Thread 12 TTC#1 Grads. "You are my favourite thing that ever shit all over my hands"

[AudreyBradshaw]

Behold, the wonder of birth! Members from 6 weeks bfp to post-partum wonder Mamas! No question to grotty or minging.

We've come full circle from obsessing about cervical mucus to now obsessing if it's our vagina baby plug going! What larks!

Lots of talk about poo, ours and now babies too! Baby brain is REAL! This heat can kiss my arse. And who KNEW being so neurotic about which changing mat to buy could be so satisfying and addictive!

Sooo many gorgeous babies now! And equally lovely Mummy's! We are amazing! What a year! Can you believe it's been a year since our first tentative TTC thread!? Look how far we've come!

Roll up, literally, in my case, cause I'm practically rotund! for TTC #1 Grads!

I've also been expressing on the side where my nipple is most sore to give it a rest but have heard good things about nipple shields. Hopefully nipples will be better if she stops feeding every hour!

Manchester baby show was lovely. Got a poddlepod, a breast pump and some nipple shields as, by my Mams reckoning "better to have them and not need them than be stuck bawling your eyes out at 3 am when you're in on your own and you've got cracked nipples"

My toddler singing group was awesome too, I held a 3 week old tiny baby, such a tinky tiny tot. 😊

All the mammies are doing so amazingly well, you're all such an inspiration.

Sosa at 4 weeks Alexa is probably going through a growth spurt which means constantly being hungry and grumpy but it only lasts a couple of days.

Lisa thanks re DSD she's still being very attention seeking and doing things like trying to steal attention when we're talking to her brother and texting her mum to say her dad doesn't want to spend time with her if he says no to anything.
I have worked out this evening though that when she asks to hold Arya when I leave the room it isn't because she didn't want me around, it's because her dad is giving Arya attention and she wants to divert it back to herself
It's a difficult one as I don't think it's about Arya, it's about anyone who diverts attention away from her and it's not something we can fix as her mum doesn't see it.

Not that I breast fed but I change then feed as at night she goes straight to sleep after a feed.

Lisa I feed change feed so he's had both boobs even though he feeds to sleep on the first, the change wakes him up then the second boob sends him back to sleep.

Breastfeeding ladies, have any of you had your first post birth period yet? If so, how long post birth did it take to arrive?

OH is currently snoring next to me whilst I try in vain to settle Evelyn, who is usually fast asleep by now but is fretting tonight. That's after I told OH he had to stay awake until she was asleep or I wouldn't be impressed Not too much to ask of him given I do all of the night feeds and changes during the week and it seems on weekends too. But no, he's snorting away

I sympathise pink i do all the baby care cleaning cooking housework monday to friday and all he has to do is let me sleep friday and saturday nights... who is the one being vomitted on for the 20 somethingth time today with a cranky antibiotic fuelled baby? Muggins here. I am actually too cross to even wake him as I know I will be vile to him.

I feed, change, feed too he usually screams enough during a change that he's hungry again. The boy hates being changed! I haven't had any nipper pain but I also had nipple Shields on standby.

audrey you will not regret the poddle pod. Harrison absolutely loves his! Glad you enjoyed the baby show.

indi and lisa your girls are amazing ❤ well done you two and glad you're getting on well.

pink and nev mine is the same. I do everything. He has done 3 10 hour shifts and is complaining that he's tired. Looks like I'm doing all the feeding, changing and settling again then. It annoys me that he'll say in the morning '"you should have woke me to help" like fuck off mate, all you'd do is whinge and get annoyed that Harrison won't go straight back to sleep and you'll have to actually put some effort in. I've done nearly 4 weeks of 24 hour shifts you dick he better do the housework tomorrow or I think I will actually blow at him. He started off so well, too - desperate for me to express so he could feed. I've just had to throw 4oz of milk down the bastard sink because he didn't get up to do any feeds.

Anyone else's child scream like a wild animal in their sleep?! The noise he makes is terrifying.

Not in the pregsomnia gang anymore, now in the night feed gang

My DH has been good so far but it's only night 2 at home and I'm not very mobile so he has to wake up to help me sit up and pick Autumn up etc. Sorry your Dh's are being lazy sods, they need a massive kick up the arse by the sounds of things.

Autumn has been fussier tonight, she's feeding well but then I go to put her down and she starts getting upset, for no reason it seems. I don't know if it's because my milk may be coming in as the midwife said babies can get fussier then?! Who knows..hopefully after this feed she settles.
So do you change their bums every time they feed even if not wet? I've just been changing when her nappy is wet/dirty?

Also random question but what baby apps are you using? I kind of miss my ovia and pregnancy+ apps in a sad way..

Glad you had a good time at the baby show Audrey.

Lisa I'm on night 2 and my nipples are very sore when she latches, I'm going to try the frozen cabbage leaves from tomorrow.

Oh so this is fun....Autumn has been asleep since her feed like a little angel and I'm the one who has been lying here awake for hours!

Oh no indi that must be frustrating! I am using the fact I am up yet again while Bodhi thrashes around half asleep on my chest trying to force a big poo out (the baby that is not me) to watch the Hayley Paige Spring 2017 launch from New York. I have fallen in love with her as a wedding dress designer and have one particular dress I can't get out my head- I am afraid to go try it on at her London trunk show because if I like it as much on I am screwed at finding anything else in a reasonable budget

Welcome to the night feed joys indi! Hope you managed to get some sleep.

I've been up feeding since 4am. I put Evelyn back down to sleep at about 5.30am, got into bed and OH wanted snuggles. I've been up two hours, I just wanted to be left alone to sleep goddammit Then when baby woke up again, he just snuggled back under the duvet, all cosy and warm

Before baby arrived we'd discussed OH doing the last feed before bed (she has a bottle before bed), and I would then breastfeed during the night. OH often gives that last night feed before bed, but can never seem to settle Evelyn so I end up staying awake until she's finished and then it's me who gets her off to sleep.

I honestly don't think men have any idea of how exhausting it is looking after a baby all day and then being up with them multiple times in the night. They seem to think that a day at work is more tiring, but I'm not convinced that's the case.

nev, have you ever seen Say Yes to the Dress?! The main rule - don't try on dresses which are over your budget, otherwise you'll fall in love with one and then you'll be screwed!! What style dress do you think you want? When is your wedding?

Amazing news on the c section date canters! Not too long now!

Pink yes I secretly love that and I found the gown. Can watch something borrowed too at a push haha. I know my parents are buying the dress and we have discussed budget and they have told me there isn't one but I still feel it is too expensive. Wedding is next August in Mauritius. This is the dress I am lusting after!

nev 😍😍😍😍😍😍 that's beautiful

indi seems like autumn has it cracked already! I still use ovia, I just pressed the button that said 'report birth' or something and it converted to a new baby type apo

That's beautiful nev, and looks like it would be perfect for a wedding abroad!

I also watch I Found the Gown sometimes, and Something Borrowed

Nev that dress is gorgeous!!

Miley I don't know if she has cracked it as of yet. After I wrote on here she slept til 4ish and then was on and off feeding until around 5.30ish. At one point I fell asleep with her on my boob and when I checked the time it had been an hour!
She then wouldn't settle back in her sleepyhead and ended up sleeping on DH for a couple of hours. Then had to change her pooey bum and then she wouldn't settle except for on me I feel like she's in a clingy mood today...
I've had around 3/4 hours sleep but wish I'd been able to get some more. I'll try to nap later.

Also why does no one tell you about these bastard period pains after birth?! I knew I may feel some sort of discomfort when my uterus was going back down but Christ they are painful!!

Pink I agree I don't think men understand the full extent of what we have to do. I'm still so new to it and I don't think I realised either tbh!
My DH has been fine so far but keeps saying he feels bad that he can sleep and I need to be up and feed. I can't really do anything about that, I wish he had the tits though! I do wake him for nappy changes if I need to so that's an ok consolation

Oooh it's my due date today. Think I'll celebrate by expressing off 3oz so I can have a nap later if any breast feeding mamas are going to/are already expressing can I recommend the Lasinoh mOmma bottles?! They're amazing. Harrison struggles with the bottle and milk goes everywhere with Tommy Tippee etc but these ones are fab - no leaking milk at all.

Oh indi it's awful isn't it! I passed an enormous blood clot apparently wasn't that enormous at all and nearly passed put when I saw it. The joys of childbirth eh

Well, after doing everything during the night, all today and for the past almost 4 weeks, I ended up hoovering one handed whilst holding Harrison while OH played on his fucking phone and watched football. I've told him we don't get 'days off' now we're parents and have shamed him into loading the dishwasher. I'm fuming with him. Think the novelty of a new baby has worn off already he's useless. Won't even change a shitty nappy on his own cause apparently he needs my help? So I end up doing all changes as well because it's easier... sigh.

Miley grrrr bloody men! You are so not alone with the useless OH. Mine has been passive agressive washing up today and put a load of washing away because "you obviously cant cope doing weekday jobs"

Day 3 post birth hormones have hit.
Feeling really emotional and I thjnk Autumn is over tired as she's screaming for the boob but not taking it. I've just wrapped her up and put her in bed next to me and she's fallen asleep, hopefully that will cheer her up.

This may sound really stupid but I feel guilty that she isn't a big baby..me and DH are really tall (I'm just under 5'10 and he's 6'4) and we were both pretty big babies, 8 and 1/2lb and 10lb. I just assumed my baby would be big too even though I didn't have a big bump. Everyone keeps commenting how little she is, even though she's apparently quite long, plus the MW came today and she's lost about 8/9oz so is down to around 6 and 1/2lbs, MW said that's fine and she looks healthy etc but it's just horrible knowing that she's lost weight, even though I know they all do. Also because I thought she'd be big we hardly have any newborn clothes for her and no 'going out' clothes just cheap sleepsuits that DH had to run out and buy the other day.
I feel guilty because I was so active through pregnancy and ate healthily 90% of the time, because in some ways I was being vain that I didn't want to get big, but in doing that I feel I have made her smaller. DH and my mum have reassured me she's perfect but I just feel shit.

Sorry, I sound mental I know but just having a shitty hormonal day and needed to vent. I've had a good cry, hopefully I'll feel better tomorrow.

Miley/nev bloody men

Gorgeous dress nev! That will be perfect for a wedding abroad.

Congratulations on getting a dress pink how exciting!

Also a huge fan of Say Yes to the Dress here

Ah indi I remember day 3 hormones well. Sit tight, it's shit but it passes! I also had a pretty small baby unexpectedly and she's only just into newborn stuff (she's been wearing tiny baby stuff so far ) but on the plus side it means she gets to wear all the lovely newborn stuff for longer

Sorry people are struggling with their OHs. I don't think anyone realises how hard it is being at home all day on your own doing everything for your baby. I have to say my DH has been really good, I'm expressing as we speak so he can do a night feed tonight so I get a lie in. I do it all during the week which is fine because he has to go to work but nice to share it at the weekend more.

Just been out for a pub lunch the 3 of us and my best friend who lives abroad is back this weekend so she's coming to visit tonight / tomorrow so can't wait to see her.

Nev that dress is amazing. If it's out of your budget definitely don't try it on just in case it is perfect or dig deep and find the cash. I had a favourite dress I'd seen on line (in budget) but when I put it on it looked like a dogs dinner on me.

Indi your baby is perfect. Smaller end but not abnormally small and nothing you did would have made her that way. You did everything the model pregnant mother could do to have a healthy baby and pregnancy. I couldn't manage anything like how you have. The thought of being on a spin bike right now makes me want to vomit and all I've done is eat crap for the last 9 months.

I have been making it very clear to DH that there will be none of this 'I can't change his nappy'. I have a friend who's OH didn't change a single nappy and there is absolutely no way that that is happening here. DH's manflu seems to be getting better but I've now got a full on cold with a horrific cough. Pelvic floor is getting a good work out.

Miley Arya screams sometimes in her sleep too, although, it sounds more like a loud screechy bark usually. She will also sometimes start properly loud crying in her sleep, lasts for about 30 seconds then she's back to sleep.

Sorry your OH is being useless. Mine doesn't do nappies either. I'm sure he would if he had to but only in an emergency

Indi I've never actually checked Arya's bum before a feed and found it dry she could wee for England!

I use baby+ and I'm still using Ovia

Regarding baby size, I did sod all during pregnancy and lived on cake and chocolate and Arya was still only 6lb12oz so it's definitely nothing you've done. Don't worry she'll put on weight eventually.

Nev have you thought about getting a seamstress to run up a dress similar to the one you want? It looks to be a pretty simple pattern.

Soda yay to being off antibiotics. It sounds like your LO might be going through a growth spurt. Arya was just like that when she had hers.

So, I've had a rubbish day. OH isn't very happy which has made things tens and DSD has been texting tales and garbled truths to her mum causing trouble and several arguments over who said what. it's been a nightmare. I hate to say it but I'm starting to find her visits very trying as they nearly always end in stress and I feel so guilty even saying that.

Thanks bunch hoping it disappears quickly afterwards. Had to take the crutches the definitely help but it's shite. Hard when people stare at you and everyone in work on Friday was " are you sure you should be here?!?" They've said I can try on the crutches but if too hard to get signed off and mat leave would have to start at 36 weeks, was going to start at 37 anyway so that parts not so bad hoping I can get as far as possible with the crutches.

Autumn is gorgeous indi. She's a perfect size indi try not to worry she will catch up! You won't have caused her to be small baby will take all the nutrients they need from you even if it comes out of breaking down your muscles or bones!

Dress sounds lovely pink as does the wedding plans!

Love Quinn's little outfit Lisa!

Delighted for you canters so exciting to know the date!!

That's so cute she's laughing now potato!!

Bodhi sounds so brave nev hope your getting some peace of mind now.

Glad you had a good time at the show Audrey.

Oh God. He's insisting on doing the painting and decorating, and is making tea. That sounds lovely, but he's already put chilli in tea, which I'm allergic to. The steak will have been cooking for 50 (yes 50 minutes) by the time the veg is done, which means the veg won't be cooked. And then he's going to get pissy when I won't eat it. And the painting is going to be awful. But he "knows is what he's doing" YOU REALLY FUCKING DONT YOU STUPID MAN! Àaaaaargh! And now the fucking meal plan for the week is fucked because he's decided to use half of this shit, half of that shit and fuck when there's nothing left by Tuesday! I'm silently seething.

50 minutes audrey?!! It'll be so tough you won't be able to eat it