December 2016 - Thread 5! 20 week scans and wriggly babies

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Thought I'd start a new thread before thread 4 fills up

Ah bumble and kitkat

So sorry to hear of your loss bumble, I'm glad your baby girl is bringing you comfort & of course it's not selfish to get away for a while. Sorry to hear about your dad as well kitkat hugs to you both.

I bought the large poppy holdall barking, for £14 (& free delivery too!) It's a very good price, you should definitely treat yourself

so sorry for your loss bumble hope your taking time off to process everything and rest and look after you and the baby, lots of hugs and kisses xx

Are these signs of spd? It doesn't hurt all the time but sometimes whilst walking or putting weight on just my left leg, I get a really sharp stabbing pain in the top of my left bum cheek, it shoots down my leg and makes me gasp it's so sudden & sometimes I nearly fall because my leg looses strength. I had it in a previous pregnancy and ended up crawling to the toilet, my mw at the time said back ache is common 😕
Does this sound like spd? Should I tell my mw this time around, and explain how sometimes I risk falling because of it?

Oh bumble and kitkat I'm sending you both massive (((hugs))) bumble I don't think there is a right or wrong way to deal with your grief and I would think it's easier to process things when you're somewhere different

bigfam I've had the same but in my right butt cheek! I put it down to pressure on a nerve/sciatica type thing? But possibly SPD! Hope not as my bestie has that really badly and is in agony poor love

Sorry for your loss bumble and sorry to hear about your dad kitkat

Sorry in advance if I ramble a little. We had our follow up scan today. The doctor checked him all over again and said everything else is as it should be, his heart, brain, spine, face and hands all look good. His right foot is clubbed, she said it doesn't look too bad but we would have to wait until birth to know for sure. She said that in lots of cases they only need physio to correct it. Then she took us into a room to talk about our options. She said that they offer everyone an amnio if an abnormality is found but its up to us if we take it. She explained that he is big and they found no other abnormalities so its not very likely that anything else could be wrong. We explained that we wouldn't want a termination even if anything else was found so she said that in that case she wouldn't have the amnio done but that if we felt nervous at all in the future and wanted it done just to know we could at any time. So it pretty much went how I had hoped/expected.

I will have two more growth scans to check on him and also to keep an eye on his foot.

Would any of you have gone for the amnio?

Mejse I think you did exactly the right thing. I wouldn't have gone for the amnio in your situation either. If you're not going to terminate in any case, then no point exposing you and your baby to the risks of an amnio. And as the consultant said, all they have found is something which is hopefully corrected with physio. I do hope the rest of the scans go smoothly for you.

I'm sitting here worrying again because I haven't felt the baby move for maybe 24 hours - I just don't know how much movement to expect right now. Would the midwives think I was silly worrying about movement right now? A bit of me says - fatalistically - that I'm only 22+ weeks so there isn't much they could do anyway.

Popskie my friend is a midwife and said to always report any worries about movement. So I would just call the triage and see what they say just incase will ease your mind

kitkat I'm so sorry about your dad. My DF is going through RT and chemo for cancer right now, and his op is pretty much on my due date so DM is torn between looking after him (which I will insist she does! she's in Edinburgh, we're in London) and tearing down to see the baby. It is rotten rotten luck, and I am not comparing our situation with yours as hopefully DF will be ok, we have not had that chat with the consultants that you have had. No wonder you are so divided emotionally - what a headf*ck

[bigfam] I really hope it isn't SPD. I had it in my right sacroiliac last time and had to walk with a crutch, and know exactly what you mean about legs giving way.... BUT I don't think I ever had it shoot down my leg, which sounds more sciatica-y?

Thanks Hannah, sorry didn't see your post. I really should call, I know. Right ok, I will.

I hadn't felt baby move much yesterday but I wasn't sitting down much to feel her move.

I called the midwife this morning and she said that if I do not feel her move much today to go straight to triage. The midwife is there to help you, don't hesitate to call her

Thanks Popskie. I'm 20+6 and I have felt baby moving since 16 weeks, he has some really active days and others he can be very quiet. I agree with the others, if you are worried call your midwife, that's what she is there for.

bumble sorry for your loss

popskie my midwife said to call triage with any change in movements. That's what they're there for.

Sorry for your loss bumble and gutted for both kitkat and popski with your situation with parents right now too.

Practical question about the 20week scan, I have mine on friday and don't know if I'll be expected to produce a urine sample and have a blood test again. Do they do those at the 20week scan too? Or was that just the 12 week scan?! Also, do you still need a full bladder for this scan too?!

Sending to those of you with losses and health issues in the wider family. Remember to take time to take care of yourselves best you can.

Still no definite movement here with my placenta - been told not to worry by the sonographer but i really would like something now so I can start to monitor movements etc. At 24+4 I'm getting pretty desperate.

Sorry for those having bad news, it's extra hard to deal with when your pregnant.
Mejse that's a great outcome, so pleased to hear that.
Bella I had no blood test, I didn't need a full bladder either.
Duxb when did the sonographer say you would feel something by?

Does everyone have the option to call their midwife? I don't even have the phone number for mine! She's only at my gp's surgery one day every two weeks so I'd have to leave a message to be passed on and I'm not sure when she'd pick it up.

barkingtreefrog mine only works a tues and don't have a number for her they tell me to ring the antenatal ward but when I try to leave a message for her they say they don't know where she is and suggest I talk to them instead it's useless x

I know my community midwife team, so tracked them down to my hospital and then rang them constantly until I got the number for my community midwife team office.

There might be a number for them on your local CCG website, or your GP surgery should give you their number.

Yes. I have the number, but it's my 3 Rd pregnancy!

barking on the front of your notes, you should have a number for triage and a number for the labour ward. You call triage if you need advice e.g.with a bleed our change in movements.

Much love to those having a tough time

Me? I'm off to the loo, again.

south I know I can call the hospital, I was just surprised with the number of people that seem to have the option of calling their midwife. Just another example of the different ways things are done across the country!

The only way I can contact my midwife is via email which I find strange. She says she will reply with 3-9days!! I think that is crazy.

Fed up with not sleeping at night now.

Wow lovewatchingrainfall email is really bizzarre! My MW gave me her work mobile number at booking in and said to call it whenever I needed. She keeps it off when she's off duty so gave me another number to use (if I don't get through to her) which is manned 24 hours (I presume this is the hospital team number). Haven't called them for anything yet but its reassuring to know that they're there.