Late December - Early January '17 Babies

[GerberaDaisy]

Hello,

So couldn't see a January baby post (probably because no one is mad enough to POAS as early as me!)

Anyway, I thought I would start one (waves). I am 28, this will be DC#2 making my 4 year old DS a big brother which he has been so excited about becoming (we haven't told him yet though as very early days!) I am roughly around 4 weeks and we're not planning on telling anyone for ages so thought I would start a thread so I have someone to get excited with!

Please come and say hello! Xx

If I was in your position it would depend on 1. Your due date, 2. Is the weekend towards the end of march or begining of the month and 3. Can you remember what you were like with DS at approx 8weeks old?!

I haven't had a baby before so I would probably chicken out just in case I'm a total wreck that can't cope and find 8 weeks too soon. I have no idea what to expect of myself or the baby. But if you think you could be ok, and you fancy a trip away, 2 nights isn't too bad to be away, so why not?!

So due date is 2nd Jan. Hen weekend is 10th March. Yes I can & is was pretty hard. It's not the separation (which makes me sound terrible). It's the feeding that I'm concerned with, I remember going out for dinner with DH & my boobs hurt so much after 3 hours away from DS. I was desperate to feed him when I got home & was so uncomfortable. I'd be having to express milk every few hours & chuck it away whilst baby would probably be at home on formula (I wouldn't be able to leave enough to sustain him/her for 3 days). Hard to know how I will feel & I don't want to drop out at the last minute.

A friend mentioned recently that she wouldn't be going away from her 9 month old due to bfeeding and how miserable she'd be expressing all the time, I wasn't sure if she was an extreme case or not, but starting to think her case sounds like the norm.
You sort of sound like you're more inclined towards no rather than go.
Ultimately, you're the only one that can decide, but I would hope that your friend would be understanding if you said no given that you'll have a newborn. The tricky thing about pregnancy is that there are so many 'unknowns'.

Maybe someone else on here has actually had this experience and went, and enjoyed....?

By the way, the separation thing doesn't make you sound terrible at all. Based on my character I reckon I will be quite similar.

well I have a story for you. I bought a ticket to Australia for a wedding which took place when DD1 was about 6months. What I didn't bank on was for my DD to outright refuse the bottle. We tried a bottle-only day she went on an all out strike and took only 50mls that day. In the end I had to cancel my trip (DH wasn't going anyway) as I couldn't leave DH and DD all alone, I think DH was pretty desperate.

My experience is probably pretty extreme, but I guess what I'm trying to say is be prepared to change your plans last minute and not be too disappointed as you can never tell with babies....... and maybe try to bottle feed from early days - we took 3mths to get her to drink a substantial bottle (!!! )

Thanks for advice. I think I'm going to say no & if I change my mind at the last minute I can always join in. I'd rather that than let them all down. I was lucky that DS took a bottle. He was so hungry that he took anything. I breastfed until 4 months with him but his reflux was so severe that he was dropping so much weight I had to do something & he flourished on formula. I still feel guilty, feel guilty for stopping breastfeeding & feel guilty for not stopping sooner! Crazy what motherhood does to you.

We used to do one bottle feed of expressed milk a day (10pm) which my DH did so I could go to bed earlier (after expressing). We did this from quite early on so DS would take a bottle. I had to leave him at 4 weeks as we had a close friends wedding & kids weren't allowed.

Baby number 2 will probably be completely different & refuse bottles all together.

Anyone got any good tips to ease hip pain?! I've got a maternity pillow but I think I turned in bed on Sunday and slept for a few hours without it between my knees and now my right hip is agony, right in the joint. I was hoping it would ease but its still with me tonight. I'm going to yoga tomorrow night and a mw appointment on Thursday so will ask them for advice but just wondering if anyone else has had this and what seems to help?!

bella yes I have it badly. Can you go for a massage? Or do a Pilates class? I've found the only thing that helps is to do something that releases the muscles and realigns the hip. (But I have very loose hips normally so may not be that bad for you!)

The other thing I really like is the spikey ball - like this: www.amazon.co.uk/s/?ie=UTF8&keywords=spikey+physio+balls&tag=mh0a9-21&index=aps&hvadid=2978623210&hvqmt=b&hvbmt=bb&hvdev=m&ref=pd_sl_4r1g21cbba_b

You kind of sit on it and roll it around and it is like giving yourself a mini massage.

I have bad pregnancy induced back pain that the GP has referred me to a physio. Apparently one of those maternity support belt or sacroiliac belt should help? I am looking for one right now. I hope it eases for you. It's definitely no fun

I'm hoping yoga sorts it out tonight but I have a feeling that it may be a recurring problem now that I've had it once (if it ever goes away). Thanks for the tips, had never heard of the spikey balls so will look in to those. I'm walking at snail speed, not sure if I should be resting or walking through the pain, steps are a nightmare! Come on yoga - do your magic! (Yoga instructor is also a pregnancy massage therapist so may have to book an appointment with her if it will help!)

I've been measured up for a support girdle thing by my Physio. HOWEVER she said she'd prefer for me to use it sparingly (if at all) at this stage as apparently they feel great to wear but the problem is that the girdle takes over the work that your core is doing so you weaken yourself early. She said after 30 weeks go for it but use it only when pain is great in these earlier days.

I think walking is not great as its so repetitive and if you're out of alignment you're just reinforcing that. Do you have access to a pool? I find walking in water can be better as you still get the movement but without the strain.

Hopefully yoga sorts you out tonight! Just be careful to keep hips in alignment otherwise you'll just exacerbate the problem.

- hip pain is the worst!

(Oh and the spikey balls are magic - they HURT but are so good and you can take them anywhere!)

yeah, that's what I've been told as well - to not use the belt for more than 2-3h per session. I am going to use it mainly to keep running.

So I told my line manager a few days ago that I was expecting. It was a rather strange conversation. It was over in less than 5 minutes and all he said was "congratulations" and "OK". He didn't ask a single question. I think it's because he's a childfree unmarried man. My former manager was a married man with 3 kids and when I told him about my first pregnancy he said all the "right" things like "you don't look x months pregnant", "your life will change forever but for the better", "if you need advise on buggies i can put you in touch with my wife" etc. Anyway, that's done now, it's always a bit of an odd conversation to have in my view.

I remember telling my last boss (the MD who I knew well & he had children) at 10 weeks. I was so ill with all day sickness that i just couldn't work. He was really good & said all the right things even though I was worried about leaving. It's much better when you feel supported & like they are interested. No hiding it from my new MD as he's my DH

That sounds a bit anti-climatic lucy it's strange how bosses react, mine started crying (with happyness) which was funny because I just laughed at her (I'm not the crying type unless I'm sad), I knew she'd be pleased but didn't expect tears!

So yoga has cured my hip pain, I realise how lucky I am because what some of you has sounds so painful and long term, I think it must have been a strain on a muscle/ligament that has been stretched out and re-aligned by yoga rather than spd. Midwife wasn't too concerned either so yoga is my new favourite thing in the world!

25 weeks today - eek! Getting closer to the 3rd trimester! Can't believe how fast time is going!

eek yes I know! i'm nearly 25wks too. We are going away at the end of Sept for a week and when we are back I'll be into my 3rd trimester. I think that would be good time to sort some of DD's clothes and do some washing. I've bought some bits and bobs, mainly second hand. I bought lots of items new with DD and almost bankrupted us :p
I've downloaded the kicks count app. It's very simple I would recommend it. Makes me more aware of movements. And also a kegels app , my pelvic floor is no longer as strong as before first pregnancy. Have an appointment for the flu and whooping cough jabs next week so I am feeling rather organised!

btw, has anyone thought about what disposable nappies they will use? pampers are having a BOGOF offer at the moment, I'm trying to resist the urge to buy because I won't be able to return if baby's bigger etc. I heard Aldi is good, there wasn't a shop near me when DD was born so never tried it. I bought 4 super value boxes of Water Wipes (half price at the moment). While we were rather religious with water + cotton with DD as a newborn we have become rather lazy since

I don't feel at all organised! Iv pulled out all DS's newborn & early clothes (unisex ones) ready to wash. Got to move DS into the bigger bedroom before I can sort out babys room. Making a big deal of him choosing stickers & the bed so it's a good move rather than being pushed out. Got to book my jabs when I get back from holiday. Barely sleeping but think it's just the stress of going away & making sure everything's sorted. Holidays are so stressful! Thank you for the tip Lucy. We still use water wipes mainly because DS has eczema & im very careful what I put near his skin. Think I'll probably miss the cotton wool stage & go straight to water wipes. I feel a little like a first timer with this baby as DS was in NICU straight after birth for several weeks. So the first bit will all be new to us. 24+4 for me, feels so far away.

Ooh Lucie where are the water wipes on offer please? I have ubër sensitive skin so thought I'd stock up on a few boxes in case the baby follows suit. I've heard good things about Aldi nappies too. I feel really bad for using disposables but think it's probably the more practical option - at least until we know what the hell we are doing!

Hello everyone,

I have just discovered this thread and immediately registered so that I could say hi and join the club! I am 31 and exactly 25 weeks pregnant today and am due on the 30th of December with my first. Congratulations to you all and I hope you're all having a lovely smooth time so far.

I shop with Ocado and water wipes are half price at the moment. My sister uses reusable nappies but she lives in Australia and she just hangs them out to dry after washing. It's just not very practical here I feel as I'll be running my washer dryer the whole day.

Hi colonel welcome!

Welcome Colonol.

I always buy water wipes from Amazon & they are half price on there too. It's £13 for a box of 12 with free delivery. Iv always got on well with pampers for DS & buy them in Asda when they do 2 huge packs for £15. I was tempted with reusables but already do tons of washing & don't have a dryer.

Oh heck, what are water wipes? Are they different to wet wipes/baby wipes?!

Hi colonel - snap! I'm also 31, due 30th december with my first!

Water wipes are baby wipes but made with water & a bit of fruit extract. No chemicals at all. If you read the back of packets of wipes you will see lists of chemicals. They are more expensive than "normal" wipes. Not sure if they are worth it but DS has never had nappy rash & they are so gentle I don't worry about his face or hands. Just personal preference. Some people swear by them & others don't. I think, some midwives are recommending them rather than cotton wool & water but could well be wrong on that. They do have a habit of the first few wipes being dry & the bottom ones being sodden, to try & combat this I store them upside down.

Ok thanks. It's so weird how many things I have never noticed hearing about before (such as water wipes) but just googled and they seem to be sold in most supermarkets. I walk down the baby aisle like a kid in a sweet shop these days, amazed at all the stuff sold there, right where I've always passed, just I've never looked at them or paid attention before!

Midwife asked at 24 week apt yesterday if I had any questions about my baby bump and beyond book, but she hadn't given it to me at last apt so I now have one and have a feeling stuff like water wipes may be in that, it's huge but I've not finished the pregnancy section yet. Some reading to do on the weekend to catch up to the preparing for baby section so I don't ask any more silly questions on here...!