Due in February 2017- Thread #10

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Hope you found it ok ladies!

Naschkatze

I have a history of large babies on my husband's side of the family so its been built into my care. My husband did a lot of damage to his mother's health.

Oh yes, sorry London I remember you saying now. It's good they're keeping an eye on things for you.

I was measuring large at my last midwife app so she sent me for a scan. Got to have them every 2 weeks now! They're at the Harris Birthright centre in London, the care is amazing but I wish I didn't have to have so many!
London they aren't sure why I've got the extra fluid, so they're just monitoring me for now. It can increase the chances of a cord prolapse during labour so as soon as I get a twinge, I have to go straight to the labour ward! Better safe than sorry, of course, but I had planned to stay at home using hypnobirthing techniques for as long as possible!

oh wow Frankier sorry it isn't working out how you expected but like they say, in the end the only thing that matters is safe baby and safe mum.

Eurrggghh. I miss the kicking. The 'I have no room' squirming is a really unpleasant sensation!

I've got a squirmer as well Fanella

Morning ladies!

Well today is my last day at work... forever with this company!! Not sure how I feel haha! Xx

Are you happy with the redundancy package shell?

Yeah london it's working out quite well! I get my redundancy, notice in leui and my holidays! I had planned on taking holidays until baby was due but changed that to mat leave so that I didn't get money taken off me! Just abit sad that I won't be going back if u know what I mean...

All fine now.. but got paranoid about baby's movements at 2 am, and called the hospital after trying drinking cold water, hot tea etc. They asked me to come in and monitored me for 45 minutes. Predictably, baby started moving as soon as the monitor went on. We got back shattered but at least relieved at 4 am. I feel slightly bad for having been paranoid, particularly since both DH and I have terribly busy days today, but glad I went in.
And as an aside the night midwife in the triage unit read my notes in detail for the first time and said they'd messed up my blood results so the only blood results I have are from June. So she drew more blood and is getting it tested now. So basically in the interim they'd have had no idea if my iron levels were low etc.
I'm normally such an assertive and confident person, I find I just seem to go mute when dealing with the midwives - I never know what blood results are expected or what's going on, and they always seem to fob me off saying all is fine (except how would you know if you've been putting my name in wrongly and haven't had any results back???). Sigh. I suppose I should be happy the night midwife realised this. (Although she also disappeared at about 3.30 am and my DH had to go hunting around the floor for someone else to come and unhook me from the monitor etc).

I keep telling myself that if anything was seriously wrong then everyone would change and step up, and it's only because things seem normal and I'm only 31 weeks that I'm getting ignored all the time. What do you ladies think?

Bisquick that's really horrible and not at all acceptable. I'd complain to the Trust and hopefully they can give you some advice and information that will allow you to be your normal assertive self! The NHS is so stretched at the moment that without being assertive things can fall through the cracks

I am really sore from pregnancy yoga yesterday which is unusual. It must be the extra weight finally catching up with my muscle strength.

I am soooo glad its Friday. This is the first weekend we haven't had any social engagements in forever. I've got plans tonight and the a dinner on Monday and then family over for Christmas from Wednesday and another get together with friends and family on Friday! Also I had a friend in town staying with us until yesterday.

I am relishing the idea of not seeing anyone besides DH for the entire weekend and resting up properly before the holiday madness starts

I'm just back from midwife measuring 34 weeks instead of 31! Although I'm tiny and don't look pregnant. She thinks my dates are wrong as I always thought I ovulated earlier. Still keeping my due date at 13/2 as she said anywhere between 36-42 in normal. She doesn't think the baby feels big so putting it down to dates

London how weird I did yoga last night and couldn't sleep due to an irritable back and today my body felt achy and awful! I did my own yoga dvd today which helped loads!

I know I've posted about this before but how are people dealing with unsolicited advice? I've mainly had it from people with no children and they are being quite pushy. I really need to develop a thicker skin! The thing is I tend to stew over it afterwards and go over it again and again in my head! My brother bought me something to help my pregnancy and I don't want to use it ( don't ask it's weird) he keeps asking me if I've used it and getting annoyed that I haven't. I know he's only trying to help but I feel uncomfortable with people overstepping the mark. I don't want to fall out with people or have a big confrontation. Any advice?

SBS I'd just politely tell your brother its not your bag, whatever it is. That might not be appropriate depending on your relationship and how think skinned he is. I wouldn't do this unless the person kept bringing it up but if you think its going to keep happening and its causing you stress just thank him for being so thoughtful and you really appreciate he is trying to help and be involved but its just not something you want to do.

I get a decent amount of unsolicited advice and if its not appropriate I just say, I don't think we'll need that or I'm not sure that's for me while acknowledging I get that might be a good choice for others. I hate taking baths so a water birth holds no appeal to me so every time someone brings it up, I just say I hate being submerged in water.

Hiya, been looking for this for a while! I'm 30+1 today, it's flown by, only feels like last week when I announced my pregnancy at 12 weeks lol I've given up on getting a full nights sleep now, I can count on one hand the number of times that I have slept six hours without waking up! Still got a bit to get, seems like there's still so much to do before he arrives!

Cat I know what you mean about the time flying.

I gave myself a deadline to finish my Birth Plan by 32 weeks which seemed ages away and has just snuck up on me!

I've just finished it and it take hours... I actually am not fixed about the birth I have which meant I explained what I'd like to see happen for a natural birth, what I'd like if I have to be induced, and what I'd like if a c-section becomes necessary. I know any of them at this stage are still a possibility!

London That sounds like a very sensible plan. I haven't thought about caesareans (because I'm burying my head in the sand) what kind of things have you put on your plan if it becomes necessary? If you don't mind me asking.

Nas nothing too detailed for the c-section plan but these are the main points:

• Skin to skin contact as soon as possible and definitely within the first 90 minutes
• Delayed cord clamping (4 minutes) assuming its safe to do so
• Yes to syntocinon injection post birth
• Yes to vitamin K injection for baby

In a c-section scenario sometimes the first two aren't automatically offered but usually can be accommodated. The skin to skin contact is meant to really help with breast feeding (if you want to do that) so I want everyone to be aware its something important to us if a c-section becomes necessary.

Thank you. I assumed that skin to skin was pretty much standard now and would just happen! Oh dear, still so much to think about.

Honestly my birth plan is pretty simple for all 3 scenarios.

I have a preference for which induction drug I'm given if necessary (oral misoprostol ) and I've also asked not to be offered drugs but listed the ones I'd like to use if I change my mind and decide I need pain relief.

My preferred opiate is Remifentanili because its metabolized in 5 minutes so the risk the baby will be drowsy at birth is virtually zero. You have to constantly top it up in a way that's similar to gas and air.

Also, I'd like a warm compress applied to the perineum during the pushing phase of labor as its been shown to significantly reduce both pain and the risk of tearing.

Beyond that, its really just, keep me and baby safe. I'm sure once I do NCT, I might update it based on new info I learn.

You sound like you've done a lot of research London. I think I need to get on it! I know my ideal scenario but so far I've not thought about if it doesn't go to plan.. I'm avoiding thinking about it. You're so much better prepared.

Has anyone had a private third trimester scan? I'm not entitled to any growth scans until 36 weeks and am only just 30. I'm considering booking one as I've read problems with placenta/growth etc can be picked up and prevent more serious issues.

Not so prepared!

I have read both Bumpology and Expecting Better though which gave me a general idea of the different options so that I could know what to look into when it finally came time to write my birth plan.

I'm trying not to get too fixated on the things that are out of my control as birth can be unpredictable! Most of the people I know though managed to have exactly the births they wanted though so its entirely possible.

Hi ladies.. new to this & would love to join the discussions. I'm 31 weeks tomorrow & mostly enjoying my 1st pregnancy. The most stressful part so far is choosing a name!! Would like to be part of the Facebook group so please add me when you have time! Thanksss.. K xx