April 2017 #3 - looking forward to first scans and the second trimester!

[Celen]

The third thread for all those due around April 2017

Apologies to anyone who I've missed off the list x

Esker, due 29 March, dc#1
Smiles01, due 29th March, dc#1 (5th pregnancy).
IrnBruFan, due 30 March (expected to change to April)
Needtoloseastone, due 30th March, dc#5
Bellatrixandstrange, due 1st April, dc#1
MummaFB, due 1 April, dc#1
Gemsbok, due 1 April, dc#2
MonkeyArms, due 1 April, dc#1
Celen, due 2 April, dc#2
Mummymulb16, due 3rd April, dc#2
StillaChocoholic, due 3rd April, dc#2
SummerSkittles91, due 3rd April, dc#1
Strubo, due 4th April, dc#3
AnnaKateNZ, due 4 April, dc#1
Ilovegbbo, due 4 April, dc#2
LotsaTuddles, due 6th April, dc#3 (pregnancy 6)
Sniffysnifferson, due 7th April, dc#?
Littlespoon, due 8th April, dc#2
Midrog, due 9th April, dc#1
MrsRhubarb, 9th April, dc#2
Naranciata, due 10th April, dc#1
Cazbg, due 10 April, dc#2
MyGreenSofa, due 11th April, dc#2
Everdene, due 11th April, dc#1
Finova, due 11th April, dc#3
WindyTriller, due 12 April, dc#2
TopKittyKat, due 13 April, dc#1
Mamato1, due 13th April, dc#2
katemarob17, due 14th April, dc#1
Allaboutthecake13, due 14 April, dc#2
Puggleface, due 14 April, dc#2
Prive120, due 15 April, dc#1
Helbelle75, due 15 April, dc1 (pregnancy 2)
cantmakeme, due 15 April, dc#2
Choccybiscuit due 15th April dc#3
Marmitecheesetoast, due 16th April, dc#1
Jennywren15, due 16th April, dc#2
Hayls17, due 17 April, dc#1
MummySN, due 17 April, dc#?
MumiTravels, due 22 April, dc#2
Bubbinsmakesthree, due 18 April, dc#2
Dandelionrarrrrr, due 18th April, dc#2
Autumnsunshinebaby, due 18th April, dc#2
DeepFriedCamembert, due 20 April, dc#2
Jpeg28, due 21st April, dc#1 (2nd pregnancy)
Jobrum, due 21st April, dc#2
Theknittinggorilla, due 22 April, dc#3
RaRa25, due 22 April, dc#2
Superbabywright, due 22 April
Welsh due 22 April dc#1
SharkBastard, due 23 April, dc#2
Onecrazycook, due 23rd April, dc#1
mrsbobflob, due 23 April, dc#2
Ecofreckle, due 24 April, dc#2
Hummingbird100, due 25 April, dc#2
sarahhh1984, due 25 April dc#1
IAmALionTamer, due 26 April, dc#2
Number4OnTheWay, due 27 April, dc#4
Niks2026, due 28 April, dc#3
Wherethefuckisthefuckingtuna, due 30th Apr, dc#2

Is it just a reassurance scan number4 or is it to check something particular? If it's not for a specific reason I'd try to move it - you can always have a scan another time, but you can't reschedule the assembly.

Its a reassurance scan, but they wouldn't give it to me initially, my midwife had to arrange it specially today. I I can't rearrange it for later tomorrow it will have to be on Monday and I don't want to wait that long :( gah. I hate choosing between children. It starts even before they are born.

It's a tricky one number4. I hate missing assemblies but sometimes you have too :(

I've decided against any scan until the 12 week one. I'm remaining realistic and trying not to get my hopes up! I have all the symptoms and no concerns currently so just taking it day by day!

Had to run home from collecting my daughter to have a bit of a puke in the loo. Had a ginger tea and don't feel much better. Half an hour till my worst wave comes!

Tough one, Number4. Can you just show your face to DDs at the start of the assembly and then hot-foot it to the hospital? Pathetic compromises are my speciality

Little and often is the only thing keeping my stomach contents where they belong. If I miss the boat it's pretty grim with full-on sweating and shaking. DH doesn't get it and thinks I'm insulting his cooking - you'd think by now he'd be with it (this is our 6th pregnancy!).

Hope the fluids have you feeling slightly better needto.

I've had a relatively nice couple of days at work, covering clinics and the like. Back to nights from tomorrow - at least there's a tea and snacks trolly at the desk for most of the night, makes up for not really being able to leave the unit :)

I get a wave 11am and 7pm but I'm fine any other times. I've got a wedding to go to tomorrow. I'm dreading it. It's in a church and I can't see DS sitting through a 90 minute ceremony. I know the groom is going to go mad if he even makes a sound. I wish he could of gone to nursery from 12 til 3 then join us for a few hours after and for the meal etc.

I'm 8 weeks Saturday and I've got a visible pot belly now. MIL said today my shape had changed. Going to be hard to hide it from everyone.

Still on holiday and still full of rage at DH. Doesn't help that whenever I get annoyed he mutters something about hormones. One more dinner tonight then home tomorrow.

Then I am going away with work for four weeks ON MY OWN! (Although ideally I will have stopped hating DH by then)

Im 11+0 today and at the risk of tempting fate, I actually feel like myself again. The overwhelming blanket of tiredness has lifted. Just been for my second swim of the week. Hungry for normal food at normal times. Boobs still enormous and tender but feel like an actual person again.

Getting very odd dreams though. Last night I went for my 12 week scan in a tent in the woods (obviously) but then they started to do a c section and i couldnt get them to understand that I was only 12 weeks. clearly my subconscious is totally fine with this whole pregnancy thing

Glad you're feeling better Monkey.

I feel much more like myself this week too, I've got a bit more energy and just feel sharper.

I did get a bit riled in a meeting today which I think may have been hormones making me feel stressed! or Wankers disagreeing with me

I am a about 7 weeks and feel quite far behind in terms of choosing a pvt hospital or private ward in nhs... Consultant vs midwife etc !! How did u lovely ladies decide?
Many tx

For me I didn't have an awful lot of choice. Private is out of he question, I couldnt afford a private hospital or a private ward in NHS, so NHS it is. As for midwife led or consultant led, I'm high risk so have to be consultant led. This means I'm booked into my nearest consultant hospital :)

I'll be midwife led, abercorn. It's my first baby and I'm counted as low risk so unless anything changes I'll be giving birth at my local women's hospital's maternity led unit. It's NHS but you still get a private room I believe so you get the best of both worlds.

I had a choice of two hospitals, one close one far away or home birth that's it. They haven't asked about midwife or consultant? I went with the closest hospital, as it's my first thought a home birth may not be ideal, but I had no idea!!

Thank goodness it's Friday. I need to go back to having afternoon naps!

I think in the NHS you're under midwife-led care unless you're high risk for some reason, in which case you'll be consultant-led (which basically means you'll see doctors/consultants for most of you antenatal appointments, and probably have more of them based on your risk factors, than if you are low risk and all your appointments are with midwives at a standard schedule).

I certainly don't have the £ to consider private (we have private medical insurance as a perk with DH's job, but pregnancy isn't an illness so so isn't covered).

I think some NHS hospitals give the option of paying for a private room on post-natal ward, which to be honest I'd consider if it were on option but really I think it is better that our hospital has policy that these are given to the families who need them most rather than those with deeper pockets!

Obviously the delivery suites are private and if you're lucky you won't need to spend long in the postnatal ward - we had three nights with DS which was the worst part of the whole birth experience!

Same as PPs really. Wouldn't be able to afford private. Plus I had my DS at an NHS hospital and have absolutely no complaints there.

I will be consultant led again, but that's because I have a chronic illness. Being consultant led made very little difference for me. Just met with the consultant a couple of times, met the anaesthesiology team beforehand and had a couple of extra scans. But all in all, mostly I just saw the midwife.

Good luck with making your decision.

Maybe ask if you can have a tour of any facilities you're considering and see how you feel when you're there.

I only spent one night on the post-natal ward, I cried at my midwife on the second day until she felt sorry for me and agreed I could go home. It was awful, so hot and no-one told me where anything was, even where to put dirty nappies. A bit of blood leaked off my pad onto the sheet, and the domestics came round to change beds and commented loudly and I just wanted to die. I just wanted to be in my own home, where I could bung a sheet or a nightie in the washing machine and not worry about it and watch crappy telly, and have a cup of tea in a proper mug. I hated every second on that ward.

Private delivery room of course, which I went into as soon as I arrived as I was in established labour. I know people who for their second + baby have been allowed to go straight home from the delivery room (after a few hours, of course!) and haven't had to step foot on post natal, but I'm planning to sidestep the whole thing with a home birth.

Oh god, this is bringing the post-natal ward horror back to me...

On ours they didn't bother changing bed or crib sheets - we discovered after we'd been there for three nights with sheets splattered with blood, poo and baby vomit that there was a pile of fresh sheets we were supposed to help ourselves to - no-one mentioned this!

Missing the lunch round because you were sleeping and then no food being available. So god damned hot (not helped by giving birth in middle of a July heatwave).

DS wouldn't latch (too sleepy) for the first few days which is what kept us in - the days were spent desperately trying to get him to feed, followed by syringe-feeding him huge amounts of formula in a tiny syringe, which he then vomited back up because we were trying to force a newborn baby to drink 60ml of formula when they're expecting a few ml of colostrum . And trying to painfully, time-consumingly hand-express minute amounts of colostrum into a syringe. I think one of my lowest moments was having spent an hour collecting tiny droplets of colostrum and finally having a few ml in a syringe, then accidentally squirting it on my face. I cried.

Oh god yes, Bubbins. DD wouldn't latch either and I was hand expressing into a syringe, which was so stressful, and all I could hear was everything else going on around me and other babies crying. There was a 30 cm gap in my curtain, so I could either have the gap at the window facing onto the corridor, or facing into the 4 bed bay I was on. It made me so tense and stressed, which only hindered what I was trying to do. Things went so much more smoothly once I was back home and able to google breastfeeding tips, and Mumsnet and figure out how to go forward, and have a cup of tea or paracetamol whenever I wanted.

I remember laughing, slightly hysterically at the food they brought me for my tea. Giving birth at lunchtime meant I missed food then, other than a slice of toast from the midwife on delivery. They filled in my menu for me up there, and she ticked every option saying I'll be ready for it. I really was, so imagine my disappointment when I got a single sandwhich with one slice of cheese in, and a cracker.

i hated the set visiting times. I think they're a good idea, but I was so bothered about DD not latching, and felt very cut off from everyone being in hospital so I felt like I had to try and make the most of every second of visiting time because I really needed family support, and I couldnt just say "I'm trying to get her to feed at the minute, go and make yourself a cup of tea and come back in 15"

I hadn't realised how much this still bothered me!

Ah so many people saw my tits during those few days MrsRhubarb - bloody curtains!

The support we had from midwives was so mixed - some were brilliant, others less so. On the first night, someone showed up every three hours bringing formula and syringes and helped me to feed. Night two, no-one appeared so I rang for help and the response was basically "WTF do you expect me to do about it?", so I was staggering to the fridge to fetch the formula (could hardly walk so hanging on to the walls). That night lasted forever. DH chose that morning to 'have a lie in' and didn't turn up for an hour and a half after visiting hours started, it's a miracle he is still alive - I would have pushed him out of the window if it opened more than half an inch.

Not bitter...

I'll be consultant led. I was on the ward for a week after DD was born due to blood loss and her having low sugar levels, so she was in NICU. We were released on the same day.

She was syringe fed first, then as soon as I came round, I was able to go down to her and breastfeed her. I managed to feed her for 14 months. It was a horrific time after and before the birth. Don't want that again!

The hospital I'll be attending has a brand new maternity ward, so hoping it's a bit better this time!

The first night I was in I got to the ward about 10pm and fell straight asleep. A midwife woke me up at abput 4am and told me that they had to do some checks on me and I may as well get up for a shower at the same time. She was right! It was so lovely to be clean. I was in two nights and they rushed through blood checks so I could leave on the third day. Everyone there was great but I hated it. Loads of other women came and went and I was still there! I hated my dhs family visiting and I hated my mum visiting but its only because I wanted to be at home.

One thing I have remembered is that me and every other woman were there in our old nightdresses we were told to pack except for one woman who was in black satin button up pyjamas. Genius! She looked comfortable, had no worries about leaks showing, they unbuttomed for bfing. I am totally getting some of those if I end up having to stay in again.

Just told my husband I need some black satin pjs. He looked confused.

Honestly, at first I thought she was overdressed and a bit weird then realised. Every midwife and nurse who walked passed commented on what a good idea they were. If I can't stretch to a a pair as nice as hers I'm going for some sort of dark pattern.

Hi, can someone add me to the list. I'm due on the 20th of April with my second.

I'm going to have to go NHS as I can't afford private but am dreading it as I had a terrible time on the ward last time and was in for almost a week due to a raised temperature.

Had my booking in appt on Tuesday. Will be consultant led again because still technically VBAC even though my csection was ds and dd was successful VBAC.

I've bought a Doppler because I can help but panic every day so it's nice and reassuring

I have actually gone and ordered myself some eBay satin pyjamas now! I have vivid memories of wondering whether I had patches down my light blue nightie. Thanks for the heads up!