April 2017 #3 - looking forward to first scans and the second trimester!

[Celen]

The third thread for all those due around April 2017

Apologies to anyone who I've missed off the list x

Esker, due 29 March, dc#1
Smiles01, due 29th March, dc#1 (5th pregnancy).
IrnBruFan, due 30 March (expected to change to April)
Needtoloseastone, due 30th March, dc#5
Bellatrixandstrange, due 1st April, dc#1
MummaFB, due 1 April, dc#1
Gemsbok, due 1 April, dc#2
MonkeyArms, due 1 April, dc#1
Celen, due 2 April, dc#2
Mummymulb16, due 3rd April, dc#2
StillaChocoholic, due 3rd April, dc#2
SummerSkittles91, due 3rd April, dc#1
Strubo, due 4th April, dc#3
AnnaKateNZ, due 4 April, dc#1
Ilovegbbo, due 4 April, dc#2
LotsaTuddles, due 6th April, dc#3 (pregnancy 6)
Sniffysnifferson, due 7th April, dc#?
Littlespoon, due 8th April, dc#2
Midrog, due 9th April, dc#1
MrsRhubarb, 9th April, dc#2
Naranciata, due 10th April, dc#1
Cazbg, due 10 April, dc#2
MyGreenSofa, due 11th April, dc#2
Everdene, due 11th April, dc#1
Finova, due 11th April, dc#3
WindyTriller, due 12 April, dc#2
TopKittyKat, due 13 April, dc#1
Mamato1, due 13th April, dc#2
katemarob17, due 14th April, dc#1
Allaboutthecake13, due 14 April, dc#2
Puggleface, due 14 April, dc#2
Prive120, due 15 April, dc#1
Helbelle75, due 15 April, dc1 (pregnancy 2)
cantmakeme, due 15 April, dc#2
Choccybiscuit due 15th April dc#3
Marmitecheesetoast, due 16th April, dc#1
Jennywren15, due 16th April, dc#2
Hayls17, due 17 April, dc#1
MummySN, due 17 April, dc#?
MumiTravels, due 22 April, dc#2
Bubbinsmakesthree, due 18 April, dc#2
Dandelionrarrrrr, due 18th April, dc#2
Autumnsunshinebaby, due 18th April, dc#2
DeepFriedCamembert, due 20 April, dc#2
Jpeg28, due 21st April, dc#1 (2nd pregnancy)
Jobrum, due 21st April, dc#2
Theknittinggorilla, due 22 April, dc#3
RaRa25, due 22 April, dc#2
Superbabywright, due 22 April
Welsh due 22 April dc#1
SharkBastard, due 23 April, dc#2
Onecrazycook, due 23rd April, dc#1
mrsbobflob, due 23 April, dc#2
Ecofreckle, due 24 April, dc#2
Hummingbird100, due 25 April, dc#2
sarahhh1984, due 25 April dc#1
IAmALionTamer, due 26 April, dc#2
Number4OnTheWay, due 27 April, dc#4
Niks2026, due 28 April, dc#3
Wherethefuckisthefuckingtuna, due 30th Apr, dc#2

So happy for you jpeg! Congratulations!

Cazbag I'm the same as you with a 2yo and a mc at 9 weeks! I also have a scan then, not til 19 Sep though.

Thanks for making me feel less mad than I was feeling. shark im 10+3 with my first pregnancy. I suppose it Is just that this whole ttc then pregnancy thing is the first thing in my life I haven't felt in control of or where more effort equals better results.

Good luck for the first day back at school to all the teachers.

abeandhalo - I had very mixed feelings with my first (planned) pregnancy too. Both lots of negative but rational thoughts (what if this all a terrible mistake, what if I don't want to be a mother after all?), and being an irrational, emotional mess. I found it quite hard to adapt to be pregnant and had periods of intense panic when I just wanted climb out of my own body and escape!

Still having some low moods this time round (I blame the hormones) but altogether in a much better headspace having been through this whole things before. My biggest regret from last time was allowing negative thoughts to dominate and never really enjoying it.

I hear that Monkey pregnancy is just up to nature and there is only so much we can do to help it along!

Hopefully you'll settle into it and enjoy it by the end...with my first I was just a ball of nerves until she started kicking then I chilled a bit and got into it!

Great place to vent here though! We've all been somewhere close!

I suppose it Is just that this whole ttc then pregnancy thing is the first thing in my life I haven't felt in control of or where more effort equals better results.

Totally get this monkey - the fact it is completely out of your control and that you have such limited information about how it is going. You've just got to have blind faith that'll all work out, but blind faith doesn't come naturally to me!

Hiya ladies
I've been lurking on this thread having tentatively been on the last two. So happy for those of you that have had positive scans. I'm feeling really worried. Started to have watery spotting on Friday and it's gradually getting stronger. It's dark brown today but seems to be getting brighter this evening. I had an early scan on the 24th which showed everything present and correct and am due to have another this Friday. I've tried to see if I can have one sooner but they are fully booked and the only way I can get in earlier is to go to A&E and get sent up and wait.
I was having the early scans due to past ectopic, MMC and MC to make sure everything is ok. We do have a wonderful DS. Work is really stressful at the moment and I've been working really long hours, that coupled with a feisty 3 year old, the pregnancy exhaustion has been crippling.
I've also been craving really salty food!

Having a bit of a stress about MIL today. She has a tendency to make everything about her. She's a massive show off and has to put herself at the centre of everything. When we got married, all she was concerned about was her arriving in style with her family and getting to show herself off in a nice hat to everyone. I honestly believe DH could have been marrying anyone and she wouldn't have cared. I was just the person in the veil, she didn't care.

Anyway, today we went for Sunday lunch with the in laws and she was doing it again. Not once did she ask me how I was feeling, it was all about her and how she was feeling and what she wanted. She even told me I should get a Silver Cross pram (beautiful but impractical for me and stupidly expensive) because it would be so lovely for her to take the baby for a walk in the park in it. Politely told her we'd be getting a travel system that could fit in the car boot and, importantly, through the front door of our house but I digress.

She then moved on to me giving birth and how she'd visit me in hospital. DH pointed out that if all goes well I'd be discharged within a few hours so we'd probably just save visitors until we got home and she told us we'd play that one by ear because she would want to visit the new arrival in hospital.

Basically I think she wants to make sure she's the first one to visit because she's very spiteful and jealous of my parents who me and DH have a great relationship with. She was never very maternal and I think she only had kids because she thought she should (She once told me she's their mother, not their friend and she was proud of that) so I think she's envious of the close relationship we have with my family. Problem is, anytime we give her opportunity to do stuff together, she won't do it. There's always some excuse.

There was loads of other bits too. Like saying she wouldn't get a car seat for her own car because she'd never take the baby out on their own without me or DH anyway. She'd expect us to always bring them to her like she's some kind of sodding queen bee.

Anyway, I know it sounds really minor but I've had nearly 12 years of this and I know if she's like this now she'll be 10 times worse by the time I'm due. Sorry for the long post, think I just needed to get it off my chest.

Does anyone else have probs with self-centred relatives like this? DH is great and does stand up to her but I feel bad going on about it to him as it is his mum after all...

Midwife called me yesterday to arrange filling in my paperwork. Yay finally.

I'm visiting family this weekend and we've had a big family party this afternoon so I've been telling people about the pregnancy at that since I probably won't see anyone until after the baby is born. Apparently I look pregnant. I got asked if it was twins when I told someone I'm 10 weeks tomorrow and someone else said they wondered but didn't want to ask in case they were wrong. Pretty wise really
And now I have to share a bed with my 3 year old cos he's scared of the dark, lucky me!

Oh, that was the other thing. She said something like "It's so exciting, isn't it?" To which I replied that I'm finding it equal parts exciting and terrifying. Understandable, I think, for any pregnancy but particularly when it's your first.

Rather than understanding she dismissed it and basically said I was stupid for being scared at times.

Bubbinsmakesthree - that makes me feel so much better. Literally as soon as I saw the positive come up I just didn't want it inside me anymore I sometimes would just cry with panic that I didn't want it to happen & it was all a mistake. But in the last week or so I feel very differently. I guess maybe it was shock and hormones.

I too am worried about everything going wrong, I think it's partly because the NHS / my GP seem kind of mean & scaremongering about me being overweight. I kind of feel like, look in already here, can't you just be nice? Fat chicks give birth every day, maybe just be a bit supportive & helpful rather than scaring me more?

Sarah I'm really sorry you're going through this with your MIL... Sounds like she is so self centred and that is so not on especially when you are pg!!! Do you live close by to them? Does your DH understand? I don't have experience of that but I do sympathise. Have you ever said anything to her? I know that would be so hard though!!

Jeez busy weekend!!

Yesterday DS' birthday. Had DH's entire family round, then went to the beach and amusements with DC, DH, PiLs, my mum and her partner, SiL and nieces and we ended up getting home at gone 9pm because there was fireworks.

Christening today with PiLs, SiL and nieces coming back here because we didn't get to do his cake yesterday.

His first day at pre school tomorrow morning and to PiLs tomorrow afternoon because it's MiLs birthday.

Then Tuesday dropping my nieces off at school and dropping my DC off at PiLs because they're taking them to the zoo for the day once I've been to mw at 10, I'll actually, properly be on my own for the first time in 3 years and 4 days

Thanks, jpeg. We live about 40 minutes drive away so we see her reasonably regularly. DH understands and he's great and he tries to keep her in check as much as possible. But she's the sort of person who goes into a massive huff if she doesn't get things her way so sometimes it's easier to grin and bear it. I know FIL tried to talk to her about this behaviour once before after DH mentioned we were spending a fortune on petrol visiting them all the time when she'd never come out to see us at our house but apparently she just flat out denied that was the case and didn't see that it was unreasonable anyway. She's very matriarchal and I think she likes to have everyone flocking around her.

I suspect my pg hormones might get the better of me at some point over the next 34 weeks and I may say something, but don't want to make thinks tough for DH.

jpeg delighted that things went well today after the worry in the week.

monkey and others - I'm exactly the same with the others. I generally preface every statement about the baby with 'if', and on the odd time I don't, I feel racked with guilt for tempting fate. I've mentioned before that I worry when I don't cramp and freak out when I do. When my boobs don't hurt I convince myself that something has gone wrong. I was talking to my mum the other night who got me to admit that I have no reason to believe that I'm not still pregnant - but I am still finding it very hard to believe that everything is going to be ok. Poor DH, I'm driving him crazy.

abean I'm well overweight, was with my first 8 years ago...I'm armed and ready to put my foot down with the professionals this time cause I'm 8 years older and not letting them ruin this pregnancy!

They were vile to me last time, and I wish I had been more confident in myself. Please please please don't let them take any happiness or excitement away from you! I bitterly regret that I let them bring me down but I was 27 and alone!

Your body can obviously have a baby and there's pretty much fuck all you can do about your weight now other than eat well and exercise when you can! You can't diet so tell them to stick to what is happening and not focus on weight cause it's bullshit to ruin pregnancy like that!

It makes me so angry! I'm ready to take them on this time, so let's do it!

Been really anxious this weekend. Just had roast chicken for tea and scared senseless that I've poisoned us. it was an organic once, all prepped for cooking, but not as 'clean' on the inside as I'm used to and I'm panicking.
Back at work tomorrow so I bet that's the real cause of the worry :-(

I'm overweight as well. My midwife didn't say anything, just that I need to take extra folic acid as bmi is over 30.

I don't care though!!! I would be mega annoyed if I got any comments about it though. I think i would tell them where to stick it!

sarah that sounds so rubbish. I hope she backs off through your pregnancy! I have the opposite problem, my MIL seldom gets in touch with us - apparently it's DH's job to contact her since he left home she has to be nagged into spending any time with us all, and on the occasional time she does text it's a message to DH to see if he wants to go for lunch - never mentions DS or myself!

When I see how devoted and loving some grandmas are it makes me a bit sad, my mum does her best but lives 2 hours away (I've never had contact with my dad who left when I was tiny) and DH's dad died before I met him, so grandparents are thin on the ground for DS

Literally as soon as I saw the positive come up I just didn't want it inside me anymore I sometimes would just cry with panic that I didn't want it to happen & it was all a mistake

ah abe I could have written exactly that about my reaction first time round! For what it is worth motherhood is the best thing that ever happened to me and even during the really hard bits I have never for one second regretted it.

hummingbird, that really sucks. Sorry you have to put up with that from your MIL. I do sort of know the feeling though. She does want to spend time with us (well, DH at least) but only on her terms. If we didn't go to her we'd never see her at all but then if we don't see her for ages she throws a strop and acts like it's somehow our fault. This is despite the fact that she can drive and is quite capable of using public transport so could come see us any time she liked.

Think it'll be worse when lo arrives as she'll complain she never gets to see them but won't make the effort to actually see them unless we bring them to her. Then if we point out we have a baby and can't be chasing after her all the time she'll get in a huff and act like we're the ones being unreasonable.

sarah any chance that your baby's routine will make the 40 min drive to see your MIL impossible for the first few years months?

celtic totally understand the feeling that not saying if will result in miscarriage. The inner scientist knows this is bollocks. The hormonal crazy woman who is squatting in my body KNOWS it is true.

hellbell the organic chicken was highly nutritional and delicious. The fact that the inside weren't power washed out in a factory makes it less likely that skanky stuff has been blown into the bits you all ate. squatting mad woman says don't trust anything that hasn't come in lots of packaging as only factory food can be safe you probably cant even clean your kitchen properly and chicken germs are currently escaping and running all over the house-

sarah Gah! why can't people just be nice and reasonable? It doesn't take much! It was DS's 2nd birthday in July. With some unexpected nice weather forecast on his actual birthday, on the Saturday (the day before his bday) I arranged a Sunday lunch for me, DS, DH, MIL and my mum followed by a trip to a lovely park with DS's new scooter...MIL came (my mum picked her up) and barely spoke to anyone but DH. She was meant to be coming on a museum trip with DH, DS and me (again, my idea) a few days later and cancelled, citing a medical appointment she said she'd forgotten - she didn't attempt to reschedule the museum trip or suggest a day she was free. So if I hadn't arranged the Sunday lunch and park trip on a whim because of the nice weather (she couldn't really say no to that as before DH asked her to come he'd checked she wasn't busy) she wouldn't have spent any time with her (only) grandchild on his birthday. It's like she's just not interested.

Haha! Monkey, that is a great idea!

She sounds awful, hummingbird. I don't get how people like our MILs can't see how their behaviour upsets others. It's like they have no self awareness whatsoever... But plenty of self centredness!