't worn normal clothes for SOOOOO long!!

On the plus side - after I had ds, it wasn't long b4 old clothes fitted so maybe there are some benefits!!

On sore hips, backs, bums etc - I've just come back from big shopping with HUGE 2yr old in trolley - very sore tummy, not a happy mummy. Think ligaments give out more quickly with no2 - plus ur all probably juggling not carrying a toddler so watch your backs (this coming from a nurse!!)

Sorry if going back over old threads... but who's planning what re: birth? I had home birth with ds, and followed up with blue lights into hosp as back (...) went into spasm (9lb 4 oz of baby later). Still planning home birth - just with better pain relief after birth!!

I'm still waiting for my bump to kick in properly but I have a little one in these trousers, hurrah!

At the minute I'm planning to go to the midwife-led unit at barnet hospital, but I'm going to look at Edgware birth centre too as I've heard good things. I don't think I'm relaxed enough for a home birth, but they do sound like a good option if you have no complications.

growingbagpuss - that experience sounds scary. Poor you. I had not even thought about afterbirth pains. I am very intent on using hypnobirthing for labour pain and my boyfriend thinks I am mad.

Really I think I am going to have to change my nickname to "worriesabouteverything".

Katybird, I have snagged the last place on the Sunday night yoga class at the Active Birth Centre this week. If you see an old geezer who looks like she is pushing forty and more fat than bump - that will be me.

I booked their weekend workship as well thinking the price was per couple when in fact it is per person! Kind of a shock to the budget.

Kiteflying - it certainly wasn't how I'd planned it! Low anxiety, low intervention etc... had fab m/w but after babe was born I was lying on floor going "it hurts it hurts" - everyone is like, "you've had the baby, it should get better now!!!!"

Homebirth should decrease anxiety not rely on being less anxious in 1st place -does that make sense? In my area, you get 1 st midwife once in active labour, then 2nd once ready for 2nd stage - best continuity of care poss for me... plus I hate hospitals!

I do appreciate this is not ideal for everyone, and am not trying to push the whole homebirth thing, just curious to find out what other people think