March 2016 #6, we're just breeding here!

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New thread, whoop whoop. Come on over!

marmite I feel a bit the same, but there's still so long to go! Feels like there's no more milestones now, I think that's why I'm feeling bored!

Pug we've ordered the exact wall stickers in your link from a couple of pages back! Great minds ...

Flen, I'd planned a home birth with DS and had a pool set up in the dining room at home. It was a friend of mine's who had had two successful home births in it, I just had to buy a new liner for it to make it sterile (it was a 'birth pool in a box'). Blowing it up wasn't a big deal but in the end I didn't even get in as they recommend you don't until at least 4cm and in established labour as it can slow progress earlier on. I had to wait ages for midwives as they were on call at another home birth then when they came they found I was already at 8cm but weren't happy with observations so I ended up being transferred. Was gutted as if if known I was so far along I could have been in the pool for ages! My friend who did give birth in it raved about her births and also said it was great for her DP as he had a job to do -keeping it at right temp etc - which helped him as I think often the partner feels a bit useless during labour.

Ginger, I agree with Beautiful that just being at home is a great pain relief. In labour you produce oxytocin which is the hormone that helps you deal with contractions. If you are in a familiar and safe environment then you will produce more and handle the pain better (in theory...although was true for me). You do have to be totally comfortable with the idea though otherwise I guess the opposite is true. I would love to try again for a home birth but as I'd be attempting a VBAC it's not recommended so I won't be taking the risk. I am hoping there's a chance I could use the pool in hospital though although this depends on wireless monitoring being available, which is not guaranteed.

If you are thinking about a home birth check out if there are any home birth groups in your area. There is one in Nottingham where I live which has Facebook group, they meet monthly and have pools for use by members (so you don't have to buy one) and there are also people offering to give/sell after they're done. Maybe worth a look online to see if there's anything similar in your area? I never actually attended but still get the posts and it seems like a really supportive environment where anyone thinking about the possibility can go to speak to people who've done it already.

Wow dobby that scan picture is so detailed! Its amazing being able to see the baby so clearly.

flen, I second a lot of what Beautiful has already said (though my shower curtain was from poundland ). Check with your mw what they provide because mine brought round so many incos mine weren't needed. They brought their own torch and the placenta went straight into a waste bag; I wasn't expected to provide anything like that, thpugh I know it varies in different parts of the country. Tea and biscuits for you and the mws are a must! Such a lovely end to a successful birth to have a cup of tea together while they finish off paperwork, etc. Also, having a dressing gown and blankets handy for immediately after the birth is nice to keep you both warm if you want to do skin to skin or just snuggling up together and getting breastfeeding started. Also easy to prepare food for straight after the baby's born when you're both too exhausted from the labour to cook. Oh and a changing mat or something for them to put the baby on to dress him/her and do any checks is also helpful.

Its lovely when everyone has left and its just the 3 of you all happily snuggled up together in your own home .

Hi everyone, missed a few days but think I'm caught up

Going back a couple of pages - neh not only do we have almost the same due date and same scan date, but I also have endometriosis! When did you get diagnosed? I struggled for about 10 years to get anywhere with doctors, but when moved to the US recently got to see an expert who had me in surgery the following week! Had stage 3 endo removed and a few weeks later was pregnant - this was after 2 years of trying and a miscarriage etc. So like you feel very grateful right now that it has happened :) My surgeon is now my OB/GYN and gives me a big hug every time I have an appointment :)

Have 20 week scan on Friday and have so much anxiety, but at least I've finally started to feel a bit of movement this week. But it feels like she's dancing on my cervix, ouch!

maybe we're also in a big city here without a car, so I'll be getting Uber to the hospital!!

being in the US I won't be able to escape a baby shower but friends have convinced me that it's totally normal here and not to feel weird about getting presents as they want to do it. Really don't like the attention though!

Can't believe some of you have bought everything already - I'm so overwhelmed by my list and the costs etc!!! Just burying my head in the sand until get the OK from the scan .........

Aww I see what you mean hayley
We don't have a MLU here and I'd rather give birth in the Amazon fucking rainforest than go back to Lincoln hospital!!

Is anyone else involuntarily grunting or whatever every time they bend down/get up etc? I thought this would come much later! Another 4 months of everything being an effort, noooo. Although it might just be because this is pregnancy 4?? I don't know..

Told DH he needs to stop getting me pregnant as I always do stupid shit when I'm with child! Dropped my bank card in town :( didn't even realise till I went to pay at Tesco and Halifax rang me to say someone had handed it in. I'm glad they did, but my card has been cancelled so I'll have to wait for a new one then change my card details in about 10,000 shops online, so annoyed!

ffauxlivia I'd literally just been diagnosed. Was due to go in for a labroscopy in august & discovered I was pregnant at end of July! I'd spent about 8 months on vitamin suppliments including folic acid & a sugar free diet, so I'm convinced that tipped the balance.

So glad it's working out for you :) have fingers crossed for your scan. Mine is also on Friday & I'm literally counting the hours & praying all is ok!

I'm also not buying anything until after scan & Tbh think I may wait until Christmas hols when I hopefully have a bit more head space from work.

Does anyone have any questions they recommend asking at the scan?

Beautiful hope your bank card comes through speedily!

Also how are the rest of you making user names go bold in your messages??

Put a * at the start and end of a name!

neh

I appear to have accidentally stumbled on the secret to comfortable public transport to work. It involves getting a bus that starts 3 stops up the road from the tube station so always has seats still available rather than actually getting the tube. Even in heavy rain/traffic conditions it only took 10 minutes longer than the tube, and given that people were queuing outside the tube station this morning just to get in, let alone what it was like on the platform...

Indo same here I found out at 3 weeks, I wish I never did a preg test that early it feels like I've been pregnant for years, I'm enjoying it now because I could feel her move but It's only first thing in the morning and at bedtime so during the day it's slightly boring :(

Beautiful I know it's early but I struggle to bend over I feel like I'm squashing my bump and it gets uncomfortable so I always just leave it and walk off haha

Went to tesco yesterday and bought loads of bits and bobs, they have lots of reduced baby clothes, one bib was 25p

rosie indom same here, found out at 4 weeks, feel like I've been up duffed forever and a day - but 4 months to go until March now

I got some of the muslins in Aldi, reduced to PS2.99 for 4 large ones - quite proud of that purchase.

Q 4 months and 2 days left
I'm well proud of my purchases too love buying bargains!! I hope there's a few bargains on black Friday.

Well that's if she decides to actually come on her due date haha

Found out at what turned out to be 7+2 here - kinda wish I had known earlier tbh, I raced a sprint triathlon at full tilt (at 4 weeks) and had some booze before I knew.

I am also bored of being pregnant now, found out when I was about 4 weeks. God knows what I'm going to be like in another 17 weeks, just hoping he arrives on time (though if he's anything like DH he's bound to be late!)

Feeling movement every day now which is nice, though still freaks me out at times when I get a jab when not expecting it. Actually made me laugh out loud in the queue at ASDA yesterday as it kinda tickled, think the man in front of me thought I was crazy!

I've not bought anything yet, apart from a travel system which arrives today very excited! Love the stickers (sorry can't remember who suggested them), we're not going to re-paint the nursery as only decorated the spare room recently, and is already a pale green colour that will be fine for a little boy. The stickers will be a great way of nurseryfying it!

doc isn't nice to feel baby everyday :) she's got a pattern now and I feel her the same time everyday! I'm getting wall stickers for the nursery too, I think we should show off our nurseries once they're done!

I'm hoping she arrives a tiny bit early or on the due date as it's mother's day and I don't want to wait for another whole year to celebrate my first mother's day haha

Who watched Hollyoaks last night, I was in bits :(

Tri much nicer to find out you're pregnant halfway through the first trimeste. I would be very happy to spend the most boring part of pregnancy in blissful ignorance!

ffaux I've only bought 1 pack of sleepsuits so far. I'm holding off until my scan to buy things too. Only 24 hours(ish) to go until mine!

I found out at 10 weeks - whoops, well I blame the doctors that told me I couldn't and the complete lack of symptoms.. So she's already enjoyed two boozy nights out with my colleagues and a selection of fine cheeses! So I spent the first few weeks playing a very rapid game of catch up and I have to admit to being a bit bored now.. Sense that Christmas and then early March might appear very quickly though..

Trijo - Was a london bus convert years ago, I'd rather sit in traffic than head anywhere on the tube and always walk away from the mainline station to get my seat!

Am I the only person not bothering to decorate a nursery? We're keeping baby in with us til 6 months anyway and we'll have moved out of our rented flat when baby is a few months old, so our spare room is staying as just that - our spare room :)

Another one here who wishes they'd found out later. I'm not bored of being pregnant though, the thought of baby being here is still quite scary so I'm quite happy to relax and take my time!

Maybe I'm hoping that sorting the nursery will help me feel a bit more excited about pregnancy/baby again... Now the 20 week scan is done, I feel I need something else to be excited about!

Rosie I do like feeling him move, though still freaks me out a bit. This is my 1st so all strange new experiences for me - especially when he booted me in the bladder for the first time!

I'm enjoying feeling movement but definitely no established pattern yet and when I'm at work and distracted I don't notice it all day. The kicks are still gentle so I don't mind too much getting booted in the bladder but sure that will change!

Our nursery furniture arrived this morning, exciting. We decided to decorate now because even though the baby will be in with us for the first six months, I am still planning to use the nursery for things like night feeds so DH can have some peace and changing etc. I wouldn't have bothered if we were moving like you are maybe.

Maybe we're only talking about it, at the speed we decorate, she'll be starting school.... I wouldn't be doing it if I was moving.

Any suggestions of what I can do for my up coming birthday? - I don't mind going out for a meal and a pub like I did at the weekend for someone elses but got a bit boring watching people get drunk...Additionally one of my friends doesn't seem to ever want to do anything that doesn't involve a drink and I have lost count of the number of times already he has suggested I drive somewhere obscure so they can drink (I haven't) so I was thinking of something alcohol free for all of us? (or is that a bit mean)

Vroc What about a posh afternoon tea? Usually you can get a gin or cocktail too but it isn't all about the booze. I love the mini sandwiches and cakes- yum!

we never bothered decorating the nursery for DD, seemed a lot of faff and not like she would notice it! have never got round to making it look 'pretty' either - we painted one of the walls yellow as was a hideous pink from previous owners but that was about it! I really like the idea of wall stickers etc though, they do look very pretty.

me tbh I found that I just fed DD in bed (and plan to with DD2) and DH often slept through anyway (when she was little and just woke to feed). I would have been too knackered to get out of bed and bring DD with me into the nursery. Depends on if you are bf or formula I guess since if you are formula feeding you have to get up anyway, but since I bf DD, I just had the cot next to the bed, brought her to me to feed, then put her back. Plus once she started waking for comfort and not feeding (i.e. needed resettling back to sleep), DP and me started taking turns to get up with her. Actually thinking about it he did often get up with her even when she was very small as she would need her nappy changing etc. I would strongly recommend to everyone to get your DH/DP involved in night parenting from as early as possible, because if you plan to go back to work your child might still be night waking and you don't want to have to do that all by yourself and work! I know quite a few mums who got stuck in that trap . One mum in particular I know, her DH did none of the night parenting and then when her DS was 9 months old and going through a major sleep regression, her DH tried to settle him at night to give her a break but DS wouldn't accept his daddy as was too used to mummy at night! My DD is actually now the complete opposite, will wake in the night and call for her daddy clearly I have them both well trained

doc It's my first baby too and trust me I find it strange too, looks like there's a worm in there especially when my belly goes up and down, I started feeling movement last week at 21 weeks I have anterior placenta so I thought I wasn't going to feel anything for a while, I'm 22+3 and there's definitely a pattern, first thing in the morning mid day sometimes and just before bed. DP also saw and felt the kicks which is nice to have him involved a bit! :)

Me same here baby will be with us for the first 6 months but the nursery is more for night feeds, changing and storing all her stuff, where did you buy your furniture from? I'm debating to order mine from Kiddiecare 3 piece set for PS199 but I don't want to go cheap and regret it afterwards!