#TTC1 - Second Wave grads thread the Second!

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Hello all! Welcome to the second thread for the 'new wave' of grads from #TTC1 - the first wave ladies seem to have decamped en masse to Facebook now (I heard weaning mentioned last time I ventured onto it) so this is now officially the place to be!

We're pretty spread out over the pregnancy journey so far with some newbies and some about to pop I'll try to maintain a list so if anybody wants to leave details of due dates and whether you're Team Blue, Pink or Vanilla (I think we're pretty heavily skewed towards Pink at the moment) then leave your details and I'll amalgamate them!

As Moose mentioned in our last thread, please do feel free to join in if this is your first time walking this weird and wonderful path - there is no such thing as TMI and we're all learning off each other!

marmite I can totally understand wanting to keep the bond between you and baby. I can't believe you're going to meet him/her so soon!!

moose I swear my clumsiness is getting worse by the day! No idea what causes it as it can't be due to my size yet!

starmist how was afternoon tea? Lovely that you're thinking of having your shower there. We won't be doing much of one as my two best friends are getting married and going on their honeymoons in July/August. We are therefore planning to have close friends and family (guys and girls) over for a BBQ at the end of July and leave it at that I think.

FXskip so sorry to hear about your MIL and the situation with FIL. I can't imagine how irritating it is but glad that you have the scan to focus on now and that there is an end date in sight for his stay at yours. Exciting that you might find out the sex. Now that we know it we have realised that we don't see much reason in keeping it a secret from friends and family so I think we are going to tell people. We have a growth scan at 28 weeks so I think we will just pretend that we found out then and tell everyone after that!

kav thanks for pulling the list together. Still cant believe there is no team blue yet!!

I am currently planning two hen dos for my friends and one of them will be when I'm 32 weeks. It will involve clubbing as that is what the bride likes. I am really not a clubbing sort of person (although obviously want to give my friend a hen do that she loves) but I am even more concerned at the prospect of going to a club when I'm 32 weeks. I'm thinking drunk people falling over, slippery floors etc. But then I would feel awful staying at the house while they all went out Anyone got any thoughts? Am I overreacting? DH also says he feels uncomfortable with the idea of me going as it's not in our local area so I think he would feel a bit powerless if I got anxious about it at the time.

Think I'm going to stop thread hogging now....... Happy Sunday everyone!

Thank you for the lovely welcome

Starmist I'm actually feeling really good. I'm nauseous quite a bit but very rarely sick. I get tired quite early in the evenings and constantly need a wee but that's about it. I think (touch wood!) I'm getting away without nasty 1st trimester symptoms.

Music I had my best friends hen party when I was 6 weeks which involved a night out. It's a different situation as no one knew (I was on virgin mojitos all night) but I felt so uncomfortable surrounded by drunk people. I attempted to dance but the dance floor was packed and it was quite scary. Could you go for the first hour or so whilst people are still relatively sober?

Music I'm currently planning a hen do too, I will have a 3/4 month old by the time it comes around! Making getting fitted for my bridesmaid dress tricky too! The clubs you're looking at, are there any bar-type alternatives? With seating and a dance floor? On a side note there's some gorgeous sparkly maternity dresses on H&M, almost wish I had a night out planned so I could justify buying one!

Music I'm going on a hen do at 32 weeks away from home for a weekend for my sister in law.
I'm skipping a dance class on the afternoon because I can't bear to be all achy afterwards, and my plan for the Sat eve when they're doing bars and a club, is to head to a few bars but go back to the house about 10/11. I know I'll be shattered by then and once they're all drunk, they won't miss me! 😂

I say 32 weeks as though that's ages away! It's next weekend!

Hi everyone and welcome tonks! I remember you from the the ttc thread so lovely to have you here! I was out on a hen do at the weekend and went home at ten lol! But as I am showing already everyone was super supportive and I felt good about going when people started to slur, so for those of you planning a hen do I'd do the bars and then go before it turned into clubbing, but maybe see if you can organise a bottle of bubbly at the bar as a surprise when they get there? Might be overkill though! I weirdly enjoyed being able to organise a lovely big fry up the next day for all the rough people and got fresh flowers, bread etc. I went for a big walk and then settled in for the afternoon of vegging out on the sofa - it was surprisingly good!

Hello ladies,

Just placemarking from the first thread -

Age 30
BFP cycle 3
EDD 9th August
21 + 5 today
Team pink

Had my 20 week scan and all ranges are within the 5-95 percentile range, but sonographer has booked us in for a growth scan, not sure why tbh, maybe because we're new to the area and so had our 12 week scan at our previous trust? Our lowest score was approx 30 for TCD and our largest was approx 80 for AC. Nothing has been mentioned about it but I worry I'm at risk of gestational diabetes as although I eat a really healthy diet, lots of fiber and fruit and veg, I have got a sweet tooth and am partial to cookies and chocolate. I was 26.5 BMI when I got pregnant and have put on 12lb in the 22 weeks, which is on the slightly high side I think. Am I right to worry? My urine was tested for protein at around 12 weeks when I was having frequent migraines but was negative and was told I wasn't the correct body shape to develop pre-eclampsia.

Hi wanting
No idea on the growth scan but apparently gestational diabetes isn't caused by diet, just controlled with it. (I am living proof of that as I've been eating an obscene amount of sugar and carbs and my GTT came back normal)
I think 12lb is about normal too. I've gained 2 stone and on the group for June babies that seems to be about the average at 30 weeks... obviously with a couple of people going the extreme in either direction!

Just realised I forgot to say hi Tonks on the previous post!

Hi all. I'm making a very tentative entry into this thread as I got my BFP just this morning after 7 cycles.
Can't quite believe it and AF wasn't due until Thursday but I've had (four) very clear tests. I'm staying on the TTC thread for a little while too as I'm so scared about all this. I have totally put all my efforts into TTC and realise now I know nothing about what to do next now I'm actually pregnant. Dates show I'm 3+4. Who can help point me in the right direction of when to see a doctor etc?

Congratulations to you all - it's lovely to see lots of familiar names from the ttc thread.

Hi wanting I also have a crazy sweet tooth but nothing to worry about here, not sure why they've arranged a growth scan for you.

My BMI pre-preg was 25.8 and I've gained 16.8lbs at 22 weeks, on the high side of average but I'm setting myself a target of no more than 35lbs total so I'm on track for that as long as I average 1lb a week gain. Not stressing too much about it though :)

Hi bluebell Congratulations!!!!!!!

I can understand your trepidation, the early weeks are very difficult! I just phoned the Drs surgery, told them I'd had a positive and they told me to book in with the midwife. I think the usual time for first appt is about 8 weeks, unless you've any blazing issues or concerns to discuss?
Just try not to worry too much and enjoy your little secret bean growing inside you!
A lot of us on here went for early scans, I went at 7 weeks to the Fetal Medicine Centre in London and they were fab! £100 though so depends on your finances, but very reassuring to see the blob and heartbeat!

Hi guys - sorry I haven't been on here for a while - not sure why - work has been rubbish but not unbearable, think time has just got away from me! Will have a proper catch up soon but here are my stats

Seahawk
Due 2 July so 27+1 today
BFP cycle 6
Team vanilla - but also convinced it's a boy!

Hi mrsbluebell how exciting to have you here! I remember those agonising weeks all too well, but towards the end I did manage to enjoy the special 'secret' time. My advice would be to just distract yourself as much as you can, and when you do spend time thinking about the pregnancy make it 'connection' time - so you just have a quick chat with the baby and then carry on as normal. Eventually you'll get your scan, early or otherwise, but the interim is the longest tww of the whole experience in my opinion!

Thanks mooseville and fxskip. Good to have reassurance that this is totally normal.

Good to know re the private scan option! Thank you! I'll be going overseas for work (without my DH) on 1st week of May by which point I calculate that I'll be 7+4. I might try and book in for a private scan the week before that - around the 7 week mark. Would that be suitable? then I know all is ok before I go away etc for some reassurance. I'm a worrier anyway so makes sense to do that so as not to stress myself out too much.

Thanks for the new thread Kav - I haven't posted for ages so thought I'd get started again...

Poppet
Age 32
BFP cycle 3
Team Vanilla
12 weeks today and have my first scan on Wednesday! Very excited but also a little apprehensive. Current EDD is 16th October but I'll get a better idea at the scan.

Hope you're all keeping well and welcome Bluebell and Tonks! Hope you're ok and huge congratulations to you both x

Welcome tonks and bluebell - congratulations!

kav that's great news about your DH getting a job

music lovely scan pic, so glad all is ok.

marmite can't believe you're almost there! I can't wait to finish work. Do you think 38 weeks was the right time to finish? I need to decide what to do this week.

fx sorry about your MIL - has FIL gone yet?

Sorry if I've missed anyone - did a v speedy catch up read!

All good with me, baby is kicking a good amount but still never wakes me up at night which I'm happy about. Also being good and sticking at yoga / swimming / walking. I feel like if I stop I'll just lay on the sofa eating for the next 3 months - do a lot of that as it is!

Also driving myself mad with names! Boys name is sorted but still all over the place with girls names and change my mind every 5 mins. Piper is currently the front runner which is weird as it kind of came out of nowhere and all the other names I like are old lady names!

Thanks mrs and moose, im probably just worrying about nothing.

Welcome bluebell and tonks congratulations! At 7 weeks you should be able to see whether the pregnancy is viable so I'd go ahead and book if you need some reassurance. I did and I'm glad I did, it was right before Xmas and I was 7 +1 and wanted to tell close family without worrying.

Music afternoon tea was lovely thanks. Such a nice place, tasty food, only £15 each. I was excited... then I asked about having a baby shower & cuz it'll be over 8 people they said you have to be in a private room which will cost £75. I thought that was ridiculous!
BBQ sounds lovely, that'll be really nice.
I completely understand that you don't want to go clubbing. Could you go out for a meal & then go for a quiet drink somewhere & then let everyone else go clubbing? Surely your friend would understand?

Tonks glad you're feeling ok. Hope it continues.

Wanting sorry I have no idea about growth scans... 12lbs doesn't sound like too much to me. I've been eating loads of chocolate!

Welcome Bluebell huge congratulations! Can totally understand the worry, I found the first few weeks went so slowly, I tried to focus on other things where I could just to try & make the time go a little quicker & so I wasn't worrying as much. I went to the doctor straight away, we'd started fertility tests so I wanted to let him know. Then he arranged for me to see the midwife for my booking in appointment at 7 weeks. I think 7 weeks should be ok for an early scan, you should be able to see a heartbeat then I think.

Good luck for your scan Poppet. Let us know how you get on.

Seahawk glad you're getting on ok. Great work on the exercise, I'm trying to get back on it. We are much more comfortable with boys names too, there aren't that many girls names we like, I thought it would be the other way round!

Bump has felt very tight today, it must be growing. I swear every time I looked in the mirror today it was bigger. Have just eaten lots of maltesers tonight so that won't have helped

Thanks for all the congrats and the reassurance. Going to book in for an early scan at 7 weeks which is 4 days before I go overseas for 5 nights. I think it'll make me feel reassured. We have a dilemma whether to tell a direct family member due to some decisions they are about to face and wanting them to know, but we think it's too early to tell people. Very nerve wracking.

I keep getting twinges in my lower stomach. Is this normal? It's like a gassy feeling almost but a little more painful.

We told both sets of parents very early on, literally days after we found out. We wouldn't have done it quite that fast but there were some factors at the time that meant it was best to tell them then. We told some close friends fairly early on as we figured we'd need their support if anything happened anyway so why not share our happy news with them. Everyone else was told after the 12 week scan.

I had a few cramp like feelings in the early weeks. There will be lots of changes going on as things start to prepare to stretch & grow. I know it's hard but try not to worry.

Thanks for your reply Starmist. That's reassuring to know. I think we will talk to the family member. They are looking to move and we don't want them to move and then wish they'd chosen a different location based on our news. Of course they may not feel affected but I'd hate to think we should have told them sooner. I think it's just the anxiety of what if something goes wrong as only two friends know we were ttc.

I apologise now as I think I'm going to ask loads of questions. So here's my next one. I probably average around 2-3 cups of tea of coffee a day. Is that ok or should I reduce caffeine?
Also does anyone know if I can take hay fever tablets?

bluebell I believe hayfever tablets are fine - my sister had them prescribed when she was pregnant. You could cut down a little on tea and coffee, maybe try decaff for half of those cups. It really depends on whether a cup is a teacup or a huge starbucks tbh!

bluebell the general advice is that up to 2 cups of tea or coffee a day is fine, anything over that I would switch to decaf. I've never been a big coffee drinker but I do like to have one on a morning so I usually make that my only one most days, then if I happen to go to Starbucks or Costa on a weekend I don't feel guilty for having a slightly stronger coffee.