May 2017 #4

[WishIWasSleeping]

Oh, obviously I do know how!

Yes - boy ! Then woke DH up at 4am crying saying 'I wanted a girl' ! ha

Lovely news lullaby. Little girls are fabulous.

Just as little boys are adventure!

Thanks Esmes - I'm getting used to the idea !

Bright what work do you do that disallows hypnotherapy?!

I'm a bit sceptical about hypnobirthing but everyone seems so positive about it that I'm quite keen to give it a try. I'm keeping my eye out for classes near me in the new year.

When is this tiredness supposed to go? I had to go and lie down this afternoon as I was so exhausted. I'm sure it's meant to have passed now!

adventure do you know what it is that made you want a girl so much? I always thought (before I was pregnant) I would be desperate for a girl. My best friend had a boy last March, and he is just the most curious, beautiful, funny little human! (and he wears the best clothes!). After that I sort of changed my mind and wasn't too fussed.

She always wanted a little girl, and initially felt really odd when she found out at 20w scan she was having a boy. She's now pregnant again, and secretly hoping for another boy!

Savage, I don't want to go into details on a public open forum, but its very secure, top secret type stuff, requiring the highest level of referencing possible.

Is anyone planning on having just the 1 baby? My DH is older than me (only 12 year) but doesn't want to have any passed 40, plus he has a pretty nasty life reducing illness. Also, I just think we could give 1 child so much more, financially and emotionally. But then I know how much more rounded 2 can be, how I don't want a spoilt child who cant share. I would love one of each and if that was guaranteed I would go for it. I also love my house just how it is. Its a beautiful large old cottage with 2 bedrooms. An extension would really take away from its beauty (I know very first world)

Sipper I think it's just cos I was one of 2 girls and I feel like I know what to do with one but nice to hear about your friend and her little boy.

Brightsmoke we are definitely only having one. I am 39 and DH 44. I also have a medical condition and I've always said I'm only doing this once. I know what you mean about 2 being rounded and they learn to share but I'm determined to go to lots of groups and mix with friends kids a lot, maybe even holiday with friends. Also if they go to nursery even for one day a week I think it helps them interact with other children. Also there's 4 years between me and my sister so she did ok until I came along and must have learnt to share by the age of 4 ! Do I sound like I'm convincing myself ? Hahaha

Bright you realise you've got us all frantically guessing what you do now

I've always wanted more than 1, but not more than 2 - I feel that you shouldn't have more children than hands! I was one of 2 but my DH is an only child. I don't think it's fair to just have 1 I think they miss out on too much. My DH says he always missed someone else to blame or conspire with....

It's a really complicated question and everyone is different and I think being pregnant makes you question everything you thought you knew before!!

How are everyone's cravings?

I've just realised I've been eating a jar of sauerkraut a day most days in the past few weeks. I don't seem to be able to stop (to my DP's dismay, he hates the smell). I've been getting the nice unpasteurised stuff from the local organic shop but at £5 a jar I think I'll have to start pickling myself.

Still on satsumas imyourwoman not really anything else.... I don't seem to need 3 breakfasts anymore though so I guess that's an improvement!!

adventure I'm having a boy too and felt the same as you...I wanted a girl! Getting used to the idea now.I'm one of two girls as well and just imagined my dd having a sister. But she is having a brother and I am delighted to be having a new healthy addition to our family!

Ah Sonnet good to know I'm not mad ! I did buy some cute baby dungarees from White Company to make me feel better !

jonsnow I still feel sick most of the day, and the hunger and cravings hit pretty swiftly and don't last long so hard to satisfy, but I'm so suggestible it's hilarious. I wrote a text earlier, saw the tempura prawn emoji, and started to obsess...
Mine are mostly fish related overall though (discounting cheese puffs). Pickled herring, smoked salmon, kippers, and tuna mayo have all had their run!
Oh and cheese. I'm very big on cheese. Guess my username makes sense now.

bright I'm only attempting one. I really hope this one sticks as I think I would struggle to try again if anything goes wrong this late. But I feel at 40 anything could happen at anytime...all I hear is there's no safe zone for my age. I don't think I'll be able to relax until at least 6 months, if the 20 weeks scan goes ok.
I didn't intentionally leave it this late, it's just how life worked out, but the anxiety I'm experiencing as a result of the increased risks has made me think a lot about the path of life and how earlier might have been easier. Who knows though. We can't always control these things after all.

My DP would like more than one but even he's been shocked at how incapacitated I've been, so I think we both just want to get through this with the best outcome possible.
I'd be thrilled to have one happy healthy boy : )

I've not got any extreme cravings although I have been eating lots of cheese and pickle sandwiches I have two breakfasts and two lunches sometimes! I haven't been eating as much chocolate as I did pre-pregnancy so haven't really put on much weight yet.

Nausea finally starting to bugger off now but weirdly I keep retching all the time with the weirdest triggers - e.g. other day I overheard the words "sour milk" and that made me retch, it's strange because the nausea has got a lot better and this has suddenly started.

I'm one of three, always felt like someone was left out (usually me as there was a larger age gap between me and the other two). My mum was an only child and wanted a big family hence having three. She always gets really annoyed at the spoilt stereotype though. Basically pros and cons to whatever you choose I think so I wouldn't over think it. Currently think I want two but haven't had the first yet so I will reserve judgement - my grandmother said that was why she had an only!!

Apparently "gender disappointment" is a real thing and many people "suffer" from it. I totally understand it. I feel I've kinda lost the family picture I had in my mind and need to replace it with a new one. Yes, I'm only losing a picture or an image but it's something I've imagined for a long time. I know some people will find this hard to understand. I am delighted at having a healthy boy but definitely sad to lose something that I wanted for so long. Once our little boys are here adventure we will be beyond happy that we will not even remember feeling like this!

I feel in a panic about it yet at the same time grateful that he's healthy and still in there after previous mc. It's a strange roller coaster of emotions !

brightsmoke how are you planning on juggling a newborn and the animals? Im panicking a bit how I'm going to do it all - especially the early weeks.

I know they discount movement at this point but I've been feeling this little one non stop since 16 weeks, now 18+3 and not felt anything for two days

Sonnet and adventure I totally get it. I would honestly have felt quite lost if I were having a girl, despite how great either would inevitably be, etc. My rational being I'd rather have a mini him than a mini me - I was a nightmare! I hope you're able to rebuild your images and regain the excitement soon. I'll share any good boy stuff I see (when I finally relax and start shopping!).
P.s The dungarees sound great ; )

Thanks mighty - I was a nightmare child too so maybe you have a point there ! DH according to his mum (obviously) was an angel ?! Hahaha

Oh I really sympathise adventure I had an idea I wanted DC1 to be a girl and was a bit underwhelmed when i found out he was a boy. It honestly didn't matter once I got used to the idea and he's now a gorgeous, hilarious little bundle of energy. Once he was born he was instantly familiar and there was a "oh it's you!" recognition once I saw him. I feel slightly guilty being happy that DC2 is a girl because he is so great but having one of each will hopefully be lovely. If you're only having one though I understand it's a bit different. There are some lovely boys clothes now, I love a dungaree and a romper on a little lad.

I was watching Gogglebox with DH the other night and when they covered I'm a Celebrity contestants chewing fish eyeballs I did a loud retch and he was horrified Tiredness not showing any sign of going here although I have managed to resist napping all week!