beaut so sorry to hear about all your problems and that it looks like home birth is no longer an opption. For what it's worth I had a wonderful experience for an elective c-section for dd due to her being breech. I'm wasn't a good advicate for myself but was really stressed by the prospect of a section, just didn't let anyone know. My manager at work at the time actually phoned the consultants secutary on my behalf and made a real nusance of herself; but I was given a tour of the theater and lots of time was spent explaining what would happen and was able to meet surgon in advance.
I was brought up with the attitude not to question medical professionals. My grandma wasa real old school nurse and ingrained the attitude into my dad, doctor is always right! Altough she wasn't above taking nursing staff to task; it made for intresting hospital stays in her old age. And not to forget the pencil pushing administritive staff, she'd never take no for an answer from anyone but doctor.
I had vertually no pain after c-section, just needed the odd dose of paracetmol every so often. Out and aboiut by day 5, was playing with under 3s in the nursery I worked in on day 8. I don't drive, but was told I could have done from discharge with midwife if I went in for a note from GP.
I've not been on for a few days, but have spent today catching up! Have had to focus on getting the house straight for christmas day as we have people over. Dh has been wonderful and more than pulled his weight since I had mc in May and then fell pregnant again, but he just doesn't have the same time or inclination towards housework as I do. His never left it all to me but since becoming a sahm I tended to do 85% of housework, while his out or has dd. But since May I just haven't been up to any of it, so while his done a fantastic job of making sure the dishes are clean, we all have clean clothes and that dd has clear floor space to play, NOTHING with regards to keeping the house as a whole tidy and livable has been done for months! So have been spending lots of time sorting out the kitchen cupboards and throwing out out of date stuff and actually deep cleaning the kitchen, putting away mountains of clean clothes and reclaiming the dinning room from stuff he didn't know what to do with. Not helped by the fact everything was in dissarray after having a few hours notice to clear so much as possiable from the living room as urgent work needing doing to the cealing as few weeks back. Almost there now, I can see the dining room table and floor. But have had to work very hard on not flying into a hormonal rage with him over it all, particually as his working quite a bit extra this week in preperation for being off over christmas so I'm doing it all with 3 year old dd under foot.
Otherwise I'm already for christmas! Somehow all the presents are wrapped with only one left to buy tonight when I do the big christmas food shop. Have a few nice bits planned to do with dd tomorrow; she wants to make mince pies for father christmas.
After weeks of aching back and shoulders that even bouncing on the birthing ball wasn't preventing I have a new chair and it's heaven to sit in!
www.amazon.co.uk/gp/aw/d/B00AAL8934/ref=ya_aw_od_pi?ie=UTF8&psc=1
We're going to order a second one for downstairs and another for our bedroom. My friend's brought one as an alternitive to a nursing chair after sitting in it. I can even 'rock' massive dd in it comfortably despite bump.
Dh has had some unexpected backpay due to his companies error so we got an nice bonus in his last paycheck before christmas. Even better is the fact despite it adding quite a bit more to our weekly income the added weekly extra on his wages isn't going to effect our housing or concil tax support entitlement. Inpressed with the fast turn around we had from the benifits office, as I was worried we may have had more than two years overpayment due to error being corrected. But we don't own anything, so I don't have to budget for the next couple of months to buy the bits of baby equipment we do need to replace. And we can treat ourselves to a few bits in the new year.
Which will come in useful as it looks like the lime plaster cealing in the living room will need to come down... It sounds like it will be a massive job so hoping everything will be sorted before bump arrives. That's the trouble with old houses, what should be a relitiavly easy/simple job can end up turning into a massive sarga!