July 2016 (6)

[Cheery1]

Hello ladies - here we are on number 6! Let the chat continue! x

cheery i am 19+1 and have only felt a few suspect flutters with an anterior placenta. I know hes alive though - found a very strong heartbeat on the doppler this morning!

For those of you who have a doppler - me and dp invented 'doppler bingo' last night. The first one to hear my hb/baby hb/placenta/umbilical cord got the final slice of apple pie i won! (Who knew a stomach could have so many alien noises)

Cookies what a lovely bump! I MUST remember to get DH to take a pic of mine!

Culture, sorry you're sick. That sounds grim. Get well soon!

Scase how sweet is your other half?! And yours, Allthegood!

I totally embarrassed myself today crying in public because, wait for it, all the trains were cancelled and I had to wait for a replacement bus. It wasn't just about that, but it was the straw that broke the camel, you know? I am going to have to start carrying a supply of fresh hankies everywhere I go if I'm going to continue to be such a wet drip...!

20+6

Ah my hands are so dry, red and sore like bad eczema. I don't think washing my hands all the time helps

So a co-worker and I are standing in the tea line. She points to my bump and says "so is that the baby bump or is it pudge?"

Then the poor thing realized what she'd said and went red. Bless.

I laughed for a good five minutes. And then began plotting my revenge.

This is the latest in a long line of bizarre work conversations. My all-time favourite was my boss (male) interrupting my work to remind me to take folic acid. I was snacking on M&Ms at the time, which he looked rather aghast at.

The other week he actually made the comment that I shouldn't actually be eating for two (I was enjoying a wee cinnamon swirl with my tea) and I told him, rather firmly, that not even my DH had the chutzpah to tell me what I should and should not be eating.

For the most part, everyone has been really supportive and my boss makes a point of making sure I'm not suffering in silence and getting all the accommodations I need. But every once and a while the odd comment makes me feel like I've wandered onto the set of the Office.

Anyone else have some funny/bizarre work reactions to your pregnancy?

Bluebell- I know Im so lucky! Haha and as for the crying.. I broke down in tears the other day because I couldnt get my make up to go right.. these emotions are too much haha!

Thanks ladies, when naked it looks a lot more podgy! Scan went well- anterior placenta so explains my lack of movement for #3. Don't remember them taking as long as they did- we were in there for ages. Amazed me how high baby was- sonographer was way above my belly button to get the head in! Would share a photo but they're really rubbish unfortunately.
culture so sorry to hear you're so poorly. Try and get some rest. Really hope you feel better soon. And that DS also makes a swift recovery.
indians sounds like some good bargains to me! I'm rubbish at finding bargains. Sulk. Let us know how you get on. I loved the I candy but price put me off.
thom I've tried to do pregnancy yoga but nowhere in my area that I can make it to. Can't recommend yoga enough. I did yoga pre pregnancy which was the high light of my week but unfortunately can't keep it up as its in a hot room :(
pulpi you're a better woman than me I think I would have issued some v harsh words. So so rude and unacceptable. Next time throw some M&Ms at him
eliz I have a Phil&Teds and they're great for a double. (Not that I've ever used it but heard great things) only thing is I'm not confident if they really work for a newborn and 3 yr old. As the older child has to go in the 'second' seat and I think my DDS legs would be too long? (She is 3) Any extra info really appreciated as I'm also worried for long days out she will need more than a buggy board. But trying to bury head in the sand at the mo!

Eliz, I am sure you already have thought about this, but have you considered babywearing? it is a great way to bond with the baby, manage cling-ons and have a cup of tea. It could mean that you get something lightwight like a bugaboo bee which your older DC can use to travel in and then it can lie flat for when you get to your desitnation and DC2 can be put down for a bit.

I started babywearing after DS was a few weeks old and have been ever since. I even got a custom carrier made which we both love. Unfortunately, my baby boy is getting to the point where he walks too much to be confined to a carrier or pushchair. He has also decided not to nap anymore. When this baby comes along I plan on getting a stretchy from day one. I can't imagine I will ever get on with wrapping, although I can see why people love it. If you are interested, I am happy to answer any questions I can, but would also serioulsly recommend joining at least one of the carrier facebook pages (affordable slings and carriers is a good starting point) where you will be able to get some good ideas and tips as well as some good deals.

Pulpi - I can't say I have had any strange work conversations, but it seems that the corner of my office where I work is quite fertile. There are three of us pregnant and all due within a few weeks of each other. That is not accounting for two others from the same corner who are on materntiy leave, or for the other two on mat leave from the other end of the office. We have some people joke they don't want to come to see us in case they get pregnant too!

I love the baby bump picture. I will get the confidence to do a pic soon , but at 16+4, my bump already seems bigger than most of your beauts. Apprantly it is "perfectly normal". Iam going to have to have therapy if I hear that epression much more, but I know it is coming back into my life and will be here until this baby hits two years old!

On another note, I had my 16 week check with my MW today. We don't do heartbeat here until 25 weeks, so I am a little jealous of you lot who have, but my time will come : ) What we did talk about was me struggling slightly with this PG. I feel now as I did at about 25 weeks last time which seems a bit soon. I want to enjoy my pregnancy as it is unlikely to happen again, but I have been in quite a lot of discomfort for the past few weeks and when I see my image in the mirror I get a little unhappy about how "fat" (I don't mean the bump, but everywhere else) I think I look. This is despite several friends over the last week telling me otherwise when I have told them I am PG: "as you can tell, I am pregnant","wow, I was going to comment how good you looked!" Anyhoo, MW told me not to put such great expectations on myself. If I feel ill and rough, I am allowed to be grumpy about it. They have offered to refer me to a mental health nurse to discuss how I can fend off any anxiety before it bites me on the bum, so we shall see what happens there. I think when my bump looks more like a baby and not pork pies, I will feel happier and I have already noticed a spring in my step coming back, so perhaps it was all part of my first tri symptoms. But I would be interested to know if anyone else has been having similar type thoughts or feelings?

Hi All :)

Been feeling uncomfortable and full all day. Had a cry cooking dinner as dh asked if I had a good day. Yes I did but cooking dinner took it out of me and I ended up blubbing lol! Also the smell of beef whilst cooking the cottage pie was making me urge.

Pulpi - My work involves dealing with customers so there's always interesting comments from people. Someone told me the other day that I should've just got another dog. When I was pg last time a different person told me they hoped I was having a boy "as boys are better" - I knew I was carrying a girl and found that really offensive!

Didn't buy mini eggs today and regretting it now!

GoingLoopy, sorry to hear that you're struggling with this PG. Hope you turn a corner soon. The referral sounds like a good idea and will hopefully help.

Please can you explain to me the difference between a sling, a wrap and a stretchy? Are they all different? I think I want to go down this route (rather than the more bulky carriers) but I'm confused by the terminology so don't know where to start! Despite the discussion on this topic on one of our earlier threads, I'm still confused... What are the pros and cons of the different types?

Re maternity clothes, is anyone else having problems with colour coordination? I've found that for maternity tops/blouses, the trend in the shops is apparently for navy / dark blue, whereas all the smart trousers in the shops seem to be black. I'm prepared to tolerate many things during this pregnancy, but wearing navy tops with black trousers isn't going to be one of them... Has anyone found any nice navy maternity trousers (or skirts) that are suitable for working in a (quite smart) office?

Oh, and don't forget to do your pelvic muscle exercises

goingloopy I can definitely identify with a few of the feelings you've expressed. Watching your body change can be quite upsetting. I've found the lack of control quite hard. Normally if I get a bit podgy I hit the gym quite hard and do a spot of serious dieting which usually sorts it but whilst pregnant I just have to sit and watch it happen which is quite frustrating. It's good to hear your midwife was so swift to make referral for you and I hope things take a turn for the better soon.

julfin I've found a similar problem with clothes so I've resorted to just wearing dresses - which makes for a boring wardrobe but at least it's colour co-ordinated

pulpi lol at your colleagues sticking their oar in. I was drinking a can of Coke the other day and had a colleague stroll pass and tell me how bad it was for the baby. I felt like decking her tbh because I was so knackered that day (insomnia) and just needed a caffeine kick. I've given up Diet Coke ( because I'm worried about what aspartamame would do to the baby) and I hate coffee so this was my one small option at perkiness it's not like I'm necking the stuff everyday FFS. People and their "helpful" suggestions drive me nuts

goingloopy I can really relate. I told myself this pregnancy I wasn't going to gain extra weight. That I would eat right and have all the energy bla bla bla. I am so self conscious as I work in the fitness industry and have women stare at me in my too small clothes. And like others have said its hard to feel in control. I tried to have a good go on the running machine last night and within 2 mins I had pains down the side of my bump. And went home and ate several slices of toast.
The referral sounds like a good idea. Suffering with mental health issues in my previous pregnancy I wish I had spoken up more so I had better support.
julfin I'm not sure of the technical names but i would look into something like a Caboo or Moby. I think I'm going to get a Caboo this time. I used mine at home a lot with a clingy baby. fuzzy is the lady to talk to! They are more suited to newborns up to about 4-6 months depending on weight etc.
mini sorry to hear about your cooking cry. I cried the other night because DH bought me the wrong Lindt chocolate I have a feeling mini eggs will love purchased here by the end of the day...

Mega long day here of teaching to children (whilst bringing my own with me to work- Yey half term and no childcare ) and then this evening I'm back out again to teach an adults class. I'm tired thinking about it as I sit here drinking coffee...

One of my cravings is coke and I feel so bad but I cant help it

The weirdest thing just happened.. Okay so, I was just laying in bed being lazy as its my last day off before going back to work tomorrow, and I decide to stroke my tummy and speak to my little man as its good for them so Ive been told.. Anyway I notice one side is harder than the other, so I like squidge (not too hard!) the harder side and it is literally rock solid, and I do the same to the other side and its squidgy and soft, and I dont even know but I swear I felt the outline of the baby or I felt something if thats not possible but it kinda freaked me out a bit ughhh !!!

Scase mine is the same, DH even noticed it. That's where baby must be laid. Someone at work even pointed that it bumps over to one side the other day too. I hadn't really noticed apart from when I feel.

Ah have your cola ladies, one won't do any harm! Please remind these people that you are quite capable of making decisions as an adult!!

Headache again, think I'm just dehydrated spa day tomorrow, can't wait.

What treatments can I have/avoid??

Oh and I had chicken dippers and smiley faces for tea last night and I enjoyed it!!

Hey ladies nice bump photos.

I am not having the best time at work. Started with a few weeks ago where they are communication blocking me on my salary review and as my boss put it "cause you are now pregnant". Really upsetting me and just sort of put me in a situation where I am quite unhappy with my boss and HR. They want to do my salary review when I am away on mat leave in Sept

mascaraisamust I didnt know you could even buy smiley faces :)

Cookiesandcoffee Seems like a long week, get some rest in

julfin yeah I remember once a month to do my pelvic exercises

Hello ladies, I'm back (kaytee1987) I deactivated my account as I was fed up reading the bitchiness on other parts of the site but what I should have done was just stop reading it! I was hormonal, very sick and fed up I suppose! I hope everyone is well? I will be 18 weeks on Saturday, getting 20 week scan on 3rd March :D

Ah ladies think I feel rundown got a face full of spots, skin is soooo dry, what I think is pregnancy rhinitis and now a tight wheezy chest/start of a cold/related to rhinitis/who knows???!!! No idea what I can take either apart from paracetamol. I think some fresh orange, scrambled egg and a hot shower might be the answer for now.

Welcome back kaytee, and sorry to hear your having a tough time photographer

So much stuff I've wanted to ask you girls, I've only put on 2lbs is that normal? Midwife said I'm measuring spot on for how many weeks I am so I suppose im not worried? One of my mum's (male) friends said the other day how 'absolutely HUGE' I was and that I'm going to have a 'MASSIVE baby'. Arghh I was so annoyed, I've put on 2lbs and still fit into all my pre pregnancy clothes except jeans. Wish I'd had a witty reply at the time.

Mascara my skin has been drier since week 10 I think but that's quite good as I have absolutely no spots. When I came off the pill my skin got quite oily. It does mean I need to try and remember to moisturise though. Hot shower probably best and a hot drink.

There's such a wide range of "normal" Kaytee, and if your midwife is happy then try not to worry about it.

Your male friend who commented knows nothing about pregnancy and babies. People's bumps can vary in size, as can the amount of amniotic fluid around the baby. Even with an ultrasound scan it's not possible to precisely judge the size of baby - I think it's plus or minus 15%, which gives a huge variance. Some people just seem to feel the need to make some kind of comment when they see a bump!

Culture, you're right I think people just feel like they need to say something. It's amazing how rude people become when you're pregnant from telling you what to eat to commenting on your weight / size. My brother refused to cook my steak medium a few weeks ago (usually I would have rare so medium is my pregnancy concession not that I eat steaks very often). I was absolutely fuming with him and pointed out I'm perfectly capable to decide what to eat myself, he still refused and cooked it well done which meant I didn't eat it. It's amazing how people totally infantilise you when you're pregnant.

Welcome back kaytee and agree- such a range of normal and if your midwife is happy then all is good I would have been livid about the steak.
photographer sorry to hear you're having such a rubbish time of things. It doesn't sound quite right to me. That sounds v unprofessional of your boss.
Smiley faces are a firm fave in the Cookie household!!
scase that's totally normal I've had that already too. So funny though. My entire bump was uneven in a previous preg. I've got really uneven stretch marks to show for it, and my belly button piercing is now really wonky even other people notice it!

Well, I've felt rubbish all day!! Woke up with this banging headache and a wheezy chest, dragged myself to the shop (didn't even look in a mirror). Pulled over the car as I nearly threw up . Then I got to the shop and smashed six eggs I'd put in the basket whilst dragging it round with me clueless. Went to notify a member of staff to be told 'there's only two on you know'. Got home, went to bed for a few hours and the headaches still persists gahhhh!! Not felt anything for days now also so pretty convinced it was in my head or I was feeling something else.

Oh and if ovia tells me to drink more water!!! How can one person drink any more water??!