April 2017 #5 - second trimester! Less feeling crap, more feeling kicks

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For all those lovelies expecting babies around April 2017

Thanks mrsbac just feel a bit shaken up and tearful which is silly! I don't have my notes with me at work so don't have the midwives number although I couldn't probably google the general number.
I guess as I'm seeing them this afternoon though and it wasn't a totally horrendous fall they'd probably just say wait til I go in later anyway?

Abe sorry I missed your post congrats!!

marmite that must have given you such a shock sure it will be fine to wait until the afternoon, you probably wouldn't get seen much earlier anyway, not if your hospital is anything like mine! I hope all is ok and enjoy your scan x

Marmite hope you are ok. If it helps I had a fall in my bottom about two weeks ago. Luckily there is plenty of padding and apparently it is quite common. I just kept a close eye on everything downstairs and rested. All was fine.

I mentioned the M&P event so I'm pleased someone has been. I'm going to one on Sunday. I doubt we'll buy anything on the day - DH will want to do endless research no doubt!!!

I think unless it's a hard fall and you hit your abdomen there is little risk. But good you already have an appoointment this afternoon so you can check.

I had my scan. Having another girl. Is it alright to be a little bit disappointed?

Jobrum - I think it's common, of course you will love baby all the same when she comes. Do you have 1 DD at the mo? Is it a case of wanting one of each?

Marmite - hope you're feeling ok and all goes well at scan. Don't rush in future! Pregnancy makes you clumsy!

I can't imagine a little girl lovelier than the one I have! Dh said I will love a second girl just as much and if I really want a boy we can try for #3! But third might be a girl, three girls! Three teenage girls! Too risky!

Marmite how was your scan?

Congrats abe on the scan and so exciting you know you're having a boy!

marmite hope you're ok! That must have been scary. Hope scan went well!

jobrum I can imagine it's disappointing when you want one of each and already have a girl! My OH is desperate for a boy and I know he will be disappointed if it's a girl!! Coming from a house of three girls... it was hard!! My poor dad surrounded by women!! Of course your little girl will be wonderful and it will be nice that your daughters can be close friends in the future

I'm still trying to hide my pregnancy from the kids at school... it's getting harder! I'm sure my bump grew in the night last night!!

I have had the runs since Sat. Put it down to new pregnancy vitamins but have started be I sick this evening. feeling horrid. would normally just tuck myself up in bed until I was better but worrying that it will be affecting bump. thoughts?

monkey could you call your gp? Mine ate great and a brief chat with a receptionist gets a call back from a doctor. I had an upset stomach for a few days a couple of weeks ago and it coincided with a bump growth spurt - I put it down to my intestines getting squished! Perhaps some rehydrating salts just so you don't start to feel dizzy might be good?

Hi all,

Thanks for your messages and reassurance! I waited til I went in for my 20 week scan in the afternoon, although I didn't realise I wouldn't see a MW then. The sonographer told me to ring the triage number (at a different hospital in the trust) and I spoke to someone there. They said as I hadn't fallen on or banged my bump and hadn't had any bleeding that I shouldn't need to go in for an Anti D injection but to just take it easy and call them if I did have any bleeding, so all seems to be fine, thank goodness! I think I mainly got a fright (and a bruised bum and grazed elbow!) will not be rushing down the stairs to avoid being late for work in future! Will just be late!

Scan went well, although I was a bit disappointed at how little I got to see as the screen was turned away from me the whole time, after reading about how some of you guys thought you did/didn't spot things on the screen at your scans! All well with baby though who was wriggling all over the place causing all sorts of problems as they tried to scan various bits, little monkey! We kept it a surprise so another team vanilla/team yellow here!

do you think you've got a bit of a bug Monkey? Sounds like you need to take it easy and drink plenty to avoid getting dehydrated. Are you off work I hope? Call the GP if you're worried too.

Congrats on your scan Jobrum i think it's totally understandable to feel a little disappointed but that feeling will of course pass when your gorgeous wee girl arrives!!

I think it may be that. sorry for Tmi but this pregnancy I seem to have gin through a couple of weeks of constipation followed by the runs. I'll get some salts and take it easy for a bit longer

Monkey try eating a banana or two if you still have the runs, as a IBS sufferer in the past this has often helped slow things down in my tummy.

The other thing I forgot to mention from 20 week scan is that I've got to go back for another scan at 32 weeks as currently part of the placenta is over the cervix, so they need to check if it's moved. Apparently it is quite common to move between 20 weeks and 32 weeks so we'll see. I guess it's another scan opportunity!

Hi All,

Congratulations on the scans! Sorry to hear you were a little disappointed jobrun. As others have said, it's totally understandable.

I've got my scan tomorrow. We're going to find out the sex and people keep asking me if I've got a preference. I really haven't got one. It's our first and it took us a year and a half to conceive and so I'm just happy to have a baby. People don't believe me when I say that.

Marmite - sorry to hear about your fall. I'm glad you're ok (bar the bruises) That must have been very scary! Take care of yourself and definitely no more rushing around!

Sorry to hear you're not feeling well Monkey. I hope you feel better soon.

I had what I think is braxton hicks last night. It was painful, which Dr Google says is unusual for 20 weeks. I had a sharp pain across the top of my bump and the whole bump went tight. It lasted about 2mins and then went. It was a different type of pain to the stretching pain I've had. Has anyone else had this yet? Do any of you second (or third or fourth...) timers think it was BH?

I had a look at lots of adorable newborn dresses and am feeling a bit better! A friend at work asked if we found out and I started to cry! I think I am more upset about not feeling 100% happy about it! So silly. I will have two beautiful girls. And all the pretty clothes packed away in the loft can get used again!

topkitty I could have sworn I had a bx a couple of nights ago but didn't really fet them with my first. I decided it was wind! But maybe they can start this early and its easier to notice second time?

Oh, I'm glad you're feeling better jobrum. Girls outfits are adorable!

My pain was high up, above my belly button and so I don't think it was wind. It was very weird. I guess time will tell....

Topkitty* I get that - DS was stillborn, and a surprising number of people are asking if we want another boy 'to have one of each'. I want a baby. An alive baby, who is healthy. I don't care what sex it is, my only consideration is that all of the tiny baby outfits in the loft are dresses!

I've had BHs for a few weeks. Had them all through both of the last pregnancies. Never painful (though it's worth noting I don't seem to feel desperately uncomfortable even during labour!), just tightening and a bit breathtaking. I was always told if they were painful or regular then they weren't BHs. Not sure how accurate that is, though.

Hope your bumps and bruises are recovering Marmite, glad you don't need an extra trip to the hospital for anti-D.

Congrats for those with healthy 20-week scans! Halfway :)

Sorry to hear that your DS was stillborn ChatEnOeuf. That must add another dimension of worry.

Can't believe we are all at the half-way point already!

Has anyone who already has a DC taken them to the scan? I would normally not want to but my childminder is pregnant too and also has a scan on the same day - she has offered to take him with her but it seems crazy for him to go to her scan and not mine!

I was an absolute bag of nerves at my last 20 week scan as we had some concerns raised at 12 weeks - I was sobbing in the waiting room (everything was fine, thankfully). This time everything has been going smoothly so far but the scan still feels like a serious event to me, not a family day out so the thought of taking DS is stressing me a bit.

Thank you, TopKitty, it certainly does.

I've not seen many children at scans Bubbins, though mine are always in fetal medicine - so we are a higher-risk group. I understand the anxiety - I was up half the night before mine this time around. I hate it when people only see it as an opportunity to check the sex. I could have taken DD, I've had bad news with her in the room before, and managed to keep it together. Good luck - when is yours?

Sorry chat you must think people like me are so insensitive. I can’t begin to imagine having to go through a stillbirth, let alone coping with everything afterwards.

A few months after I had dd I developed mild depression but quite bad anxiety and I’m worried that it’s returning. I’m growing a healthy girl (there was a worrying few minutes where it looked like there was a cleft lip) and I’m completely surprised by my negative feelings, I’ve actually had moments of being annoyed with the baby. I’m not quite sure who to speak to about it. All the migraines have really taken their toll and I’ve been able to get very little enjoyment from anything for the last couple of months and now I’m on tablets that are working but are taking away most of my evening as they send me to sleep. I don’t know how to talk to dh without everything just sounding like a complaint and I feel so sad that my wonderful dd is going to have to share our time, even though we always wanted more than one child. I have to make another doctors apt in a few weeks to check the medication and the doctor acknowledged my low mood so wanted me to go back to see how I’m feeling. I suppose I’ll just have to see how I feel in the next few weeks. I was so happy throughout my last pregnancy, I don’t really know how to deal with this.

Sorry, that's just a long, moaning post!

I have seen children when I've been to scans. I would be prepared with lots of snacks and distractions though. Perhaps ask at reception when you get there are any big delays so you can walk around outside for a while.

Jobrum - you know that antenatal depression is a thing just as much as postnatal, but barely ever mentioned. It could be that you need to seek some support for it.

Bubbins - I've taken DD to both my private scans and she will come to my 20 week one. DH will be there too and has been for the private ones, do you have any one going with you? I'd try and avoid taking her if I was on my own because she's 2 and won't sit still, but that's a rather invalid point if the alternative was to go to someone else's scan!

I can't imagine how difficult it must be for you chat

I had quite an anxious time of last pregnancy but ultimately it was all fine. I am much more chilled this time but the scans still worry me. I had to bite my tongue recently on a local facebook group who were complaining that our local hospital (a leading fetal medicine centre) no longer provide scan photos (they put up pictures on the screen for you to snap with a phone/camera instead), as if getting a photo was the whole point of the exercise.

Jobrum - I'm sorry to hear you're struggling. I do think you should mention this to your midwife/GP. They are there to help.

Of course, you can always come on here and offload. We wouldn't think you are moaning and would be happy to be your sounding board.
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We've been for our 20 week scan today. Thankfully all was as it should be, which is a relief.

We found out what we were having and I'm very excited to announce that we're team pink!