May 2017 #6........ 'Half way there and trips to Mothercare'

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And the chat/moans/advice/excitement continues.............any newbies welcome !

Good luck barnes. I haven't felt pregnant for months and don't look pregnant - was v. Worried before scan - but all was fine. Its such an anxious time, and although Google can be super helpful, looking up 'potential problems with 20w scan' did not help my anxieties!

Just had to keep telling myself the vast, vast majority of people have a normal scan, especially if 12w one was ok.

Will be thinking of you!

This one is expensive but great rise lansinoh. Saved my nipples and sanity in the early of breastfeeding.

Rise I'll join Esme in that recommendation - it's about £10 a tube but it's the best thing to have touched my skin!

Thanks mrsjw :) It was great, really enjoyed it, bloody knackered now but worth it, all goes towards my mat leave savings and goodies for baby

I helped throw a baby shower for close friend. We did a kind of pampering afternoon and all chipped in for her to have a massage, bought her a changing bag and we all made yummy afternoon tea style food. Had such a magical afternoon and eve, love my girlfriends, we laughed and chatted for hours. I'd rather not have anyone arrange that kind of thing for me but I'm sure we 'll have a get together of some sort.

Thinking of you tomorrow barnes, I understand it can be very nervewracking. As sipper says I just kept reminding myself that the vast majority are fine :)

Yep, that one will last you ages too. There's threads every so often on what you can use the leftovers for - it's really good for dry lips.

We moved house when I was 33 weeks last time. Not ideal timing but got me out of shifting any heavy boxes And easier than if we'd have had a wee one in tow. But one of my friends is in the process of moving with her nearly 2 year old and her 6 week old, there's never a great time really.

Not doing baby shower here, it's not something I'm in to. My sister just had to throw one for a friend who is known to be hard work, it was fine but definitely not something she enjoyed doing for her.

Complaining to JojoMamanBebe sometime this week as the maternity pj bottoms are literally falling apart at the seams, despite me only having had them a few months. So much for my one indulgence this time around I sized up probably more than required so it's not like I'm stretching them and it's just ticked me off. It's only clothes but maybe don't annoy the raging bundle of hormones!

Good luck Barnes, I was a wreck before my half-way scan and it all ended well

Bought a silver wayfarer travel system today so one big item has been crossed off the list. I am looking for a cot now and cannot decide between cot and cotbed. Any recommendations** ladies?

Hi everyone!

I wondered if I could join in! Got my 20 week scan on Tuesday, going to find out the sex and am very excited!

I've been worrying about NCT classes, I'm just not sure how to go about finding a good one? Some of my friends have done private ones and opted not to do the NHS ones but I don't understand how different they could be? For some reason it's really making me nervous about them!

I was going to talk to my MW about it at my 16 week appointment (although it ended up being 18 weeks because she kept cancelling), and then she was off sick that day so I got a bit flustered with the stand in and forgot all my questions...plus hearing the heartbeat knocked me for 6 and was just lovely!

I've bought a cotbed as I don't plan on having another baby for a few years so will defs be converted and used as a bed :) depends on your plans really I guess!

Hi half

On the subject of NHS antenatal classes versus NCT classes, from what I gather the things that are different about NCT classes are:

Each set of NCT classes is run by an individual who isn't following a set 'curriculum' so what is taught can vary between different courses according to the personal opinion of whoever is running it.

People go to NCT with an expectation of forming a useful friendship group so that you build an instant support network of people who will all be having their children within weeks of each other and will have children the same. This can be invaluable especially in the early days when everything seems overwhelming.

NCT membership gives you access to 'nearly new' sales etc.

The NCT classes cost a bomb (my local classes work out at nearly £50 per one evening class).

That about sums it up from my point of view

I can't justify the cost and also don't feel the need for a set group of friends. I don't have much spare cash and have decided I would rather spend £250 on going to baby groups, swimming classes etc. once the baby has arrived. I hope/assume that I'll strike up some friendships at these things.

In terms of preparing for labour, I think the antenatal classes my local hospital run should be sufficient and I'll do some reading if I feel there are still gaps afterwards.

Had twenty week scan today. The sonographer was so offhand, she had a cold and didn't want to be at work. It was a bit disappointing really, she started the scan without turning the screens we could see on, she didn't speak during the scan to tell us what she was doing and when we asked if it was a boy or a girl she just snapped that it's legs were crossed and that was the end of the scan, no chance to stand up and see if I could get the baby to move or anything.

Will have to see if the midwife will refer me again for another scan or if I can get a private scan. Just really disappointed, the sonographer at our 12 week scan was brilliant.

Oh no Jugoo what a terrible experience whilst the 20 week scan is so important! We saw everything and were told to look away when she was going to see the gender.
I know that nhs staff are under a lot of pressure but you know how it should be. I would surely complain so that you can get another scan with all the components it needs to have!
Good luck!

We have gone for a cot bed even though we are hoping to have another fairly soon. Baby 1 will stay in the cot until baby 2 arrives and then baby 2 will then use cot and bed until 4 years old. It wasn't that much more expensive so made sense to have something that would last longer.

Thanks NewShoes, that was helpful! Maybe I'll go for the NCT classes, some of my friends have actually made really valuable friendship groups from them and as I work from home anyway, it might be nice to have more opportunities to see people once the baby is here so that I don't feel too isolated.

Thanks again!

Morning ladies... I think I've updated the EDD spread sheet successfully!

May 2017 Ladies

Let me know if any edits need to be made!

Good luck at your scan today Barnes

Newbie which colour pack did you go for? Mothercare have had some fantastic deals on the Wayfarer recently, I managed to return mine yesterday and repurchase it with the newer package so really pleased everything will be matching! Mothercare Silvercross Wayfarer Chelsea

Hope those of you London ladies have managed the commute ok this morning...

Oh jugoo I'm sorry to hear you had such a poor experience :( glad baby was ok though :) my sonographer this time had a cold as well (as did my mum who came with me...I'm amazed I survived half an hour in that room without catching anything!) and certainly wasn't as lovely as the sonographer we had for our 12 week scan.

barnes I hope everything went ok for you! My baby also went for a day with no movement prior to my scan, just to make me extra worried.

Oh Jugoo that doesn't sound good. I hope the midwives are helpful. And does at least sound like all was ok.

I'm trying to get hold of the midwives today, as I'm getting quite sharp pains when I'm walking still. Not all the time, but often, and it's a bit scary.

jugoo that sounds awful!

mrs I really hope its nothing and midwife can re assure you.

Can anyone tell me if they got their maternity form from their midwife or from their GP? I know we are supposed to give them in by 25 weeks and they don't issue them before 20 weeks.
I am next seeing the midwife at 25+6 so assuming she will give me one then, employer said a week late is not a problem.

People that have bought prams do you already have them? DH and I have chosen a pram but thought we would wait until April to order it otherwise we need to store it somewhere (nursery already looks full!) John Lewis said they will deliver within 3 weeks of ordering it so we have held off.

Baby moves all the time every day now, such an amazing feeling but also feels a bit strange to think there is a tiny human inhabiting my body! I love having a bath every night as they seem to like the warm water and I can see the movements from outside

I did both NCT and nhs classes with dd1.

The content of both courses regarding birth was pretty similar but I think our NCT teacher gave a good balanced view of labour including c sections, all the interventions and pain relief. There was much more info on breastfeeding on the Nct course.

I did not make any friends on nhs courses where as I 4.5 years later I still see at least one of my NCT group on a weekly basis so defiantly worth the money.

I have found it's really tough making friends at baby groups!! Everyone is always in a rush to feed/get baby to nap etc so not much time for getting to know people.

MissMooMoo we have ours at home now - still in the box, but at home. Ours was a limited edition to Mothercare and had been on pre order for ages and I had my heart so set on it that I just bit the bullet and got it. Nursery is in the process of being decorated as we speak but once everything is sorted then I might get it out ☺

After lots of advice from you ladies I decided to book onto NCT, expensive but DH and O are not local so don't know anyone where we live so we're hoping to make some new friends that way and learn a thing or two! This is our first DC and neither of us have any experience of children so it'll be interesting to say the least!

Rasperry we went for different colour due to better price deal. I am not fussy on matching etc as the baby won't mind the colour anyway. The model you chose looks lovely though.

MissMooMoo I love feeling baby moves too apart from the moments when he kicks me in the (full) bladder. Ouch!

Morning ladies.

Agree with the recommendation for Lansinoh and I always use it for cracked lips after a cold too. Also it's meant to be good as an under eye cream but haven't tried this yet!

I think Sleepyhead would last longer so would say that's a better bet although I have heard Cocoonababys are magic for refluxy babies but I think more expensive.

DS calls us mama and dada at the moment (when I got him out of the cot this morning he gave me a cuddle and said "ahh mama", so cute) but I think it will morph into mummy and daddy eventually. Don't understand calling parents by first name either!

Good luck with scan barnes and sorry yours was disappointing jugo I would definitely say something if you can give feedback. Mine is tomorrow afternoon here (7am UK time) so fingers crossed all will well.

Talking of baby moving it just makes me wonder how those women that don't know they're pregnant until they're in labour don't realise?? (May have watched too much I Didn't Know I Was Pregnant such an excellent trashy programme)

Scan went ok, despite LO having his (yes, HIS) head buried in my pelvis for the majority of the time. They eventually managed to see everything they needed.

Within 20 mins of telling my mum she had already bought him 2 outfits and had text to see if she could buy him a baby bouncer

Congratulations Barnes

I've started a hypnobirthing course, which isn't half as wanky as it sounds . It's really relaxation techniques.

Congratulations barnes!