July 2016 (4)

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Hello ladies, made a new thread seeing as we have almost run out of room on the last one!

Oh Mel. My post crossed over too. I am so sorry. I hope Your DH gets there soon and you both get all the support you need.

He is on his way. The lady who scanned me said that the consultant on the ward will discuss next steps. I don't want to drag the thread down with unhappy news but just wanted to say I really enjoyed all the support on here and met some wonderful people! Thank you all so much. Wishing you the best in your pregnancies and some very happy babies at the end of it :)

Oh Melvali, I am so very sorry for your loss.

Good luck Melvali.
Thinking of you too, Scrowy

Does anyone have any advice about informing their manager that they're pregnant? I'm a bit nervous about it. If all goes well with my scan today, I plan to do it tomorrow.
(It feels especially awkward because it's a new job - tomorrow will be Day 3. I'm in the same big organisation as before, so my maternity entitlements are secure, but it's a promotion into a completely different department so I feel bad about the fact that I've just turned up and I'm already announcing my departure. Even more uncomfortable because, although I wasn't pregnant when I applied for the job, I did know I was pregnant by the time I had my interview, and no doubt there will be people (particularly anyone else who might've applied for the job and not got it) who will bitch about that. I know I shouldn't worry about what other people think (especially as I had no choice but to apply for a new job because my old project was coming to an end) but I can't help it.)
But anyway, any advice specifically about informing managers? Those who've done it already: any thoughts re what to say / not to say? Thanks!

Sending virtual hugs to those of you who are going through rough times.

Oh Mel I'm so sorry it's heartbreaking for you and dh. Thinking of and scrowy xx

Srry mel i really feel fr you i got a call from my dad saying my lovely granda has passed away so im a mess currently trying to keep positive for toddler and baby all this crying prob not great for them insaw him last week and he saidnitsna boy when intold him so im now convincednits a boy

13+ 2

So sorry Mel

Oh Vikki, it's so hard to when the grandparents pass. I lost my grandma this past year and it's still with me nearly every day (she taught me how to knit and as I knit nearly everyday... well, you can imagine). Hold fast to the good memories as they will get you through the worst.

So sorry for your loss Mel, hope DH is with you and comforting you

Oh no Melvali I just saw your post. I'm so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you lots.

So sorry for your loss melvali a girl I went to school with lost her twins yesterday I think she was around 16 weeks she put a picture of them on her Facebook I felt so heartbroken for her they were tiny. Pregnancy is so difficult there's no telling what might happen I've got my scan on Thursday will be 12+2 I'm so nervous even more so now with all the loses I had and early scan at 7 weeks and I feel like it was no reassurance at all because they can stop growing at any point I'm such a wreck this morning I just have to thank my lucky stars for my son he's literally my best friend he had a lovely birthday yesterday we just went for a meal with family and friends and he ran round the place chasing his little friends sorry I'm waffling on x

Melvali, so sorry to hear your news. I hope your DH is with you and that the NHS are handling it all as well as they can.

Oh Mel I'm so terribly sorry.

I'm sorry for your loss too Vikki

Mel - so sorry to hear your news. You seem such a positive person, who has had lots to deal with so I hope you're able to look forwards with hope, once you've had a bit of time to grieve. Sending you much love and luck for the future xxx

So sorry to hear your news Melvali.

Thank you girls.

Wantingno2 - please don't worry yourself sick, sadly it can happen but just because it's happened to me it doesn't mean it will happen to you. Really thinking of you and praying for you.

So sorry Mel. Sending you all good wishes. Xx

And thinking of you Scowry & Vicki.

Sorry to hear Melvali

Mel I am so sorry to hear this. Take care x

Thank you melvali I just hope that you get the chance to be a mum very soon I've been where you are so many times before and it's devastating but it will happen one day it was a very long and painful journey before I had my son but it will happen for you I wish you all the luck in the future and really hope it's sooner rather than later for you xxx

So sorry Mel. Take care of yourself x

Thank you wanting. At the moment I can't even think about trying again. The emotional roller coaster is really something. I feel like I need to get on top of things I just feel so all over the shop at the moment.

I haven't moved today.

Got up and 10 and had toast, sat on the sofa and got up at 1, made lunch and sat her since half 1, it's now past 4!! Have zero motivation to move. I feel so guilty like I should be exercising away, going for a brisk walk etc but I've sat and done doing nothing, in fact I feel like I could lie down! Found a yoga class and reserved a place out of guilt and a aquanatal class (not sure when to go this though) better make tea soon

Melvali, I am so sorry. What terrible news. I hope you are getting some support by now, and that you start to feel better some time soon once the shock and sadness has worn off.

I know this won't help now, but I seem to remember you were fairly young, so there is plenty of time ahead for things to work out for you.

Big hugs m'dear.

Oh goodness mel I'm so sorry to hear that. Such devastating news. So unfair. I know this news can't be undone but really hoping you are better physically soon, as you do sound like you've been very poorly. Hope you get all the support and help to get you through the added trauma of such sad news. Will be sad to lose you on the thread. Really wishing you all the best for the future. I'm sure it will happen once you are ready to think about it again. Again lots of love and will be in my thoughts