July 2017 #2

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Shiny new thread.

Link to the old one here
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2762028-July-2017-babies

I won't be telling my family until I can't hide the bump any longer! They already think I can't cope with the three I have, and too many animals, and they think my current nausea is down to just starting on sertraline again (which I stopped a few days before finding out no.4 is on the way!)

I can't be dealing with all their judgements although it's not really anything to do with anyone else.

sun i am 7+2 and last night... got home and BAM. sickness gagging over a mild smell, same again this morning, got up and BAM gagging and was ill.

Delightful as i had this so badly in my first pregnancy. I need to hide this one a bit longer from work.

Hi all just had my "12week scan" and like I thought I'm not 12 weeks I'm 10+1 (so im still a July lady ) so got to go back on the 21st December for another scan. Saw the heartbeat and it moving around though so feel better . Head is at the bottom, bum is in the air.
Hope everyone is well x

mummy10 Same here, I think any judgey/rude/unsupportive comments would just break me right now, especially from my family. I don't see them in person very often so will be easy to hide that way... but I also don't want to hide it and I wish my mum would just be kind and support me but I'm sure she will be disappointed.

Lovely pic, rhodes :)

I've already told my mum and she's doing well keeping it secret which must be killing her because she is the most gossipy person I know. Going to tell the kids after my scan, oldest is nearly 6 and I think she will be over the moon. Thinking a Christmas card addressed from bump

Ohhhhhhh love the scan pic Rhodes!

I have my 12 week one booked in for the 15th Dec. The sleepless nights worrying about it have started and had a horrible dream about the scan last night. I just can't wait for it now! All was well at 8 weeks, so fingers crossed everything is still OK in there!

My close friends and family know, I would need their support if anything was to happen so I just told them all.

I don't plan to tell work until I have had my 12 week scan though. So probably end of next week.

I'm 10+4 and still nauseated all the time. Spend a lot of time gagging. I'm getting used to dealing with it now tho, but really hoping it wears off soon.

Rhodes That is a lovely pic. Glad everything is progressing as it should. I like looking at people's scan pics!

I seem to have taken a turn for the worse with the nausea and general feeling of about to be sick but not actually sick. I had improved in the last few days and even slept very well. DH was a smelly as before either. But now it is all back. I should be 9+3 going by the early scan I had. I do have a private scan booked for Monday next week so hopefully I should get a more accurate date. Still not had a date for the 12 wk scan.

I also now officially have a name for the excess saliva that I am reluctant to swallow or else I might be sick - medical name is 'ptyalism'. I thought I was being weird but looks like it exists.

Chunder Nope I have not tried to hide it from family and friends. I told my mum on 12dpo after I had found out. We then told PIL and SIL at 5+6 after the viability scan that was requested by Gp. I told my 2 best friends and boss(I was getting sick already and coming late to work) shortly after the scan too. All of these people were very supportive when I had a miscarriage so I wanted to be able to share the good news with them before things went wrong again. Last time I actually miscarried on the day we were meant to tell PIL; their wedding anniversary. Some ladies at work have caught me being sick and asked, I could not be bothered to lie so I was truthful.

My mum tries her best but she really has no idea. She says things "to help" but doesn't realise it's actually really hurtful. You know yourself when suffering with depression it's a miracle you get out of bed nevermind anything else, recently my house was a pig sty. I try my best but with a mastiff, a cat who had 6 kittens in October and three kids (2, 4, 6) and a house to run sometimes the house work has to wait! Well one day she came around and she said it was disgusting - it wasn't, it was untidy but it's always clean germ-wise! And "it stinks of cat shit!" Well what do you expect with SIX kittens she really upset me and then she tried to blame it on bereavement (my nan, her mum died in June) but she's always saying things like it. Such as "your wedding photos will look ridiculous as there won't be hardly anyone there" and that was 5 years ago. I wouldn't put it past her to tell me to get rid of this baby and if she did I swear I would never ever talk to her again, that just isn't an option, ever.

Mothers eh? Who'd have 'em?!

I'm in the opposite situation. My mum died 6 years ago, she was 49 and I was 23, so really missing not having her here for this. I feel like this is one of the things that I really need her for... Still... I got through my wedding last year ok so I'm sure I will be fine. Just feel like this is one of the things that I really need her here for. I have my sister to help me, She already has 2 children so she's done it all before.

Thanks luci, not and chunder!
Not: I like looking at other people's scan pics too! Weirdly on my own I couldn't work out what was head or body if it hadn't been pointed out to me!
Not & luci, You've both still got strong symptoms then... my nausea disappeared on Saturday as fast as it came on! I had been willing it back until the scan today!
I'm slowly getting appetite back too which is great as going out for xmas meal with work on Saturday.
RE telling people, all my friends and family know as like you luci would want there support if anything went wrong but I have also told 2 girls in my office as you tend to see the people you work with more than your dh and I think they would have guessed anyway! They'll be good to help me cover up the non drinking on Saturday though!

Luci I'm sorry. Sounds like your sister will be great support though. :)

My mum was great about my 1st pregnancy (although a bit disappointed because I was so young) and she adores my son but last year she told me if I had another baby she wouldn't love it and would never see it because I live too far away now and it would hurt her too much. She was not so kind and supportive when it came to my PND either, she enjoys winding me up and pushing me almost to breaking point sometimes but she was very good with my son and made sure he was loved and cared for when I was unable to do it properly. I know she will be worried about me getting sick again but I'm scared she will try to convince me to terminate which I absolutely do not want, though I'm sure she will feel like it's the best option for me. :(

But maybe this is just all my stress and fear talking and she will be nice about it all.

It's a good idea to confide in a work colleague if you can before the Xmas party. Last night we went to the bar and had left our bags in the private room we were eating in. I said I'd nip back and get my bank card and one of the girls said I'll get you a drink, I panicked but luckily someone who knows was at the bar so I just said oh he owes me a drink, can I have a vodka lime and soda pls, luckily he realised what I meant and didn't mind me forcing him to buy me a drink

Hey, at least non-alcholic drinks are cheap!

Sometimes the anticipation and woerry of things happening actually turns out to be worse than what the situation turns out to be. Fingers crossed you have a better time this time round, positive thoughts! 💪🏻

Families are definately difficult sometimes...

mamamarch how are things today?

fuzz how do I send you an email about joining the group, I'm using the MN app?

Awww lovely scan pic Rhodes!
Had my booking appointment- what a lot of paperwork! Scan appointment should arrive any day.
Got to have a glucose tolerance test at 20 weeks due to my mum having Type 1 diabetes.

It's all beginning to feel a bit real now!

Hope you're all doing well

I've been to the hospital today, had a internal scan that showed the pregnancy is only 5 weeks along but everything seems fine. I'm booked in again to have another on the 20th I've had some really weird discharge tonight though I will feel a lot better if I see a heart beat!

Mummycaitlin not sure you can send messages on the app, think you have to do it on the desktop version!

Morning ladies!

Off for my first midwife appointment today! Excited that it's finally here, booked it in 3-4 weeks ago as soon as I found out!

Still ridiculously nauseous, hopefully only another 5 or so weeks of that until I'm out of the first trimester. Was sick on Monday, but just the nausea since then.

Can't wait to get my scan appointments through to have a look at the little bean. Seeing all the pics appearing on here is making me a little jel (in a good way, as we've got all that to come!)

Hello, can I tentatively join here?

Of course cowagain (what a mad username to give yourself!), welcome.

How's the nausea for everyone? I'm finding a good night's sleep is the only thing that keeps it away, if I had a bad night sleep I'm in a shocking way the next day. Can barely function.

I'm also finding things like cous cous salad are good for lunches, sandwiches and bread make me horribly gassy.

Good news on your scan amarach, you must be relieved

Popular I was very nauseous yesterday but much better today. Good night's sleep definitely helps.

With regards to the bloat, I have worked out that if I don't have dinner or a small soup(like pho) then I sleep very well since the metabolism has slowed right down. For the last 2 weeks I have been having the main meal at lunch and then no dinner or a snack it things have greatly improved.

I'm currently keeping the nausea at bay with a Starbucks cheese and marmite panini - suddenly decided nothing else would do!

Off for a scan and harmony test this afternoon. Feeling really nervous for some reason

Good luck Seahawk - hope everything goes well!

I've got my midwife booking in appointment next week and the doctor gave me a pack full of stuff including lots of forms re. medical history which I assume I have to fill in before the appointment - anyone else had to do this??