Babies due in November 2016 #2

[FuzzyOwl]

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coppergrey, I am so with you. I am usually disciplined about trying to keep office hours from home, but since MS kicking off big time I have switched to working when I feel like I can work. Starting earlier, slacking off in the afternoon when am sleepiest, working later than usual. All in my usual nine-hour day has probably crumbled to 4 hours. I am also struggling to find reasons to say no to work meetings, especially ones that revolve around food. Thankfully diary slowly emptying and I keep lying to telling people I am slammed with deadlines and that's why I can't see them.

Thank you Thurlow! Weirdly I'm not bothered by needles but veins make me feel awful. The thought of it! I'll let you know how I get on later

almond I feel your pain! I have a studio so usually I do a normal 9-5.30 day and then come home but I haven't been in for a week! I have two pieces of work to finish today and I'm currently sitting on the sofa watching Fraiser. Gaaahhhh!!

Maybe we can encourage each other through this? I like your idea of working when you feel you can, and using deadlines as an excuse to avoid meetings. For me I think I need to go slow and steady, so I'm going to try avoid short deadlines that require lots of concentration as I definitely don't have any of that right now!

Also it's good for us to remember how lucky we are to be able to work in a way that suits us. Although I'm preparing for my bank account to take a hit as my productivity grinds to a halt!

So glad your scan went well Rae.

Hope everyone is having a good day. I am having a proper wobble about lack of symptoms now, so am going to rock quietly in a corner until my scan. I absolutely hate the worry that comes with pregnancy!

coppergrey I hate blood tests too and don't look whenever I have them done. They're normally quite quick and painless so hope it goes ok for you.

I've had my first midwife appointment through (next Tuesday) but unsure what it involves. Can anyone enlighten me a bit? I'm guessing husband doesn't need to come to this?

Thinking of you, FuzzyOwl. It is such an anxious and worrying time. How long do you have to wait till your scan?

Hi bobcat, I'll let you know what happens in mine this afternoon. My husband is coming - I did a bit of research and some people take partners, some don't! Apparently they ask about family history so if you know your husband's, I don't think there's any need for him to go. Mine just wanted to!

Thanks for the reassurance on the blood tests, too - fingers crossed!

bobcat lots of general questions about your health, previous operations, whether you smoke, other children and their births etc.

Thank you copper and I have three weeks for my 12 week scan. Unable to have it any sooner due to a holiday but I am now thinking going abroad is really stupid if there is a good chance I will start miscarrying whilst away.

bobcat, if it is your booking appointment it is just a lot of questions and form filling - medical history mainly, some chat about do's and don't's in pregnancy. Your husband doesn't need to go, though weirdly there seemed to be loads of husbands at my booking session last week. They also take bloods and you need to pee in a pot. In some places you also book in your scan, so make sure you have your diary just in case.

Thanks everyone, that's very helpful. I'll ask if he wants to come but as it means he gets a couple of hours off work so I'm sure he'll want to come along hehe.

Fuzzy- PMA, today you ARE pregnant. Many many women have no symptoms and don't forget you don't have any symptoms to suggest you are not pregnant either. I know this is hard when you've had a MMC before, but you were doing so well with the PMA over the weekend. You can do it.

Rae so glad the scan went well.

Thanks Cake and you are right. i think I needed that nudge.

My DH has come along to all of mine bobcat and sometimes it is good to have an extra pair of ears and memory.

to anyone who is struggling and too to anyone who (like me) has almost no symptoms and is worrying about it.

I got my first real definite symptom today as I woke up with bloody teeth and lips. I had bad bleeding gums in my last PG so this is normal for me. Relieved to finally have some confirmation although still so worried as I know symptoms can continue even after a mmc. They did for my sister .

Also been musing this thread and wondering what the chances of twins here would be. Surely statistically, one person should have twins. It won't be me as I've got no twins in the family but wonder if anyone will find out at the 12week scan.

you have no idea how much better I feel for your message, especially the Frasier admission. Around 6 every day I migrate from table to sofa, stick Netflix on and stay there until I go to bed...around 9. Whatever happened to my rock n roll?
I am so used to feeling busy and productive and rushing around the whole time that I am struggling to accept that I am not being lazy, I am just adjusting to something I haven't asked my body to do before.

I tried to post a few times yesterday but it would never work which was very annoying!
Keep going with that pma fuzzyowl. Do everything you can to enjoy your Holiday.
Glad the scan went well Rae. I hope your sickness settles and you can start to enjoy your pregnancy a bit!!
Sorry for all of you feeling awful. I felt really sick first thing but (as it's the holidays) DH took DD at about 8am and I stayed in bed till 11!!! now I'm up I feel less sick (which of course worries me hugely ). Still sat on the sofa in my dressing gown, DD is in her pjs and DH is making me a cuppa!!

The tiredness is so tedious. Can't wait for it to get better.

I take my DS to bed around 8:30 (we co-sleep so he's in my bed anyway), read about 10 books to him and then fall asleep. I usually then wake at 2am and then just doze until my alarm goes off. I always feel so cheated in the morning as I work full time so the bit of the evening after DS is asleep is the only time of the day thats mine and I hate losing it.

Roll on 12 weeks and the lovely blooming bit!

The tiredness is just depressing. I'm almost asleep at work, I've had to start drinking caffeine again otherwise I'd not survive. I have no idea how I'm going to make it through 5 full days here. I feel wimpish but someone tell me that I'm not being a wimp Out the house at 7.50 with DD, 1 hour commute, 8 hours at work, 1 hour back... It's ok to struggle with that, isn't it?

theAnts my understanding is that identical twins don't run in families and are completely random, so don't rule yourself out yet...

Thanks LittleGrey. Hope you enjoyed your cuppa and lie in.

I would struggle with that without being pregnant Thurlow. You are definitely not a wimp!

FuzzyO, enjoy your holiday, as a PP said you aren't getting symptoms that anything is wrong either.

to everyone who is feeling yuck, hopefully the sickness and exhaustion will lift soon.

TheAnts, it's a really interesting question I've been wandering the same thing, I should imagine at least one poster on this thread should have multiples. I think twins are really amazing.

I had slight cramps on the left side today, not sure if my jeans are too tight or if I should be worried or what. Obviously I'm opting for 'be worried'.

So I went to the GP about my back pain and she was rather useless. Just said everyone gets back ache in pregnancy and Googled some back exercises for me... She asked if I could reduce my workload, which I can't, and she just said ok. Hopefully I will have better advice from my midwife, though I still haven't heard anything from her yet.

Thurlow, that sounds exhausting when not pregnant to be honest. Can you work from home at all, or work form home afternoons and leave early?
I'm eternally grateful that my employer has the work from home option.

Thurlow like everyone else is saying, I'd be exhausted by that without the added baby-growing so I think you're an absolute champ! Also, I'm not a tea or coffee drinker but I've had to allow the odd Diet Coke back in to keep myself functioning through the day. I feel horrible about it, the rules around food and drink are the ones that stress me out the most! Constantly feel like I'm eating/drinking something terrible!

Had my booking in appointment earlier and all went well... midwife didn't actually ask that many questions, she gave us a booklet to fill out all the family history stuff instead. And the blood test was absolutely fine, thank you all for the reassurance!

Ants, my husband has twins in his family - his dad is a twin. But I think the gene is carried on the mother's side, so might not make a difference to us? I'll keep you updated on that!

Oh my I am ravenous today! I have spent half of my lunch break wandering around trying to decide what I fancy and I've opted for a pub lunch burger - by myself, coz I'm just so hungry!

Oddly feel sick at the same time!

That's not great Jade my doc asked me the same thing when doing my early scan referal, erm nope! I work 40 hours a week, commute another 25. Not a great deal I can do about that.

To balance it, I'm trying to work from home every Friday and I've booked a days leave every Thursday for the next two weeks so I'm essentially doing 3 days then 4 days "off" as I only really need to monitor emails at home.

Thurlow that sounds tiring without even being pregnant. Hope you feel less tired soon.

Not sure how I'm going to cope tomorrow, going to meet a friend in London for a gig. Got a two hour train journey to London, get there at 1pm, wonder round London, go to gig then get coach home at 12 so won't get home till 2am. Luckily I have today and Wednesday off so I can relax.

I'm going to have to give up today soon, I reckon. I can barely keep my eyes open and I'm pretty much worse than useless with what I'm doing! I don't mind it normally as half the commute is a nice train journey where I always get a seat (and so read) and then the other part of generally a walk, which is much better than public transport. I'm 9/10w, I reckon it's time to wimp out for a day or. I'm going to see the GP tomorrow anyway about the dizziness as it's permanent and I don't know if it's the pregnancy or my sinuses, which would be a pain as you can't take much during pregnancy.

Copper, there's our twins