July 2016 (6)

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Hello ladies - here we are on number 6! Let the chat continue! x

Indians, sorry you've had such a horrid week. And amen to your pro-NHS rant. A close friend of mine lost his leg in a road accident shortly after I found out I was pregnant, and the care he received then and is still receiving now is second to none. Particularly from the nurses - he has some very moving stories about how beautifully some of the nurses treated him, and the way they made him feel cared for as a person, not just as a patient.

Ellizardo, it seems quite a few of us on here work in the arts! The ITV series sounds fun... One to watch while feeding a baby, perhaps?!?

Scase, I'm so sorry to hear about the kittens.

KayTee, my dad didn't want to know the sex, and I accidentally told him on the phone the other day. Really annoyed with myself!

Speaking of feeling gross while pregnant, I had a bit of a funny one this morning. Stopped in a services and grabbed a takeaway coffee, and as I was coming out, three young men walked past me, one of whom said, clearly about me but really for the benefit of his friends' entertainment, "Oh, you're beautiful."

Now, what amuses me most about this is that I actually, at first, assumed he was genuinely paying me a compliment in a white-van-man kind of way. Then obviously I realised that I was wearing a waterproof jacket two sizes too big (as I can't fit in my winter coat any more), enormous glasses, no make-up, and hadn't bothered brushing my hair.

Once I'd realised that he was being a tw@t, I felt quite cross, and I did turn around half-thinking of saying something, but they were being pretty lairy as they walked away and I didn't really want to get my nose punched. I also made sure I didn't mention it to DH (who had been elsewhere) until they were well across the car park, although he is too sensible to have said anything either. DH pointed out that they wouldn't have dared to say it if he had been beside me at the time.

Which got me thinking. Why do some men think that it's okay to say things like that? I'm sure that women don't do it to men. I've certainly never seen it happen. Thankfully I am pretty secure in myself and I could brush it off, but imagine if I was someone with serious body image issues?

Pah!

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Bluebell it's not just men that say stupid things, there's I girl I work with that has recently lost some weight and now she's thinks it's great to call me fatty every time she see me and makes comments like look how slim I am now compared to you and on my god you're going to be huge!!! I really want to punch her on the nose lol
Hope everyone's having a nice Sunday, I'm still lazing in bed lol xx

Cheery definitely not glam at all I can assure you. It's not that I'm not trying to make the effort but my hair especially just will not go right at the moment.

Woodsy buy what you like. Tell him that it will either be re used on future children or failing that baby clothes/ equipment have good resale value as its not used for long. I've bought a few things that we had sold so a playmat, sleep night show and pram. When we have the scan and find out the sex if it's another boy I will sort Teddys old clothes and keep and reuse anything suitable. If it's a girl I will sell Teddys old suitable clothes as bundles. Half the stuff from newborn he didn't wear.

Bluebell I'm hating washing my hair as it tends to lay worse than when it's not been washed.

Becks I will try on gas and air (which is what I had last time) and I'm hoping for a water birth. Last time my labour was 5 hours so I'm hoping for roughly the same again. If it hurts and it's looking to be longer I'll just have the epidural. I don't get a medal for putting up with the pain so it doesn't bother me.

Scandi you don't need loads of baby clothes as they grow pretty fast in the first year. I buy some in newborn and some in early baby. My babies weights have been 6lbs, 6lb 6oz and 7lbs 3 oz. Newborn even swamped the 7lbs 3oz baby but he was only in early baby for about two weeks.

Indians sorry you've been ill but glad you are feeling better. I had a fb disagreement with a friend the other day as she was moaning that she was in hospital with her baby. Not as a patient herself and that she wasn't being fed. I simply said is there not a cafe or can someone bring food in for you. I pointed out that her son is getting free treatment and that if I had to pay privately for healthcare I would struggle. I adore the baby clothes you have so far. I won't even look at girls clothes it's a bit depressing. Boys have the odd nice bit but pretty samey and boring compared to girls clothes. I'm convinced I'm having another boy but at least it will be cheaper as we already have the clothes.

Scase sorry to hear about your kitten

Mascara I have two may babies. I tend to dress them in a vest with short sleeves and then a romper suit over the top. Always a sun hat too. Ds3 was very sweaty so often slept in just his nappy at night when a few months old. You will be able to tell if they are hot or cold easily. I found a sun shade from boots last year that was great. It was like a blackout net with a zip down the middle that for any pushchair. It was handy for keeping Teddy cool and the bees/ wasps away from him .

Kaytee I never have time to have anything done which is why I feel I'm struggling more.

Cookies thanks. I think that's what a lot of it is I'm struggling at the moment with work stress etc. The lady I work for has exchanged more messages today as she refused to arrange a meeting to discuss it or talk to me on the phone. I think she wants rid of me. I can't understand why. I would like to try working from home but I'm not sure I'll get enough business. I don't know what to do.

We have just been out for a great lunch. It was so good. We live right near a canal . I've attached a pic of the view from the restaurant. We met DHS dad and step mum there. She asked if we are finding out the sex I felt bad lying and saying no we want a surprise. But I don't want all the negative boy comments I had last time. She kept pushing though and said are you finding out but not telling.

Only 3 more sleeps until the scan. Can you tell I'm excited haha.

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Beautician it must be impossible to get time for yourself with 3 wee ones already.
I'm trying to make the most of it being my first!
I definitely think the nhs are brilliant with their limited resources and bar the odd mix up with blood tests have nothing but praise for them. I've had 6 operations under general anesthetic and can't complain. Also clement attlee was married to my gt gt aunt or something like that, as he was prime minister when the nhs was founded, we have to be supporters haha. My gran remembers when she was young going round the houses in her neighbourhood once a week with her sister collecting money for the poorer people's health care. I can't imagine how it was for people.

Was there some chat about making a Facebook group btw or was I imagining that?

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There is a fb group it's mn 07/16

Hi all

Sort of had a skim thru to catch up. Scase, sorry to hear about the kitten.

Pity party alert! Been away visiting friends which was going great til I woke up at 4am with indigestion/trapped wind/heart burn pains. Managed to get ready for lunch in the pub and bought Rennies on the way but ended up being sick just when the food appeared. Hardly ate but felt better and managed a sorbet but the pains came back in the car a bit so now stretched out in bed feeling ill and a bit like I've been run over. Last time I had those pains turned into a full blown sickness bug so hoping this is just a one off. Urrrrggh so relieved to be home and in my own bed. There's something about the smell of other peoples houses when you're ill that just makes it worse!
21+6

Just found it and clicked 'join' might be able to share my scan and bump pictures to it as they're not the right size to upload here

Sorry about not being on since last night, busy daaayyy!

Right rant time about kitten!!! Sooo we live with OHs nan as Ive mentioned before (I think! Sure I have.. Anyway) first of all everyone kept picking up the kittens when Ive told them not too because for at least the first week they should be left alone, picked up for health checking and thats it really or if theyre struggling to get to mum. It was oh's nans grandsons birthday yesterday, he turned 10, he isnt gentle with any animal really and in no way quiet. I specifically told her not to let him pick the kittens up because they shouldnt be held. She agreed and was adamant she wouldnt let him pick them up. I came home from work yesterday asked did he hold them.. "Oh yeah course he has!! He's been in and out of there all day picking them up, he was gentle!" 1. They should NOT have been picked up, especially from him and 2. He isnt a gentle person and would have been shouting in their ears and it saddens me to think about that
That kitten died because it was handled too much by people because it was their favourite because she was very pretty, even the vet said today she cant understand why it died (I didnt go but thats what I was told.. Thats another thing to rant about :L)

So this last remaining one is doing good at the moment.. However again, my OH comes and picks me up from work and lets me know that his nans brother, wife, daughter and daughters boyfriend all played pass the parcel with the kitten DO THEY NOT UNDERSTAND!! Her eyes arent even open yet and its being passed around like a @&#$ing toy!!!!!!! I am SO angry.

Sorry about all that but it needed to come out. It wouldnt surprise me if this one passes away either

Aw scase I would be furious :( poor babies! Some people just think that animals are for their amusement only. The mummy cat must have been so distressed watching her kitten being passed around like a toy :(

Oh scase :( thats horrendous i hope the last kitten is ok. That is truly cruel!!

A similar thing happened in my old school's reception unit - we had chicks in an incubator and told the staff that they were too young to be handled yet... cue one TA getting a chick out and allowing 60+ germy 4 year olds to play pass the parcel with it. Chick died that night! Stupid woman

Theres been major drama tonight involving my psychotic in laws (dp's dad/stepmum)... caused a major car crash row between me and dp and im so angry. I have rolled over to these people too many times and now there's an innocent baby in the picture i refuse to do it anymore!! (they actually are psychopathic)

On a happy note, definite baby kicks today at 20 weeks exactly :)

Wlovely news about the kicking primary. As I edge closer to 20 weeks I am getting increasingly anxious about the scan and the kicking. I occasionally feel a butterfly/wormy feeling so I am sure baby is fine. But I am hoping my placenta is at the back this time so I feel more (what me swallow my words further down the line), as opposed to the thumping DS1 offered. Which was lovely and still visible. But hey we always put pressure on ourselve . My friend suggested I was "scanxious" which I thought was clever.

Scase. I am fuming for you. Are these living arrangements a temporary solution for you or more permanent? It sounds too stressful.

So sorry to hear about the kitten scase I would be just as furious, why can't people follow simple instructions

Had the day from hell at the baby show - my feet are about to fall off from all the walking and I don't like crowds very much so was not in my element at all. Got lots of good bargains though - got the chicco next2me for £119 (wayyy cheaper than I've ever seen it online) got the Stokke xplory pushchair with the carrycot and the maxi cosi pebble plus in a bundle for £1000 which was again a major bargain considering how much each costs individually. Got lots of other little bits as well so that's the majority of my baby shopping done phew! can put my feet up for the next few months (wishful thinking probably). There was also a really good 30 minute session on baby first aid. Hope everyone else managed to bag some good deals at the show as well

beautician love the canal photos you're so lucky to live somewhere so beautiful. Will be very nice for long peaceful walks with the baby when s/he arrives

I have sent a request to join the fb group too if that is ok. My profile pic is of me and my boy in water.

Scase- sorry to hear about your kitten and the circumstances that surrounded it.

Is anyone else on a hormonal roller coaster? I've had 5 emotions in as many minutes today and no patience.

Cookies - they say with girls you get a sweet tooth, boys Savoury. Which is correct in our cases ☺️.

Back to work tomorrow after a week off- dreading it. Love my job but it's relentless and would much rather be home looking at baby stuff online☺️. Guess need to earn the money first!!

Am looking rather pregnant - will post a bump pic tomorrow

Have a good week everyone and good luck with any scans coming up... 1 by 1 we are crossing the half way line! 🎉🎉🎉

I have also requestes to Join the fb group. Im Victoria picture of my vou and I

Really sorry to about kitten :(

20 week scans very exciting, my actual scan is later as my dr saw him the other week and no need to do a scan so soon after

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allthegood - that sounds like an amaazing shopping trip and how gratifying to have it all done in one go.

bee - definitely have a sweet tooth with DD2 compared to savory DS1.

Have 20 scan today at 1440, eeek. And consultant's appt just before then to discuss ELCS etc (Anna - sounds like we're in similar situations). Hopefully all is well, haven't felt any movements from her since last week.

Good luck with the scan today Eli hope all goes well

Allthegood super impressed at your baby show bargains. We have only lived here for 8 months it was a tough decision as we needed to decide where we will bring the children up. We've moved a few times I'm from the south originally. We love it here and yes I'm looking forward to sunny canal walks with the baby.

Bird I have a ridiculous sweet tooth this time but I'm not sure if I'm just making the excuse to eat sweets as I'm pregnant. With ds3 I did like my puddings but was definitely more for savoury.

Good luck to all those with scans today. Two more sleeps until mine. Looking forward to seeing pictures later from you all.

Well I've woken up with sore boobs today or rather a sore boob. Pretty random at this stage. I'm also feeling really nauseous again.

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It is meant to be a temporary arrangement until we can get a place of our own.. I tried to get on the housing list online but neither of us have been working a year so it wouldnt let me! Need to make a trip to the council, however it may look like we might be moving back with his parents (until we find our own place) as his sister who is about ready to drop may have a flat :) I will feel much better at his parents

Thank you for the condolences about the kittens, its very sad but agitating as I cant speak my mind because its not my family and I know what I think will just be shoved aside because it could never be that apparently this last one seems to be doing great, his nan keeps picking it up but it seems strong so fingers crossed!!

Beautician love the canal pics. I also have a sore boob! It got really tender and went pink in one area on Saturday. I haven't worn a bra since (thankfully have not had to go out much) and it is fading now. If it doesn't go away entirely I will speak to the doctor. My mum died of breast cancer and I must say that boobs do panic me!!!

Mini sorry about your poorlies :(

Scase gutted about the kittens. I hope the last one survives.

Primary sorry things are rough at home. Pregnancy is such a volatile time! Good for you for standing up for yourself.

Allthegood I am in awe of your shopping skillz. So far my baby shopping amounts to: three pictures for the nursery, one cot (given to us by our local pub landlady!), and wool to make a blanket. Argh.

Ellizardo good luck with your scan and the consultant.

I am descending into pregnancy paranoia again. For a start, everything seems to make me cry at the moment - from banging my head accidentally, to DH being a bit sharp with me - everything. And then, as I'm sure I've said here before, I have had massive anxiety issues in the past, which I have pretty much got under control now, but which rear up from time to time.

My current irrational fear is of dying and leaving my baby motherless (yes yes, I know, drama queen!). I've had odd sort of - I don't know if they're palpitations exactly - but heart 'squeezes' the last week or so, where I've kind of been able to feel the blood whooshing through? No idea what's going on there, but I spent much of the weekend imagining myself having a heart-attack and dying during child birth (!!!!) so was straight on the phone to the doctor this morning! ECG and blood pressure check this afternoon. Gordon Bennett. My surgery is going to be sick of the sight of me...!

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21 + 6 even! Yikes!

Morning all,

Just trying to catch up after a bit of a crap weekend. Ended up in a&e with DD yesterday as she was so unwell. Was terrified it was serious but luckily it's just a nasty infection. We were allowed to come home last night once she had rehydrated and got her temp now. Now on strong antibiotics, bless her. Broke my heart seeing her like that. NHS is truly amazing. Yes, it has fault but it's situations like that it is more than you could hope for.

Woodsy- you buy what you want!! All I would say is don't go mad on newborn 0-3. They are out of them so fast!

Scase that's so sad. I'm so sorry. How awful for you. Hope you can move out soon.

Elizardo- good luck! Hope it goes ok at consultant. My scan isn't for three weeks then consultant week after. Midwife doesn't think I'll be able to try VBAC but said some consultants really push it on you. Taking DH as I really don't want VBAC was so unwell last time and can't cope with feeling that way with two little ones! Are you hoping for VBAC or ELCS?

Primary that sounds crap. Hope you are ok?

Well done for all the baby buying! I've bought nothing yet. Trying to wait a bit!

I've not really felt anything yet but am only 17+3. Am sure it will come. I'm actually enjoying the peace. DD was very active (still is!) and would really boot me, mainly in the middle of the night

Bluebell sorry you're feeling a bit stressed. It's perfectly normal. I'm afraid you won't stop worrying now! Think it's the role of being a mum. Re the heart squeeze this can happen to me with caffeine? Are you drinking any? Hope it's nothing serious and it checks out. Don't worry about GP it's their job!

Thanks Anna :) No, it's definitely not caffeine because I don't touch it - even before getting pregnant I was strictly decaf only due to the old anxiety! It's not exercise either, as it happens at quiet times rather than when I've been gymming or swimming. Hey ho! I'm sure it's nothing, but I feel it is best to get it checked out - after all and as you say, it's not just me I need to worry about any more!