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February 2016 - Boobs are growing, sickness is going, and some of us are finally showing!!

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jellypi3 · 25/08/2015 20:08

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jellypi3 · 08/09/2015 19:45

That's interesting tired. I'm not looked in to nappies, a part of me feels as it's baby number 1 we should start with disposables but look to moving on to reusable after a while.

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Troika · 08/09/2015 20:20

Jelly I'm using reusable because I still have them from the other DC Wink. Can't really remember why I started using them but I think it was a combination of hating putting so many in bin, the cost of buying nappies, and washables being so damn cute. Also I was given so much stuff for dd that I couldn't really justify buying her outfits etc so nappies was something I could choose myself.

I think it's hard to come up with a definitive essentials list because it's so subjective. It depends on you and your lifestyle, your parenting style, and the personality of your baby. For example the swing was my absolute best purchase for dd, she loved it and I got to cook and eat dinner in peace. Ds hated it and wouldn't sit in it. The sling was OK for dd but a lifesaver for Ds. I wondered what Muslims were for with dd but Ds was so sicky I got through loads. Neither really sat in the bouncy chair.

My essentials list for this baby:
Somewhere for baby to sleep (crib/cot)
Bedding (fitted sheets x3, blanketsx2)
Pushchair
Sling
Nappies & wipes
Vests
Baby grows
Cardigans
Thin snowsuit
Hat
Nail scissors

For me lansinoh, lots of maternity pads, breastpads

Troika · 08/09/2015 20:22

MUSLINS!!!!!!
Bloody autocorrect

Troika · 08/09/2015 20:25

Should say I probably aim for ten each of vests and baby grows and three cardies.

Also it's very easy for me to be blas?? about it as I have a whole lot of non essential stuff in the loft that I can get out if I decide I want it after all Grin

Rufus200 · 08/09/2015 20:53

Thank you for the lists everyone, super useful!

I will write a pet and baby guide this evening, will post later.

Having a slightly hysterical moment in the bath. I have broken red capillaries on both sides of my bump, thought they were stretch marks at 1st but they are still probably a bad sign that my skin isn't coping with the expansion. Going to start wearing the bump band I bought that is supposed to stop stretch marks by reducing the tension on the skin. I really don't want stretch marks Sad

MayFlowers16 · 08/09/2015 21:13

Sorry for the absence on this thread. I haven't been able to get mn on my phone for ages so have only really been able to keep up with the fb group. Will read back now.

On the subject of things to buy these are really useful. There are several variations of them.

Hope everyone is doing ok. The nausea has much improved here and I have even started eating vegetables again! (in small amounts)
Lots of movements felt and even a visible kick last night. Happy times!

NorthernChinchilla · 08/09/2015 21:24

Oooh, I loves a good list! Snap jelly and banana on the plans Grin

Don't forget you will probably be bought a load of stuff for baby too, especially clothes, so either a) buy less of what you were intending or b) ensure that people buy you stuff in a range of sizes (4 586674 baby gros in newborn aren't going to get worn) or different things.

Absolutely agree troika about the 'depends on the baby'. I'd got a second hand moses basket from my Dad for DS; he refused to be put down in it, so we ended up co-sleeping, which was awesome, and the basket was used for toy storage. On the other hand, everyone said "buy muslins!!!", and DS was sick twice in two years.

Sling was bloody marvellous, got the wrap around one and DS used to pass out in seconds and stay asleep for hours, and I could get so much done!

Calypso, DP insisted on one of the sensor monitors for DS as he was terrified of cot death. Absolutely sod all use. We disabled the sensor and just used the sound, and if you're in a flat you'll barely even need that! Fibroid sounds a bit unpleasant to say the least, you poor thing. From the list you found, I personally wouldn't bother with a nappy wrapper, bath thermometer, brush/comb or bib.

Good to see you back haquoi, how are you doing?

Sciatica was giving me some good twinges this evenings, a few yells of pain...16 week appointment tomorrow, so will have the thrill of being weighed and giving a sample, whoop!

MaryEllen1 · 08/09/2015 21:32

Hi all, just dropping in not been on much. Got my 16 week appt tomorrow (it's a week early am only 15 weeks) but am on holiday next week. Finding all the info about what people are buying/not buying really useful as I haven't got a clue.

calypso I have a fibroid too, hugs

Rufus200 · 08/09/2015 21:32

Pet and new baby tips

Get a youtube video of a baby crying and play on low volume every day, gradually increasing volume. Play in nursery and also in main room that pet lives in. This will acclimatise them to the sudden strange noises baby makes.

Have nursery pre setup and allow pet in room but don't allow it to sleep in room. You need the pet to realise that the room isn't that interesting and that it doesn't want to be in there.

Never leave nursery door open with a pet in the house! If you are going to use a baby gate for a dog start using it before baby arrives. Remember cats can sneak into a room and hide. I am going to have a major problem with with one of our cats who despite his fatness is extremely sneaky!

For a cat get a Feliway diffuser, for a dog get a DAP diffuser. These release pheromones that make the animal feel safe and secure. You may need several round the house. Can buy online or pet shops or vet.

Give the pet a safe space somewhere else in the house that they can go to, it won't just be the noise of the baby but also all the visitors that can upset them! If you need to lock them in a room/crate then get them used to it before baby arrives.

Any changes to their routine should be instigated before baby arrives. If walks or feeding times will change then change them at least one month before.

The washing machine is going to be on a lot, make sure your pet is fine with the noise. If your cat doesn't like it make sure their litter tray isn't near the washing machine! They might be fine with using it if the machine is only on every few days, they won't if it is on every day and you will get accidents in the house.

Never ever leave a baby/small child with a cat or a dog. Animals can get jealous and they can be vindictive! DH's cat, who hates me, takes great glee in knocking my make up off the dressing table, one by one, during the night. He wakes me up but not DH nearly every night. Animals are far more intelligent then they are given credit for! It is their house too and they were there 1st as far as they are concerned. I don't trust any animal with a child ever. It doesn't matter how sweet and loving your dog is with you and they may have never given you any cause for concern, it just isn't worth the risk. Not only will you never forgive yourself if something happens but also you will be held legally responsible for any harm to your child or anyone else's.

Be very careful of animals knocking over bassinets. One of my friend's small dog would take a run and a jump at the bassinet as soon as it was allowed in the room! (That dog still tries to savage her child every time she sees him and he is 3 yrs old now, the dog needs rehoming, it has bitten the child multiple times) Let the pet first see the bassinet with baby smell without baby in it, so you can see how it will react.

Don't suddenly dangle the baby in front of them, don't invite them to come and sniff the baby when you 1st arrive home. Take a cloth wipe it over the baby and then take the cloth to the pet in another room where they feel safe, allow them to get used to the baby smell that way. The first time they are in the room with baby and you, pay baby no attention and full attention to pet but nothing that will excite them. The baby should just be there but isn't the main focus, so only do when baby is napping and somewhere pet can't reach!

Make sure someone in the house puts aside some time for the pet, even if it just 5 mins a day that is just their time, where they get cuddles and attention away from the baby.

Hope this helps and doesn't alarm anyone too much.

jellypi3 · 08/09/2015 21:52

Great advice there rufus. Ive got two indoor cats. One is laid back but if you fuss him he will swipe you or bite. The other is extremely needy and always wants attention. Going to have to manage both their ways with the baby. I've copied this onto my spreadsheet for when we move.

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Rufus200 · 08/09/2015 22:20

jelly Moving does make things a lot easier because you can just start all the new rules in the new house. We are going to start then if we ever get in the new house. Plug feliway in a few days before you move the cats if you can or 1st thing on moving day so the pheromones have started to spread. You can also get it as a spray to put directly on skirting boards etc. Also if you take a clean cloth and wipe the cats faces, particularly whiskers and the baldy patches just above the eyes (scent glands), then wipe cloth on surfaces. It will help transfer their smell and make them feel safer in the new home.

RattyCatty · 08/09/2015 22:32

rufus soooo helpful for my two darling cats! I can't bear the thought of them upset! Thank you x

Stepawayfromthezebras · 08/09/2015 22:51

Thanks Rufus that's really helpful. Though one of my cats hates sounds from the computer - CD's are fine but any noise from a phone, laptop or tablet really upsets him Confused so I'll have to hunt out a baby noise CD Grin

And I can't agree enough with never leaving them alone together - we're going to have to change all our door knobs as the same cat can also open all the doors in the house (he's a little sod but I luffs him)

Stepawayfromthezebras · 08/09/2015 22:53

ION my belly button is popping out. Bleurgh! I have a massive dislike of belly buttons in general and extra prominence is really not welcome

makingapplecrumble00 · 08/09/2015 23:20

Thanks for the lists. Really useful. I'd be going down the not buying anything until after 20 week scan route but DP is away for a couple of months and I don't want to have to waddle round the shops when he gets back! We're going for 'a look' on Saturday. Will attempt to just plan what to buy online later though and not get side tracked by cute baby clothes!! I'm hoping to get stuff second hand too. Seems a much more sensible option when they won't need most of it for very long.

Jelly - I plan on reusable nappies (maybe after the first week chaos has calmed down). Mainly due to the landfill aspect and if you don't tumble dry them they are much more sustainable, especially newer designs that can be washed at low temps. I'm not going to be really strict about it, I just think we waste so much stuff so if there is an option to cut down, why not try it (I may live to regret this)

Sighing · 09/09/2015 07:39

A bit of a surprise this morning. I pulled out a (non maternity) flattering top I always like for hiding any evidence of a flabby tummy.

  1. Getting over my boobs was tricky.
  2. On looking in the mirror I actually look more pregnant in this than a tight vest top.
Whilst I am very excited my trousers are looser. This is all very odd!
MaisieDotes · 09/09/2015 07:46

People have spreadsheets Shock Shock

I'm not at that level of organisation at all!

I'm not buying anything really, mainly because I have a 13 month old so have everything. Oh, except a double buggy which will involve hideous expense. I am toying with the idea of not getting one and just doing a sling and the regular buggy but I know I'll really need the double.

jellypi3 · 09/09/2015 08:19

masie I can imagine with a toddler spreadsheets are your last worry lol.

rufus do you work with animals then? We are currently getting the cats used to being locked away in another room at night so when we move it's not a shock for them because I don't want them in our room at night when the baby is in there, and if I shut the door one of them just scratches outside crying all night.

I'm also getting rid of my beloved fish tank. Ive got a huge marine tank I love but it's too much maintenance. Will set it up again in the future though.

Thanks for the replies on disposables. I'll do some research into them.

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CalypsoLilt · 09/09/2015 08:46

I'm using washable nappies because

  1. can't bear the thought of nappies sitting in landfill for thousands of years
  2. cheaper - especially as this is baby #1 and we plan on having more
  3. damn cute! like seriously squishy cute and snuggly

I am packing a few Naty eco/compostable nappies in my hospital bag tho ;)

Sighing · 09/09/2015 09:04

I used reusables some years ago with my two and found it never a problem. I'd definitely recommend them.

BananaRaces · 09/09/2015 10:04

Tired - Thanks for the heads up about The Nappy Lady, I've just done the form. I am so clueless about washables but would really like to use them, hopefully she can help!

Really jealous of everyone feeling their babies move, haven't even had anything which might be movement yet and I am 17+3... I have an anterior placenta though so it might be a good few weeks yet until I feel anything. Envy

Maisie - I only have a spreadsheet because I panic if I don't feel like I have things organised! I'm not buying anything until after the 20 week scan, and my brain is a great big pile of mush at the moment (baby brain is in full force) so I figure if I make lists I might stand a chance of remembering things.

For those who like lists, here's a rough idea of mine at the mo:

Cotton wool
Baby wipes
2 x Changing mats (1 upstairs, 1 downstairs)
Nappies
Muslins
Bepanthen
Sudocrem
Thermometer
Baby scissors

Crib
Mattress
Sheets
Blankets
Baby monitor
Bath support / Baby bath

Snowsuit
6 x newborn Babygrows
6 x newborn Short-sleeved bodysuits
3 x 0-3 months light cardigans
A few 0-3 month bodysuits and babygrows (in case the baby is big)
2 x hats

Breast Pads
Nursing bras
Lansinoh
Maternity Pads

Pram
Sling
Carseat

I am a total newbie to this whole baby malarky so if anyone sees anything glaringly wrong about this list - for Goodness sake tell me!! Grin

XingXingFox · 09/09/2015 10:25

I'm a second timer and I think these lists are spot on and not too much, Amazon and tesco is perfect for getting this stuff cheaply, but I do think you need it. Muslins literally have so many different uses, covering up when feeding, wiping sick, as bibs when weaned/reusable wipes for everything.

We got gender neutral stuff so I have nothing to buy except a baby bath as we lent that out and didn't get it back and a thermometer (same). I'm not bothering with a double pushchair, though DD is turning three v soon so I think older than most. We've got a single bed that will be DDs when the baby needs her cot bed. It has a hammock until then.

It's exciting starting to plan it!

RhiPea · 09/09/2015 12:17

The only worry I have with reusable nappies is how sore their skin gets because the wee doesn't wick away as well as disposables, even with more regular changing.My sister is a big cloth nappy advocate, so I've seen most of the range. They're still quite bulky-especially with the inserts and outer wraps, and my nieces have very lax hips- can't help making a bit of a connection (probably conincidental!!)

BananaRaces · 09/09/2015 13:15

Calypso that thread is VERY funny... and also VERY scary!!