June 2016 #6, Blue? Pink? Yellow? Where did the first 20 weeks go?

[nehagarg]

Loving the latest scan news! Happy new thread everyone.

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Thanks insideout and congrats on your scan!

Yes I suppose he is a light sleeper but I guess both of us are just struggling to visualise the practicalities, lol! We are both pretty type A and like to be planned!

P.s yes also agree our cats will be terrified of the baby when it's awake, not sure about asleep though!

nehagarg no she didn't, wondering now if I should go private for peace of mind. I wouldn't mind the changing midwives so much if the last one hadn't made it absolutely clear that I wasn't her problem and I was a burden to her. I understand being stressed having had to deal with the public for over 10 years myself, but it was a bit inappropriate the way she took it out on me.

insideout sorry to hear about that, is there abutting you can do?

Im not sure where abutting came from!

Our cat kept a dignified distance from DS1 when he was a baby unless he was asleep on me on the sofa when she would come and sit and my lap

I think breast feeding is the quiet bit eastend, I'm sure your DH will sleep through that bit, I know mine did! . You'll find a system that works for you, as a last resort tell DH to get earplugs

Night feeds were always quiet for us too - my DH insisted we all slept in the same room and never woke for any of them. I would have refused to get up and go to another room though! The benefit of breastfeeding is doing it still warm in your bed.

After a couple if weeks if bf, I like to introduce one ff in the night. It means I can do one big feed and DH can do another. Between us we then manage to get that bit more sleep. It's then so exciting when it goes down to one feed a night and you take it in turns to get a good night sleep!

Watch baby number 3 completely mess with what worked for the first two though. If there's anything I've learnt is that all babies are different, even from the very start. So you just have to find something that works for you all.

Lol!! Thanks ladies- he is totally convinced the light should be on when I bf though so that I don't fall asleep during, should that really be a concern? Do they tend to need changing afterwards?

Nooo!! Perhaps the light of your phone screen as you MN. You really don't want to wake yourself of the baby more than you need to. You should obviously change if they've pooed but other than that I only did if his nappy was pretty wet.

Thanks, lol, we are so clueless!!

With both dds I breastfed in bed with the bedside light on, DH slept on blissfully unaware. It was less disruption than leaving the room as I just had to lean over and pick the baby up we did cosleep for periods too, didn't even need the light on then but dd would latch on when she felt like it and I'd wake up with one drained and one full breast lol

Oh, this is interesting about the night time feeds... literally last night I was wondering how it would work. I had assumed I'd just sit up, scoop the baby up and feed in bed, no way I'm being banished to another room! But I hadn't thought about having to change him. It's seriously amazing how little I know about babies!

I had and will have a second mat and changing box upstairs for night changing - i wouldn't be leaving the room

And the thing is once the baby has woken up for a feed, they won't tolerate having their nappy changed until after the feed. By that point they're 'drunk on milk'/asleep so changing a nappy then is quick and quiet.

Also, you become so sleep deprived that if its not your turn to be up with the baby its amazing what you will sleep through!

Just one thought I had, if you are intending on bf, it can be really hard work at the beginning, and the moral support is invaluable in the night. Maybe on the medium term you might be doing all the night feeds, but in the first few weeks anything goes!

All useful advice, thank you! I think we are going to stick with the cotbed idea on our bedroom rather than co-sleeping to start with to put DH's mind at rest re- cats. I'd certainly prefer to bf in my own warm
bed though. I hope with a little practice it can be done in the dark/ quiet!

I used to have my phone plugged in and use the torch function on my phone for some light when i was bf the baby in the night. We started off putting the big light on and then the bedside light, and wondered why we couldn't re-settle her (blazing sunlight) !! Torch on phone worked brilliantly!

Scan on Friday, feeling nervous. Also consultant that day, feeling even more nervous.

I only did nappy changes in the night for about 6 weeks then they generally stop pooing overnight and then you can use an overnight nappy.

I would take a wodge of nappies, some wipes and the little travel changing mat from my changing bag in the bedroom for overnight.

It was great after he stopped needing to be changed - we co-slept and sometimes I'd get to morning and not even remember how many night feeds I'd done because all I did was put nipple in mouth and then fall asleep feeding.

I let my DP sleep in the spare room for he first couple of months. Mainly because I used to cosleep and it was easier for me having the bed to myself. This rime I have be bedside crib I think he will stay in with us, and doubt he will wake up.
I managed the knack of feeding lying down and often just used to sleep and feed (although not sure it's advisable)
You'll get into your groove East, if he's a light sleeper and needs to go to work maybe some nights away would be good, I never see the need for two tired parents.

Oh and I rarely changed in the night too, unless there was poo or very wet. It didn't seem to interrupt DSs sleep in the slightest.

insideout - congratulations on your scan. I must apologise, I know nothing about PE but I hope everything turns out ok for you both x

dolly all the best for Friday!!

Thanks all, very reassuring for both ms and DH

*me and DH lol!

We have a salt crystal light which gives a warm soft glow, enough to see but doesn't wake you up too much. Definitely second the duplicate changing box upstairs too.

Spock thanks, i have to start bp meds in 4 weeks, and am taking aspirin ( and trying to keep bp as stable as possible ) i had PE in both previous pregnancies and managed to get to 36 weeks each time so fingers crossed for this (last) one!

Hi haven't posted in a while but I had my scan today and we were told baby only has one kidney. I now have an appointment tomorrow to go to the fetal medical centre at St George's so see a specialist. Everything else was ok, but I'm feeling lost in it all and so so sad. I know people survive with one kidney. Here's hoping the one he/she has is healthy x