May 2017 #9 3rd trimester!

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Hello all! Now to find a way to guide you to the new thread...

Sorry for panicking you Rise! (Although it scared us too). I have even less than you do, also first baby. I know we want a Snuzpod, Sleepyhead and I've chosen the buggy and car seat but we haven't actually ordered anything yet. Currently we have a couple of outfits from mum, two gro-bags, 8 muslin cloths and two packs of nappies. Plus one pack of Mam bottles and the promise of a Medella swing from a friend. That's all!

And no hospital bag either!

exile good luck at hospital tomorrow, no wonder you're scared but they'll look after you and hopefully get to the bottom of it.

Anyone else find themselves feeling more vulnerable whilst pregnant? Maybe a silly question, I've felt it a few times now and don't like it Had to go to cash and carry today and hated how I couldn't just pick up all the heavy boxes I'm used to and had to ask for help a few times. I then am sure the cashier still had my store card but he says he didn't and I felt too stupid/baby brain to insist he check.
I'm very aware that I won't be able to do all the things I normally do to run my stall this month as it involves a lot of lifting, carrying & it's very physical. My oh will have to help a lot more. I know I need to get used to it and it's all part of pregnancy but I feel a bit useless.....

I think if world book day encouraged reading it would be fab!
My gripe is that I found out at 5pm today, I'm at work all day tomorrow and it's on Thursday! I have zero time. I'm tempted to stick her in a baby grow and a tutu and say she's a ballerina... I'm sure there are ballerina books!
I shall be writing it on the bloomin calendar for next year!

Thank you all for the positive vibes- I'll report back tomorrow. I don't have as much detail as you on my readings bean, but the thought of IUGR is really scary.

I am also feeling World Book Day pain, DD is going as the witch from Room on the Broom as it means we can recycle her Halloween costume!

I haven't even started my hospital bag yet. I think last time I wore jogging bottoms and a hoody. I didn't care as long as I escaped the post-natal ward! It's hard to wear something that doesn't hurt when you've had a section, but that's a good tip about the pad to stop rubbing- I will definitely try that this time!

Omg, I have one night off and it's a new thread new people and lots of talk!!

I have tried to catch up but my tired self can't cope!!!!

I've got a growth scan tomorrow morning, so will see where I'm sitting on it to judge if I'll be induced or not.

I have 10 working days left at work (2weeks) then 6 weeks holidays! I'm gona be so bored but hopefully less stressed x

Good luck northern at least you have form for producing healthy smallish babies so not a massive surprise if this one is following suit. Hope the snr consultant can give you some helpful guidance.

Northern - that's rubbish news. Especially as your previous were not actually that small! I would think they will leave you as long as possible unless they are sure baby isn't getting enough through the cord, but then I'd also like to think they would pick up on that sooner! Try and make a list of your questions beforehand and they'll probably give you too much or not enough info at your appt today.

In relation to the new questions - our top and tail bowl came with our baby bath. DD had long hair which needed washing and combing from day one. I still use our top and tail bowl (well, the tail end) to give DD a good wipe down in the morning as she's a front sleeper and we do bathtime as a night routine here. I find cotton wool pleats which I then tear into smaller sections easier than balls which are too small. (She's 14 months old) which reminds me I still have to research towelling nappies as she does still occasionally leak by the morning....
ALDI or boots own brand nappies are the best fit for us.
I also use talc (chucked in the nappy and fastened) and baby wash from day one. And I read all the horror stories first. She has no skin conditions and smells beautiful most of the time!
And although no bouncer we have a jumperoo and a walker. She didn't like being put on the floor and currently has no developmental issues. Although she still loves to bounce on everything...
We, quite luckily, still have everything from DD (because I'm lazy and haven't cleared anything out) so the only thing I've brought for baby at the moment is a hooded towel..
I saw someone advertise the double pram I want online at half price but hubby says it's too expensive! he obviously was not paying attention in the shop 3 months ago!!

They induced me a whole 3 days early last time due to high bp.... I'm going to ask outright if they'll be doing this this time as I'm planning to work up until 2 weeks before edd, which means still another 8 weeks at work... which is fab as I feel like an elephant already!
We didn't find out the sex of either baby, but now I really want to know.... I didn't with my first as I struggled with the fear of gender disappointment and knew that not knowing would make it 'easier' to push out... and I was adamant I didn't want to know this time. But I really want to know and 10 weeks is ages away!!
And I'm only awake at this time of night writing rubbish to you lot because DH called me (DD is currently sleeping through tonight) because he has a flat tyre.... (he works nights and has finished early, so decided to drive home tonight) and he can't get his wheel off. We live in the midlands and he's in London... I did remind him that it was only last weekend that I asked him to check if he was covered under my breakdown.... I was however very helpful and he is now a member of the RAC all by himself and they are on their way to him. Time for more sleep I think!
That's another mammoth post again - sorry ladies!

Wish hope your DH got home safe?!

Spare a thought for us teachers who also have to dress up for world book day! This year my school have decided to have a staff theme so I can't even cobble something together. I outright told them I wasn't going to spend money on special clothes (to fit over huge bump) so I've been allowed to adapt the costume! The costume bit is annoying but I do think it can help to foster a love of reading. We have author visits and whole school story times and parent stay and reads so it will hopefully be a fun day for all.

Anyway, back to baby news - are any of you having mums or someone other than partners with you while in labour? A friend's sister just had a baby yday and her mum was sending hourly updates - which friend then sent on to us!! I know I don't want everyone knowing so much detail when it's my turn

Yeah, the plonker got home half an hour ago. Good job he made a cuppa as his first job!
Oh no - teacher dress up. That never crossed my mind!
I had DH and my mum (DM?) there last time at Hubby's request as he didn't think he'd cope very well... she was very supportive but then they know me well enough that regular updates to many people would be met with me probably demanding their phones!
This time DM will be at home with DD (if we can time the flights right!) we have asked a close friend, as she showed an interest last time, and she has said yes, however I think it will be just the two of us.

grow with bean & turnip I just had my husband with me. We sent a text when bean was born at 9.40pm to close friends & family. My MIL and my dad came to visit whilst still on delivery so they didn't have to wait until the next day. We went home the day after and was inundated with visitors.
With turnip she was born at 2.56am I was induced but only told my dad and mil that we were going in to hospital. And we had to stay in hospital for 2 nights because waters had gone for ages so had to keep eye on baby. Anyway, when we went home we only told mil so we could have a day or 2 as a family of 4 without people.
This time, I plan on husband and my nana and bean and turnip being in the house. Bean & turnip want to make the babies belly button so will be called in to cut the cord. It will be up to them about being around whilst I am in labour. But my nana is there so husband can concentrate on me 😊 we will also hold off telling people he is here for a while so we can enjoy our Babymoon on our own 😊

Good luck Northern!

I'm considering a doula, partly so hubby doesn't have to support me and run interference with the midwives at the same time. Our au pair should help with the 4yo. Although i suspect he'd be happy as Larry if we shove him in front of some kiddies movies all day.

My sister and my mum had a huge row about mum not being able to give people updates and be there when my sister was in labour and giving birth. Mum assumed she would and sister (rightly) assumed it would just be her and her DP!
Sister had a csection in the end and mum waited in the waiting area and kept her word about not telling anyone.

I wanted to have a doula but the lady I was interested in having was fully booked for May. She recommended 2 other ladies,one of them was too expensive and the other I just didn't seem to click with so I think it will just be DH and myself. I have told him NO updating people about labour and birth.

So had the GTT yesterday, now have a sodding migraine the day after - not sure if it's linked.

Also, don't watch "The Replacement", it's about maternity cover who tries to take over the job. They are covering me with a secondment but I know a couple of the applicants are REALLY KEEN and I wouldn't be surprised if some of them want it to result in a full time job!

Just DH and I here. We've told my parents (3 hour drive) and the in laws (15 min drive) that without sounding horrible I don't want any of them anywhere near the hospital until after DD arrives.

We'll contact them and let them know when we go into hospital and I expect I'll give my mum a bit of an update here and there if we can. But don't want them at the hospital.

This is our first and we just want it to be special for DH and I - It would just be chaos with half the family there for us.

Will be me & DH, but my mum on standby for extra support (all family are local). She's great, and is excellent at keeping me calm. She has to come to all my dentist appointments with me still! (I'm 31!)

I came on here to say something and I can't remember what now! Hah!

I don't plan on telling anyone other than DP when I go into labour, though no doubt my mum and sister will be in very frequent contact around the EDD! I don't really want any visitors up the hospital either. (Un)fortunately my family are 2 hours away and DP's an hour away so unlikely to happen. Actually thinking about it now I feel a bit sad because I don't really know anyone where we live, we've just moved and I work in London. I'm 2 hours away from friends and family now so maybe won't be as inundated with visitors as others. Apart from 3 very inquisitive stepchildren who will be quarrelling over holding the baby, argh!

Only 5 child-free Sundays left for me before becoming a Mum - gosh the time feels so precious.

And now I remember what I was going to say in the first place! JOJO MAMAN BEBE MATERNITY TIGHTS ARE RUBBISH!!!!!!!!!!!!
They fall down a lot! I have been hoiking them up all day and am really not looking forward to a 1 mile walk to an event this afternoon, standing there juggling my canapés and saggy tights

It'll be just me and DH at the hospital, no one else will know anything unless it lasts long enough that the dog needs letting out! In my family labours seem to be pretty quick though so hoping we can keep it to ourselves until after the baby is here and then let our parents know so they can come and meet him. Both DH and I are quite private people and hate interference so I know he won't be sharing any details I don't want him to! We both will just want a little special time just the 3 of us before we let anyone else in... our family is really big so the days afterwards will be chaos whilst everyone visits and cuddles the baby! I like calm and peace, so will cherish those few hours we get in the beginning (even with a noisy crying baby ) before the hustle and bustle of everyone visiting. Of course I am really looking forward to introducing our new LO to our families... just after we get to have some 'family' time as just us!

sauvignon tights falling down are the worst, my sympathies

We are 6,000 miles away from family so just me & DH, but only one allowed in theatre for CS anyway. Some friends are looking after DS then DH will pick him up to take home. We will Skype/FaceTime parents and do a FB announcement once baby is here. DM is hopefully coming out after paternity leave is up, I will be grateful of the help with DS no doubt!

It will be just me and DH at the hospital. He was great last time. Very assertive with the midwives so no worries there. My sister is looking after DD. Everyone else will be kept updated via a family WhatsApp group.

Thank you for the welcome, newbieho, beanturnipandspud, 1004Rise and WishIWasSleeping and the opinions on washing the baby and applying stuff that smells good! Definitely going to have to get a top and tail thing for the little one!... I can't run the risk with the OH!

As for the latest topic - who is going to be there at the birth? Just my OH and I. All his family are (thankfully) miles away and I'm not close to my family. In fact, none of them know I'm even pregnant. So I guess on the other side of the coin, whilst you'll all be batting away the family desperate to see the baby, I'll be very much on my own. I'm not entirely unhappy about that, but not entirely happy either. I guess it's times like these I often think 'wouldn't it have been nice if my family were....'

But there's no point in crying over spilt milk, is there?

(Unless it's something I've taken hours to express!)

Redblu - I heard about 'the replacement' on woman's hour yesterday and am definitely going to avoid watching it! Interviews took place last week for my maternity cover and I was concerned a former colleague might get the job, as they were quite competitive and would have no problems with trying to make me look incompetent in my absence (as they had done this to other colleagues in the past). Thankfully they didn't get an interview but I am worried that my team might be disappointed to see me when I come back from maternity leave.

I have Jojo tights on today and they're hanging in there but not the best. The 60 deniers were better than the 100's.

Will just be me and DH at the birth. My parents will look after our DC. My mum worries a lot so I don't give her a lot of information. But because I've been induced x3 I've been in hospital already and can send generic updates like 'nothing happening currently'. Also don't see the point in having DH there the whole time, inductions can take days but when actively labouring obviously they would call him in.

Ha Sanity you got a good snigger with the spilt milk. If you're doing a group course, you may get some nice friends from that. Family isn't always right to be there anyway, but I was surprised to hear they don't know you're pregnant. I hope you have a nice circle of friends, that you can consider family xxx
I will have my OH with me and my mum is coming over as well to be with me during labour. She's coming on 15 May so she can help with cooking (which I'm already sitting down for at the moment, as standing up is just impossible). She's trained as a nurse and although she hasn't worked for ages (1969!!!), she is born to care and also has a good influence on me. She had kept herself 'informed' and is still passionate about all things medical. My dad will bring her over to UK and drive back to return after baby is born.
My OH's parents were invited to come over from West Sussex although they told me they're in the 'pecking order' behind my mum and also need to find a babysit for their dog, which my FIL treats as a baby as he's very insulted that the dog can't stay in our rented flat! I didn't go in against their perceptions of being lower end chickens in the run, but I appreciate that they were (inadvertently?) kept at bay by their other son when the birth of his daughter was not quite so smooth. Hence we'll keep them informed and they can drive up when it suits them. The aforementioned cousin of our baby is now 19 months of age and will be welcome to visit when we are home with her parents, who are actually very lovely people.

I've never used any lotions or potions on my DS. Never needed to. Everyone seems to get given loads when expecting though.