March 2016 Babies!! Thread #7 The one where we all say.... "Stay put Flump!!"

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Stay where you are Flump!!!

Oh god Q that sounds awful! I would be telling them directly that you want it to be just the two of you. My dh did text his parents and my mum when I was in labour, but they wouldn't have come up to the hospital until we gave the ok! My mum drove up that day to stay with my in-laws (who live in the same town as us, my mum lives further away), and as far as I know they spent the day waiting together for news, then when it became clear it would be too late for a hospital visit they all just got pissed together! Then they all pitched up at the hospital the next morning with lots of presents, it was lovely. I think they enjoyed the wait though so I'm glad we let them know.

Q you're not being unreasonable and anyway if you are you're entitled!!! Be as much of a bitch as you like in this situation!!!!!

Love all the Christmas jumpers girls I'll have to get looking for one!

Xx

Loving the Christmas jumpers! Starting to feel really festive now, love this time of year.

thepug feeling your pain re trains. I commute in to London every day and just starting to get tiring now! Currently on wat home on very delayed train - not the evening I'd planned! Totally making use of first class when busy and also discovered train staff really do know more about the platforms trains are coming in on and have actually been really good about sharing that info with a certain pregnant lady!

Feeling very tired. Didn't get to bed until one and up at 6 am this morning and just on way home now. Can barely type. I'm loving new job but it is so busy. And feel like I'm not focusing on pregnancy /looking after myself enough at the mo. I've got time off over Xmas though so hoping to chill out then.

Any more thoughts on names? OH and I are still clueless when it comes to names for our baby!

Hope missi and ginger are ok.

Thanks for all the hospital bag tips!

Wtf Q your DP is having a laugh! As if its OK for him to decide who will be there when you're pushing a baby out of your goddam vagina. I'd be livid.

Yeah, when marmite puts it like that it just shuts the whole debate down:

He's invited his parents to spend hour watching your genitals. Or like inviting them to wait outside the bathroom while you have a shit. There's just no way that's reasonable!

Worried about Ginger - another day she hasn't been around.

Hope Missi is all good.

Oh, neh that's mental. Get to bed ASAP! But glad the job is good!

Oh neh that is a ridiculously long day! I hope you get some decent sleep tonight and have no plans this weekend so can catch up. I'm also hoping for some decent time off over Christmas to relax & recharge. I certainly wouldn't want to be commuting into London every day; you deserve a medal!

Indom I saw Ginger on the pregnancy board earlier today (in the nicest possible way, I knew the thread would be hers before even opening it!)

Must remember the line 'that'd be like inviting X to wait outside the bathroom while you have a shit' in case anyone gets any ideas about visiting the hospital during the birth - classic! And total conversation ender.

Q your husband is being a tit!

Tell him to jog on and if he carries on being a tit he'll be lucky if you let him in!! Honestly! Men are bloody idiots sometimes.

missi & ginger hope you are both okay xx

neh I have a colour coded list of stuff which I am planning on taking. I read on another thread that it's a good idea to get DH/DP to pack your bag so that if you ask him to get you a hair bobble/lip balm/whatever in theory he will not be going " errr....where are they?" I will not be able to do this though as DH is the world's worst packer and the thought of him packing makes my toes curl.

Feeling festive here too. Wrapped up a few presents tonight and written a few cards, just got to slowly clean the lounge this week so the tree can go up next Thursday!!

"total conversation ender." That's me!

Glad Ginger is still around and talking.

I'm with you, Paper, there's no way I'm letting DH pack stuff!

Omg Q!!! Does your dh think childbirth is just like in a US sitcom? They will just pull a lovely clean baby out from under a white sheet and all your friends and family will be waiting there for a cuddle?? I don't think many women would be ok with their mil having the full gynae view of them . He definitely needs to rethink that one!

Love the xmas jumpers!

As trinpy said, I think your DP is perhaps a bit clueless about what child birth is like in reality Q. I think a lot of men (and women!) don't realise that during child birth a lot of women (most?) end up stark naked and can wee/poo themselves. Sorry to bring it up everyone, it's not pleasant to think about but it does/will happen. Its messy and quite frankly gross at times and you're at your most vulnerable. Its not being selfish or dickish to put limits on who gets to be there during it! Hope you've manage to sort things out with him .

Q Your DP does sound clueless! You are the patient, you get to say who is there and who isn't. If he's still saying he'll invite everyone and their dog, have it written on your birth plan that no one is allowed other than DP (if you even still want him there if he's being such a pain!!) and tell the midwives on arrival. I vomited copiously during labour, I'm certain there was poo, and there was definitely a lot of blood, fluids, and placenta. I wasn't quite naked, but pretty damn close by the end! This is all normal.

Aagghh sorry to hear DPs are being annoying Q and Indomitable!

Q you will be totally in charge at the hospital so whatever you tell the midwives goes. Your DP has obviously got carried away but hopefully he's calmed down a bit today... selfish are you?! Actually you're currently doing the most selfless thing a female can do!!

And yeh Indomitable, DH is "skint after bills" here too, despite having had ample overtime over the past few months he could've saved. Idiots. I won't subsidise him either. Oh btw don't post in Relationships about it - you WILL be told to throw him out as he is obviously not ready to be a father!

Thanks all for the laughs, I went to bed in a strop and fell asleep so didn't have to speak to him last night haha - I have however found a link with some lovely 'what happens during and immediately after labour' which I've just sent to him (he's gone to work) saying that if he wants his whole family to see me like that then he's not going to be told either.
I know he is just excited and really has no idea what the whole thing will be like, I think he's watched Rachel have emma on friends too many times! If he carries on I will be using the 'inviting your family to watch me have a poo line'
They haven't asked to be there to be fair, think he's just getting over excitable. Let's hope it's the middle of the night so they're all asleep anyways haha.

Glad your outgoings at covered indom we all have those crappy months, no xmas parties for your dh.

Hope you managed a good sleep neh rest now is very much needed!

Well I've been up for about 2 hours and spent most of the night unable to get comfy. Stomach pains etc, I'm pretty sure it was trapped wind but still not nice. Everyone else sleeping ok? Unfortunately this is becoming a regular occurrence for me now.

Q your DP is being so unreasonable it's unreal! Tell him my mum did a poo when she gave birth to my sister and then stepped in it and ended up with bits of sweetcorn between her toes. See if he'd like his bloody mother to see that happening.

I do not have the nesting bug so I'm feeling a bit ashamed of myself. I haven't dusted in yonks. Am really not a houseproud type so I am going to be a bit rubbish when on mat leave I think...DP does pretty much all the cleaning (I do all the cooking though).

Slightly concerned that I haven't felt any movement yet today. It's only 9am but I've been up since 6 and i normally get some after eating breakfast etc. He was going absolutely crazy before bed last night and I think I felt him during the night too so hopefully he's just having a rest

Q stand your ground - can you imagine having a whole crowd watching, madness. My PIL (and probably my parents even) will not be informed I am in labour until baby has arrived!

Thanks for all the warm welcomes everyone! Loving the christmas jumpers by the way - have been on a mission to find one myself but DD is insistent that we must have matching ones and apparently doesn't like any of the ones we've found so far.

Q there is absolutely no way I'd be having that either (although it isn't something I'd put past my DP suggesting). Tell him that if he continues with this idea it'll be him waiting outside in the corridor and then he can sit with whoever he likes. Definitely hold your corner, I can't think of anything worse than having a welcoming committee lurking outside while I'm in labour, hope your DH sees sense soon.

Does anybody else feel as though they've been even more of an emotional wreck over the last few weeks or so? I really don't know what's happened to me but my face resembles a leaky tap at the moment - even at the cinema with DD the other day (granted it was a Disney film) I was mopping my eyes at times that left everybody else completely unmoved, even the children! I've been a mess. Hope all is well with everybody else.

Me don't worry, I'm sure he is fine in there and just sleeping...I had a panic a few days ago (as you all saw!) and all was ok. Why don't you drink something fizzy/cold and sit still for a bit and see if you get anything? If not you can always call the midwife for reassurance.

Me same here she was moving so much last night and nothing so far, I really think she might be having a rest because she didn't stop yesterday, I even remember telling dp last night that she was kicking all day. I'd give it until lunch time to see if they wake up x

Bloody hell q! I'm outraged on your behalf! Love indoms analogy. I shat myself continually throughout my induction and it was then some kind of blood bath during labour - those were my mum's first words when I let her in the delivery room once DD had arrived! Also as things were starting to get a bit difficult, only DH was allowed in (and about 5 Drs!). Sounds like your DH is just very excited about it all, but he needs to remember that the one pushing the baby out of her fanjo gets to call the shots!

Sorry to hear about the bad sleep and preggo emotions. I wake fairly regularly as I'm uncomfortable/have indigestion, but do now go back to sleep fairly promptly, after months of preggo insomnia.

I can't wait for Xmas! Dd is just turning 2, so able to understand a bit more about it and getting v excited. DH is a bit of a grinch, so it's ace to have someone else in the house who likes Xmas! Btw I spent yesterday evening googling mat Xmas jumpers. You lot are a bad influence

Btw, re reduced movements, I used to find with Dd if she'd had a particularly busy session, she'd then be a bit quieter the next day and I assumed it was cos she'd tired herself out! Do get it checked though if you're worried.

Morning everyone!

Me hope you have felt some movements by now. Its still completely normal to go a few hours without feeling any kicks at this stage, but I know its still scary!

More I think during this whole pregnancy I've been an emotional wreck. Tiredness + crazy hormones isn't a good mix! Xmas ads are currently setting me off - not sure I could make it through a Disney film .

I forgot to say yesterday, I finally got my new changing bag and its lovely. I can't wait to buy all the little bits and pieces like nappies and muslins now; I keep having to remind myself that I still have another 3 months to go!

**Me can you give your midwife a quick call? My midwife is lovely and said any time I'm worried to ring her and she may have a slot in clinic where I can go along and listen to baby's heartbeat then she will decide if I need to go to the unit.

**Crispy that makes sense the other day my little girl was wiggling around all day I had kicks in places I never had before then she's had a quieter couple of days. She still lets me know she's there though!

Don't get yourself into a panic... Try the old sugary pop and laying on your back/ side trick it usually works for me!

Another thing I've tried is playing music on my iPhone and holding the speaker against my belly! The Arctic Monkeys 'I bet that you look good on the dance floor' usually gets her going!!!

Sorry ladies. Havnt been visiting as much the last few days.
Will catch up later as of out to meet my grandma soon.
Quick update just had 25 week app. Measuring spot on she said and all well. I told her about me urinating a lot and she tested my urine again which is clear but she also said she would send of a sample for a more detailed test and get back to me even if it was negative on Tuesday. As soon as I left the app I forgot to tell her the gp had done the same thing last week but I've not heard back from them yet. Might phone them and see.
Catch up soon

One more update! Just of phone from gp she said all clear in my culture sample last week but I'll see what the midwives one says as well as it could still be " brewing " as she put it