Thread #4 - TTC#1 the one where Stark joins the grads!!!!

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Welcome to another riveting instalment of TTC#1 grads.

We've got new grads POAS every day just to make sure, 1st Trimesters wondering if they will be hit by the dreaded morning sickness or not, those approaching the hollowed promised land of the second trimester where all is good and the glowing will prevail... Those who have reached the second trimester and are thoroughly miffed at the lack of glowing.
We have scan photos, bizarre symptoms and the joys of baby shopping, and very importantly we now have Stark!

All are welcome on the wild gas powered ride that is TTC#1 grads

Some lovely bumps there ladies. Oh how I wish it was only the bottom of my stomach that sticks out though 😶

I think you're right Potatosmum, I fear I may have opened the floodgates now! I've started my list and DH has pointed out we have plenty of storage room in the loft if need be...

I think we'll use some of it straight away Bunch, but not the bumpers or anything until lo is a bit older.

My Mum's been busy crocheting blankets already (LOVE this owl one she's just finished 😍). So excited to see everything s/he gets given as I have a couple of crafty friends as well who apparently already have secret plans in action.

Bunch lol at dance party. Mine hasn't started having all night raves yet, he has started waking me up in the morning with a good kick though.

Lara I've just started reading a first time parent book but I'm finding it difficult to concentrate enough to read books at the moment so I'm only a chapter or two in.

Lovely bumps Shelb & Miley

Had a bit of a cry earlier as yesterday I found out that my mum for some reason has decided to be ambivalent towards the baby I know she's got dementia and so is confused but I though she was just indifferent and would be excited when it arrived. I had noticed that as I've got bigger she'd started glaring at my bump and closing her eyes and looking away when I said anything about the baby but I hadn't really thought about it. Yesterday I was meeting her with her social worker (who has a daughter same stage as me so was gushing) I asked mum if she wanted and grandson or granddaughter and she snapped "I don't care", the social worker then started asking if she was excited etc. and mum started ranting that she doesn't care about the baby, doesn't want to hear about it, couldn't care less etc. and was getting quite cross.
Mum also has bipolar and has in the past had episodes of out of the blue violence toward me in particular, she's also been showing signs of violence towards her carers recently (hitting and kicking) if she's been cross with them so I don't feel comfortable even bringing the baby to visit her, just in case.

I'm really heart broken about it as before she went down hill she was so excited about having another grandchild who she could see all the time (her other DGC live abroad) and it really never occurred to me that she would have got so confused that she could end up hating the baby.
I also feel so sad for the baby as he will have no grandma as my OHs mum sadly passed away years ago and only one grandad. There's also no other family on my side in this country so he won't even have lots of aunts and cousins to fill the void

potato that is a truly awful situation for you to be in, I'm shedding a tear for you. I know it doesn't seem like it, but you will love your baby more than enough to fill the void. I don't know what else to say, I'm so upset for you and hope your mum comes round in the end, this is an added stress you could do without right now too. Dementia is horrendous.

irregular owl blanky is amazing!

Those bumps are looking amazing!! Feeling proper rotten at the moment with a cold and sore throat. Midwife said I'm allowed paracetamol but I'm trying to just rest, drink lots of fluids and not take any medication at all. Well if that Vicks inhaler doesn't count - it's stuck up my blocked nose at the moment!

Thinking of a little holiday in a few weeks but it lands on my 16w appointment. Anyone know if 16w is time critical and if it matters if I move to 17w? Shame I'm still all bloat and not quite what I imagined for my bikini bump!

Potato I'm so sorry. What a horrible thing to experience, I don't really know what to say, except maybe take comfort in the memories of your mum saying she would be so excited to have another grandchild etc. How she is atm isn't really who she is, she's very unwell and you know that the person she was before the dementia took over would be overjoyed by your baby news. I know all this doesn't help that much becuase it's just so tough on you to see someone you love like that and acting like that towards your baby. Again, I'm so sorry. I agree with Miley though you and DH will give your baby all the love it ever needs so please don't worry about any voids other relatives need to fill. Sending you lots of love X

Sorry I haven't been keeping up so well!

Soda I wrote you a reply sympathising about the iron tablet constipation but I just realised it never posted...anyway poor you, it's so grim! I have hit the dried apricots hard this week and things have improved Glad to hear about your cervix!

Loving the bump pictures-you all look gorgeous

Potato got my fingers crossed for you with the house-hope you will find the right one soon 🍀

Love the bedding Irregular-where's it from?

For those of you who had bad morning sickness, do you remember when it started and when it peaked? I'm feeling a bit nauseous and carsick now (6+2), not too bad if I eat regularly...I'm just wondering whether it is likely to get worse?

Potato so sorry about your mum dementia is so shitty. Miley is right-you and OH will be the baby's world

Oh so sorry Potato I hope she comes around in time that must be so hard

Thanks ladies, I know Potato will be well loved. I just feel a bit sad for him.

I don't expect my mum to change her opinion and in hind sight I think keeping Potato away will be best as I don't want to risk mum having a violent tantrum while he's present and as he gets older I don't really want to expose him to the confusion that she will cause.
She's been mentally ill all my life and I have been scared by that and by physical/emotional abuse from others in the family although I've dealt with it fairly well. I won't risk Potato going through even a tiny fraction of that.

potato I can't believe how shit you've had/are having it. I'm so glad you have a lovely DH and are expecting your beautiful baby.

elle mine started dead on 5 weeks and never really peaked as such. I was violently ill from the very first day I had it and only now is it subsiding where I can actually manage food and water a couple of times a day. I do still have bad days though. Hopefully yours won't escalate and it'll just be a little nausea you suffer. I will add though that I was a pretty severe case!

Elle my morning sickness started about 6 weeks with feeling nauseous if I didn't eat regularly, then I became very picky with food (most food made me nauseous) then I started feeling nauseous all day every day and vomiting a fair bit too. It took about a week for it to progress from just needing to eat regularly to bring really ill.

Potato I'm so sorry, what a shit situation. I don't know what to say other than echo what others have said. Mini potato won't want for anything, and try and remember that she would be excited if it were still truly her

Elle it's from Mothercare - the Tusk collection. Sale currently on...

elle so far and I'm mindful it's still really early but I've not really had anything yet. I feel slightly, slightly off colour if I don't have dinner

..ducks sake, super tired, pressed post. You know like the knee of feeling the day after you've been suffering with a hangover. Sort of a slightly iffy, ooh I could do with something salty feeling. Mid morning for a couple of hours till diner time. And I'm getting very tired a about 4pm, but ive been waking for a wee a about 4am dh's trying so hard to creep about but then I get a second wind at about 6 pm after tea!

Going to have to restart tablet, it's being frustrating as balls!

I'm so sorry to hear that potato, maybe it's best as you say if you keep the little one away from her when it's here. Be careful as you get bigger too in case she gets violent, as awful as that is to think. My grandad has Alzheimer's and is getting in a really bad way now. A few days before I was getting married last year, I went to visit him with photos of my dress and things to show him so I could feel he was included even though he couldn't leave the home at that point. He was having a particularly bad day and was truly awful to me, even to the point of having to be restrained because he was trying to punch me. I went there so excited to share everything with him and left in absolute pieces. It took me a while before I went back to see him and he's not been as bad since but I kind of feel like the damage has been done and a little disconnected from him, even though I know that's nothing like something my grandad would really do.

I know it's a different kind of situation but I hope you can see some similarities and know I'm thinking of you and understand how upset you must have felt/are still feeling :(

Oh Potato that sounds so awful, I'm so sorry to hear it you will defiantly fill the void for Potato though so don't be worrying about that.

Irregular omg how amazing is that owl blanket!!

Potato you poor thing. That must be hard.

We had anomaly scan yesterday! All looked fine with babyeventually! The little sod-- darling wouldn't show its face so I had to keep getting up, walking about, going to the loo, jumping. Took 3 attempts to finally get a look.
My anterior placenta is also low so I have to go back at 32 weeks to see if it has moved. Otherwise could be a c section for me, which I'm slightly worried about.

We managed not to cave and find out the sex, so we are still team yellow!

Potato I'm so sorry. I can't imagine the number of emotions yesterday must have put you through. Suffice to say, you're already being an incredible mum to little potato by making such a hard choice for his/her sake.

I have my scan today, and typically have woken up full of germs. Temperature, swollen glands, killer sore throat, the works! My kingdom for some lemsip! Know most cold and flu things are off limits so will power through with honey and lemon, but I hope Pancake's feeling more lively than I am this afternoon!

Potato, just to echo what everyone else has said

Good luck today Planet

Nev, sounds like our babies were similar - we had three attempts too! I swear they are lying all nice and still and then think, oh it's scan time, let's do lots of dancing for shits and giggles!

Jam I'm sorry you had to go through that with your grandad. It's so difficult not to hold it against them.
My mum has had several nervous breakdowns and attacked me a few times during them in a similar way so I know exactly how you feel.

I am not terribly worried about her misbehaving at the care home as there are lots of carer around but I do have to take her to the hospital along on Tuesday and I'm sad to say that I'm quite scared she might have a tantrum and considering asking OH to take some time off to come with.

New glad the scan went well. Try not to worry about the c-section. If you do need one there are definitely advantages and at least your foof won't end up mangled

Aww Planet sorry your feeling rubbish but I'm sure your scan will go well despite the germs.

Only a week to go until my anomaly scan. I'm so insanely excited and time seems to be crawling by you watch, the little bugger won't let us see the sex so wish they'd need able to book us in for 20 weeks instead of 21.

I've had a chat with OH about maternity and decided that I'm going to use holiday and maternity to leave work at 30 weeks. I know it's a bit earlier than usual but I just think it will be best for me particularly as with any luck we will sell the flat at the open house in two weeks time so it will be all systems go to get moving.
We've seen about 6 houses we like so there's plenty of choice for us at the moment.

Mor am I remembering right that you're having a surprise baby? as far as the sex goes, I'm sure you won't be surprised it's a baby!

August
11 Mor
13 Bunch (boy)
16 New (surprise)
27 Potato (or any time after 04/06)
30 Pink (girl)

September
1 Shelb
4 Nev (boy)
12 Danni
14 Soda
14 LittleBelle
17 Bubbles
28 Leonie
29 Laurenrl

October
5 Lisa
6 Irregular
8 Miley
12 Indi
13 Co5mo
14 Lillian
20 Planet
27 Lara
30 First

November
6 Bellini
8 Pyxie
11 Peaches
11 5tar
12 Rae
21 Canters
25 Stark!!!!!
25 Jam
29 Elle

December
6 Impy

Can I join in now ? 5 weeks today!

Welcome Feef what's your EDD?

Hugs Jam, that sounds so difficult

Oh dear-sounds like I'm not out of the ms woods yet! Starky mine sounds similar but a bit worse, plus feel a bit sick when driving. I've got a freezer bag with me just in case!

Irregular I am torn between buying them and feeling it's way too early to buy stuff! They are so cute.

Ooh Feefs congratulations!! and welcome!

I meant New, not Nev! Baby brain, sorry! Congratulations on Team Yellow!

Welcome Feefs and congratulations! How are you feeling? Is this baby number one for you?