Thread 13. TTC #1 Grads. Some of us still remember that thing called "a full nights sleep" for most, it's a mere memory.

[AudreyBradshaw]

Behold, the wonder of birth! Members from 6 weeks bfp to post-partum wonder Mamas! No question to grotty or minging.

We've come full circle from obsessing about cervical mucus to now obsessing if it's our vagina baby plug going! What larks!

Lots of talk about poo, ours and now babies too! Baby brain is REAL! From morning sickness in the first trimester to the third trimester struggle of getting out of bed ( "walrus-ing"in our house), to actual real babies who are growing so fast! Discussion on the merits of sleepyhead and Ewan the dream sheep.

Sooo many gorgeous babies now! And equally lovely Mummy's! We are amazing! What a year! Can you believe it's been a year since our first tentative TTC thread!? Look how far we've come!

Roll up, literally, in my case, cause I'm practically rotund! for TTC #1 Grads!

Nev I'm exactly the same. Not felt this sick in a long time! Hope you get better soon, I've been living off hot lemon and honey drinks for the last few days.

So Autumn is usually a really good baby and sleeps 11-3 and 4-8, but last night she was screaming until 2am! We tried everything to get her to sleep. I think she had bad wind but all she wanted was the boob! In the end I fed her for the 290th time of the day and she fell asleep next to me in the bed until now. She must've exhausted herself from all the crying so she slept 6 hours straight.
Anyone else have a hysterical baby that just wants food? Is it a growth spurt or colic?! I felt so bad seeing her so upset and not being able to do anything

Indi its awful isn't it! This is the first time I have been glad I couldn't get Bodhi to take the boob and he is on bottles as I am mainlining beechams decongestant sprays the whole lot. And his Dad has done everything for him overnight! Poor little lad has a snuffly nose too today but seems quite happy. How old is Autumn? Bodhi had growth spurts at 4 and 6 weeks where he was fussy and wanted food constantly. I call them his auditions for the part of Oliver phases haha.

She's 3 weeks on Wednesday nev. Last night was horrendous, usually she settles pretty easily but she was screeching the house down. We managed to get her down at 12 but then she woke again at 12.45 until 2am when she finally slept. HV comes today so maybe she'll tell me what's wrong with the little bugger. Btw I'm very jealous of the beechams, I've been dying for a lemsip for days but BF won't allow it

Thanks for the new thread, though still catching up on the old one!
Marmite, 31 and 15+3, beginning to realise this is actually happening (well, sometimes!) with the appearance of an actual little bump!!
There are so many mummies on this thread now!

Congratulations on the early scan Moose! So amazing seeing tiny wee heartbeat and realising there is actually something there!! You're growing a tiny human!! You'll be on countdown to 12 week scan now!

What a gorgeous looking bump Audrey and loving the organisation! I'm going to start taking a bump picture every week/fortnight I think.

I think I'm about to have a rapid growth spurt maybe, the round ligament stretching pain has kicked up a gear!

Thanks all for the pillow recommendations and insight! I was looking at the dream genie Lisa but think that's a very good point - I'm already getting up in the night to pee quite a lot so it would probably really piss me off eventually! Think I will go for something simpler! That groupon links good thanks Feefs

Fingers crossed things get moving soon for you Lillian

Nev and Indi hope you both feel better soon, there seems to be so much going around at the moment.

Glad you got a response from Costa Potato and hope you weren't too traumatised by crazy AIBU people!

We had a lovely weekend with my mum and dad down. Me and mum popped off to John Lewis for tea and cake and a bit of a nosey. They didn't have any maternity clothes in store though which was annoying but we did have a very early wee nosey around the baby section! Haven't looked at anything at all yet so that was quite exciting! I was like ooh that's such and such that they were all talking about on MN! I really wish my mum didn't live so far away though . Especially when inlaws showing zero interest just beginning to feel like I'm going to have very little support network down here. I've heard next to nothing from either SiL or from MiL since we told them. The only time I hear from them is when I get in touch first but even then it's quite cursory. I always thought at least when I'm pregnant they might speak to me a bit more/something to bond over, especially with SiL who already has 2 kids but I think
I was being a bit optimistic. I just want to be their friend!! Ah well, I guess no point getting upset over things you can't change... easier said than done though!

Fishy
28
10+3
Due 19th May

Sorry can't remember who asked about sickness meds anymore! I'm not asking for more as it's manageable and normal now, think I'd feel like a bit of a wimp otherwise!

Yay on the heartbeat Moose, very exciting!

Sorry to hear about your in-laws Marmite. I'm not close with mine either but that doesn't bother me. I think it'd be worse if they suddenly did want to be more involved!

When do you finish Elle?

Hope the sweep works Lillian.

Poor you nev and indi! Hope you feel better soon.

Checking in.
First 39+1 today with first baby..... playing the waiting game!

Cosmo - thanks for the info on Boots, didn't even realise they did baby clothes.

We won't get too many - advice on how many welcome - but don't want to wind up with just plain white baby gros.

Potato - thanks for the support regarding the emotional side of this. Your description of everyone telling me how I should be feeling and me having no idea how I'm feeling is completely accurate!

Marmite - we have no family locally either and most of my friends are workmates so I'm also a bit daunted about "doing this alone". I'm also quite shy.

May, 35 and 29+4 with our little girlie. 30 weeks on Thursday, which is pretty scary to have come around already!

I'm finding it hard to keep up at the moment; work is pretty hectic with loads of commuting and unpaid overtime. It's not easing up for a month or so, and I'm on the verge of crying all the time. Last week after a long day and a 6 hour commute I thought I was going into early labour which scared me to no end. Way to catch up with me, hormones.

Congratulations Lara! We're hoping for a home birth, and I hope my experience can be similar to yours. Hope you and baby are keeping well!

What a lovely bump Stardrey! I love a label maker, and am on the third roll of tape in mine. My dad had one when I was little, and I loved making labels for everything even then.

Great scan Moose! It's so lovely to see that little flickering heartbeat for the first time.

Marmite I'm pretty much on my own here, 2000 miles away from my family and familiar surroundings. We've decided OH is finally moving up here, and commuting the 90 miles to work. His family are nice enough, but definitely not my own. I don't think we'll see a lot of them. You'll find support; get yourself signed up for antenatal classes and groups. I've been a bit behind here, but am hoping to get out and be more social before baby makes an appearance. Hopefully your inlaws will change their tune as your pregnancy progresses and things seem a little more real?

So many good ideas on here. Ewan is hopefully our next purchase (Harrison really seems to be enjoying his Miley!) and I have a hot water bottle in waiting. The dehumidifier has been cleaned and is now ready and waiting - glad it's helped Arya Potato

Lilian I hope baby arrives soon!

Bunch Atticus is in double digits already? Time is absolutely flying by.

Sorry I've not done a great job catching up.. I'm ready for a grumpy nap. Hi to everyone I've missed!

Well Harrison is onto his 3rd hour of being wide awake. The latch, unlatch, scream game us not a lot of fun...

WARNING: selfish me me me post coming up.

I'll take this time to rant about useless OH AGAIN! He's off tomorrow so I expressed 2 lots of 3oz then at 8.30pm told him Harrison needed changed into a sleepsuit, nappy changed and fed when he woke up. I even left everything out he'd need so he wouldn't disturb me. At 10pm he brings in a wide awake, fully clothed, hungry baby with a dirty nappy, put him in his sleepy head and got into bed then of course I was woken up with the hunger cry and OH couldn't understand why I was pissed off. So as I was feeding him he asked if I wanted him to give him his bottle then came into the fucking nursery as I was changing him to 'help'. So I was pretty much and told him I'd speak to him in the morning about why I wasn't impressed at all. He woke up before with Harrison, rubbed his head 'to settle him' then went back over to sleep so now here we are downstairs and wide awake. I can't believe I have 2 children to look after. Jesus give me strength! I honestly can't believe how useless he is after the conversation we had to have last time.

Child has finally fallen asleep on my shoulder. Hopefully he will stay down and I can finally get some sleep.

Oh except I forgot that my child is the noisiest sleeper in the world after his first feed so actually this is me awake now until next feed. Yey.

Oh miley that sounds crap! Mine still isn't much better. He did one night feed last night as I am really quite poorly but had to sleep in till 1130 to make up for it and has done nothing with him tonight. Ive been up on and off since 1am with Bodhi and all he has done is wake up once to take paracetamol because he had a headache from tiredness and the baby crying. I am starting to have moments where I doubt my relationship now as so many things that didn't used to bother me or be an issue now irritate me beyond belief.

Indi how are you feeling today? I hope a lot better!!

Will catch up in a bit with everyone else what sounded like a volcanic eruption just came from Bodhis nappy

miley that sounds hideous and unfair mate, how come he didn't feed/change him? Just forgot? couldn't be arsed? It boggles my mind how some men can be so un-in-tune! I'd definitely be waking him up at next feed time and breathing fire telling him to look after his child properly.

Ridiculous comparison but Dh is the same with letting the dogs out. If it's cold/dark and they don't want to get out of their bed, he won't make them go outside, just goes "they don't need a wee babe" and shuts the door. I get up, make them get out of bed, send them outside and they both go and wee! I've tried explaining that I don't control their bladders, they clearly both needed a wee, and that by him not making them go outside then they will just wee on the floor inside and I'll have to clean it up, but he doesn't get it at all!

Dh is in work at 7am, I woke up at 4:18 am with backache and cramps. This baby better be engaging because it feels like it's headbutting me slowly and repeatedly in the gooch from within!

audrey sounds like baby is engaging. How exciting! Apparently Harrison was asleep but then somehow in the space of 25 seconds managed to become so wide awake and starving he started to hysterically cry

nev and indi how are you feeling today? Hope your illness buggers off soon!

Well, after turning my back on him and pretty much telling him I was going to kick his arse today for being so useless he took the 5am feed, put Harrison back to bed after changing him, took the dog out then tidied the house. I'm still going to kick his arse though because this is what he should be doing every day off he has! nev last night I felt exactly the same. I don't know if it's because I'm tired but I seriously was asking myself if I could cope with him being the way he is and laying it on thick to everyone about how much he does when people ask him. It boils me when people ask how Harrison sleeps etc and OH takes it upon himself to tell them he's up every hour and a half and we don't get much sleep. It also completely pisses me off when he huffs when we're ready to go out/are already out and Harrison needs fed so his plans are delayed he usually is the sweetest, most thoughtful guy ever, too, and he absolutely worships me and bubs, which is why I can't understand his lack of involvement.

My baby is getting big already filling out his sleepyhead and 0-3 month sleepsuits

Least we are in the useless OH camp together eh miley?! He took Bodhs downstairs at 7. I have just woken back up but am putting off going down as if he has done nothing I will struggle to bite my tongue. Bit better I think hard to tell when so knackered!

Sorry to hear your OHs are being so crap Miley and Nev. Hopefully they'll start improving soon once they can get it into their heads how much extra pressure they're putting on you.

You shouldn't have to keep spelling it out to them, but fingers crossed doing so works x

Miley - oh the rage! What was your OH like before baby? And yours, Nev? Need to know where to set my expectations

I'm not working today, DH is. Enjoying sitting alone in the quiet with a cuppa, shopping online for a coat (mine barely does up anymore, and I've another 2 months to go ).

Have you had a look at baby wearing coats jan if you're considering getting a sling at any point then I know they'd probably be better value /longevity than a maternity coat and would accommodate a bump and then later baby.

Sorry they're being shit nev and miley rip them a new one.

Dh keeps telling me I need to let go a bit, he's trialling it with taking the dogs out on his own I've never let him before I actually went for a walk when I wanted a lie down yesterday rather than letting him go in his own. So I've really got to let go a bit before baby arrives. My name is Stardrey and I'm a massive control freak.

My hand is still numb. 4 days now. It's properly weird. And dh is at work and I'm bored so I've zoflora'd everything. And hoovered, and I hate hoovering, so I know I'm bored,

Audrey - will have a look now. Haven't considered a sling but have considered a baby carrier that is suitable from birth (recommendations welcome?).

Just got a call from the doctors, thought I had a uti so I dropped a sample off last Friday. I have a strep B infection which means me/baby will need antibiotics at birth as well as now. Has anyone else had this/heard about it? Not sure if I should be freaked out or not!

Fishy - I don't know a great deal about strep and haven't been through it, but I did read something about it so know that it's pretty common to carry it. I think it's to do with risk of infection during birth so my understanding is that you get antibiotics during labour to avoid this. I think even without the antibiotics the chance of infection is small and so it's miniscule with them.

Ugh sorry OH is being so frustrating miley I think sometimes the repeated spelling it out is what it takes. Which is shit.

Checking in, canters, age 30 (it was my birthday yesterday!!), 36+3 with a squidgy little boy who perpetually has hiccups.

nev and miley, sorry your ohs are being so crap. I can't understand why someone would put a baby to bed in a dirty nappy, it makes no sense. Everyone says the first year of having a baby really tests your relationship and I guess this is why.

I'm feeling much better from a sickness point of view, and also had my growth scan yesterday- baby just above 10th centile by weight, but following his earlier growth curve nicely so looks like he's just little. So that's a huge relief.

fishy, don't panic about the group b strep, it's relatively common and the good news is they've found it. I believe in the US they test routinely for it by doing vaginal swabs but here it isn't screened for as standard.