Feb 2016 babies: Welcome to the 3rd trimester - the final stretch! (in more ways than one)

[haquoi123]

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Calypso Ive gone for foam, again.

I just want to get to the hospital in time! If that happens I will be happy.

All 3 of my births have been entirely different. The first resulted in me suffering PTSD and PNP and several stints as an Inpatient in a Psych ward and an injured baby that needed several eye surgeries, specialist glasses from 15 months old, and will most likely be registered blind before he hits his teen years. I just hope the fuck wits responsible didnt do anyone else any harm whilst my complaint was going through.

calypso i've gone for pocket sprung, apparently they last longer.

I know my birth plan is more a guide than a plan, the only thing I feel quite strongly about is the epidural, to be honest I'm fine with intervention etc. because I don't know what to expect. I just hope I get to use the pool for pain relief, I think i'll cry if I don't!!!

My pram arrived! Both DH and I are so excited (I've been researching over the course of two years and two babies), it's actually in the house!!!

yay to pram arrival!

YAY I love baby items arriving!

Insomnia struck last night, and IBS. DSis and I are taking DCs to our towns Christmas Carnival tonight and I feel absolutely rank just hope the PGP backs off and allows me to enjoy a few hours with DD and DNeph.

Yay!! Look at the pram, it's lovely, shiny and new!

Love getting baby things, I've ordered a beanbag that can be used from birth from beanbag planet not sure if I'll even use it that much but the promo picture of the baby in it was so cute I couldn't resist

I was quite against Pethadine but when they offered it to me 10 hours in I bit their hand off lol. I had the most wonderful sleep then I was back on all fours pushing again once it wore off. If they offer it to me again this time I shall be saying YES!!

Woohoo haquoi!!!

Just been to the osteopath and now covered in sports tape...oh the irony when it takes me 5minutes to hobble up the stairs...

till I hope you feel well enough to enjoy tonight

calypso I've gone pocket sprung as well.

I swear the new house is cursed! Everything went wrong today! The final straw was when the plumbers finally turned the water on 1hr before they were due to exit the house for good and water just poured through the ceiling of the kitchen. I've finally just got home at 9.30pm from painting all evening with my mum. DH unfortunately walks up to the drive just as my mum pulls up, all he fucking has to do is wave not even say hello but instead he just stands there like an absolute tosser and glares at her. I want to fucking kill him right now, he is making this 1000% worse. Lazy, arrogant, prize plonker!!!

rufus stressful!

You guys have freaked me out slightly with your birth plans as I have nothing ATM! You all know so much! I need to get my arse in gear!

ratty I'm a first timer. I have a slight advantage that I delivered 10 babies in 1999 as a medical student so at least I know what happens in a bit of detail (which doesn't always help)

I am working on the principle that I have never been ill or seriously injured so don't even know what my pain threshold is. Therefore I can't make a firm plan around that.

I also know that really complex plans almost always deviate. Lots of the plans on here are based on previous experiences which I think change your view.

You need to work out what things are unacceptable to you and what is a necessity. Then you need to think about your best guess of how you want to communicate - do you think you'll be able to stand up for yourself or do you think you'll need your birth partner to do it.

Beyond that you really don't need detail until you know what it means to you personally.

My plan so far is:
Pronounce my name right (it always gets pronounced wrong and normally I don't give a toss but reckon I may be grumpy)

Look after husband when he faints (which looks increasingly likely)

I'd like to try a water birth but have no idea and will keep my options open. If I am having opiates will ask for alfentanil pca rather than injections of pending /morphine (not all units do this)

Skin to skin (which is pretty much the norm anyway)

I'm donating cold blood to Anthony Nolan Trust and then placenta to research panel. I don't anticipate being all that fussed about 3rd stage so will accept syntocin etc

I think I want to be left alone as much as possible but really have no idea. I'm pretty good at standing up for myself though so think I can decide as I go when I understand a bit better.

I know where you were coming from isla, feelings of failure whether related to birth, routine, feeding etc do seem to contribute to pnd. That's not to say anyone is setting themselves up for it though!

I'm just in awe of anyone who writes a detailed plan, I basically don't give a shit about most of it as long as baby arrives safely. It's great that people know what they want

I'm getting a foam mattress, but I have a cot not cotbed so baby will be in it for less time. My other two went in beds at 18/19 months so I'm assuming this one will be similar.

I didn't even think of donating stuff like placenta!! googles

Oh I've thought of something I do give a shit about...those of you who have had babies recently may be able to help advise.

My surname is my married surname. I'm divorced but just haven't got round to changing it. When Ds was born they wrote 'baby surname' on the tag which we obviously don't want to happen as this is 'baby dp's surname'. Will they write 'baby dp's surname' or even 'baby of troika' on the tag instead do you think? It's funny neither of us really care that I still use this name but we don't want it associated with the baby at all.

Hello all, I'm 28+2 but haven't been on the thread for months now. Haquoi, I have that buggy/pram (the GT version) and it's great. I've switched to a BJCM recently as my son is now 2, and it's a bit lighter, but the Versa's brilliant for a baby/younger toddler.

I'm having baby's cord and blood collected and stored. Expensive but my dad had leukaemia and had a 8/10 match bone marrow transplant, it wasn't a good enough match and he got graft vs host disease where the new bone marrow attacks the body. He died 9 mths later, no one in the family was a match. My dad's side of the family has a history of blood disorders. He also had a weird mutation version of haemochromatosis and DH is a carrier of the standard genetic version and both his siblings have the disease. So to us having the cord blood stored is really important as we have no idea if I'm a carrier of my dad's weird mutation as it can't be tested for and what will happen if baby gets DH standard gene. I'm using cells4life.

That's interesting rufus, didn't know that was an option. We have similar issues on DP's side, what is essentially haemophilia, and have been worried either DC could inherit.

Off to stock up on decorations n do last bits of shopping, if we can brave the bloody wind!

Thank you for reassurances re lack of birth plan!

Had a babybond growth scan yesterday - all looks ok which is good but baby almost 5lb at 32 weeks? (I'm 32 weeks today) Is that massive? Is it she going to be 10lb by 40 weeks?! I've only got a s frame - slim size 10 normally?!

Ratty I was 3lb 5oz at 29 weeks and apparently the baby puts on about 1/2 a week. So at 32 weeks my baby should be around 5lb I think going on that stat. My 32 week scan is on the 15th Dec so I shall report back.

DS was 7lb 8oz so I don't have a history of big babies

Just to add that baby was plotted at 87 centile according to the weight of 3lb 5oz. He measured a week ahead of 'average'.

Even with growth scans it's not an exact science. In fact one paper I read said that mums "feeling" about how big baby is is just as accurate. Not that I would have the faintest idea how to judge.

Talk to your midwife - if baby continue to be big on all measures etc then I'm sure they will be able to give you the best info.

Not data but I've lots count of the amount of times I've heard- oh I was told he was going to be a 9 pounder and he was only 7lbs 3oz! or similar.

Iirc DS was estimated to be 5lb when I went for a scan at 34 weeks to check position of placenta. He was born at 39+4 and was 8lb on the button.

I agree maisie, it never seems to be the other way round!

By the way, all of the others suffering with PGP, I've used my support belt a lot more, especially at the weekends for being in town, not just for walks, and for my twice daily walk for work. The improvement has been significant, far less pain. The physio did say that the more I used it, the more it would help, and she was very right!
Wish I'd used it more from the off.
So if you've got one, do try it out!

I'd agree - my support really helps when I am on my feet & my back pain is better currently at 32 weeks than it was at 25 courtesy of some physio input and a support.

I now have a cold. Not even a bad cold, just a bit of snot & aching. God I'm miserable - haven't missed booze or anything but would normally have paracetamol, brufen, decongestants and some kind of stiff drink. Paracetamol and a warm milk really not cutting it!

I'm the same mad, there are just sometimes where I would specifically have a drink where I think lemonade, oh yay. Colds are grim things; they're not ill-making enough for one to take to bed, but you just have to operate at about 75% for days. And you get little sympathy.

Doing homemade pizza tonight, dough is rising. We've had a good couple of days doing Xmassy things- DS and I decorated the tree, and he's doing the mini one with his Dad, and I've done all the present shopping!