July 2016 (4)

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Hello ladies, made a new thread seeing as we have almost run out of room on the last one!

Thistle dew - if you have the time get a proper bra fitting from m&s or similar. Boobs really have mind of their own and you may be amazed at your new/transition size. I went up two band and cup sizes within first 4 months with DS..

Thanks for the tip pulpi I really do need to get my act together. I hate the M&S website it really puts me off. I'm usually a 34D but my DDs are now snug. I think I'm about a 36DD/E now. I'm expanding everywhere congrats on your nap. I've been feeling like napping but forced myself to the gym.

thistle I really would recommend booking a fitting at M&S. I should also take my own advice but don't fancy taking DD2 with me on my only day off.

Have a lovely day tomorrow lucy first birthdays are all about the parents

Cookies, you went to the gym rather than having a nap?! I am in absolute awe. You are my pregnancy hero.

Hope you feel better soon, Melvali. Try not to worry - they are doing the best for you and your baby. x

Cookies, I went for a swim earlier. Felt absolutely fine while I was doing it and stayed in a bit longer than I normally would. When I came out, I got the shakes in the changing room! Must have pushed myself too hard. I had no money with me other than the pound coin for my locker (great planning), so headed straight to Tesco with said pound coin, and purchased a cinnamon whirl. Very healthy. Totally cancelled out the swim in terms of calories, but I think that my body appreciated the stretch as I've been doing a lot of editing work at my computer this weekend!

Thanks girls. I've had some more bleeding. Tmi but it was in the loo , small clot and bright red. When I wiped it was more browny. Just hoping this is from the poking prodding from the internal exam.

mel I have always had spotting following intensive poking and prodding ( not when preg but eg smear etc) so I know it's alarming but you may well be right. Can you mention it to someone and have it kept an eye on? Maybe ask if a cancellation came up being your scan forward for piece of mind?

Haha pulpi thanks. Minus my cold I have had more energy this week. I may have had time off work and DH around more but I have managed 3 decent gym workouts this week. Unfortunately I've eaten like an absolute pig out of control. So I wouldn't be beating yourself up over a cinnamon whirl bluebell. I know what you mean though, at the time it seems ok and suddenly you're not ok. I had to stop for cooked chicken on the way home as my body was screaming for protein so badly I thought I was going to pass out in my car.

Have just made myself a salad/prepped healthy snacks for tomorrow st work. Determined the days of grazing on crisps and cheese must be put a stop to.

Thinking of you tonight mel I hope you get some rest.
13+6. Excited to be 14 tomorrow ha! Feel like I've been 13 forever!

Thank you for the welcomes. It's interesting to see everyone's different experiences. I have 24hr nausea. From about week 5, and last time until wk 16! Not fun, but at least not actually vomiting and thankfully no headaches. Did have vivid (stressful) dreams last night though!
Haven't thought about maternity clothes yet. Before my first pregnancy I was a size 20, but lost a couple of stone after (and possibly during first trimester) so I do have those larger clothes in the loft. Last time I basically just wore skirts and tracksuit trousers the whole time! No bump yet, too much tummy!
Can't wait for my scan in 10 days. :-)

Feeling really down this evening. I've had some more spotting over the weekend, I'm 11 weeks tomorrow and have a private scan on Tue as the NHS can't offer me one until I'm almost 14 weeks.

I now have no symptoms whatsoever, after being sick and knackered until about 9.5 weeks. The symptoms just disappeared overnight around the same time the spotting started

I've pretty much convinced myself that there will be nothing there and feel really sad. Feeling like I'm just going to be letting everyone down as everyone I have told (immediate family only) is so excited.

Hi Pam, welcome!

Mel - You're having a stressful time of it, you poor thing! I think Cookies is right, they might be able to scan you a bit sooner for peace of mind. Can't hurt to ask. Also you're in the best place to be looked after even if it's boring! Hope you get some good rest and some good news soon.

Night all. Sleep tight x

scrowy - oh lovey, that sounds really tough BUT you just don't know. Symptoms come and go, and spotting is really common in healthy pregnancies. Can you call your EPU? They're usually pretty hot on early scans if you're concerned (with symptoms). The anxiety is the worst. Also whatever happens you won't be letting anyone down. You just try to rest up for now and be hopeful. Keeping everything crossed for you x

Thanks cheery

I'm not usually an anxious person. I think that's why my anxiety now is worrying me as much as anything. I feel like my brain is preparing me for the inevitable.

The midwives told me last week to ring the EPU directly if I had any more spotting but they aren't open at weekends and I doubt they will be able to do anything tomorrow anyway before my private scan on Tue. The nearest EPU is 30miles away so it's not like I can just pop in.

Does anyone have any experience of getting bad news at a private scan... I assumed it is followed up with the NHS in some way?

Thanks cookie and cheery. That's exactly what ill do - phone midwife service tomorrow and explain I'm in hospital and ask if they could squeeze me in any earlier. Friday seems ages away. Especially as DH is telling his sisters now since I am in hospital and more difficult to hide. Mil has told her brothers as well. My own mum is going to tell her family too. I'm really close to these people and want them to know but at the same time feel like it's added pressure for scan to be ok? How silly?

Scowy - sorry to hear you are going through this. Please do phone EPU tomorrow, they might be able to squeeze you in. Although 30miles away is a bit of a trek. My symptoms have been so all over the shop that I can't pinpoint if everything is ok or not. I've had bleeding on and off from week 5 and the scan at week 6 showed everything was OK. Since then I have put on weight around my tummy and have felt 'pregnant' at times so just trying to go with the notion that I am pregnant until told otherwise.

11+5

The worrying is the hardest bit. Unfortunately nothing anyone will say will make you feel better but I'm thinking of you xxx

Scrowy, when I went for my private Harmony test, the doctor took down the details of my midwife and my NHS hospital so that if it was bad news, she could get in touch with them for me. As others have said, though, lots of people have spotting in pregnancy, including lots of the women on here, and go on to have perfectly healthy babies.

Mel, poor you; I do wish your body would give you a few days off worrying! Hope you get some help from the midwife service. Hold on to the fact that everything was okay at the last scan.

Telling work today that I am pregnant, I think. I was going to leave it until after I got the Harmony results back, but my boobs are enormo and I just think that after not having seen me for two weeks over Christmas, EVERYONE is going to know anyway, so I'd rather just tell them.

14 + 6

Thanks bluebell, good luck telling work! You are well out of the first trimester now so it's a good time to share the news

Mel and Scowry so sorry you are having a tough time of it. I'm surprised Mel that nobody treating you in the hospital has referred you immediately given you are already there and having treatment and know you are pregnant. Is there a consultant you can speak to and get them to refer straight away? There might be a 10 mins spot they can slot you in.

Scowry I agree with the others, call the EPU anyway or get the midwife to do it so they can fast track the appointment. Thinking of you both.

Hi all, hope everyone's ok, first week back at work for lots of us I guess?

Mel and Scrowy, hope all is ok with you. Mel, I agree with Mascara, I would get someone on your current care team to organise a scan for you.

Feel horrendous today, have had terrible tension headache over the weekend which is still lurking, plus still feeling sick! Now I am just in second trimester I hope that starts to go away...

I bit the bullet yesterday and ordered some maternity clothes, mainly from asos sale but also got a dress from the Seraphine sale. The asos stuff should arrive today, thank god as I would otherwise have nothing to wear to work tomorrow. Hope at least some of it fits!

Am working from home today. Do you think it's a step too far to work from my bed?! It's just so comfy and warm... I am in awe of those of you doing swimming, gym etc, I can't even walk down the road at the moment! takes another biscuit from the jar

Sounds like you are having a tough time Mel. Thinking of you. Really hope you feel better soon.

We still have no harmony results back yet. It's been over 3 weeks now. We were promised them New Years Eve. We got phone call from Director of the company to tell us that a machine had broken at the lab and they didn't know when they would get it fixed. I have asked for money back and a free scan because of all the issues we have had which they have said they will do for us.
We are taking comfort that we have not heard from NHS bloods for 2 weeks.
(Which is normally a good sign)
We are telling all of my extended family (DH's already know as we live near them) and the rest of friends today. Trying to keep off Facebook for as long as possible but can see someone spilling the beans for us sooner rather than later. Feel so relieved to be getting everything out in the open.
14+6

I rang the EPU. They nicely told me to try not to worry but if it got any worse to go in and they would do an internal in Gynaecology. No scans available at all today or tomorrow but she said she was 'very pleased' I had a private scan booked tomorrow.

The only but that has annoyed me slightly is that she said that referrals to them would have to come from my midwife or GP but when I rang the midwife last week after some earlier spotting she said that if I had any more to ring the EPU directly and I could self refer . It's so rural round here that everything is just a bit disjointed. It's not very reassuring!

Thanks for all the kind words. I've read enough on MN to know that spotting can mean absolutely anything. Doesn't make it any less shit though

As if by magic.. I am sitting in the ultrasound waiting area. Someone came up at 8.57am without any warning and said I'm booked in for 9am. Gutted as DH isn't here now. Really pleased I will know the outcome either way in the next half hour. I had just said to the nurse that I've had some more bleeding and wondering if I should phone to check for cancellations and she replied saying to see if the consultant can do anything. Two seconds later this woman came in and ushered me down the stairs.

Good luck melvali

unfortunately there was no heartbeat. Baby stopped growing at 8+4

Mel & scrowy sorry you are both having added worry. No harm asking for an early scan or to speak to someone about your problems. However, without wanting to sound harsh be prepared that they may just ask you to wait for your scans. This was the case when I fell down the stairs and had some light bleeding. My NHS scan was 8 days away but they made me wait as they said unfortunately if anything has happened there is nothing they can do anyway. I'm sure everything is fine. Lots of women experience bleeding during pregnancy & lack of symptoms means nothing. Some women are lucky enough to never experience symptoms. Speak to some professional for some reassurance.

I have had a gurgly tummy all night & this morning. It's like I haven't eaten but I had a big pasta dinner last night. I was shocked when I got on the scales yesterday morning that I've only put on a lb over Christmas I was expecting close to a stone.

13+3

Mel so sorry epic fail with my crossed post. So sorry to see this. You have had such a tough few months of it. Take some time for yourself. Will the hospital be offering you any further support.

Oh no Mel so sorry to hear that. Hope your DH is there with you soon.