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October 2016 #5 Third trimester here we come

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Afreshstartplease · 04/07/2016 16:33

New thread if it works Smile

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April241 · 12/08/2016 15:24

chatter I haven't had a section myself so don't have personal experience on recovery and pain management although everyone will be different. My friend has had 2 sections, her first was an emergency section a year ago and she really struggled with pain management and had issues with infection etc however she had an elective section a week and a half ago and said its like night and day. She was discharged 24 hours after her second section with paracetamol, diclofenac and lactulose. She said this time around her pain hasn't been anything more that a tad uncomfortable and she's been out an about visiting friends and family and going shopping and the likes. Recovery time can be anything from a week to 6/8 weeks it seems. Just be careful with the wound and don't do anything too heavy/strenuous that could open the stitches.

As for the procedure, from all the ones I've seen you'll walk into theatre if it's elective, be in bed already if it's and emergency and transferred to the theatre table. They'll put in a spinal which people say can be a tad sore, it's usually the local anaesthetic people can feel and then pushing and prodding while they find the correct space. One your spinal is in you'll feel the effects fairly quickly and they'll get you onto your back and comfortable. Some people have a combined spinal/epidural before they get to theatre so don't need to go through the process again. You'll have all the normal monitoring on like ECG leads, BP cuff and oxygen sats monitor, you might also have an oxygen mask on. You'll also have a catheter in which is removed the next day normally when you're back up on your feet.

Before they drape and prep the anaesthetist will use a cold spray on a part of your body that hasn't been numbed so you can feel how cold it is, then they'll run the spray up your legs/hips/tum on both sides to figure out when you start to feel it and if it's high enough. If all is well they'll put the drapes on and have it up like a shield so you can't see the procedure.

Incision is horizontal about 10-15cm in length and really low down, just above your pubic line. You'll "feel" things like pushing/pulling and prodding, the mums I've seen said it feels like someone is doing the dishes in your tum, but you shouldn't feel any pain at all.

Unless there's any major complication carrying more children is fine, some people go on to have more sections although they tend to recommend no more than 3 and others have perfectly fine vaginal births.

Infections seem to be common and it's just due to where the incision is however just keep it clean and dry and if you were to notice any redness/swelling/pain/pus/smell etc you can contact the mw who'll get some antibiotics. Post section the midwives come to your home and check in your wound but you can always go to the cmus/GP aswell.

Also many people hear "emergency section" and think it's all a huge panic and crashing about but in most cases its classed as an emergency because you're already in labour, baby may or may not be distressed and you take priority over someone coming in for an elective section who wasn't in labour. There are of course real emergencies but it's not always that way.

Sorry for the super long post - hopefully there are other mums on who've had previous sections and can give you their personal experiences :).

I'm 37 weeks at the beginning of October and will hopefully be an elective section so can let you know how things are then too.

April241 · 12/08/2016 15:26

Sorry, friend with two sections had emergency section two years ago and elective section a week and a half ago.

ChatterNatterer · 12/08/2016 15:43

Wow April such an informative post - that is much appreciated and I will screen shot to keep and refer back to - thank you FlowersCake

Northernlight22 · 12/08/2016 15:49

Thanks for that April

BlueberryMuffin85 · 12/08/2016 16:04

Thank you April for all of that information Flowers I haven't really thought about a section but I think it's something I need to be aware of just incase. My problem is that I am petrified of having to have a drip or canula. It's not even the thought of c section or epidural that scare me it's the drip. Sounds really pathetic but I just can't seem to get over this needle in vein phobia!
I am on a friends hen do this weekend ShockTrains are a nightmare with delays and cancellations. A lovely man gave me his seat and I've had to hold in the tears because I'm so grateful!
I am so hormonal this week anything will set me off!!

Afreshstartplease · 12/08/2016 16:07

I think the thing I would hate most about a section would be staying in hospital overnight

DC2+3 I was home about 6 hours after the birth and would like to repeat this again

Having strong bh again today

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April241 · 12/08/2016 16:15

No problem :) blueberry cannulas are pretty uncomfortable aren't they, I hate them...however remember once the cannula is in the needle is removed and just leaves behind a small flexible plastic tube so you can move about etc. Hope the rest of your weekend goes well!

OH bought a new car yesterday and picks it up next weekend, my car is in the garage today then if I get it back tonight or tomorrow we're gonna go car shopping for me Grin

Kariana · 12/08/2016 16:46

Blueberry my dh has a phobia of needles in veins too. Vaccines don't bother him because the needle goes into muscle, it's only needles going into veins that freak him out!

Hobnob, I'm just hoping there's lots of room really. It doesn't feel that way sometimes, especially as his favourite position is head poking out just to the left of my belly button. I often have a lump there!

LillianFullStop · 12/08/2016 17:02

I've never had surgery and never had stitches and never had a hospital stay in living memory (apparently I did as a little girl) - so YES I am quite nervous at the prospect of ANY of it - natural birth, tearing/episiotomy or a cesarean!! Even the thought of an epidural freaks me out because I am not a fan of needles. Just trying to focus on having a healthy baby and at the end of it all I will get my glorious baby cuddles Smile

happy birthday northern enjoy your steakhouse iron fix!

SchnitzelvonKrummsverylowtum · 12/08/2016 18:10

Happy birthday northern! Enjoy your steak!

Saw the midwife today at 29+3 - everything good, though apparently I'm measuring slightly small, then I was with DS and everything turned out fine, so it might just be how I can carry.

Thanks for all the information on sections April - after a natural birth with DS that went as smoothly as a birth can go, I'm a bit worried about the possibility of needing a section this time.

Afreshstartplease · 13/08/2016 07:06

67 days til due date!

So uncomfortable in bed again last night, feels hopeless trying to go to sleep when I'm so sore

Don't feel sick though this morning so that's a positive!

Has anyone on here used a tuppence and crumble nap sack? I saw these last night while looking at star wraps even though I already bought one of those..... They look really nice, only one review online though but it is a positive one

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Kariana · 13/08/2016 15:24

Hope you had a good birthday northern!

Glad you're not feeling sick today April and I can sympathise with the feeling uncomfortable in bed. I have started waking up in the night because my hips get sore from my weight pressing into them. I'm slightly horrified by how much I've put on, especially with nearly ten weeks still to go. I'd actually feel better if I was pigging out on ice cream and chocolate but the weight has piled on and I'm eating pretty much the same as before, just with an extra snack in the mornings - think that's annoying me more than the fact that I've put on a lot tbh!

In other news we've just discovered a wasps' nest in our roof - not ideal.

HobnobDunker · 13/08/2016 18:55

Pissed off today as the one name me and DH agree on got an eye-roll reaction from MIL. I don't even love it. Is it necessary to love a name? All the ones I love DH hates and vice versa. First world problem I know...

Afreshstartplease · 13/08/2016 19:04

Dp and I agreed on a name around 16 weeks pregnant. He has changed his mind. He also hates my second choice. I really dislike his choices.
There are one or two names we agree on but they feel big standard , common and like I'm 'settling'.

I also feel like he had the final say with the other three dcs names.

Aibu to have a massive paddy?

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MrsMKJ · 13/08/2016 19:15

Ladies who feeling are uncomfortable at night... Have any of you tried dream genie pillows? I think there's a cheaper alternative in Argos as well but the concept is the same. I had a few unsettled nights but this helped heaps. I don't use it every night now but even knowing its there is fab.

The name game meanwhile is minus craic! I had loads of girls names for ages and zero boys. Now settled on a boys name and cannot for the life of me love any girls names. My DH does get a say too.... Sometimes!

April241 · 13/08/2016 19:59

I'm going to look into that pillow, my V shaped one is all saggy now and doesn't do much. I've found that if I lie on my sore side first it's okay then as the night goes on I can move a bit more.

fresh what do BH feel like? I don't know if I'm getting them or if it's wind!

Names wise i think we've settled on three of each and we'll see what suits when they arrive. Middle names are sorted, forenames are wait and sees.

I'm starting to get really bloody pissed off with the heartburn, some days like today it's just constant Angry hurry up October!

positivity123 · 13/08/2016 22:07

Happy Birthday northern. Hope you had a good one.
I've got a dream genie and I like it a lot. You feel wedged in and supported.
I played rounders with work on Thursday and because I'm really competitive I kept going until the end and did a lot of running/sprinting (our team wonGrin) but I knackered my hips so I'm taking it easy this weekend, just watching the Olympics in bed. I'm feeling big now and it actually feels like a baby inside me when it wriggles about.

ChatterNatterer · 14/08/2016 01:52

Well at least I can watch the Olympics when I am wide awake for the next week!

Bloody SPD and random pregnancy insomnia!

BlueberryMuffin85 · 14/08/2016 07:12

Hope you ladies are all doing ok. I have been on my friends hen do. Found it hard getting involved had to come home really early last night from the bar as there were just too many drunk people around pushing and shoving it just didn't feel safe. So everyone else got in pissed a few hours ago and I've hardly slept as I'm so bloody uncomfortable. Should have bought my dream genie pillow with me!
Baby is getting itself in some weird positions yesterday felt like it was trying to climb my ribs and this morning feels like it's swimming the breaststroke lying transverse! It's prob pissed off with me that I fed it too much pizza and sweets yesterday Blush
Anyone here planning to use a tens machine? Not sure if I should add it to my list to hire one...just for the heck of it to give t a try? Am getting serious OCD with my lists!!

MeDownSouth · 14/08/2016 08:06

Oh I'm feeling so behind reading how prepared you all are!
Knit: hope baby has decided to stay put a bit longer
Clank: glad to hear you're feeling better
Everyone else: hope the SPD gets less uncomfortable and we outlast this new heatwave :(

Here's the catch up bit:
31
first baby
Due 14th Oct
Keeping baby a surprise - but either way I'm sure we're having a flyhalf!

No names yet. I got all the stuff I've smuggled in bought for baby into one bag. Felt like loads when it was everywhere but it's about half a carrier bag! And there's a teddy in there! :O Talking about going to collect our cot and pram from Mum's soon but as she's the other end of the country and OH has too much on at work it's looking like the second or third week of september before we can get there. Starting to feel a bit overwhelmed. There's no way were going to be unpacked for baby's arrival - at this rate it's going to be in our room as it's own won't be ready for ages. Wish I could do more but can't lift the boxes and unless I'm painting level I'm going dizzy doing the bottom bits (OH does the top).
Is anyone else having dizziness/feeling faint spells? I had them a few over a few days last week after I'd eaten mostly but it seems to have slowed/ stopped (just completely jinxed that..)

Afreshstartplease · 14/08/2016 08:22

I have bought quite a lot of stuff, I am a bit of a shop a hol ic, and I cannot resist a sale. I have now stopped buying clothes in 0-3 and moved on to 3-6 though cause I remember dd having so many clothes in one size she barely wore them and it's such a waste.
I think I need to get a pack of smaller vests just incase, have two packs of up-to 1 month sleep suits but all my vests are 0-3 I think.
Then I want a baby swing but I'm holding out for Argos doing 3 for 2 on toys and I'll get that alongside two Christmas presents.
And then I'm toying with the idea of a tuppence and crumble nap sack. I will probably get one as they are VERY cute.

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Kariana · 14/08/2016 09:07

Fresh that's very annoying about the name, why has he changed his mind? I don't think that should be allowed at this stage - definite paddy time Grin
Not heard of those nap sacks so will have to have a Google.

MeDownSouth how is your blood pressure? Could it be low if the dizziness was happening particularly after eating? We're really not prepared either. Not even started on the hospital bag and too busy being unprepared for the house move in a couple of weeks.

EnoughAlready999 · 14/08/2016 09:57

MeDownSouth were you not planning on the baby being in your room for the first few months anyway?

Told my brother & SIL it was a girl yesterday, turns out my mum had neglected to spread the news like she normally does. Doesn't matter but I just thought it was odd and wondered if she didn't like knowing or wasn't pleased about another girl (she has 1 grandson & 4 granddaughters). She is 74 so perhaps past caring/going a bit senile. I know I'm gonna have even less help/support this time Sad

Afreshstartplease · 14/08/2016 10:09

Kariana he has decided it sounds 'wet'
Rude or what!

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ShakespeareanQuotations · 14/08/2016 15:43

I've just ordered an exercise ball to try and encourage this baby into a better position, and then keep it there.
I've bought a couple of packs of vests and babygros. I don't know anybody that knits so I'm trying to find matinee jackets online. I don't know whether I'm having a boy or girl and everything seems to be designed for people that already know which sex the baby is.

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