March 2016 Babies!! New Year, New Thread - #8

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Thread 8!!! Eight!! Blimey we don't half prattle on

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Indom same haha I don't want her to be here at 32 weeks but I secretly was hoping she was full term, really wanted to have her yesterday so weird. Hospital bag sorted too all washed and ironed and the bag is in the boot of my car so exciting now! Yep we found out we're pregnant at 3 weeks so it feels I've been pregs for years!!
It's up to you hun but I always would say hospitals, I hate them but I know it's the safest option if anything goes wrong and I always panic so it's for my sanity!!

I'm torn about wanting baby here now. Part of me wants him here to hug and care for and for the pain to stop but part of me is so not ready! Second time mum's please tell me it's not just me. Worrying about having time for both boys and coping on little sleep with my 3yo and doing all the normal nursery runs and dinners and everything else so he doesn't miss out. Basically just worrying that my 3yo will feel left out or be somehow neglected because he won't be the only one to care for any more. Makes me tear up thinking about it maybe I'm just extra hormonal today. I do feel very sorry for myself this morning.

Hope everyone is having a good weekend!
We live 2.5 hours away from most people so they will have to arrange to come over but we won't be having people stay the night. With my ds my mil stayed over once and was so controlling we agreed never again. She insisted she had my son in the room with her so we could get sleep. He was never day old! We were both too exhausted to argue as she was so pushy but I cried myself to sleep. She bought him in for a feed and I pretended to fall asleep with him so she couldn't take him. I also asked her to put him on his back and without a dummy. Walked in and found him on his belly with a dumay in and walked back out in tears. She also never breast fed any of her children but kept telling me how to do it when I was trying to get started with ds. Ugh the whole thing was a nightmare! She will definitely be popping up for cuddles and then leaving this time. The distance will do us all good

I washed all my baby clothes yesterday too (well, what we've got - there's a whole load more arriving next week from an online order) and we've packed the baby's hospital bag. I still need to buy quite a lot for mine - I've got maternity pads, breast pads, toiletries etc and I've bought some nursing bras, but I need to buy something cheap from Primark to actually give birth in and wear afterwards, some easy to put on slippers and some huge knickers!

My boobs have started leaking in the last week or so I knew it could happen before birth but I didn't realise it might start so soon (I'm 32 weeks). It's only tiny amounts and only seems to happen at night as I wake up with these little dried patches on my pyjama top! I feel so gross at the moment, what with that and bowel issues I feel like I'm just leaking from every possible orifice!

indomitable, we have exactly the same setup and I talked it through with my midwife at my 28 week appointment (i really want to go to the mlu on the top floor of the hospital as it offers the best of both worlds, I also worry about needing to be transferred from my local one or running into difficulties, but my birth with ds was fairly quick so also worrying about getting to the hospital in time). She said from our unit, roughly 30% of first time mothers end up being sent on to hospital and 10% of second timers onwards. But that will include people being transferred at 2cm because they're not progressing etc, not just people in real trouble or right at the end.

Lazy cow alert...I am still in bed. DH is bringing me a bacon sarnie and then we are on baby prep all day

The aim is to get my bag and the baby's bag packed and ready by the end of the day.

32 weeks today. 6 weeks till induction. 4 weeks left at work. I still have to pinch myself that my dream is coming true

Oh hayley. Tbh, I haven't had those kind of worries because I'm a slacker parent, maybe because DS is older and I think he'll understand better, but I'm also very confident that DH will be able to manage.

In my mind, there'll be a couple of weeks of special DH & DS time and then he's back to school and his friends and routine. I'm conscious that I'll want/need to offload the baby into DH to spend time with DS (am planning on reading his story every evening from the beginning as a minimum), making sure he's included as much as possible.

Wow, your MIL sounds like a right nightmare. I can understand your feelings. I remember visiting the PIL when DS was about 5 weeks old and getting really snappy (but trying to keep it in) when he was being passed round/bounced/cuddled etc. Like, that's mine, I need him back. I know I'm infuriated by him but he's mine!

Maybe Beaut and the others with more than two can shed more light on this. (Maybe I'm just deluded!)

Paper I'm still in bed too I feel so lazy today and enjoying feeling her kick so I'm staying here until midway haha
We're hanging the last few bits today in the nursery and I need to iron the last few bits.

Me I bought some granny knickers as dp would call them from primark and they're so comfy, so bought more for my hospital bag and bought a pack of disposable knickers too. Had to buy the biggest fattest pads ever!! Been a while so had to stand there reading about all the different pads haha

Rosie I've moved to the couch, but am still being incredibly lazy this morning!

Shockingly enough I got 8 hours sleep straight through last night, no middle of the night bathroom runs! Happy 30 weeks to me...

I want my baby now too :( really really want her! Can't wait to kiss her little peachy head

Hayley - every mum worries about this. I'm not so worried about my older two, but I do feel a bit guilty for my just turned 3 year old. I do think she's going to be a little bit jealous.

But you have to think, you're giving them a sibling for life. One day we won't be here but our DC will have their brothers and sisters. My three fight and argue of course, but when they play together it's fab, and they never remember not having their siblings around.

Plus - 1 child is far harder than 2! but 3 is harder than 2 so that's a bonus :)

I've got between 5 and 8 Fridays left with Willow (she's at nursery the other days) and I'm making a big effort to do special things with her each week. Friday just gone we went to the library and shops, and I let her go on a £1 ride (I always say no!) Then at home we read the new library book, sorted through baby toys together, I let her palpate my bump (!) and we played with some of her Christmas things. I feel a lot less guilty now!

If this is #1 for you then you owe it to your future self to be as lazy as possible now!

Would it be unreasonable to buy a £450 pushchair I could only use from 1yo (and probably not here cos it's too hilly)? The one we have was second hand. I pretty much deserve this, surely?!

tri I'm on the couch now too haha dp is sorting out the roast can't wait

Beautiful I can't wait to kiss and cuddle her too it's been ages now and she teases me every time she kicks I just wanna be able to hold her, well we haven't got long now. 32 weeks today!!

Indom our buggy was £423 and I don't feel guilty because I know I'll be using it all the time for the next year or so! You definitely deserve it

I can't wait to squeeze my baby either, but at the same time I'm nowhere near ready! Still so much to do, all the baby stuff is still in the loft, I haven't bought drawers or anything really - I clearly have a lot of catching up to do! I don't want to get everything too early it'll be in the way enough when it's actually in use, seems mad to live around it for 6-9 weeks unnecessarily, but at the same time I know I'll feel so much better when I'm sorted!

Oh yeah, drawers. I'm working on the assumption that until DS gets a new bed (with drawers) I can use his bottom drawer (once the nappies are in general circulation, not taking up the entire drawer) for baby bits. Everything is currently in logically packed vacuum bags.

Octo baby is back on his normal no-rest kick pattern today. I feel very reassured. though slightly uncomfortable after playing hotwheels with a belly party going on

Your hospital bags packed guys? yikes!! I need a trip to primark and boots before I can do that.. Got mine down from the loft and put some pjs in it so that's a start I guess?! My mum bought me a pack of nappies with her just in case... So I'll get some in the changing bag...

Indom I think you should buy it! Is that helpful shopping motivation?

Me I'm the same with the leaking... All the glamour of pregnancy...

Right should probably stop being lazy and on MN and go see what DH and MIL are doing in the nursery.. Before i hear her get our names shortlist out of him.. I think I may have picked hospital ward green as a colour! whoops! Mum out and off home as MIL walked in this morning...

suz I'm the same, nothing ready either! Have bought a new car now so can at least transport all 3 of them.

hayley it just kind of works, because it has to! I found I had to really make the effort with DS (20m) when DD arrived as I instinctively wanted to be with the baby, and I guess that does make sense in evolutionary terms as DH and grandparents could look after him. That feeling only lasted a week or two though and after that the baby took more of a back seat and fitted in around me and toddler. Now they are 5 and 3 and play and joke and fight like a good solid sibling partnership!

I've got the Sunday night blues already, early onset! Only 6 more Mondays at work though...

vroc - having my hospital bag packed early guarantees that I'll go overdue, thereby making it to the end of term!

Ooh, I've just been to Sainsbury's and they have packs of size 1 pampers on two for £5. Dh looked at me like I was mental when I got home (if only he knew some of you already have your bags packed!), but that's one ticked off the list! I figure that if I see things on offer I'll get them now, then I can get the rest closer to the time.

Really struggling with anxiety today. Am sure baby's movements are still less than they were a few days ago. He moves throughout the day but I feel like its less. I've been lying down for 2 hours now after a sugary drink and only had 15 movements which doesn't feel like a lot. All they say is monitor the pattern but he doesn't have a pattern.

When I went to get checked out on Wednesday all was fine though. And now I can't work out if he's actually moving less or my anxiety is making me irrational, as it does do that. I can't keep going in all the time if its just me being over anxious.

maybe don't feel bad about going in if you feel anxious. Sometimes monitoring is as much about mum's mh as it is about baby! Did you have at least 10 distinct movements in the first hour?

Mship the problem is I dont really trust my own anxiety and I feel like it makes it worse if I keep feeding it by going in tbh. That plus I don't even know if I'm being bats or not.

Yes there were definitely 10 but everything I've read says its the pattern not the number that is important. But I don't know the pattern!

Oh god - my hospital bag (small hand luggage sized case) is still in the loft, should maybe get that out.
The pram we have ordered comes with a changing bag so wasn't going to get one - but delivery isnt until approx 12th Feb so that's something else I can't start on yet.
Furniture in nursery is all built though, moses and cot mattress and car seat still have the plastic wrapping on though as we are letting the cats have a sniff aroubd so they can get used to it all being in the house.

I've been buying unscented wipes and a little something with every weekly shop so getting a good stock of nappies, wipes, creams etc without really noticing the extra costs as yet.

Hope everyone has had a lovely weekend, ours has been just as lazy as some on here.

maybe, when I had a similar worry this week and called the maternity unit, they said at least ten in two hours and nothing about pattern as the baby can change position still and that will affect when you feel the movements.

My app says exactly the same as that Suz. When I got home yesterday and started counting, I had 10 movements in about 15 minutes - it just felt different because he had moved so I didn't get the usual foot out the top of my bump that I've been getting during the week. I must not have felt it whilst moving around during the day.

thanks woolballs - glad I'm not the only trump tower

maybe my consultant also said 10 movements in one hour when you are lying down and concentrating on it - I trust him as he has worked with so many pregnant women and has 3 kids of his own. He said the movements may come in a flurry all at once and then quiet for the rest of the hour, or spread out. He said you may spot patterns, but then just when they start a pattern they will probably change it! I know it's really hard not to worry though so do go in if you have any doubt at all.

indom buy it :)

I've got nothing ready apart from pram and clothes, and judging by convos on here earlier not enough clothes! I have a 15% discount my registry/wish list with Amazon prime but I have to use it in one purchase - so I will have to buy everything at once and it's going to be super expensive....it's all ready to go but so scared to make the plunge!

maybe my baby doesn't have a regular pattern for all his movements but I've noticed he does normally (but not always) have a little wriggle around when I'm eating dinner and somewhere between 8-10pm - I think that's what they mean by a pattern. Does your baby do anything like that?

haley I agree with Beaut that that's probably a very common worry for second time mums. Especially when your other dc is only tiny because they don't have the same understanding that older children have. I' m really worried about how I'm going to cope with 2 dc. I keep thinking through the logistics of how I'm going to do things like bedtime and hanging out washing! No idea what I do if I'm feeding the baby in the evening and ds wakes up crying from a nightmare. I just keep reminding myself that many, many other people have done this before me and coped so I (and you) will too. Also everyone tells me that newborn + toddler is much easier than very pregnant + toddler!

Anyone else feeling completely exhausted? This is worse tiredness than the 1st trimester! I've had two crying, screaming melt downs this week where I've felt like I just can't cope anymore . I keep wanting to call in sick so I can spend the day catching up on sleep but I can't quite bring myself to take a day off just for tiredness!