Due in February 2017 - thread #9

[twocatsandatoddler]

New thread - hope everyone finds this! I'll try and post the link in the old thread if it will let us go over 1,000 posts.

Ahhhh living the dream Kiki! I am not a morning person at all but no choice because my job only exists in London. Usually make up for it with mega-lie ins at the weekend but sadly that may soon be a thing of the past...!

Decorating the nursery and planning everything is so much fun isn't it? I really need to stop shopping now

Glad you are feeling less worried about the movements. Would be so nice to have one of those machines the midwives use to listen to the heartbeat so that we could do it whenever we wanted, to put our minds at rest.

Nice bump wiz

Fanella sorry about your delivery. I hope at least nothing was damaged!

I also can't wait for mat leave-- especially the couple of weeks before the baby is born and I can put me feet up and watch Netflix in peace. It might be the last time for the next twenty years when being off from work really means being able to relax without a baby / child to think about.

God, writing that makes it sound like I don't want kids I honestly do, but I also know I'm losing a certain amount of freedom and relaxation and that does make me a bit nervous!

One Kiki-- I'm finishing up the nursery this weekend as well. I'm really looking forward to it! It's already 80% done. I just need to hang the mobile and put up some posters and other decor to finish it all off.

One I switch between thinking it'll be lovely to have time with the boys and not work for a few years, and feeling terrified about how I'll cope with a baby and a toddler and no intellectual stimulation! We're undertaking a huge extension project next year (we might be nuts - extra mortgage while going down to one salary, and living in a building site with a newborn and a toddler) but at least I'll be able to occupy myself with choosing fixtures and fittings and project managing the build so I'm hoping that will be enough mental stimulation for me not to miss work too much.

London I completely get what you mean. It is hard to get your head around just how much life is about to change! Very exciting but daunting too. Just wish there was time to run off to a peaceful beach with palm trees for a couple of weeks between now and Feb but can't squeeze the time in.

Our nursery is nearly done too. Just waiting for the Ollie Ella chair I ordered to arrive so I can practice napping in it

And need to get a cute photo of our bunnies to blow up on a canvas for the wall. I thought why buy something random when we already have the cutest possible thing in the house!

Twocats that sounds like plenty to do! I bet you'll soon wonder how you ever had time to work...

Snap! I'm also up at six for an hour long commute to London. Mainly trying to avoid the rush hour by leaving so early but the trains are still packed!

Paying for childcare isn't a prospect I'm looking forward to. I was wondering if anyone has ever heard of a mums childcare club for this sort of thing? I was thinking of going back to work after a year for 4 days (either part time or condensed hours), and getting together with 4 other mums and each looking after five children one day a week doesn't sound so bad to me (although maybe I'm being naive about this). Anyone know if anyone has ever done something like this before?

One person looking after 5 young babies would lose their mind I think even if it was just one day a week!

I think a smaller group of just two or three mums (one ideally with an older child) could work though and potentially reduce costs for everyone a lot! Good luck

hibernating- nurseries and childminders have a max ratio of three kids to each adult for under 2s so I think 5 would be very ambitious!!

Hibernating a few years ago I volunteered in an orphanage over Christmas, in South America where they don't have the restrictions on ratios that Twocats mentioned, and I found myself looking after a group of 8 toddlers on my own some days. Admittedly I had no clue what I was doing but at that age a large group of them like that is mayhem!

I posted this on the FB page but just in case anyone was thinking of getting a Nuna Rebl or has one for an older child it's failed safety tests. I'm currently trying to get a refund for mine because it hasn't yet been recalled
www.which.co.uk/news/2016/10/first-i-size-child-car-seat-to-fail-which-tests-455155/

How Friendly that's shocking. I hope you get your refund as its a very expensive seat!

I see the problem with it has to do with the ISO-fix base breaking during a crash. Can the seat be used without the base and strapped in for a safer result if you can't return it?

Unfortunately it can't London as it's a fixed base. I bought it because it is an extended rear facing seat (up to 4) but it's actually the rear facing aspect that failed the test. I can have dd forward facing for now but I'm not happy with this as rear facing should be safer. I also don't want to drive anywhere over 30mph as it has been shown to be unsafe over this speed.
I have sought legal advice (my dad but they don't have to know this) and sent an email requesting a refund on the basis of the Consumer Rights Act 2016. I'm waiting for a response but hopefully this will be enough. In the meantime I'm trying to add to the media pressure to get Nuna to recall the seat.

Friendly did you make the purchase on a credit card? If so, they often offer insurance for faulty/ substandard products and may be able to force the company to refund you.

*2015
Annoyingly I used my debit card Oneiroi so I don't think I'm covered that way.

Aaaargh, how frustrating!

I'm now heading off to my maternity unit haven't felt my active boy move since yesterday, I'm worried sick and can't stop crying will update later

Oh Teabag I hope he is just sleepy and they put your mind at rest.

tea that was me yesterday. I didn't end up at the mat ward, but to be honest it was because of an extremely rude midwife who did nothing to reassure me - I ended up counting my own movements. It sounds like your maternity ward are a little more proactive and I hope all is well - let us know x

Friendly I think that legislation changed recently to give debit card purchasers the same protection as credit card.

Here's a bit of info. I've never used it but it's called the Chargeback system

www.money.co.uk/current-accounts/is-debit-card-protection-the-same-as-for-credit-cards.htm

Thanks for that Kiki. I'll go down that route if my very strongly worded email doesn't work.
Good luck tea. Mine has very active and then quiet days and moves most at night so I get the worry. Hope all is well.

That's rubbish kiki I think the fact I was crying my eyes out made them we me. Everything ok thank god he was in a weird position and
Starting kicking when she did the trace. Midwife recommended cold milk if juice didn't get him moving.
What a worrying time pregnancy is don't know if everyone feels the same or it's because I've had so many mmc. Roll on February

Glad it's all ok tea! I do feel the same as you - I had expected to just be fine after the 20 week scan but if anything I worry more now I can feel him! I was sniffling at the midwife on the phone but she told me to lie for 2 hours and call back if nothing - it's really difficult when you read things like the Kicks Count site, which advises not to delay seeking medical advice, but then the medical advice tells you to go away! I know 25 weeks is still basically limbo, and anything after 28 is when it all starts to count, but as an expecting mum to be - it counts to us!

She said, in fact, "you know all we'll do is listen in at this stage?" as if I was a nuisance and was somehow demanding more!

I cried so hard after the call, I scared the cat into the other room!

Glad its okay tea!

It is nerve wracking isn't it. Having had a miscarriage too, I know you just never stop worrying even though the odds of things going wrong at this stage are so extremely low. Part of me thinks being in a low state of panic is part of being a parent. I mean after they are born, we'll be worrying about SIDS, and after that development milestones / safety etc. I think my truly carefree days are over!

Kiki that MW response is WRONG. At 25 weeks a baby is viable outside the womb and if in significant life threatening distress would absolutely be delivered. My sister's twins were delivered at before 25 weeks and are now healthy 10 year olds.