TCC#1 Grads Thread

[Runner05]

Well we were TTC but now we've graduated to growing a small human. Good buy peeing on opk's and ic's every day hello monitoring exactly how sick and bloated we feel and ensuring that we're never more than 30ft from a bathroom!

It's the TTC#1 graduates thread! Come and join us on a no holds barred exploration of first time pregnancy (but be really careful about opening any links about cervical fluid unless you have a very strong constitution... Let's face it you're pregnant so you don't)

Hi all! Can I come out of hiding and join?

My husband and I started TTC#1 this December (was an avid lurker on the TTC#1 thread on the Conception board...), and I got a BFP on NYE! We had an inkling I might be pregnant (my nose was more insanely sensitive, I'd had sore boobs since about 2/3 days post-ovulation, and looking back now I think the shadow of a line I got on the FRER I took Christmas morning was definitely not just a shadow) but still, conceiving first cycle was a total blessed shock!

For those of you further along than me, (I'm 5+2, according to Ovia) does the anxiety get any easier? I'm tearing myself up with worry, and getting stressed about the silliest things like the fact my boobs were less agonisingly painful this morning than they have been recently, and that my period cramping seems to have stopped now I'm passed my first missed af.

I'm so nervous I'm going to miscarry (even though I've not had any spotting, and the test I took at the weekend showed up a super strong '+' within about 15 seconds!) or that I'll get to my 12 week scan and there'll be nothing there.

It's just such a nervous time, isn't it?

Do you any of you find your symptoms to be stronger in the afternoon/evening? I find I wake up feeling pretty normal, but the sore boobs/back pain/fatigue come on stronger and stronger throughout the day.

Oh, and one last question, whilst I'm here- what's the general consensus on using hot water bottles on your lower back for pain relief? I'm struggling with period pain-type ashiness and coccyx pain, but am nervous about using heat!

TLDR: Hi, lovely to meet you all, I'm an anxious mess!

Hi Rose.
Congrats on your bfp. The anxiety lessens slightly I've found. As do (thank god) the cramps. I used heat pads on my back pain as it really was awful the first few weeks. (I'm now 8+6 ish). MMC was my biggest fear and having my early scan really helped with that. Once a heart beat is seen at 7 weeks your chance of MC drops to 5%. It might be worth booking one to help ease your mind.

Runner I completely get where you're coming from but I won't be covering up per say. I certainly won't be wacking out my norks and showing my nips to every stranger nearby but there's no way I'll be putting a shawl or such like over my babies head for other people's comfort. I personally can't stand my face being covered as it makes me feel suffocated so I couldn't do that to my feeding baby. So I'm more on the fence with that one I guess.

Oh and Runner.... Have you tried ginger tea

Thanks Bunch! I had been toying with the idea of an early scan, and think I might look into it to ease my worries. Should it always be possible to see a heartbeat at 7 weeks, in your experience? Or is it best to wait until later on?

They apparently can see them from 6 weeks Rose but you may need dildocam (ahem, transvaginal) in order to get the scan. I went at 7+5 according to my dates (7+2 measured) and was fine to have the abdominal scan.

Hi rose,

I am completely with you on the anxiety.. Keep checking myself in the toilet and my cramps have eased up. Anxious about telling people, work. But I'm just going try and take things one step at a time.

It's nerve racking but also exiting.. Hope the anxiety eases soon too

Hi Rose I seem to have bucked the trend and remained quite chilled about it all. I'm probably heading for a breakdown later

Oh god no Bunch please don't get me wrong I don't think women should hide under a shawl etc. I was more thinking along the lines of wearing two tops so one can be pushed down and the other up so only the required boobage is showing or using a sling which I think is a really good option (woohoo hands free). I don't think breastfeeders should be required to hide under a tablecloth just that they should meet in the middle ground.

Hi ladies,

Welcome rose! Yey drwhy, good to see you on here!

Drwhy - I'd tell pt you've just been advised to take it easy because of something or other, or some crap like that - I would keep stum on being upduffed until the people that need to know at work know, but that's just me. Im trying to keep up the exercise too, and I think pink and bunch are too.

Runner - have you tried ginger biscuits coated in dark chocolate no seriously they are amazing though.

Well nothing to report from me, sickly feeling and some period type twinges but that's it. Boring!!!!

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Hi ladies

Welcome to Dr, space and Rose! Lots of BFPs

Dr, I'm still trying to go to gym classes etc but I wouldn't introduce anything new. If I were you I'd cancel the PT (if they were not work related I'd probably go and tell them I was pg so they can work around it, but if you are worried about work finding out I would just cancel the appointment).

Rose, I am. 5+6 today and feel anxious. I'm also a serial knicker checker! I think an early scan would help.

Runner, I'm with you on the breastfeeding I think. Personally it's not for me at all and I will be bottle feeding but if I were to do it I wouldn't be getting my boobs out entirely nor would I be covering baby up with a shawl, it looks ridiculous and not nice for the baby!

I've had a really rough day today. Constant nausea. Haven't actually been sick Shelb but to be honest I'd rather be sick and get it out my system. I think it's all just made worse by a cold which I can't take anything for I've just invested in some travel sickness bands Runner, really hope they work.

Ginger helped in my earlier days of nausea but i had ginger and now I feel more sick the smell makes me gag.

Runner we're very much of the same opinion then I think. And I have three slings ready and waiting My SIL was feeding her LO at the dinner table recently and kept apologising and trying to cover his face/her boob with a muslin. I practically told her off as everything was fine.
How's the sickness now?

Shelb come here so that I can batter you with a biscuit seriously though, I can't stand ginger, would make me feel more ill.

Pink I'm bottle feeding too. OH and I discussed it and decided that it obviously didn't hurt us or his kids so why go through the stress (I think I'd find it stressful) when we're happy that bottle feeding works.

Telling FIL went well. He was shocked but seemed happy enough and promptly told me off for lifting boxes. Lol

Hiya, I don't feel quite ready to join yet as still too nervous about the BPF. Am only 11 DPO and AF not actually due until 11th/12th but BFP on FRER and on CB this morning. It feel very early to celebrate but I would love to join in this time next week if all stays positive. In the meantime will lurk and see what is in store for me in the future.

Hope everyone feels ok!

Runner am I allowed to suggest peppermint tea if you aren't good with ginger, it's supposed to help settle the stomach.
Thanks for all the advice ladies - in the end DH persuaded me that I should just tell the gym instructor and tell him it was 'most condential' which is work speak for 'you are in epic trouble if you mention it' so I went down to see him. His reaction was a total non event he says people tell him all the time. Just no lying on my tummy, no major abs work and take it a bit easy. He's told me not to do the abs work after spin and just tell them I've torn a muscle in my abs.
It's very weird that non of my friends or family know but he does, I guess I just have to think of him as a professional like the midwife.
So sorry to hear of people feeling ill, I'm vaguely nauseous at the moment but so far nothing dreadful.
As for breastfeeding I'll give it a shot and see how it goes. I've sat next to friends breastfeeding in restaurants and stuff and genuinely wouldn't have known what they were doing if they hadn't mentioned it, no shawls just lift up top slightly, poke baby slightly under it, let them get on with it, utter non event all round.

Bubble I'm sure it will be fine. It is a bit nerve wrecking until you miss your first period but you are pregnant and you are most likely to remain so

Yes you can suggest peppermint tea, unfortunately it makes me gag. Something about it being hot but feeling cold.
I usually take peppermint oil pills but it says on the bottle to check with your Dr if you're upduffed before taking them.

Thanks Runner, that made me smile!

Why I am a bit of a gym nut and so read up on what I could and couldn't do. The advice seems to be to do as much as feel able to do, not to start a new hardcore training routine but most things are fine up until 16 weeks (toning down super hardcore cardio but no issue with raising heart rate and getting out of breath as long as not collapsing!) and from that point on, no jumping around, sit ups, lying on back, and work (other than pregnancy yoga type exercises). I imagine it depends on level of fitness going into pregnancy but most of my friends have continued yoga and swimming pretty much right up to due date and all felt better for it.

I'm in awe of your calmness, Runner! Return of sore boobs has brought about a little calm for me too...definitelydidn'tspendallmorningproddingthemtoo

Oh, the knicker checking Bubba! I know it well! Was dashing to the loo every 15 mins over the few days my period was supposed to be here! Still doing it now, but less so.

Thanks for advice re.early scan Pink. I got a quote for one today local to us at £125, so will speak with my husband as to his thoughts. I know he's of the opinion that an early scan won't change the outcome of the pregnancy, and if there's going to be bad news then there'll be bad news, but I think it might be good for my peace of mind.

Is anyone else planning on telling Mum's on Mother's Day? I'd like to (if I can wait that long) as we'll have had the 12 week scan the week before and it'll be such a lovely gift!

Mums, not Mum's (cringing at my own apostrophe error)

Rose, my OH is very much of the view that an early scan wouldn't change anything but I think if it helps you relax then it's worth it.

I told my parent on Christmas Eve as it was my birthday and I wasn't drinking, so they would have been suspicious. I think waiting until Mother's Day is a lovely idea though.

Runner, I'm with you in the "ginger is the work of the devil" camp. Yuk yuk yuk!

Hello all newbies and congrats!

I told a close friend tonight and it was awesome she was excited and now it feels more real.

Pink I have the same terrible nausea and keep thinking I'd feel better if I actually threw up. It's so hard at work. Really hoping it eases up soon. Im in bed already! Poor DH is getting neglected.

I'm neglecting OH too unfortunately. I came home, straight to bed, then got up to try to eat something (which he had to cook) and heading back to bed shortly. I can't wait for the weekend so at least I don't have to go to work as well.

Have you found anything to help with the nausea New?

Hello new BFP's!

Rose I have an early scan booked for this saturday when I will (by my records) be 8+4. The later you have your scan where they can find a heartbeat, the less risk there is of mc, so that's why I opted for one a bit later on (98% chance of reaching full term). It's really up to you when you decide to have one (or more) and worth investigating what there is in your area as the price differs. So looking forward to Saturday! Waiting till 12 weeks feels like an incredibly long time. In terms of the anxiety, I got to the point where I thought what will be will be. But I think there will be something to fret over throughout tbh!!

I did start jogging, but not to the point where I'd feel comfortable continuing now (had a break with the winter weather!) so I've been walking and I might look into other classes as well.

I think you can get proper breastfeeding tops which do what you mention Runner, i.e. they have access to boob in the middle! I can see how it can be distracting if a woman waps her baps out in public, but I wouldn't have any issue with it. I plan on giving it a go and seeing how I get on. Glad to see telling your FIL went well!

Shelb I had those dark chocolate ginger biscuits at Xmas, they were amazing.

Rose Just saw your scan price - £125?! Mine's £65! Worth doing some more research?!

Sorry, just to clarify I don't plan on wapping out my baps and seeing how I get on. I meant breastfeeding in general!

We've just been looking into early scans - price around us varies from a special offer of £39 (which DH is sceptical of as he thinks it will be like one of those high pressure photo sales galleries!) to £99.
We've also been looking at a combined private blood test and scan just before 12 weeks as DH is away for 2 months from week 11. The first availability for me to see a midwife is at week 8 so I doubt they would get us in to a scan in 3 weeks even if they wanted to and the blood test NIIT(?) isn't offered on the NHS. I'd really like DH to have chance to see the baby before he leaves and because I'm 35 I think I'd like to do the blood test. Only problem is its £399! When you add NCT classes and possibly hypnobirthing we'd have spent nearly £1000 before it's even born - eek!