It's the dream combo of carbs and couples massagers, welcoming pukey newbies and teffrifying norks, it's GTTs a go go on JS Grads 41!

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Welcome, welcome, welcome to the 41st grads thread... celebrating the success of Just Shagging in getting us viroids upduffed!

For those that don't know, a 'viroid' is from the original JSing thread 1, where someone was trying to type ladies (in reference to all the JSing ladies), but their phone decided to call us all viroids instead!

The name stuck and we've been the JSing viroids ever since.

The 40th grads thread is HERE

The thread we have graduated from is HERE in its 55th outing. WARNING: they're all a bit kerazy not to mention randy!

There is also a Just Mumming thread HERE
for once your babies come along, or to keep up with the graduated graduates!

There is also a private facebook group (so it doesn't give the game away in your news feed!)... if you want to join to see photos of new babies etc, just ask in-thread!

HERE is the stats list, please update your own spot with any updates.

Sorry Molly - I'm not a fan. Brennan is always a surname back home so it sounds a bit off to me when used as a first name.

Christ. Now he's saying that he thinks he was so desperate for wife and family he rushed into everything. But I did make him happy. If he was faking this whole time I don't know what to believe. Or certainly how to trust what anyone ever says again. I would like very much to stop feeling sad now and for my heart to stop hurting

Yeah tri I'm not sure about it. Probably just stick to original if it is a boy, I did like it and do like the nickname for sure. Just casting about wildly for anything not connected to their father but unfortunately I'm stuck with that now

Molly I think you are well within your rights to tell him to talk about this stuff with someone else if he feels he must. It is unspeakably selfish of him to burden you with his man-child dilemmas.

Can't remember anything from the relaxation part either pud and I've done 16 weeks of daisy! I think just choose something that resonates with you. Mine are:
I am calm
I am confident
My body knows exactly what it's doing
My baby knows exactly what it's doing
My birth is positive

Just in the car on the way back from a weekend in a cottage for my dad's 60th birthday. That means when we get home that I've officially done everything important and baby can arrive whenever it likes

I'd just make sure you choose something you like molly I can't begin to imagine what you are going through though

Peenut that does sound like a bug but I would get yourself seen earlier than you usually would. Pregnancy can really mess up your immune system so if you are worried it always best to get yourself seen

Molly I agree with the others. It isn't appropriate for him to talk to you about that stuff right now. He needs to get help on his own and find a way to support you as a parent. Not mess with your head. Sending you a big hug xx

Molly I'm so cross on your behalf. Maybe have a look at baby names, and see if you find something that you like better. I do t think he gets a say anymore!! You are coping so well, we are all super proud of you x

pee hope you're feeling a bit better. Definitely sounds like a bug!!

I'm back at work tomorrow, and totally dreading it... Sickness is mostly under control with the tablets, but I've been spending a lot of time sleeping and feeling sorry for myself. I'm shit scared of how hard work is going to be after being able to relax, and worried the stress is going to make the sickness worse again. And then I feel like a nob, because I'm pregnant not ill, and I can't spend the next few weeks laying on my ever expanding arse...

It's not helping that I e been feeling really down the past couple of days (stupid hormones!!) and dp is worried that I'm regretting ttc!! I just feel so crap. Can't wait for the blooming stage!

And here ends the pity party... Sorry guys.

Ah Kate it's ok to feel blue. This stage is shitty for most people, but even worse for many more. If it makes you feel ill then you are ill my lovely. Be kind to yourself

Also, it really does pass. It's very rare for it to be proper shit for the shebang. One day you'll realise you don't feel like you did today. And that day will be WONDERFUL.

And then you'll get heartburn or summat

molly your DH is a class A wank badger!

pud can't help, but the idea of your dad recording saying "rotate to dilate" just had me in fits

thurs I'll look forward to having something different to complain about!

I've also developed a wierd aversion to our kitchen. Can't go in it without puking. Thinking about it makes me heave. It's really fucking inconvenient!!

Molly I'm sorry he's being such an arse. I agree, see if there are any names you prefer.

Kate I hope work is better than you think but take it easy and be kind to yourself.

Sorry I've forgotten everything else but as appropriate.

Oh. My. God. What is with the nipple pain?! This is a new symptom and one I'd happily do without. My bra is now my enemy. All clothes are my enemy. Can you tell I'm not pleased about it?

Boys names are hard. Overthought it I think, no idea what I like anymore! And DS has quite an unusual name so need it to go with that. Love loads of girls names, they're easy. It'll be a boy now won't it!

I'm being PRO-ACTIVE. In a former life I was an SEN teacher. I ended up doing a lot of work with speech and language therapy and loved it. Was always a vague plan that I'd look at retraining once kids were in school. So I've emailed the local university tonight to look at options. With my experience I might be able to get on the two year masters rather than four year undergrad. The sticking point will be finance as obviously I've had student loans for my original undergrad and PGCE, although the course would qualify for NHS funding and bursaries. But worth a look at least, then when I qualify Ds would be in school and I'd only have to worry about one lot of childcare.

Sorry to all those feeling sick and horrible, it really does pass for the vast majority so gx for our. And thanks again for all your support. You guys rock. Maybe if it's a boy I should call him Viroid.

Heheh pud and thurs. I'll never stray again!

kate I found ms so so hard, don't be rough on yourself about finding it hard. I have had all kinds of problems since then including painful joints and gestational diabetes and I'd still say the ms was the hardest to get through!

grade A wank badger
Haha this! molly I agree with jelly and what everyone else said about him needing to take his mid life crisis elsewhere.

I like the name Brennan but might it be simpler for you emotionally to stick with the names you've already agreed? Just a thought. Very impressed with you being pro active and it's a great sign you can think about the future. Don't try to do too much too soon though! Let your parents take care of you if you can.

Wah - I'm still getting AF-like pains, but worse than normal AF....humph...

Molly you are doing brilliantly! Chin up!! (and I agree, boys names are difficult)

Molly that is a great idea - go you!

Ha ha Jelly, I did tell my Dad that I had to draw the line at him saying 'imagine your vagina opening like a flower' as I would get the giggles and not be able to concentrate!

Kate, just take it one day at a time. You could always ask for a reduced timetable if you are struggling.

Bleugh. The deadline for masters applications was November. Not out yet, can always apply next year it's just if the NHS funding sticks around that long see what the university says I guess! I can be a ta or something for a year and hope I can make the books balance for childcare. Or as my lovely friend suggested 'just bloody play the system for nine months to a year if they make it that hard for people in your situation to work and eat!'

Go Molly looking at courses. Think that's a really positive step and gives you options and avenues to consider indepent of him.

Thats awful he is saying stuff like that about your marriage, what an utterly selfish looser.

I think when your baby pops out (sneeze birth stylee) you'll know what name fits and feels right.

kate hope work isn't as hideous as you expect and just think, you've probably served most of your time feeling sick and may very soon emerge into a new hormonal balance with involves less vomit! The end is gx in sight!

I feel much better than I did this morning. Managed a feeble makeup free zombie shuffle to tesco to by fizzy things, ginger nuts and ice cream. None of which I can stomach but I'm hoping tomorrow is another day and I'll manage more than 2 mouthfuls of mashed potato.

Will see how it goes and defo sensing my immune system is going hay wire. I never get stuff like this!

Pud how handy that your dad is a hypnotherapist! He could do a roaring trade making birthing CDs for all of us!

Kate I had that too. Could not open the fridge or the "larder cupboard" without vomit. Awful. It passed after about 6 weeks a while.

Molly can't believe he's telling you stuff like that. Ignore aa much as possible!

keep the nips/bobs should get a bit better with time

pee I hear u on the immune system front...I'm rarely ill but this snotty cold is becoming chesty n coughy - not nice. It's not something I would normally consider Dr's for but will see how long it lingers

Dh flying off for work for most of the week today :( but at least I get the whole bed to myself :)

Ooh yes Kate bras are the work of the devil. As are other clothes ha ha. One of the best things about maternity leave is not having to wear a bra! I would invest in a couple of really comfy ones - M & S post surgery bras are amazing. You will need to get measured as your boobs get bigger anyway. Or not in my case

I can honestly say I have never felt that bras are uncomfortable. I have friends who whip them off when they get home. I can't imagine that - I am soooo much more comfortable when I am wearing one!

Ha ha that is me Honey, straight off when I get home with a celebratory swing around the head! To be fair though I don't need to wear one unless I am doing sport, I only wear them because it is socially unacceptable not to - silly really.

Hi viroids!
Just popping in to see how your vaginas and what nots are!
NFMV still waiting to get a coil in. It had better hurry before I accidentally graduate again