Due in April 2007 - A Wholly Appropriate Thread .....

[CaptainDippy]

Thought I would get there 1st!!!

Zooming in - almost finished housework and feeling less stressed out - poor DH, he came home to a very wound-up mummy when he got home for lunch - after almost driving into a wall on my way back from dropping him off at work (!!!!) and doing lots of cleaning and hoovering, I must say I am feeling better! Still got lots to do though .....

Zoom, Zoom, Zoom ........

ARGH - Can't remember anything anyone said, apart from MrsGV getting the wrong end of the stick ..... LOL!

Hope everyone else is ok!!

Flying visit, as my mum is due to arrive any second.

Tonsilitus (sp????) - Just wanted to say that DS has had it twice, the first time really badly, and the doctor told me it is REALLY hard to detect unless you know what to look for, so anyone not spotting it is NOT a bad mother. Thought I'd put that on, as I know it is hard to feel competent (what with the hormones and all) when we feel criticized at this stage of PG...

Thanks to those who are going to get hold of my books . If you don't like them, I am very sorry in advance

Bugmum - 32 weeks tomorrow xx

Runny - wholeheartedly agree!!!
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The whole thing has confirmed why I very rarely ever venture away from this thread!
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I know you're all right, but it just really winds me up.
What on earth am I going to wear tonight? Nothing fits me anymore - I'm going to end up going in something I'd go to work in
Why didn't I think about all this before???

Hi ladies

Haven't caught up yet.

Katy I competely understand how you feel about the thread titles. I feel a bit like we've all been violated (sorry if that's a bit strong) I did post a reply to Mrs GV yesterday hope I didn't step on your toes just wanted it all to blow over TBH.

I've looked at that thread today and have really had to stop myself posting a reply especially to the following post

"they'll learn
fluffy goes out tha window when you are spraying milk everywhere and baby is blarting and you are eating cold rice pudding out of the tin whilst trying to get baby to sleep by pushing parm with your foot, dressed in PJs at 2pm, not habving washed or crapped that day...."
(I have copied and pasted...they are not my spelling mistakes)

That has really p**sed me off and made me so angry it's so patronising...most of us on this thread already have at least one other child and are under no illusions what it entails. I'm trying really hard not to take it personally.

Sorry rant over
Hope everyone ok today. DH let me have a nice lay in til 10am and I'm still not dressed

Be back later xx

As a first timer I didn't really pick up on that! But yes, it is incredibly assuming and patronising.
Think our next thread will be called "April 07 - FYI a mix of first time and experienced mums"
Anyway, to get the balance back, I've just been incredibly patronising to someone on another thread (she was asking for advice about craving meat while vegi)
I actually said "Don't worry dear you can go back to being vegetarian after you've given birth"
(well without the "don't worry dear" bit!!)

Can't believe I said that
(in my defence I'm a vegi and I DID go straight back on and apologise!)
I'm turning into my FIL

Katy PMSL at your reply to the vege

meant vegi

I've just realised the TTC boards had a nasty little troll about a week ago and that's given me a bit more perspective. I am incedibly lucky.
Do you think my luck extends into fitting into my pre-pregnancy smart skirt? Or am I mad even to consider it? Backup plain meternity trousers are drying on the radiator!

buddies

Just for anone who has missed it, we are pairing up and giving our "buddy" our moblie phone number so that we can text when babies are coming so they can let everyone else know all is well.
Just add your name to the list if your intrested.

Ange, I found that post rather patronising too, got itchy fingers resisting the urge to post something sarcastic in return!

The whole "antenatal threads are naff" thing comes up from time to time on MN, I think people fail to realise how helpful they can be, as well as making such a huge site as MN seem a lot less anonymous.

Just had a nice lunch out with friends but poor DH had a horrible night at work last night so is fast asleep upstairs.

Glad you enjoyed your luch liath! What does your DH do? Does he always work nights?

In case anyone was wondering, there was no way that skirt would fit!! I think I heard bump sniggering!
Better go and turn the heating up so my trousers dry in time

DH works in intensive care so does a fair bit of night shift/on call.

Liath glad it wasn't just me! Glad your lunch was good. Hope you DH is ok after his horrible night at work.

Katy - I did think "you'll be lucky" when I read your post about fitting into that skirt.Annoying though isn't it when you can't find anything to wear. I find one of the most annoying things of pg.

I think you posted a very adult and mature reply to Mrs GV on that thread...well done.

Liath - That must be a very pressured job with constant stress. I admire people doing jobs like that, because I know I couldn't do it.

Me neither - all those machines going "bing" would totally freak me out . He's welcome to it.

Can someone give me a synopsis of the latest scandal?

I did read Mrswhatserfaces post about the thread title. Wanted to respond but by the time I read about it, it had mostly blown over, or maybe not....

Have spent the day spring cleaning and getting stuff for baby ready. I found my DSs tiny baby clothes sob They are so weeny, DS said the new baby could wear them and it was weird telling him that I was more pregnant now than when I had him and so the baby would be bigger and they wouldn't fit. He donated them to his sisters dollys but I have I have rescued them to put in his memory box.

DH has assembled the double buggy and the kids are spinning each other round the lounge so better go and supervise....

liath - what a stressful job that must be. I would hate to work nights in general, I hate having my sleep pattern wrecked, plus all the responsibility and stress!

WCL - that's so weird that your previous baby clothes now wouldn't fit your current baby. Did you say you gave birth at 30 weeks last time? Very sweet that your DS wanted the new baby to wear them.

The latest scandal - I'll try to keep it neutal, but apologies if I don't as I am biased. MrsGV came onto the minty sperm thread to complain about the title. The way she did it (IMO) got people's backs up, and so she got a few comments telling her where to go. We then started a couple of new threads to try and get away from the nastiness, which she posted on (one of the posts she has subsequently had deleted). Some of her comments were extremely patronising in my opinion, suggesting that the only reason we had reacted as we did was because we are heavily pregnant and not in command of our emotions. Also, that someone was overreacting as it was 'her' thread title
She started a new thread in the Am i being unreasonable? section asking whether other people were offended by these sorts of thread titles popping up in the recent posts.
You can read the thread, but all in all, everyone's made friends now and we've also got some interesting advice about getting labour started! Opinions are split over whether the hormone (??) in sperm which kick starts labour is better absorbed in the normal way or through the gut.

Whew!

lol, good synopsis katy, and well done for being so restrained. I did poke my beak in and comment but only for a bit- and i guess it is hard to judge how you are coming over in an email nods understandingly maybe she didnt mean to come over as prissy and patronising, but was in fact trying to be helpful and caring?

Just a quicky after catching up on all the posts today.

I commented a few times on Mrs G's thread telling her she was patronising and she wrote

'if that person calls me patronsing once more'

Bloody cheek, so obviously I did it again (put my very childish hat away now!!!!) Anyway hope she doesn't get offended by all the recent comments on it too

Will post again later off to read some more threads

AngeG you have more restraint than me, had to post about 'they'll learn' f*in cheek, scuse the language. I hate it when people make assumptions and class everyone together as one. I wouldn't do it so i don't expect it back.

Anyway, will not be posting on there again.

In other eddas news

My itching seems to have stopped now but the rash is still there. Can handle that as who is really going to want to look at my stretchmarked rashy tummy

DH and his brothers have done a fantastic job today fixing the shed, emptying the spare room of the shed contents and throwing away a lot of rubbish from putting in our new central heating. He's now cooking hungarian goolash, mmm.

We can now get all the cute baby bits out of the loft and finally prepare for the baby, with 5 weeks to go, better late than never

Eddas loved your final comment on that thread, exactly what I though but so much better put

WCL - I know how you feel about tiny baby clothes. I got all DS's out (34wks 2lbs 10oz last time) and realised that they already would be miles too small. Have also rescued them to put in his memory box. What gestatation was your DS born at? So sweet that your DS wanted the new baby to wear them.

Well I have a quiet evening planned. Mum and Dad have just taken DS to have him overnight and til lunchtime tomorrow, so hopefully another lie in for me Although do lie ins count if you don't actually get to sleep til 3am?

Hope everyone's having a good weekend.

Sounds like a very productive day Eddas. I still feel very disorganised. I've washed the baby clothes, but not the bedding. Still have furniture to get rid of in baby's room, but have ordered a new chest of drawers now. Haven't packed a bag yet or written a list of people to let know when baby arrives or generally got anything ready at all. It did feel like I had ages but will be 34 wks tomorrow so probably only 5wks left til c-section. Must get organised

It was productive !!

Am still not organised though as still haven't packed a labour bag, bag for dd, washed any baby clothes, got any useful things from the loft or finished decorating the nursery, i'm sure there's more

I am convinced this lo will arrive early, not sure why, so really should be prepared by now. Oh well tomorrow's another day.

How cute your ds's tiny clothes must be. dd was always huge!! Only 7lbs 14 at birth but seemed to grow very quickly and still does. She's not 3 til middle of june but is already wearing 3-4yo clothes Costs us a fortune!!!

Hello, have finally wrestled laptop away from Em who was using it to play with CBeebies website - some Tweenies shite, played very loudly (I HATE the Tweenies). She was in the kitchen playing that with dh in there too watching the rugby, also very loudly. Have retired to lounge, have thrown all toys and child-related detritus into toy box, and am sitting on sofa now with all doors firmly shut. Just 5 minutes peace, pleeeease.

Can't believe the "Am I being unreasonable or what?" thread is still ticking along. They won't let it go, will they? Personally I agree with MIABT & Liath and we should have "Due in Aril - If you don't like our thread title then F*ck off" as or next thread, as I am sick of the assumption that we are all naive, fluffy-bunny cuddling woosies.

Finally made it buggy shopping today and (oops) managed to buy 2 buggies. That means we now own 4 in total. Don't ask. Suffice it to say that we now have every conceivable buggy-requiring eventuality covered!