July 2016 (6)

[Cheery1]

Hello ladies - here we are on number 6! Let the chat continue! x

Primarynoodle - well done on your bargain purchase! You must be feeling very satisfied indeed.

Bluebell - glad to hear you have got more clothes now, those tumbledryer crises will be a thing of the past for a while. I too have suddenly popped, though not quite as dramatically as you. Funnily enough, just as I was starting to feel as though I actually looked pregnant finally, we had a visit yesterday from another first-time pregnant friend who is due four weeks after me - she was much bigger than I am! Amazing how different our bodies are.

Was given a couple of bags of maternity clothes from sister & friend, but discovered last week I needed a few bits more - bought my first pair of maternity work trousers (under bump as that's all they had, but seems to be working out well) in the Gap sale. They were £25 reduced from £35. Also got two tops there for £20. Quite chuffed with myself to get some retail therapy but at bargain prices. Will aim for Asos/H&M/New Look for future purchases, but it's so nice to be able to try things on in the shop. Am laughing too at the thought of a padded swimsuit - that would be equally obscene on me just now. My sister has a maternity swimsuit I can have when I see her at Easter, so I'll have to cope till then.

Jem, I keep meaning to go swimming. Must really do something about it. Am doing yoga and Pilates which are both great, but neither of those feels like proper exercise. I do walk a lot, but I'm finding my hips are starting to hurt a bit.

Cheery and Allthegood - hope your backs improve soon! I've been lucky with my back so far, apart from the odd twinge that generally goes away after a few hours or a good night's sleep.

21+5

Thanks for the advice ladies. I'm not really a very forthright person so I don't feel very confident in asking someone for a seat so I wear the badge in vain hope that some kind soul will take pity on me and do the right thing. Fat chance of that happening in London! I would love o do yoga but unfortunately there are no antenatal yoga classes near me so I may have to find YouTube to try out some of those positions your osteo recommended cheery. My gym has a swimming pool that does ladies only night on a Tuesday so I might start going to that. I never felt comfortable going before because it's has the jacuzzi etc all in the same room as the pool so there are all these smarmy men hanging around in the jacuzzi ogling women all the time. Ladies night should be safe from all that hopefully!

All fine ladies, he was bouncing round in there. Measuring fine. Need another scan at 36 weeks as placenta is blocking birth canal at the minute but they say it moves xx

Fantastic news mascara!

Allgoodnames - you should definitely ask for a seat! I'm in London at the moment too and wear my badge but people are so oblivious, especially on the morning commute. I only wait about 30 seconds or so before asking the person in the priority seat if I could have their seat. I've also had to ask to get through when it's been so crowded by the door that it's impossible to get to the seat. In all the times I've asked, I've never had any problems (except some grumpy looks) so I hope that makes you feel better X

Fab news mascara! How long did the scan take?

Great news mascara!

Re padded swimmers... I need it. My nipples are constantly out in pregnancy. TMI... I did loads of it last time as well as spinning, but now with DD not sleeping and work I'm so tired!! I need to do something though.

Mining I hope it's not scarlet fever. Poor thing.

I was at hen do all weekend was lovely but my friends are big party animals... We were in a huge house but they were so loud I didn't sleep like I had planned! Still had a fab time and stuffed my face

Thanks Carla I may just have to put on my big girl pants and be brave about it.x

Fab news mascara! Must be a huge relief- let the shopping begin

Heartburn and constipation have hit at the same time. aargh.

As you were

Great news mascara!:-)

Sorry to rant ladies but really need to. Had my first annoying comment from a woman at work today:

Her: hello Jem, wanted to talk to you about...oh your tummy!
Me: Yes? What about it?
Her: are you pregnant?
Me: do I look it?
Her: Yes, you're tummy...! (Keeps pointing and staring)
Me: yes I am.
Her: congrats [sarky tone] was it planned?
Me: That's a very personal question! Were you planned?
(Her-laughs nervously says something about how some pregnancies weren't planned and was only asking then made an excuse to leave and said she'll drop me an email instead)

Cheeky cow!!! Honestly can't believe the nerve of some people. How dare she ask me such a personal question in front of my colleagues. It was so humiliating! Oh yes it was planned every last bit to the point of me having daily injections to produce more eggs then my eggs removed, mixed with my husband's sperm in a lab, then a few days later had embryo transferred back in me. That's just what I want to share with a work colleague! Think she was surprised at my response but I've got loads more up my sleeve in case anyone asks me such personal questions.

Whatever happened to just "congrats" or how about no comments and minding their own business? Really sorry I try and stay positive on here but today really pissed me off. Sigh. Rant over.

Jem well done on your response!
A colleague the other day offered me nurofen as I had a headache, said I wasn't allowed it and he looked confused so I said I'm pregnant. He said 'oh right... should I congratulate you?' I said well why wouldnt u.
Currently sitting in hospital waiting to be seen as I think my husband has broken his ribs :( he's in a lot of pain and he never complains about being in pain so I'm keeping schtum about being absolutely starving.

Jem that's awful!! I don't understand why people think a pregnant woman's life is up for discussion just because there's an obvious sign of part of it. It sounds like you handled the situation really well and didn't lose your cool, so well done. I've had similar questions about my obviously unplanned pregnancy (everyone in office knows I'm single) and it's so hurtful. I guess we can take solstice in the fact these people obviously have very dull lives if they need to pry in others! X

Wow jem that is beyond rude! The nerve of some people! Well done on the snappy comeback

When I told my (previous) work about my first pregnancy, the HR manager said afterwards to my line manager, "does she even have a boyfriend?!" I had been with my partner for 10 yrs at this point, longer than I'd been in the job. I just hadn't thought it necessary to explain my relationship status to her! My DP was down as my emergency contact from day one as well, so it's not like they didn't have the information. I don't know why people think they have a right to know your personal business just because you work with them!

Jem and KayTee, i think your responses were perfect.

Jem - I told a colleague at work today, and he responded with I wondered if you were having fertility issues given your age! Like you, I went through IVF but didn't want to go into details in an open plan office. I have also been asked if it was planned, my response was very!!

Gosh guys, I can't believe people have asked such personal questions. And Carla, just because you're single doesn't mean everyone should assume your pregnancy is unplanned - many single ladies do go through fertility treatment on their own! It's just outrageous that people think it is their business to ask!

That said, my mate asked me at the weekend how long it had taken me to get pregnant, and I didn't mind that at all. But that was because a) she's my friend, b) she acknowledged that she was being terribly nosey and asked if I minded saying, c) she is the same age as me, and I know that she is planning on trying in a couple of years and she probably wanted to know if I had had a hard time, and d) she was in no way being offensive. So, different situation!

Anna hadn't even thought about the nipples thing with the padding. Do nipples end up sticking out all the time at the end of pregnancy, or is it different for everyone? I have literally no idea. Mine aren't at the moment!

gnat you sound very well-equipped with clothing now. I also can't believe how differently people carry their bumps - it is so odd that it varies so much! I work with a girl who is five days ahead of me, and good lord am I showing a lot more than her at the moment. But she's a totally different body shape to me anyway, so there you go!

mini how is the tankini? I was dithering over one of those as opposed to a swimsuit (currently thinking of this suit www.mothercare.com/Black-Maternity-Swimsuit/LH5191,default,pd.html#tabs) but I'm worried it will gape between the top and the pants as the bump gets bigger!

mascara so glad all is well!

Kaytee hope your husband is okay. Rib breaks are nasty.

Oh ladies, I have so much work left to do tonight. This is because I procrastinated so much before lunch today. Balls :/

Cheery and Allthegoodnames - I've been to physio for my back/pelvis pain. I'm boobs to thighs in tubigrip and was sore after the mulipulation of my joints back into place but it's really helped me. Just an idea? Midwife referred me.

Jem - what a cow your collegue was asking you those questions! I've had a few interesting and rude questions too as my OH is female also. e.g "How did that happen then, whilst touching my belly?" (Response: essentially the same way as ever other baby). Despite a few failed rounds of IVF (I know what you have been though Jem) our baby was actually conceived without any medical intervention but that's not anyone else's business.... and why do people think they can touch your belly whenever they wish!!! The best was " just aswell you are having a girl as if it was a boy he would be gay (having 2 female parents)" Don't even get that logic!

Feeling angry today... and have eaten a weeks worth of cake!!

21+ 3

Nothing broken, "just" bad bruising so he's been given some painkillers and we're off to get a chippy for dinner.

LOL at your child would be gay, where does that logic come from? Surely the vast majority of gay people are born from male+female relationships. AND why would it matter exactly if your child was gay

Goodness me, people are rude and nosey! I guess their curiosity overrides their manners.

21 + 6

I am in utter shock at the rudeness of these people!! You ladies have handled it all very well. I just don't know what my response would even be?!
Ladies you've inspired me and I've ordered a Mothercare black swimming costume this evening. Can't remember who said it but I wondered that about a tankini and thought best to keep it hidden
beautician hope you are relieved from them both very soon!!
Glad scan went well mascara
allthegood there aren't any yoga classes I can get to either, I went to a normal yoga class last week and was fine (I do know the instructor)! Hope you find something

Glad it went well today Mascara.

Beaut I can sympathise about the heartburn, tis shite

Sorry for those who have been subjected to insensitive dimwits comments. I've had a few crappy reactions to this pregnancy, due to my age and the age gap between DC's...I've had just 'wow!', 'Gosh why are on earth would you want to start back at square one?' and 'that must have been a surprise!'...I try not to let it get to me but it does piss me right off

Hello to everyone else, sorry for lack of participation recently...I'm constantly reading though!

19 + 4

Great news mascara! Delighted for you.

Jem impressed with that response!

Thanks all, feel so relieved! Especially as I can't really feel him. It took about half an hour to do the scan. A lot of the time I wasn't sure what I was looking at and gosh don't they press hard?!! My stomach muscles were hurting, ouch. I've bought my first little outfit tonight now my little treat. Currently feel like rubbish though, all run down

Bluebell - with my shape I'm a different size top and bottom so tankini is my only option (I don't do bikins!) it flaps about round my tummy but hopefully as I get bigger it won't so much. I tuck it in the pants to help!

My customer's comments are sometimes off the scale. With dd I got asked if I was pleased to be pregnant! This time a few people have said that they bet dh is pleased that I'm having a boy. He's actually as pleased as he would be with another girl. I got married 9 years ago & my ovaries and sex life have been discussed ever since with comments like "are you going to have kids?/isn't it about time blah blah". I've a friend who's chosen not to have kids and she also gets annoying comments!