Feb 2016 babies: Welcome to the 3rd trimester - the final stretch! (in more ways than one)

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gone have you called midwives? I think it's ok to lose a bit, but it's definitely worth ringing them, it's something they usually want to hear about

jelly that's must have been scary, but good that it was picked up on and they're keeping an eye on you. How far are you?

whoknew, er, seething with you!! That is totally shit, especially as he's agreed to it. Can you talk him round?

to all with worries, but good that everyone being assessed properly

whoknew I think it must be cockwomble stage with DH. MIne is just being irrational and doing stuff that annoys me. Its the inconsistency - I am trying to reframe and assume it is his way of being nervous.It's probably not though.

I'd probably do the same as you - not worth fighting all the time for a little extra time. You will still be able to do some quality stuff with the new babe - and fighting would take the shine off anyway.

hope things go a bit better

Whoknew I'm seething for you! That's massively unreasonable of your DP and as a SAHM you shouldn't have to cover the extra costs - your DP is having his cake and eating it if he's getting free childcare from you and you're having to pay for any costs he kicks a stink about. He'd have to fork out a lot more if you went back to work and you had to pay for full time childcare. Easier said than done but you need to confront the issue now rather than just putting up with it because it will happen again.

Jelly hope you're OK, my little one had a really high heartbeat (about 180) one of the times I was monitored in hospital after my last bleed. They thought it was because they were being so active so monitored me again a few hours later and it was back to normal. They also gave me a drip because they said it can be caused by dehydration so make sure your fluid levels stay topped up (which is very easy to do when your bladder's being completely squashed!!)

Ive sorted it now, paid the invoice and dropped down the hours in 30 days. I've now got to stop being so fucking angry which will be the difficult bit as I can stop talking for days while I calm down.

gone- what did it look like? Are you sure it's part of the plug and not just discharge?

whoknew, what zebra said, some brill advice there :)

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I just cannot be bothered to be honest. He is a lovely lovely man and can be generous to a fault, but then there is is this other side that freaks out totally irrationally and it totally side swipes me. Unfortunately i was raised in a household where finances were extremely fraught and my Father was financially abusive to my Mother. It is very much my weak spot and I refuse to beg for money or try and wheedle it out of anyone if it's not forthcoming. So he can shove it up
his arse, he shall get a very very angry person as a partner until I calm down and then we shall talk about it (probably) and move on.

Being a SAHM is lovely in one way but my god you lose your independence directly you stop earning a wage. Thank god I have savings.

who knew I'm pretty sure....tmi alert everyone: it looked kind of like a jellysnake in the loo water. I'm used to wiping a lot of discharge, but this was more gelatinous, held its shape, and just, well, more! I've spoken to the midwife team, they said call again if it intensifies, but til then sit tight. My blly keeps going really hard!

I'm getting the same Gone. Defo plug as a lot thicker and sticky on the paper. Also hard belly and cramping. I'm 32+5. Thinking it's all normal.

Thanks for the well wishes. haqoi I'm 36+6. zebra they said mine was likely linked to baby moving loads too. Still worrying!

Oo gone exciting and nerve wracking all at once! I've also been getting clumps of jelly like cm coming out when I wipe for the last two weeks or so.

Also baby is 1/5 engaged so I've got a long way to go!

Morning all!

How're you this morning gone?

I put maternity pads (actually baby bed pads, but same size) down on the bed last night to prepare for a potential waters pop, and my god was I sweaty! My arse kept sticking to the bed, it was even harder to turn over than usual. Think I might remove them and wait till 37 weeks... 35+4 today!

Can you put them under the bed sheet haqoi, so it won't ruin your matress just wet the sheet

That's what I did, they just don't breathe at all! I'll probably get used to it though.

Ooh it's all go! Whoknew hope all settles down soon. Sorry he's being an arse.

Haquoi, I've got those pads too- was planning to leave it til 37 weeks and keep fingers crossed in the meantime! By the way, has anyone tried perineal massage yet? Slightly freaked out about it...

Whoknew: have you kept one day for just you and baby time? I can utterly sympathise with the loss of (financial) independence as a SAHM. You really ought to keep your savings for things other than childcare when those children aren't just your responsibility. I paid for every last thing with my 2 DD with exhusband. It irritates me today at times. I'm now a SAHM (despite having vowed to rely 0% on anyone) fortunately husband is entirely reasonable, but we're still figuring out family finances as things come up. Him freaking out needs to stop. Make that clear. Comprising we all can accept. Manipulative strops- not so much (my ex was the king of those).

whoknew what an arse - too advice above, but I'm annoyed for you!

haquoi the pads look horrendous! Haven't tried the proper massage (where you go inside!) but have been massaging some bio oil on the outside which someone recommended.

jelly I could be wrong as think midwives use both but 1/5 engaged is almost fully engaged! 5/5 is not engaged as they can feel all the head, 4/5 they can feel 4/5 of the head (so 1/5 is in pelvis) etc etc. So I think fully engaged is 0/5?

Thanks Sighing 🌸🌸🌸

Just writing it down really helps, I've just got to try and stop being so angry as whilst it makes me extremely productive, it's not healthy. I'm now getting texts asking me if I'm ok, every time he makes out he doesn't know why I'm cross. I used to think he genuinely didn't have a clue but nowadays I can't believe he can be so unaware. We've been together four years now and know each other well, he knows what lights my touch paper so I think he knows very well why I'm fuming.

It's not even the situation so much as the fact we agreed everything and now I look a total twat. I refused to lie so I told the manager and treasurer that he has basically freaked out about money and that's why I am now forced to look flakey. I am not going to pretend it's for another more 'acceptable' reason and at some point soon I shall send him the full email conversation so he can see that we now look like prats because of him.

Ratty I didn't know that re. engaged. I suspect I shall be the last out of all of us to give birth as I don't even feel particularly pregnant most days. It's weird.

ratty I think it might be different for different places. I didn't ask her because of the heartbeat issue I had but from what a friend told me 1/5 palpable means 4/5 engaged (so they can feel 1/5 of the head) whereas 4/5 palpable is 1/5 engaged iyswim? Basically I don't think baby is that engaged yet. I could be wrong though (it'd explain the pain I'm in lol).

monk we tried perenial massage once and I felt very uncomfortable so stopped.

I'm still breach - no where near engaged at all. So I may be challenging on the overdue front (unless we end up with a c section)

I have good intentions about perenial massage but it feels wierd and the position I need to get into means I can't breathe. No way I have the patience to explain to DH what to do and evidence not overwhelming.

madsaz I'm just back from appt and baby is now head down - I'm 37 weeks today. Head is not engaged but I don't expect it will engage until labour as this is my 3rd.

Perineal massage was always a bridge to far for me tbh. Just too much hassle afaik. I didn't need episiotomy or stitches with with either of my two so far so there's my sample of 1 for you

Afaic not afaik

I'm from the west of Scotland. Perineal massage is never happening.

Sometimes I wish I was European and not a prude. I don't even like the idea of them sticking a pessary up my fanjo. I'm so glad they don't make you have the enema anymore.

Pretty sure after giving birth, any inhibitions will be gone. Even a 'normal' birth involves more gunk then I'll have dealt with before

candy I'm a doctor and am appalled at the idea of waving my fanjo around! I am just working on the principle that other people have "womaned up" in front of me through the years so I will have to.

Husband non medical and squeamish. Even the concept of stretching me for therapeutic gain would be enough to scar him for life. We have already agreed he stays absolutely at head end :)

Dp attempted the massage for me but it was too much. Ive never even had a smear test so I'm pretty mortified at the idea of all these medical people staring at my fanjo. Oh well